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Healing Wounds // Sanando Heridas: A Story of Scam Victim Survival // Una Historia de Supervivencia de Una Víctima de Estafa – by/de Vianey Gonzalez

Healing Wounds // Sanando Heridas by/de Vianey Gonzalez

Recognizing and Healing Wounds: My Recovery Path After a Scam // Reconociendo y Sanando Heridas: Mi Camino de Recuperación tras una Estafa

Primary Category: Scam Victim’s Story

Intended Audience: Scam Victims-Survivors / Family & Friends

Author:
•  Vianey Gonzalez B.Sc(Psych) – Licensed Psychologist Specialty in Crime Victim Trauma Therapy, Neuropsychologist, Certified Deception Professional, Psychology Advisory Panel & Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.

About This Article

Nearly eight years after falling victim to a scam, I have come to realize that recovery is not just about addressing the visible damage but also about confronting the hidden wounds that remain. Fraud impacts us emotionally, psychologically, financially, and even spiritually, leaving scars that require intentional healing. Recently, I recognized a lingering spiritual wound that I had suppressed—a crisis of faith that arose during and after the scam, when I felt abandoned, betrayed, and alone. Through painful reflection, I have learned that suppressing these wounds only delays the healing process. Recovery is a gradual journey, unique to each individual, requiring commitment, acceptance, and the courage to face every hurt, no matter how small. Support groups and shared experiences have been invaluable in helping me embrace my pain, work through it, and grow stronger. Today, I am not afraid to acknowledge that healing hurts, but I also know that with dedication, it is possible to overcome and emerge as a survivor, transformed by the process.

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The Transformational Journey of Scam Victims Through Recovery – 2025

The Transformational Journey of Scam Victims Through Recovery

The Journey of Transformation & Recovery: How Scam Victims Evolve Through Pain, Truth, and Self-Discovery

Primary Category: Scam Victims Recovery

Intended Audience: Scam Victims-Survivors / Family & Friends

Author:
•  Tim McGuinness, Ph.D. – Anthropologist, Scientist, Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.

About This Article

The journey of scam victim recovery is one of profound transformation, beginning with shock and despair and culminating in self-awareness and resilience. Victims first experience an existential rupture, losing trust in themselves and others, which spirals into trauma, shame, and grief. As they process their anger and self-blame, they begin to recognize the pervasiveness of deception, not just in scams but in everyday life.

This newfound awareness prompts the creation of strong personal boundaries, allowing them to rebuild with greater discernment and self-protection. Over time, their values shift, rejecting manipulation and false narratives in favor of radical truth. Those who complete the journey emerge fundamentally changed—no longer seeking external validation, but embracing reality with unwavering clarity. In the end, the greatest transformation is not just in their understanding of scams, but in their understanding of themselves.

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The Five Crises Of Scam Victim Recovery – 2025

The Five Crises Of Scam Victim Recovery

The Main Crises Scam Victims Face on Their Path to Recovery

Primary Category: Scam Victim Recovery Psychology

Intended Audience: Scam Victims-Survivors / Family & Friends

Authors:
•  Vianey Gonzalez B.Sc(Psych) – Licensed Psychologist Specialty in Crime Victim Trauma Therapy, Neuropsychologist, Certified Deception Professional, Psychology Advisory Panel & Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.
•  Tim McGuinness, Ph.D. – Anthropologist, Scientist, Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.

About This Article

Falling victim to a scam is a deeply personal and life-altering experience that can leave you struggling with emotional, financial, and psychological turmoil. The journey to recovery is not just about regaining what was lost but also about overcoming the internal crises that arise along the way. You may face the challenge of accepting what happened, dealing with financial devastation, questioning your identity, or even losing faith in people and the world around you.

These crises are natural, but they do not define you. By acknowledging the impact of the scam, seeking support, and taking active steps toward healing, you can reclaim your sense of self and rebuild a future rooted in strength and wisdom. The process may be difficult, but it is possible.

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Understanding Distorted Thinking for Scam Victims – 2025

Understanding Distorted Thinking for Scam Victims

Understanding and Overcoming Distorted Thinking After a Scam

Primary Category: Scam Victim Recovery Psychology

Intended Audience: Scam Victims-Survivors / Family & Friends

Authors:
•  Vianey Gonzalez B.Sc(Psych) – Licensed Psychologist Specialty in Crime Victim Trauma Therapy, Neuropsychologist, Certified Deception Professional, Psychology Advisory Panel & Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.
•  Tim McGuinness, Ph.D. – Anthropologist, Scientist, Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.

About This Article

Cognitive distortions are common after experiencing a scam, leading to skewed perceptions of reality that can hinder recovery by fostering negative emotions like guilt, fear, and shame. These distortions include black-and-white thinking, catastrophizing, self-blame, mind reading, overgeneralization, and imposing rigid rules on oneself.

Understanding and managing these thought patterns involves recognizing when they occur, challenging their validity through reality testing, reframing thoughts to be more balanced, practicing mindfulness, seeking support, educating oneself about scams, setting boundaries, and practicing self-compassion. By addressing these distortions, victims can work towards healing, rebuilding trust in themselves and others, and moving forward with a renewed sense of agency and resilience.

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The Unfairness of Being a Scam Victim – 2025

The Unfairness of Being a Scam Victim

Rebuilding from Ruin: Overcoming the Unfairness of Life as a Scam Victim – a Lesson from Jordan B. Peterson

Primary Category: Scam Victim Recovery Psychology

Intended Audience: Scam Victims-Survivors / Family & Friends / General Public / Others

Authors:
•  Vianey Gonzalez B.Sc(Psych) – Licensed Psychologist Specialty in Crime Victim Trauma Therapy, Neuropsychologist, Certified Deception Professional, Psychology Advisory Panel & Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.
•  Tim McGuinness, Ph.D. – Anthropologist, Scientist, Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.

About This Article

Jordan B. Peterson’s philosophy emphasizes that life is inherently unfair, a reality starkly felt by scam victims who face financial, emotional, and psychological devastation. Drawing from works such as 12 Rules for Life and Maps of Meaning, Peterson outlines how suffering, though inevitable, can be transformed into an opportunity for growth.

Scam victims, while grappling with betrayal and loss, are encouraged to confront their pain honestly, seek support, and rebuild their lives through purposeful action. By embracing responsibility, redefining their narratives, and fostering resilience, victims can transcend their circumstances and create lives richer in meaning and integrity. Peterson’s insights highlight that even in the depths of despair, transformation and hope remain possible.

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Other Victims & Advocates Personality Dangers to Scam Victims – Including Main Character Syndrome – 2025

Victim & Advocate Personality Dangers to Scam Victims – Including Main Character Syndrome

Main Character Syndrome and the Dangers to Victims Around Them – Avoiding Entanglement with Dangerous Advocates and Other Victims

Primary Category: Scam Victim Recovery Psychology

Intended Audience: Scam Victims-Survivors / Family & Friends / General Public / Others

Authors:
•  Vianey Gonzalez B.Sc(Psych) – Licensed Psychologist Specialty in Crime Victim Trauma Therapy, Neuropsychologist, Certified Deception Professional, Psychology Advisory Panel & Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.
•  Tim McGuinness, Ph.D. – Anthropologist, Scientist, Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.

About This Article

Navigating the Challenges of Dangerous Personality Types, such as Main Character Syndrome and Pathological Lying in Victims’ Advocacy

Victims of scams or crimes often face profound psychological challenges, including trauma responses that may lead to behaviors such as exaggeration, pathological lying, or the emergence of traits linked to “Main Character Syndrome.” While these behaviors can complicate the victim’s recovery journey, they are often rooted in deep emotional and psychological pain, not malice. This highlights the need for compassion, understanding, and appropriate boundaries in advocacy.

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Dark Tetrad Personality Types (Narcissism, Machiavellianism, Psychopathy, and Sadism) and Scams, Fraud, and Cybercrime – 2024

Dark Tetrad Personalities And Scams, Fraud, and Cybercrime

The Dark Tetrad Personality Types and their Impact in Scams Fraud and Cybercrime

Primary Category: Psychology of Scams

Intended Audience: Scam Victims-Survivors / Family & Friends / General Public / Others

Authors:
•  Vianey Gonzalez B.Sc(Psych) – Licensed Psychologist Specialty in Crime Victim Trauma Therapy, Neuropsychologist, Certified Deception Professional, Psychology Advisory Panel & Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.
•  Tim McGuinness, Ph.D. – Anthropologist, Scientist, Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.

About This Article

The Dark Tetrad—comprising narcissism, Machiavellianism, psychopathy, and sadism—provides a framework for understanding the malicious behaviors driving some individuals engaged in scams, fraud, and cybercrime. These personality traits often underlie manipulative tactics designed to exploit, deceive, and harm victims.

While most scammers and cybercriminals operate dispassionately, treating their crimes as business ventures, Dark Tetrad personalities bring a distinct cruelty to their schemes, seeking not just financial gain but also emotional control, ego gratification, and, in some cases, sadistic pleasure from their victims’ suffering.

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SCARS Institute 2025 Perspective on Volunteering to Help Scam Victims

SCARS Institute 2025 Perspective on Volunteering to Help Scam Victims

A SCARS Institute Volunteer’s Guide to Leading Scam Victims Through Recovery Without Falling into Savior Syndrome

Primary Category: Advocacy & Policy

Intended Audience: Scam Victims-Survivors / Family & Friends / General Public / Others

Authors:
•  Vianey Gonzalez B.Sc(Psych) – Licensed Psychologist Specialty in Crime Victim Trauma Therapy, Neuropsychologist, Certified Deception Professional, Psychology Advisory Panel & Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.
•  Tim McGuinness, Ph.D. – Anthropologist, Scientist, Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.

About This Article

Volunteering to guide scam victims through recovery is a profoundly impactful role, but it requires careful balance and adherence to ethical principles. Volunteers must understand that they are guides, not saviors, and that their role is to empower victims by connecting them to resources and fostering independence, rather than solving problems for them.

By maintaining clear boundaries, promoting transparency, and respecting the victim’s autonomy, volunteers can avoid pitfalls such as savior syndrome or overstepping their expertise. Awareness of the risks victims face—including future scams, domestic abuse, and emotional crises—ensures that support is both compassionate and practical. Volunteers must also care for their own well-being, recognizing signs of burnout or vicarious trauma and stepping back when needed.

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Conflict Avoidance and Its Role in Scam Victims: Before, During, and After the Scam – 2024

Conflict Avoidance and Its Role in Scam Victims: Before, During, and After the Scam

Silent Surrender: How Scammers Exploit Conflict Avoidance to Control Their Scam Victims

Primary Category: Psychology of Scams

Intended Audience: Scam Victims-Survivors / Family & Friends

Authors:
•  Vianey Gonzalez B.Sc(Psych) – Licensed Psychologist Specialty in Crime Victim Trauma Therapy, Neuropsychologist, Certified Deception Professional, Psychology Advisory Panel & Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.
•  Tim McGuinness, Ph.D. – Anthropologist, Scientist, Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.

About This Article

Scammers skillfully exploit conflict-avoidant individuals by leveraging their strong desire to avoid confrontation, tension, or emotional discomfort. These victims are particularly vulnerable to tactics like fabricated urgency, where scammers create time pressure to prevent rational decision-making or questioning.

By impersonating authority figures such as banks or law enforcement, scammers intimidate conflict-avoidant individuals into compliance, as these victims are less likely to challenge perceived authority.

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The Importance of Goal Setting for Scam Victims in Recovery – 2024

The Importance of Goal Setting for Scam Victims in Recovery

For Humans to Progress it is Essential that We Set Goals – Even More True for Scam Victims Trying to Recover from Scams

Primary Category: Scam Victim Recovery Psychology

Intended Audience: Scam Victims-Survivors / Family & Friends

Authors:
•  Vianey Gonzalez B.Sc(Psych) – Licensed Psychologist Specialty in Crime Victim Trauma Therapy, Neuropsychologist, Certified Deception Professional, Psychology Advisory Panel & Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.
•  Tim McGuinness, Ph.D. – Anthropologist, Scientist, Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.

About This Article

Goal setting is an essential tool for personal progress and is particularly critical for scam victims navigating recovery. By shaping a roadmap for their lives, victims can overcome feelings of helplessness, regain confidence, and foster resilience.

Psychologically, goal setting builds self-efficacy, the belief in one’s ability to achieve desired outcomes, and reinforces a sense of agency with each small success. Neurologically, it activates the brain’s reward and planning systems, releasing dopamine to create motivation and strengthening neural pathways through neuroplasticity.

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Frequent Apologizing and Scam Victims – A Sign of Unresolved Trauma – 2024

Frequent Apologizing and Scam Victims – A Sign of Unresolved Trauma

How Apologizing Becomes a Feature in the Life of Scam Victims After the Scam and Is a Strong Indication of Unresolved Trauma

Primary Category: Scam Victims Recovery Psychology

Intended Audience: Scam Victims-Survivors / Family & Friends

Authors:
•  Vianey Gonzalez B.Sc(Psych) – Licensed Psychologist Specialty in Crime Victim Trauma Therapy, Neuropsychologist, Certified Deception Professional, Psychology Advisory Panel & Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.
•  Tim McGuinness, Ph.D. – Anthropologist, Scientist, Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.

About This Article

After experiencing a scam, victims often fall into a pattern of excessive apologizing due to the internalized shame, guilt, and fear of judgment they carry. This behavior, known as the “fawning” trauma response, serves as a coping mechanism to manage feelings of powerlessness, regain a sense of control, and mitigate further conflict or criticism from others.

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Knowledge Paralysis – Learning the Name of a Disorder or Condition Can Cause Scam Victim Recovery to Stop – 2024

Knowledge Paralysis – Learning the Name of a Disorder or Condition Can Cause Scam Victim Recovery to Stop

Knowledge Paralysis is When Scam Victims’ Awareness Halts Recovery Progress

Primary Category: Scam Victim Recovery Psychology

Authors:
•  Vianey Gonzalez B.Sc(Psych) – Licensed Psychologist Specialty in Crime Victim Trauma Therapy, Neuropsychologist, Certified Deception Professional, Psychology Advisory Panel & Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.
•  Tim McGuinness, Ph.D. – Anthropologist, Scientist, Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.

About This Article

Knowledge Paralysis is a psychological state where scam victims, after achieving some understanding or awareness of their situation, mistakenly believe that this knowledge alone equates to resolution, causing them to halt further progress in their recovery. This phenomenon involves cognitive biases like the illusion of control, false sense of mastery, and overconfidence bias, which lead to complacency and avoidance of necessary actions for healing.

Similar to Analysis Paralysis—where overthinking leads to inaction due to fear of making the wrong decision—Knowledge Paralysis results in stagnation because individuals assume that understanding the problem solves it. Overcoming this requires a shift in mindset, promoting active engagement, challenging cognitive distortions, and providing continuous support to help victims move beyond mere awareness toward actionable steps for genuine recovery.

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Mind Bugs and Scam Victims – 2024

Mind Bugs and Scam Victims

The Mind Bugs Behind Scams: How Faulty Thought Patterns Make Us Vulnerable – Scam Victims Especially!

Primary Category: Scam Victim Psychology

Authors:
•  Vianey Gonzalez B.Sc(Psych) – Licensed Psychologist Specialty in Crime Victim Trauma Therapy, Neuropsychologist, Certified Deception Professional, Psychology Advisory Panel & Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.
•  Tim McGuinness, Ph.D. – Anthropologist, Scientist, Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.

About This Article

Scams don’t just thrive on clever tactics; they exploit vulnerabilities in how we think. These “mind bugs”—cognitive biases and flawed thought patterns—play a critical role in making individuals susceptible to scams and complicating their recovery afterward. Whether it’s confirmation bias convincing someone that a scam aligns with their goals or authority bias leading them to trust impostors, scammers are adept at manipulating these mental glitches. For scam victims, mind bugs can perpetuate feelings of guilt, shame, and emotional distress, hindering healing and instilling irrational self-blame.

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Hell Yes! Cursing Like a Pirate Can Help Scam Victims Recovery from the Trauma of Scams – 2024

Hell Yes!
Cursing Like a Pirate Can Help Scam Victims Recovery from the Trauma of Scams

Did You Know that Cursing Like a Pirate Really Helps!? It’s an Unexpected Tool for Scam Victims’ Emotional Recovery

Primary Category: Scam Victims Recovery Psychology

Authors:
•  Vianey Gonzalez B.Sc(Psych) – Licensed Psychologist Specialty in Crime Victim Trauma Therapy, Neuropsychologist, Certified Deception Professional, Psychology Advisory Panel & Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.
•  Tim McGuinness, Ph.D. – Anthropologist, Scientist, Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.

About This Article

Cursing like a pirate might seem like an unconventional suggestion, but for scam victims grappling with the emotional aftermath of fraud, it can offer surprising therapeutic benefits. Victims often face overwhelming feelings of anger, shame, and guilt, compounded by emotional dysregulation caused by trauma. Embracing the playful rebellion of swearing provides a safe outlet for pent-up emotions. It helps release emotional pressure, boost mental resilience, regulate overwhelming feelings, and even stabilize mood through humor.

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Never Forget the Past – But Lose the Emotional Attachment to It! Avoid Toxic Positivity – 2024

Never Forget the Past – But Lose the Emotional Attachment to It!

Embracing the Past Without Being Haunted by It: Lessons the Past can Teach to Scam Victims

Primary Category: Scam Victim Recovery Psychology

Authors:
•  Vianey Gonzalez B.Sc(Psych) – Licensed Psychologist Specialty in Crime Victim Trauma Therapy, Neuropsychologist, Certified Deception Professional, Psychology Advisory Panel & Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.
•  Tim McGuinness, Ph.D. – Anthropologist, Scientist, Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.

About This Article

Scam victims face the dual challenge of letting go of the emotional weight of their experiences while retaining the lessons they’ve learned. Emotional attachment to past mistakes, including shame, anger, and self-blame, can hinder healing, but acknowledging these emotions without allowing them to define one’s future is crucial. Letting go doesn’t mean forgetting; it means releasing the pain while using the past as a tool for growth and vigilance. Biases, logical fallacies, and mental schemas that contributed to the vulnerability must be understood and addressed, as they are key to preventing future victimization.

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Perfectionism Can Destroy a Scam Victim’s Recovery – 2024

Perfectionism Can Destroy a Scam Victim’s Recovery

Perfectionism: A Hidden Trap for Scam Victims Seeking Recovery

Primary Category: Scam Victims Recovery Psychology

Authors:
•  Vianey Gonzalez B.Sc(Psych) – Licensed Psychologist Specialty in Crime Victim Trauma Therapy, Neuropsychologist, Certified Deception Professional, Psychology Advisory Panel & Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.
•  Tim McGuinness, Ph.D. – Anthropologist, Scientist, Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.

About This Article

Perfectionism can become a significant barrier for scam victims trying to recover. After a scam, victims often feel an intense need to regain control, leading them to seek “perfection” in every recovery step—whether reporting the crime, joining support programs, or starting therapy.

This drive, however, keeps them trapped in endless cycles of hesitation and self-doubt, as perfection is both unattainable and unnecessary in these contexts. The demand for flawless actions delays healing and compounds stress, reinforcing feelings of inadequacy. True recovery starts when victims embrace imperfection, taking small, imperfect steps forward.

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Quick Guide to Scam Victims’ Grief – 2024

Quick Guide to Scam Victims’ Grief

SCARS Institute’s Quick Guide to Surviving Scam Victims’ Grief After a Relationship Scam

Primary Category: Scam Victims Recovery Psychology

Authors:
•  Vianey Gonzalez B.Sc(Psych) – Licensed Psychologist Specialty in Crime Victim Trauma Therapy, Neuropsychologist, Certified Deception Professional, Psychology Advisory Panel & Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.
•  Tim McGuinness, Ph.D. – Anthropologist, Scientist, Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.

About This Article

Healing from a relationship scam involves acknowledging and processing the complex grief that follows such a betrayal. It’s crucial to validate your emotions, understand the tactics used against you, and release any self-blame.

Taking small, achievable steps—like journaling, setting daily goals, and seeking social support—helps build resilience and foster self-trust. Rediscovering personal interests and considering professional counseling can aid in coping with the emotional aftermath. Ultimately, by reframing the experience as an opportunity for growth, you can gradually rebuild your identity, find new meaning, and move forward with renewed strength and confidence.

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Chatbots ARE a Relationship Scam – Chatbot Part 5 – 2024

Chatbots ARE a Relationship Scam

Chatbots as the New “Relationship Scam”: How AI Companions Manipulate Users for Profit

Chatbots Part 5 :: Part 1 : 2 : 3 : 4 : 5

Primary Category: Artificial Intelligence

Authors:
•  Vianey Gonzalez B.Sc(Psych) – Licensed Psychologist Specialty in Crime Victim Trauma Therapy, Neuropsychologist, Certified Deception Professional, Psychology Advisory Panel & Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.
•  Tim McGuinness, Ph.D. – Anthropologist, Scientist, Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.
•  Portions from Third-Party Sources

About This Article

The rise of AI-driven chatbots like Character.AI and Replika has given users a new type of “digital companion” marketed as a source of emotional support, but the dynamics at play resemble those of a “relationship scam.” Through deliberate psychological manipulation and addictive design, these platforms foster emotional dependence, compelling users to form deep attachments to the chatbot.

Just as romance scammers use neuropsychological tactics to lure victims into financially supportive relationships, AI chatbots leverage reward-based, personalized responses to create a dependency that keeps users engaged, often transitioning them into paying subscribers. This dependency taps into powerful brain mechanisms, releasing dopamine and oxytocin, making the interaction addictive and sometimes coercive, potentially harming users’ mental health and financial stability.

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For Family & Friends of Scam Victims: Unintentional Toxic Comments to Avoid – 2024

Unintentional Toxic Comments to Avoid

The Unintentionally Toxic Comments that Friends and Family, and Advocates Make that are Toxic for Scam Victims-Survivors and That Should Be Avoided

FOR ADVOCATES, FRIENDS, AND FAMILY OF SCAM VICTIMS

Primary Category: Scam Victim Recovery Psychology

Author:
•  Vianey Gonzalez B.Sc(Psych) – Licensed Psychologist Specialty in Crime Victim Trauma Therapy, Neuropsychologist, Certified Deception Professional, Psychology Advisory Panel & Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.
•  Tim McGuinness, Ph.D. – Anthropologist, Scientist, Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.

About This Article

Supporting scam victims through recovery requires sensitivity and an awareness of how certain comments can be unintentionally harmful. Statements that blame, minimize, or dismiss their experience can amplify feelings of shame, guilt, and isolation, often deepening their emotional wounds.

Phrases like “You should have known better” or “Just move on” imply a lack of understanding and invalidate their pain, making them feel as though their trauma is unworthy of compassion or attention. Overly simplistic advice, such as “Stay positive” or “Forgive and forget,” minimizes the complex emotional journey of healing, while comparison with others’ experiences can make victims feel insignificant.

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ChatBots and the Extreme Psychological Dangers Associated With Them – 2024

ChatBots and the Extreme Psychological Dangers Associated With Them

The Psychological Dangers of Interacting with AI-Powered Chatbots: Projection, Transference, and Emotional Attachment

Including an Overview and Analysis by the SCARS Institute Exposing Extreme Dangers and Ethical Concerns of Chatbots such as Character.AI

Chatbots Part 1 :: Part 1 : 2 : 3 : 4 : 5

Primary Category: Artificial Intelligence

Author:
•  Tim McGuinness, Ph.D. – Anthropologist, Scientist, Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.
•  Vianey Gonzalez B.Sc(Psych) – Licensed Psychologist Specialty in Crime Victim Trauma Therapy, Neuropsychologist, Certified Deception Professional, Psychology Advisory Panel & Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.
•  With the Assistance of other Artificial Intelligence

About This Article

As AI chatbots become more integrated into daily life, their utility often blurs the line between functional assistance and emotional engagement. While they offer convenience and valuable support for tasks, they also pose significant psychological risks, particularly for vulnerable individuals like scam victims in recovery, teens, or those facing emotional isolation.

Emotional dangers arise when users project their feelings onto chatbots, forming one-sided attachments based on the illusion of empathy and care. This dependency can distort reality, leading users to rely on chatbots for emotional validation rather than seeking real human connections. Given that chatbots lack genuine emotional intelligence or ethical guidance, their responses may inadvertently reinforce unhealthy emotional patterns, delaying true recovery and personal growth.

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Secondary-Gaslighting and the Effect it has on Scam Victims’ Recovery – 2024

Secondary-Gaslighting and the Effect it has on Scam Victims

Secondary Gaslighting: How Families and Friends Can Create a Hidden Barrier for Scam Victims’ Recovery

Primary Category: Scam Victim Recovery Psychology

Authors:
•  Vianey Gonzalez B.Sc(Psych) – Licensed Psychologist Specialty in Crime Victim Trauma Therapy, Neuropsychologist, Certified Deception Professional, Psychology Advisory Panel & Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.
•  Tim McGuinness, Ph.D. – Anthropologist, Scientist, Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.

About This Article

Secondary gaslighting occurs when a scam victim’s experiences are invalidated or dismissed by family or friends after they’ve already been manipulated by scammers.

In the context of scam victims, this can manifest as loved ones minimizing the trauma, blaming the victim, or questioning their feelings. This further damages the victim’s emotional recovery, leading to isolation, prolonged trauma, and erosion of self-esteem.

Avoiding secondary gaslighting involves active listening, empathy, avoiding blame, and encouraging professional help to ensure a supportive environment for healing.

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Scammer Control Mechanisms – Dominance and Manipulation of Scam Victims – 2024

Scammer Control Mechanisms – Dominance and Manipulation of Scam Victims

How Scammers Maintain Control Over Their Scam Victims: Tactics, Control & Dominance – Monitoring Mechanisms, and Psychological Effects

Primary Category: Psychology of Scams

Authors:
•  Vianey Gonzalez B.Sc(Psych) – Licensed Psychologist Specialty in Crime Victim Trauma Therapy, Neuropsychologist, Certified Deception Professional, Psychology Advisory Panel & Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.
•  Tim McGuinness, Ph.D. – Anthropologist, Scientist, Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.

About This Article

Scammers exert control over their victims using various psychological manipulation tactics, including monitoring online activity, requesting personal photos and screenshots, gaslighting, and creating fake crises. These techniques are designed to keep victims compliant, confused, and emotionally dependent. Victims often experience heightened anxiety, emotional exhaustion, and eroded self-esteem due to the continuous control and monitoring.

The scammers’ demands and manipulations mirror tactics used by narcissistic abusers, such as isolation, reality distortion, and undermining the victim’s sense of autonomy. Families and friends can play a crucial role in helping victims break free by offering empathetic support, avoiding judgment, and guiding them towards resources and counseling.

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The ‘4 SEEN’ Questions to Reduce Emotional Triggers – 2024

The ‘4 SEEN’ Questions to Reduce Emotional Triggers

The 4 SEEN Questions: A Guide for Scam Victims to Manage Emotional Triggers During Recovery

Primary Category: Scam Victim Recovery Psychology

Authors:
•  Vianey Gonzalez B.Sc(Psych) – Licensed Psychologist Specialty in Crime Victim Trauma Therapy, Neuropsychologist, Certified Deception Professional, Psychology Advisory Panel & Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.
•  Tim McGuinness, Ph.D. – Anthropologist, Scientist, Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.

About This Article

The “4 SEEN” questions—Is it SAFE? Is it EXPECTED? Is it ESSENTIAL? Is it NECESSARY NOW?—offer a practical framework for scam victims to manage emotional triggers and regain control during their recovery process.

These questions help individuals assess their emotional responses, reducing unnecessary anxiety and guiding them toward calmer, more rational reactions. By asking if a situation is safe or expected, victims can differentiate between real threats and lingering trauma-induced fears. Evaluating whether emotional reactions are essential or need immediate attention helps victims avoid being overwhelmed by past feelings of shame, guilt, or anger.

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Subliminal Messaging and Scams – A Deeper Look – 2024

Subliminal Messaging and Scams – A Deeper Look

How Scammer’s Subliminal Messaging Works on the Brain of Scam Victims: An In-Depth Exploration

Part 2 of a 2-Part Series – Part 1 is on RomanceScamsNOW.com

Primary Category: Psychology of Scams

Authors:
•  Vianey Gonzalez B.Sc(Psych) – Licensed Psychologist Specialty in Crime Victim Trauma Therapy, Neuropsychologist, Certified Deception Professional, Psychology Advisory Panel & Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.
•  Tim McGuinness, Ph.D. – Anthropologist, Scientist, Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.

About This Article

Subliminal messaging works by presenting stimuli—whether visual or auditory—that are below the threshold of conscious awareness, meaning they are perceived subconsciously. The brain processes these inputs using sensory systems like the visual and auditory cortices, while regions such as the amygdala and hippocampus handle emotional responses and memory integration.

These subliminal messages can influence thoughts, emotions, and behaviors by activating existing associations or “priming” the brain for specific actions. Scammers use these techniques to manipulate victims in relationship scams, embedding subtle emotional triggers in their communication to deepen control.

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Scam Victims-Survivors: Stop Consuming Artificial Sweeteners NOW for Your Trauma and Brain! – 2024

Scam Victims-Survivors: Stop Consuming Artificial Sweeteners NOW for Your Trauma and Brain!

The Role of Glucose in Brain Function and the Impact of Artificial Sweeteners on Individuals with Trauma such as Scam Victims-Survivors

Primary Category: Scam Victim Recovery

Authors:
•  Vianey Gonzalez B.Sc(Psych) – Licensed Psychologist Specialty in Crime Victim Trauma Therapy, Neuropsychologist, Certified Deception Professional, Psychology Advisory Panel & Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.
•  Tim McGuinness, Ph.D. – Anthropologist, Scientist, Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.

About This Article

Glucose is essential for proper brain function, particularly in supporting cognitive tasks like memory, attention, and decision-making. For individuals recovering from trauma, such as scam victims-survivors, the brain’s need for glucose becomes even more critical.

Artificial sweeteners, often used to replace sugar, fail to provide the necessary energy the brain requires, potentially exacerbating cognitive and emotional difficulties. Studies also indicate that artificial sweeteners can interfere with the brain’s reward system, contributing to mood fluctuations, impaired memory, and increased cravings, which can worsen the effects of trauma. For trauma survivors, it’s important to prioritize a balanced diet with natural glucose sources to support mental health and cognitive function while being cautious of the potential negative impacts of artificial sweeteners.

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5 Simple Ways for Scam Victims-Survivors to Avoid Common Thinking (Decision-Making) Errors During Scam Recovery – 2024

5 Simple Ways for Scam Victims-Survivors to Avoid Common Thinking Errors During Scam Recovery

Helping Scam Victims-Survivors Control Their Decision Making and Biases

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Authors:
•  Vianey Gonzalez B.Sc(Psych) – Licensed Psychologist Specialty in Crime Victim Trauma Therapy, Neuropsychologist, Certified Deception Professional, Psychology Advisory Panel & Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.
•  Tim McGuinness, Ph.D. – Anthropologist, Scientist, Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.

About This Article

Recovering from a scam is a challenging process that often involves addressing thinking errors that can impede decision-making and emotional recovery. Scam victims may fall into common traps such as cognitive biases, emotional reasoning, overconfidence, and all-or-nothing thinking, which can cloud judgment and hinder progress.

Additionally, biases like hindsight and memory distortion can lead to excessive guilt, while ignoring the role of randomness may cause victims to overanalyze events. Victims may also struggle with attributional bias, either taking too much or too little blame. To move forward, it’s important to recognize these thinking errors, seek objective feedback, and practice self-awareness.

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The Fear of Being Wrong Keeps Scam Victims Vulnerable – 2024

The Fear of Being Wrong Keeps Scam Victims Vulnerable

The Fear of Being Wrong: How It Becomes a Major Vulnerability to Scams and Continues to Make Scam Victims Vulnerable

Primary Category: Scam Victim Recovery Psychology

Authors:
•  Vianey Gonzalez B.Sc(Psych) – Licensed Psychologist Specialty in Crime Victim Trauma Therapy, Neuropsychologist, Certified Deception Professional, Psychology Advisory Panel & Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.
•  Tim McGuinness, Ph.D. – Anthropologist, Scientist, Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.

About This Article

The fear of being wrong is a powerful psychological force that scammers exploit to manipulate and trap their victims. Rooted in cognitive biases, logical fallacies, defense mechanisms, and psychological schemas, this fear prevents individuals from recognizing red flags or admitting they were deceived, often keeping them engaged with the scam even when evidence suggests otherwise.

Scammers use this fear to their advantage, creating emotional dependence and reinforcing the victim’s need to feel right. To recover and protect themselves from future scams, victims must confront and overcome this fear by embracing self-awareness, humility, and the ability to learn from mistakes. Acknowledging that being wrong is part of the human experience is key to breaking free from deception and reclaiming emotional and psychological autonomy.

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Price’s Law and Scam Fraud & Cybercrime Awareness Education – 2024

Price’s Law and Scam Fraud & Cybercrime Awareness Education

Applying Price’s Law to Scam Awareness: Why Anti-Scam Education Often Fails

Primary Category: Advocacy and Policy

Authors:
•  Vianey Gonzalez B.Sc(Psych) – Licensed Psychologist Specialty in Crime Victim Trauma Therapy, Neuropsychologist, Certified Deception Professional, Psychology Advisory Panel & Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.
•  Tim McGuinness, Ph.D. – Anthropologist, Scientist, Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.

About This Article

While Price’s Law highlights the limitations of broad anti-scam awareness campaigns, understanding this phenomenon can help refine and improve educational efforts.

By focusing on the highly engaged minority and creating more targeted, compelling content, organizations can increase the chances of success in their fight against scams and fraud. Though the majority may not engage meaningfully, leveraging the power of the informed few can drive significant change.

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Statement About Professional Care for Scam Victims – 2024

Statement About Professional Care for Scam Victims

Understanding the Need for Specialized Professional Care for Scam Victims

Primary Category: Scam Victim Recovery Psychology

Authors:
•  Vianey Gonzalez B.Sc(Psych) – Licensed Psychologist Specialty in Crime Victim Trauma Therapy, Neuropsychologist, Certified Deception Professional, Psychology Advisory Panel & Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.
•  Tim McGuinness, Ph.D. – Anthropologist, Scientist, Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.

About This Article

When forming opinions, especially on complex subjects like scam victimization and psychological trauma, it’s essential to rely on actual knowledge and experience. Understanding the neuropsychological impacts, such as how the brain’s response to scams mimics addiction, provides valuable insights into why victims struggle emotionally.

Generalized knowledge or misconceptions can mislead both victims and professionals, hindering recovery. By seeking specialized knowledge, particularly from trauma-informed professionals, victims can receive more effective support and achieve better outcomes in their healing process. Accurate, informed perspectives are key to proper recovery.

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Fantasizing and the Dopamine Trap – 2024

Fantasizing and the Dopamine Trap

How Fantasizing and Daydreaming Fuel the Scam Victim’s Dopamine Trap in Romance and Investment Scams: A Neurological Perspective

Primary Category: Psychology of Scams

Authors:
•  Vianey Gonzalez B.Sc(Psych) – Licensed Psychologist Specialty in Crime Victim Trauma Therapy, Neuropsychologist, Certified Deception Professional, Psychology Advisory Panel & Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.
•  Tim McGuinness, Ph.D. – Anthropologist, Scientist, Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.

About This Article

Fantasizing plays a crucial role in keeping scam victims trapped in a cycle of manipulation, largely due to its impact on the brain’s dopamine system. When victims daydream about the promised romantic relationship or financial windfall, their brains release dopamine, creating a sense of pleasure and reward. This neurological response tricks the brain into feeling satisfied, even though nothing tangible has been achieved.

Scammers exploit this mechanism by feeding their victims just enough hope to keep them emotionally invested, allowing the brain to continually release dopamine and deepen the victim’s attachment to the fantasy. Over time, this creates a feedback loop where victims become reliant on these fantasies for emotional satisfaction, making it harder for them to recognize the scam and break free.

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Impulsivity and the Fallacy Of Waiting a Few Seconds to Avoid Scams – 2024

Impulsivity and the Fallacy Of Waiting a Few Seconds to Avoid Scams

Impulsivity and Scam Victim’s Vulnerability: Understanding the Connection

Primary Category: Psychology of Scams

Author:
•  Vianey Gonzalez B.Sc(Psych) – Licensed Psychologist Specialty in Crime Victim Trauma Therapy, Neuropsychologist, Certified Deception Professional, Psychology Advisory Panel & Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.
•  Tim McGuinness, Ph.D. – Anthropologist, Scientist, Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.

About This Article

Impulsivity can deeply affect scam victims during and after a scam, making it difficult for them to recover emotionally and financially. The emotional manipulation that scammers use is designed to exploit impulsive behaviors, pushing victims into quick, unthinking decisions.

After a scam, victims often continue to experience impulsive reactions, such as rushing into new relationships or attempting to recover lost money through risky means, which only exacerbates their situation. Impulsivity also hinders recovery as victims may struggle with the patience needed for long-term healing programs.

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Helping Scam Victims Get Unstuck: Small Steps to Start Recovery and Move Forward – 2024

Helping Scam Victims Get Unstuck: Small Steps to Start Recovery and Move Forward

For those Scam Victims Who Are Just Beginning Their Recovery Journey and those Who Get Stuck Down the Road

Primary Category: Scam Victim Recovery Psychology

Authors:
•  Vianey Gonzalez B.Sc(Psych) – Licensed Psychologist Specialty in Crime Victim Trauma Therapy, Neuropsychologist, Certified Deception Professional, Psychology Advisory Panel & Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.
•  Tim McGuinness, Ph.D. – Anthropologist, Scientist, Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.

About This Article

Scam victims often find it extremely difficult to start recovering from their trauma due to feelings of helplessness, betrayal, and emotional paralysis. The trauma impacts brain function, with fear and emotional distress overriding logical thinking.

The SCARS Institute addresses these challenges by using education as a tool for recovery, offering victims small, manageable steps through their Survivor’s School (www.SCARSeducation.org.) By engaging with daily educational materials, victims can gradually calm their minds, regain cognitive control, and start rebuilding their lives. This approach helps victims move forward at their own pace, fostering both emotional healing and self-compassion.

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Trauma Responses or Just Personality Traits in Scam Victims? – 2024

Trauma Responses or Just Personality Traits in Scam Victims?

Many of the So-Called Personality Traits that Can Become Vulnerabilities in a Scam are Not Personality Traits, they are the Remnants of Past Traumas

Primary Category: Scam Victim Recovery Psychology

Authors:
•  Vianey Gonzalez B.Sc(Psych) – Licensed Psychologist Specialty in Crime Victim Trauma Therapy, Neuropsychologist, Certified Deception Professional, Psychology Advisory Panel & Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.
•  Tim McGuinness, Ph.D. – Anthropologist, Scientist, Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.

About This Article

Many people unknowingly mistake trauma responses for aspects of their personality, not realizing that behaviors like chronic over-apologizing, people-pleasing, or inability to accept compliments are coping mechanisms rooted in past emotional pain. These responses often develop in reaction to trauma, where the brain adapts to perceived danger or emotional harm.

For scam victims, recognizing these behaviors as trauma responses rather than personality traits is crucial for recovery. It allows them to confront core issues such as mistrust or a need for validation, empowering them to rebuild boundaries and self-confidence.

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Schemas Part 4: SCARS Institute Theory – Schema Conflict Resulting in Psychological Trauma – 2024

Schemas Part 4: SCARS Institute Schema Conflict Theory Resulting in Psychological Trauma

Exploring the Connection Between Schema Conflicts and the Experience of Psychological Trauma

Primary Category: Psychology of Scams

Authors:
•  Tim McGuinness, Ph.D. – Anthropologist, Scientist, Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.
•  Vianey Gonzalez B.Sc(Psych) – Licensed Psychologist Specialty in Crime Victim Trauma Therapy, Neuropsychologist, Certified Deception Professional, Psychology Advisory Panel & Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.

About This Article

When a person’s core beliefs, or schemas, are confronted with conflicting experiences, it can significantly disrupt their psychological equilibrium and result in trauma.

Schemas are deeply ingrained mental models that help individuals process the world based on past experiences. When a scam victim’s schema (such as trust in others or belief in financial security) is shattered, they experience cognitive dissonance and emotional distress.

The severity of the trauma depends on their ability to reconcile the conflicting experience with their mental framework. If they cannot resolve the disparity, it leads to heightened emotional turmoil, difficulty trusting others, and lasting psychological impacts.

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Schemas Part 1: Mental Models and Cognitive Shortcuts and Scam Victims – 2024

Schemas Part 1: Mental Models and Cognitive Shortcuts and Scam Victims

Another Way in which our Mental or Cognitive Shortcuts can be Used Against Us!

Primary Category: Psychology of Scams

Authors:
•  Vianey Gonzalez B.Sc(Psych) – Licensed Psychologist Specialty in Crime Victim Trauma Therapy, Neuropsychologist, Certified Deception Professional, Psychology Advisory Panel & Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.
•  Tim McGuinness, Ph.D. – Anthropologist, Scientist, Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.

About This Article

Schemas are mental frameworks that help people organize and interpret the information they encounter based on prior experiences and observations. These mental models are not always accurate reflections of reality but are shaped by positive or negative experiences and can be influenced by both true and false information.

For scam victims, these schemas can hide the truth by leading them to believe that the scammer’s actions fit the pattern of a trustworthy person. During the scam, the mental models they’ve built prevent them from seeing red flags or inconsistencies, as they subconsciously try to fit new information into their existing beliefs.

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Co-Dependency: Another Perspective of Scam Victimization and Control – 2024

Co-Dependency: Another Perspective of Scam Victimization and Control

Helping Scam Victims Understand the Many Aspects of the Psychology of Scams that Made Them Vulnerable and Controllable

Primary Category: Psychology of Scams

Authors:
•  Vianey Gonzalez B.Sc(Psych) – Licensed Psychologist Specialty in Crime Victim Trauma Therapy, Neuropsychologist, Certified Deception Professional, Psychology Advisory Panel & Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.
•  Tim McGuinness, Ph.D. – Anthropologist, Scientist, Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.

About This Article

Co-dependency plays a major role in why scam victims may fall prey to scammers repeatedly.

It involves an excessive emotional or psychological reliance on others, making victims susceptible to manipulation. Scam victims often feel a strong urge to help or “save” others, and scammers exploit this by creating situations that trigger this impulse.

Breaking the cycle of co-dependency requires self-awareness, emotional boundaries, and learning defensive behaviors to protect against manipulation. Victims must focus on their own well-being and recognize when their empathy is being exploited.

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Empathy or Sensitivity: a Primary Vulnerability in Scam Victims – 2024

Empathy or Sensitivity: a Primary Vulnerability in Scam Victims

How A Personality Type Can Affect Scam Victim Vulnerability

Primary Category: Psychology of Scams

Authors:
•  Vianey Gonzalez B.Sc(Psych) – Licensed Psychologist Specialty in Crime Victim Trauma Therapy, Neuropsychologist, Certified Deception Professional, Psychology Advisory Panel & Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.
•  Tim McGuinness, Ph.D. – Anthropologist, Scientist, Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.

About This Article

Empaths and highly sensitive individuals are more vulnerable to romance scams due to their compassionate and emotionally open nature. Scammers exploit these traits by manipulating their empathy, creating false emotional bonds, and making them feel responsible for helping or saving the scammer.

This manipulation traps victims in fraudulent relationships, making it difficult for them to leave due to guilt and self-blame. Empaths must recognize these vulnerabilities, set boundaries, and trust their instincts to avoid falling victim to such scams. Recognizing emotional manipulation early can help protect them from further harm.

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Motivated Reasoning – A Cognitive Bias That Deeply Affects Scam Victims Especially During Recovery – 2024

Motivated Reasoning – A Cognitive Bias

A Cognitive Bias That Deeply Affects Scam Victims Especially During Recovery

Primary Category: Scam Victim Recovery Psychology

Authors:
•  Vianey Gonzalez B.Sc(Psych) – Licensed Psychologist Specialty in Crime Victim Trauma Therapy, Neuropsychologist, Certified Deception Professional, Psychology Advisory Panel & Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.
•  Tim McGuinness, Ph.D. – Anthropologist, Scientist, Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.

About This Article

Motivated reasoning is a cognitive bias where individuals interpret information to align with their desires or beliefs, often at the expense of objectivity.

Scam victims may rely on this bias to ignore red flags during the scam or rationalize decisions that go against their best interests. Even during recovery, motivated reasoning can lead them to overestimate their progress by focusing on minor successes and avoiding deeper emotional work.

Recognizing and addressing this bias is key to making informed decisions and achieving genuine recovery.
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The Anniversary Effect and Scam Victims – 2024

The Anniversary Effect and Scam Victims

Helping Scam Victims Understand and Be Prepared for a Major Trigger!

Primary Category: Scam Victim Recovery Psychology

Authors:
•  Vianey Gonzalez B.Sc(Psych) – Licensed Psychologist Specialty in Crime Victim Trauma Therapy, Neuropsychologist, Certified Deception Professional, Psychology Advisory Panel & Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.
•  Tim McGuinness, Ph.D. – Anthropologist, Scientist, Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.

About This Article

The anniversary effect refers to the resurfacing of painful emotions around the anniversary of a traumatic event, which can be especially difficult for scam victims. Dates tied to the start or end of the scam, or the realization of being deceived, can trigger overwhelming feelings of fear, guilt, shame, or anger.

These emotions may catch victims off guard, making them feel like they are back at square one in their recovery. Scam victims may experience increased anxiety, stress, flashbacks, or even withdraw from others. However, there are ways to cope with the anniversary effect, including preparing in advance, practicing grounding techniques, seeking support, engaging in self-care, and even transforming the day into a healing ritual.

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Scam Victim Identity Crisis – Very Common in Victims Several Months After the Scam Ends – 2024

Scam Victim Identity Crisis – Very Common in Victims Several Months After the Scam Ends

Helping Scam Victims Understand How to Navigate through Their Second Crisis During Recovery

Primary Category: Scam Victim Recovery Psychology

Authors:
•  Vianey Gonzalez B.Sc(Psych) – Licensed Psychologist Specialty in Crime Victim Trauma Therapy, Neuropsychologist, Certified Deception Professional, Psychology Advisory Panel & Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.
•  Tim McGuinness, Ph.D. – Anthropologist, Scientist, Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.

About This Article

Scam victims often experience multiple crises after the scam ends, but the identity crisis that occurs between six months to a year can be particularly devastating.

During the initial phase, victims focus on the immediate impact, like financial loss and cutting ties with the scammer. However, as time passes and they begin to reflect, they are hit by a deep psychological crisis where they question their identity, self-worth, and ability to trust themselves and others.

This delayed crisis is marked by feelings of continuing shame, residual guilt, and emotional disconnection, as victims struggle to reconcile their previous self-image with their perceived gullibility.

The social stigma surrounding scams further fuels this internal conflict, leading to isolation, hypervigilance, and even depression.

Without proper support, this identity crisis can severely hinder their recovery, and in some cases, lead to suicidal ideation due to overwhelming emotions and a loss of self-trust.

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