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Why Scammers Don’t Give Up

By Tim McGuinness, Ph.D. – Anthropologist, Scientist, Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.

Almost Every Victim Continues To Receive Emails, Texts, Messages, Or Phone Calls From Their Scammers Even After The Scam Has Been Discovered And Ended!

Why do scammers do this? Don’t they know they are not getting any more money?

In today’s world, it takes no effort at all for scammers to send out mass emails, texts, messages, and even phone calls. There are thousands of online services that will do it at very low cost or for free! These bulk email services can blast out millions of emails a day!

Scammers operate very much like telemarketers after the scam ends. They know that all it takes is a small percentage of victims to have doubts about themselves and the certainty that it was a scam or be curious or impulsive. They know that the victim’s own curiosity and impulsivity work in the scammer’s favor. Plus a significant number of victims in the weeks following the ending of the crime will still have lingering doubts about whether it was in fact a scam.

Lingering Doubts

Scam victims often experience lingering doubts and hesitations about ending a romance scam due to various psychological factors and cognitive biases.

Some of the key reasons include:

  1. Emotional Manipulation: Scammers are skilled at emotional manipulation and gaslighting. They exploit their victims’ emotions and create intense emotional connections, making the victims doubt their own judgment. The scammers may use tactics such as love bombing (Amygdala hijacks) where they shower the victims with affection and attention, leading the victims to believe the scammer’s feelings are genuine.
  2. Cognitive Dissonance: Cognitive dissonance occurs when there is a conflict between a person’s beliefs and their actions. In the context of a romance scam (or any long-con type of fraud), the victim may have believed the scammer’s false identity and intentions, and when they discover the truth, it creates a psychological discomfort. To alleviate this discomfort, victims may rationalize or justify the scammer’s behavior, making them question if ending the scam is the right decision. They automatically ask: ‘could I be wrong?’
  3. Sunk Cost Fallacy: This is a well-known cognitive bias. The concept of the sunk cost fallacy refers to the tendency for people to continue investing time, money, or emotions into something (or someone) even if it’s evident that the investment is unlikely to yield positive returns. In a romance (trust relationship) scam, victims may feel they have already invested so much emotionally and may struggle to accept that it was all based on deception. They may hesitate to end the scam because they don’t want to feel like they wasted their emotions or effort.
  4. Fear of Being Alone: Scammers often target vulnerable individuals who may be seeking companionship or love. Victims might fear being alone again if they end the scam, and this fear can make them second-guess their decision to break off the relationship.
  5. Isolation and Dependence: Scammers usually isolate their victims from friends and family, creating a sense of dependency on the scammer for emotional support and connection. This is called ‘Gaslighting.’ This dependence can lead victims to doubt their ability to cope without the scammer and question if ending the relationship is the right choice.
  6. Trust Issues: After experiencing a romance scam (or any trust relationship scam,) victims may develop trust issues and find it difficult to believe in genuine relationships. This skepticism can make them doubt their ability to decide between a genuine connection and another potential scam.

Many of these psychological factors can indeed be considered cognitive biases as they influence a person’s perception, thinking, and decision-making. Cognitive biases are inherent flaws in human reasoning and can lead individuals to make irrational judgments or hold onto beliefs that may not align with reality.

Overcoming these lingering doubts after a romance scam requires support from friends, family, or professionals who can provide empathy, understanding, counseling, support, and guidance. Recognizing and addressing these doubts is crucial for scam victims to heal and move forward in their lives with renewed awareness and resilience.

Follow On Scams

Another reason for scammers not giving up is that they believe they can use other types of scams that recent victims are desperate for, such as money recovery, investigation, and even law enforcement support. But the scammers exploit these with fake services and support.

Often these follow-on scams are targeted at the victim’s desperation to get their money back after they realize what happened. Victims are naturally vulnerable to money recovery scams or related investigation scams.

Money Recovery Scams

Desperate people make desperate and very impulsive decisions. This includes grasping at anyone that promises that they can recover their money.

After a scam, it is common for victims to get emails, messages, and texts from services claiming they can get their money back! Victims also will go online looking for such services – most of which are unlicensed or fake. Victims will even be targeted in the comments they leave on anti-scam groups (real or scammer-run.)

Scammers know this and make sure that victims have ample choices to select money recovery companies or services – for a small fee – to get their money back! These money recovery services offer certainty during a period of time when victims have none. However, 99% are going to be just more scammers looking for the last bit of money they can get from victims!

Read more about Follow-On Scams here: Recovery Scams/Frauds – Don’t be Re-Victimized (romancescamsnow.com)

Investigation Scams

A variation on the Money Recovery scams is when scammers pretend to be investigators – private or police.

Victims will be contacted by scammers claiming they can investigate the crime and locate the scammer. Even if that were true, they have no authority to do anything about it other than to take it to the local law enforcement wherever the scammers are. The victims themselves could do that too, any victim can report a crime to the law enforcement where the scammer is after they report the crime locally. These investigators always want money up front – a couple thousand dollars, euros, or pounds will do just fine!

Sometimes the scammers will pretend to be a local police officer who knows or has identified the scammer and they just need a small fee to go and catch them, promising to return the victim’s money in the process. However, these are just more attempts to defraud desperate victims.

Scammer Run Social Media Anti-Scam Groups

Another thing scammers know is that victims will turn to anyone after the scam ends which feeds their desperation and desires, especially for anger and revenge.

The sad truth is that scam victims are very often severely traumatized by these crimes and have very impaired decision-making. Victims react emotionally and impulsively, going from one bad choice to many more. These often lead right back to more scams, and fake anti-scam social media groups are a perfect place for scammers to harvest more victims who are ready for the easy answers that scammers can provide.

Every victim, before joining any anti-scam group or even listening to what they say should verify that the group is a registered nonprofit organization.

For example, SCARS is incorporated in the U.S. State of Florida Registration #N20000011978 [SCARS DBA Registered #G20000137918] – Click Here To Confirm  Verifying an organization’s status is simple, but victims need to adopt a mindset to verify first before they trust.

Being Scammed Over And Over

Victims need to understand that scammers are business people, they are not kids sitting on a floor somewhere. They are well-trained and have plenty of money to spend on tools and techniques that will get them more money.

As we often say: ‘Scammers only need to succeed once. Victims need to succeed every time to avoid being scammed!’

Scammers will not give up, and to make it worse, they will sell their victim lists to other scammers, so that after one scam ends there may be dozens of other scammers trying to lure each victim into another deception.

It is important to note that scam victims can be vulnerable to further attempts by scammers for many months to come and for several reasons, including psychological, emotional, and situational factors. Not only those already mentions but also out of fear, intimidation, and unawareness:

  1. Hope for a Different Outcome: Despite their past negative experiences, scam victims might hope that the new interaction with the scammer will lead to a different and positive outcome. This includes begging the scammer to return their money and keep their promises. This hope can cloud their judgment and make them more vulnerable to further manipulation.
  2. Fear and Intimidation: In some cases, scammers might use threats or intimidation to keep victims engaged or to prevent them from reporting the scam. The fear of potential repercussions may compel victims to continue the interaction, even if they suspect it’s a scam. This is especially common at the end of a scam to get at least one more payment from a victim but can come back even months after the crime with threats on the victim or their family.
  3. Ignorance and Unawareness: Few victims know very much about these crimes or how the transnational organized crime networks really work. They are ignorant about the depth of the psychological manipulation and control (this is something SCARS works hard on correcting.) This leads victims to believe that what they have learned from other victims will be enough to keep them safe – in other words, they don’t know what they don’t know! This makes them highly vulnerable to different scam typologies and models.

That Is Why Scammers Come Back

All of these, and many other factors make it easy for scammers to come back over and over and revictimize their past victims.

Based on SCARS research, we show that the average number of times that a victim is scammed is 4.3 times – meaning many are one and done, and others can be scammed over and over.

Every victim needs to be aware of the following and carefully factor these into everything they do after a scam ends:

  1. Understand why the scam happened and why they were vulnerable.
  2. Understand how these criminals use lures, grooming, manipulation, and control.
  3. Understand that not all scams are going to be ‘long-cons,” some will be short-term fraud (‘short-cons’) and operate completely differently.
  4. Understand that victims are not experts in anything but being scammed, look for and find professionals who are experts in the subject matter.
  5. Understand that they will be impaired and their decision-making is emotional and impulsive, and unless they take the time to research their decisions will simply lead to more bad outcomes.
  6. Understand that scammers will never go away and will never give up. Each victim needs to protect themselves against the barrage of strangers contacting them.
  7. Understand that it is possible to recover from these crimes with professional help, but even with help victims will be more vulnerable than before. This increased vulnerability will last for months at a minimum – there are no quick fixes – but this depends on professional support. Many victims will never seek help and never recover.
  8. Understand that being scammed again is a choice – a choice to do what needs to be done to get professional support, learn from experts, and stay safe; or to listen to the wrong people, ignore quality credible information, and make impulsive emotionally driven decisions that take them back to places of danger.

Recovery for scam victims is hard but much easier than the alternative. Scammers are waiting for victims to make their choices. Make good choices!

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These articles, about the Psychology of Scams or Victim Psychology – meaning that all humans have psychological or cognitive characteristics in common that can either be exploited or work against us – help us all to understand the unique challenges victims face before, during, and after scams, fraud, or cybercrimes. These sometimes talk about some of the vulnerabilities the scammers exploit. Victims rarely have control of them or are even aware of them, until something like a scam happens, and then they can learn how their mind works and how to overcome these mechanisms.

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The information provided in this and other SCARS articles are intended for educational and self-help purposes only and should not be construed as a substitute for professional therapy or counseling.

Note about Mindfulness: Mindfulness practices have the potential to create psychological distress for some individuals. Please consult a mental health professional or experienced meditation instructor for guidance should you encounter difficulties.

While any self-help techniques outlined herein may be beneficial for scam victims seeking to recover from their experience and move towards recovery, it is important to consult with a qualified mental health professional before initiating any course of action. Each individual’s experience and needs are unique, and what works for one person may not be suitable for another.

Additionally, any approach may not be appropriate for individuals with certain pre-existing mental health conditions or trauma histories. It is advisable to seek guidance from a licensed therapist or counselor who can provide personalized support, guidance, and treatment tailored to your specific needs.

If you are experiencing significant distress or emotional difficulties related to a scam or other traumatic event, please consult your doctor or mental health provider for appropriate care and support.

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A Question of Trust

At the SCARS Institute, we invite you to do your own research on the topics we speak about and publish. Our team investigates the subject being discussed, especially when it comes to understanding the scam victims-survivors’ experience. You can do Google searches, but in many cases, you will have to wade through scientific papers and studies. However, remember that biases and perspectives matter and influence the outcome. Regardless, we encourage you to explore these topics as thoroughly as you can for your own awareness.

4 Comments

  1. Wendy Guiher February 18, 2025 at 9:01 am - Reply

    This article makes my head and heart go numb. I just want to move on and experience a healthy recovery. Instead I learn that because I experienced my crime I may experience further attempts in the months to come. I know I need to understand this concept and stay vigilant. I had hoped that once they were done with me that they would move on. I see now that I have to do my part to resist them as well. Good lesson to learn even if it is hard to hear.

  2. Corey Gale August 23, 2024 at 6:56 pm - Reply

    For months I had trouble accepting that it was a scam. After reading article after article here at SCARS giving detailed descriptions of what happened it’s hard to deny. My pig butcher tried for months after the big slaughter to get even more.

  3. Carmen Rivera August 14, 2024 at 1:05 pm - Reply

    It is unbelievable that scammers have a wide variety of ways to deceive people and the training they have being so strong. I have personally being scammed three times, and also have received emails, texts offering money recovery, debt consolidation, scam hate support group invitations, etc. thanks to scars and the knowledge I have been getting through support group and by reading articles, I have been able to recognize these fraudulent attempts from scammers.

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