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When the Next Crisis Comes – a Commentary by Vianey Gonzalez // Cuando Llegue la Próxima Crisis – un Comentario de Vianey Gonzalez- 2025

When the Next Crisis Comes // Cuando Llegue la Próxima Crisis

by Vianey Gonzalez

Primary Category: Scam Victim Recovery – Editorial & Commentary

Intended Audience: Scam Victims-Survivors / Family & Friends

Author:
•  Vianey Gonzalez B.Sc(Psych) – Licensed Psychologist, Specialty in Crime Victim Trauma Therapy, Neuropsychologist, Certified Deception Professional, Psychology Advisory Panel & Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.

About This Article in English

Experiencing a scam leaves lasting emotional scars, often resurfacing when new traumatic situations arise. Recovery is a long journey without a set timeline, influenced by personal resilience, environment, and available support. Despite significant progress, lingering effects remain, and certain events can trigger past memories as if they were happening again. A recent personal experience of aggression brought back intense feelings of vulnerability, fear, and anxiety, similar to those felt during the initial scam trauma. While self-awareness and coping strategies help in managing these emotions, it is crucial to recognize that healing is an ongoing process. Suppressing emotions can lead to unresolved wounds resurfacing, making it essential to acknowledge, process, and actively work through them. True recovery is achieved by recognizing, accepting, managing, and confronting emotions rather than ignoring them.

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Healing Wounds // Sanando Heridas: A Story of Scam Victim Survival // Una Historia de Supervivencia de Una Víctima de Estafa – by/de Vianey Gonzalez

Healing Wounds // Sanando Heridas by/de Vianey Gonzalez

Recognizing and Healing Wounds: My Recovery Path After a Scam // Reconociendo y Sanando Heridas: Mi Camino de Recuperación tras una Estafa

Primary Category: Scam Victim’s Story

Intended Audience: Scam Victims-Survivors / Family & Friends

Author:
•  Vianey Gonzalez B.Sc(Psych) – Licensed Psychologist, Specialty in Crime Victim Trauma Therapy, Neuropsychologist, Certified Deception Professional, Psychology Advisory Panel & Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.

About This Article

Nearly eight years after falling victim to a scam, I have come to realize that recovery is not just about addressing the visible damage but also about confronting the hidden wounds that remain. Fraud impacts us emotionally, psychologically, financially, and even spiritually, leaving scars that require intentional healing. Recently, I recognized a lingering spiritual wound that I had suppressed—a crisis of faith that arose during and after the scam, when I felt abandoned, betrayed, and alone. Through painful reflection, I have learned that suppressing these wounds only delays the healing process. Recovery is a gradual journey, unique to each individual, requiring commitment, acceptance, and the courage to face every hurt, no matter how small. Support groups and shared experiences have been invaluable in helping me embrace my pain, work through it, and grow stronger. Today, I am not afraid to acknowledge that healing hurts, but I also know that with dedication, it is possible to overcome and emerge as a survivor, transformed by the process.

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Reckless Behavior and Thrill-Seeking Tendencies – Personality Types and Susceptibility to Scams – 2025

Reckless Behavior and Thrill-Seeking Personality Types and Susceptibility to Scams

Reckless Behavior and Thrill-Seeking Tendencies: How They Are Affected by Trauma, and How They Lead to Increased Scam Victimization

Primary Category: Psychology of Scams

Authors:
•  Vianey Gonzalez B.Sc(Psych) – Licensed Psychologist, Specialty in Crime Victim Trauma Therapy, Neuropsychologist, Certified Deception Professional, Psychology Advisory Panel & Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.
•  Tim McGuinness, Ph.D., DFin, MCPO, MAnth – Anthropologist, Scientist, Polymath, Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.

About This Article

Reckless behavior and thrill-seeking tendencies often go unnoticed because they do not always look extreme. They can appear as impulsive decisions, risky relationships, emotional overreactions, or the urge to act quickly without thinking. These behaviors become especially significant when shaped by trauma, which alters how the brain perceives danger, reward, and emotional regulation. For trauma survivors, recklessness can serve as a way to escape emotional pain, override numbness, or feel temporarily alive. While these patterns may seem like personality flaws, they often reflect deeper coping mechanisms developed under stress. Unfortunately, these traits also increase vulnerability to scams.

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Mental Unwellness is Born Out of an Accumulation of Unfelt Feelings – 2025

Mental Unwellness is Born Out of an Accumulation of Unfelt Feelings

When Feelings Go Unfelt: Understanding the Emotional Roots of Mental Unwellness

Primary Category: Scam Victim Recovery Psychology

Authors:
•  Vianey Gonzalez B.Sc(Psych) – Licensed Psychologist, Specialty in Crime Victim Trauma Therapy, Neuropsychologist, Certified Deception Professional, Psychology Advisory Panel & Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.
•  Tim McGuinness, Ph.D., DFin, MCPO, MAnth – Anthropologist, Scientist, Polymath, Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.

About This Article

Many victims of scams experience profound psychological harm not only because of the deception itself but because of what remains unacknowledged—an accumulation of unfelt emotions. Mental unwellness often emerges not from external events alone, but from the long-term repression of grief, shame, anger, and confusion. Scam victims may bury these feelings through denial, distraction, isolation, or over-functioning, mistakenly believing this will protect them. In reality, the emotional backlog intensifies over time, manifesting as anxiety, depression, chronic stress, or even physical symptoms. True recovery requires more than time. It demands permission to feel, access to emotional language, safe expression, somatic release, and genuine support. Yet fewer than 20 percent of victims seek any help, and less than 1 percent engage in structured recovery. The cost of avoidance is not just lingering pain but long-term psychological fragmentation.

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Scam Victims’ Responsibilities – 2021 [Updated 2025]

Scam Victims’ Responsibilities

What Responsibilities Do Scam Victims Have After They Become Victims of a Scam?

Primary Category: Scam Victim Recovery Psychology

Authors:
•  Vianey Gonzalez B.Sc(Psych) – Licensed Psychologist, Specialty in Crime Victim Trauma Therapy, Neuropsychologist, Certified Deception Professional, Psychology Advisory Panel & Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.
•  Tim McGuinness, Ph.D. – Anthropologist, Scientist, Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.

•  Originally published on RomanceScamsNOW.com, October 19, 2021 – Updated May 14, 2025

About This Article

After a scam ends, your responsibility does not end with survival. You have a duty to yourself and to others to recover, seek the truth, and share what you’ve learned. Recovery is not passive: it requires action, honesty, and courage. You must accept that you were a victim of a crime, recognize the trauma it caused, and take the steps needed to heal. That includes reporting the crime, seeking professional help, moderating your emotions, and participating in your own recovery. Once you are further along, your responsibility shifts outward. You owe it to future victims to share your experience, offer support, and become part of a larger effort to prevent scams. Each person who recovers and speaks up makes a difference. Silence helps the scammers. Action protects others. By choosing recovery and contributing to awareness and advocacy, you turn your pain into purpose and ensure that your experience matters in a meaningful way.

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Dopamine Culture and Scam Victims – 2025

Dopamine Culture and Scam Victims

Dopamine is the Gateway Drug for Relationship Scam Victims

Primary Category: Psychology of Scams

Authors:
•  Vianey Gonzalez B.Sc(Psych) – Licensed Psychologist, Specialty in Crime Victim Trauma Therapy, Neuropsychologist, Certified Deception Professional, Psychology Advisory Panel & Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.
•  Tim McGuinness, Ph.D., DFin, MCPO, MAnth – Anthropologist, Scientist, Polymath, Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.

About This Article

Dopamine culture has reshaped not only entertainment but also the emotional and psychological environment in which scams thrive. In a world conditioned for speed, stimulation, and validation, scammers mirror the same techniques used by apps and algorithms to hijack your attention and emotions. Relationship scams, including romance and crypto fraud, succeed by creating a loop of reward, anticipation, and emotional dependency, echoing the very patterns you experience in everyday digital life. These manipulations are not just psychological tricks; they are built on the same neurological pathways exploited by the broader culture of instant gratification. Victims are not gullible, they are groomed by both scammers and a culture that discourages reflection, boundaries, and emotional pacing. Recovery involves more than detaching from the scam. It requires disconnecting from the surrounding systems that conditioned you to respond without reflection. By reclaiming your time, attention, and emotional space, you begin to build resilience—not just against scams, but against the culture that makes them possible.

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Darkest Before the Dawn – What This Means to Psychological Trauma Sufferers – 2025

Darkest Before the Dawn – What This Means to Psychological Trauma Sufferers

It Is Always Darkest Before the Dawn: Understanding the Turning Point in Trauma Recovery and Those Who Suffer from Psychological Trauma

Primary Category: Scam Victim Recovery Psychology

Authors:
•  Vianey Gonzalez B.Sc(Psych) – Licensed Psychologist, Specialty in Crime Victim Trauma Therapy, Neuropsychologist, Certified Deception Professional, Psychology Advisory Panel & Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.
•  Tim McGuinness, Ph.D., DFin, MCPO, MAnth – Anthropologist, Scientist, Polymath, Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.

About This Article

The journey through trauma recovery often reaches its most painful point just before meaningful healing begins. Emotional intensity, confusion, and moments of collapse are not signs that you are failing. They are signs that your mind and body are starting to process what was once too overwhelming to face. This darkness does not mean you are broken; it means you are moving forward. Recovery is not about erasing the past but learning how to live with it in a way that restores your sense of self. With patience, support, and emotional honesty, you can emerge from this difficult phase with more clarity, strength, and resilience. The darkness may feel endless, but healing does happen, and with time, light returns.

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High-Functioning Anxiety in Scam Victims – 2025

High-Functioning Anxiety in Scam Victims

Recognizing the Hidden Struggle of Recovery and Pathways to Healing

Primary Category: Scam Victim Recovery Psychology

Authors:
•  Vianey Gonzalez B.Sc(Psych) – Licensed Psychologist, Specialty in Crime Victim Trauma Therapy, Neuropsychologist, Certified Deception Professional, Psychology Advisory Panel & Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.
•  Tim McGuinness, Ph.D., DFin, MCPO, MAnth – Anthropologist, Scientist, Polymath, Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.

About This Article

High-functioning anxiety hides deep internal distress behind an outward appearance of competence, control, and success. When you become the victim of a scam, this hidden struggle becomes more intense. Feelings of shame, self-blame, and a fractured sense of identity begin to take hold. The anxiety that once helped you manage responsibilities now interferes with your ability to recover. You may find yourself trapped in cycles of obsessive thinking, doubting your judgment, and fearing another mistake. Your brain stays on high alert, leaving you emotionally and physically drained. Even if others see you as composed, you may feel isolated, overwhelmed, and unsure of yourself.

To begin healing, you must recognize the signs, such as persistent worry, over-preparation, avoidance, tension, and difficulty resting. Recovery involves several steps: practicing self-compassion, engaging with professional help, using mindfulness, setting firm boundaries, and gradually rebuilding trust in yourself and others. Being scammed or anxious does not make you weak. Your mind learned to survive by staying active, but it can also learn to recover. Through consistent effort, honest reflection, and Read More …

Acknowledging The Harm Done – 2025

Acknowledging The Harm Done

How Scam Victims Can Unwittingly Harm Themselves and Others

Primary Category: Scam Victim Recovery Psychology

Intended Audience: Scam Victims-Survivors / Family & Friends

Author:
•  Tim McGuinness, Ph.D. – Anthropologist, Scientist, Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.
•  Vianey Gonzalez B.Sc(Psych) – Licensed Psychologist Specialty in Crime Victim Trauma Therapy, Neuropsychologist, Certified Deception Professional, Psychology Advisory Panel & Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.

Originally Published on RomanceScamsNOW.com on Jun 19, 2023 – Major Update May 5, 2025

About This Article

Scam victims are often manipulated so thoroughly that they unwittingly engage in behavior that harms both themselves and others. This harm may include lying to family and friends, deceiving financial institutions, concealing financial losses, justifying suspicious behavior, and isolating themselves from their support network. In some cases, victims may even steal shared funds or unknowingly support criminal enterprises through their financial actions. These behaviors, while not malicious, are often driven by fear, shame, and psychological manipulation. Left unacknowledged, they contribute to lingering guilt, relationship breakdowns, and emotional distress that can stall recovery.

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Metanoia – The Transformation for Traumatized Scam Victims – 2025

Metanoia – The Transformation for Traumatized Scam Victims

The Inner Emotional, Spiritual, and Psychological Transformation of Scam Victims in Recovery from their Trauma

Primary Category: Scam Victim Recovery Psychology

Intended Audience: Scam Victims-Survivors / Family & Friends

Authors:
•  Vianey Gonzalez B.Sc(Psych) – Licensed Psychologist, Specialty in Crime Victim Trauma Therapy, Neuropsychologist, Certified Deception Professional, Psychology Advisory Panel & Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.
•  Tim McGuinness, Ph.D., DFin, MCPO, MAnth – Anthropologist, Scientist, Polymath, Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.

About This Article

Scam victim recovery often begins in silence and confusion, but over time, it can lead to a powerful inner shift called metanoia—a deep emotional and psychological transformation. The word means more than a change of mind; it reflects a change in the way you see yourself, your experiences, and the world around you. For scam victims, metanoia begins when you confront the betrayal, release the shame, and start speaking the truth about what happened. It moves you from self-blame to self-awareness.

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Philosophy of Life Planning – From Chaos to Order and the Scam Victim Recovery Path Forward – 2025

Philosophy of Life Planning – From Chaos to Order, and the Recovery Path Forward

An Analysis of Dr. Jordan B. Peterson and His Philosophy of Life Planning and Its Effect on Scam Victim Recovery

Primary Category: Scam Victim Recovery Philosophy

Intended Audience: Scam Victims-Survivors / Family & Friends

Authors:
•  Vianey Gonzalez B.Sc(Psych) – Licensed Psychologist, Specialty in Crime Victim Trauma Therapy, Neuropsychologist, Certified Deception Professional, Psychology Advisory Panel & Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.
•  Tim McGuinness, Ph.D. – Anthropologist, Scientist, Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.
•  Based on the works of Dr. Jordan B. Peterson, Clinical Psychologist

About This Article

Dr. Jordan B. Peterson’s philosophy of life planning emphasizes the balance between chaos and order, the necessity of structure, and the power of deliberate action—concepts that directly apply to scam victim recovery. Your life, even after betrayal, is still unfolding. The question is whether you will live reactively or reclaim agency. Peterson argues that meaning arises when you voluntarily position yourself at the edge where uncertainty meets structure. For scam victims, this means confronting the painful truth of what happened while choosing to organize the disorder left behind. Small, truthful steps—like creating routines, setting boundaries, or seeking help—restore autonomy and move you away from paralysis.

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Divine Plan – Either Everything is Determined or We Have Free Will/Agency – 2025

Divine Plan – Either Everything is Determined or We Have Free Will/Agency

Everything Happens for a Reason, Does it Really?  Free Will, Agency, Divine Plans, and the Meaning of Suffering

Primary Category: Scam Victim Recovery Philosophy

Intended Audience: Scam Victims-Survivors

Author:
•  Tim McGuinness, Ph.D., DFin, MCPO, MAnth – Anthropologist, Scientist, Polymath, Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.
Afterthought:
•  Vianey Gonzalez B.Sc(Psych) – Licensed Psychologist, Specialty in Crime Victim Trauma Therapy, Neuropsychologist, Certified Deception Professional, Psychology Advisory Panel & Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.

About This Article

Many people find comfort in the idea that everything happens for a reason or that God has a plan, especially in the aftermath of trauma. But this belief raises profound questions about human agency, accountability, and the purpose of suffering.

If every event is part of a divine plan, then your choices and actions lose meaning. This becomes especially harmful for scam victims, who may be told their pain was necessary or divinely intended. In contrast, religious texts across Judaism, Christianity, and Islam consistently affirm that humans are moral agents responsible for their choices. Concepts like confession, repentance, and personal growth only make sense if free will exists.

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Scam Victims In The RAIN – A Mindfulness Approach For Recovery – 2024 [UPDATED 2025]

Scam Victims In The RAIN – A Mindfulness Approach For Recovery

The RAIN Method, popularized by Tara Brach, is a Mindfulness Technique or Practice used to Navigate Difficult Emotions or Experiences with Compassion and Awareness

Mindfulness and Scam Victim Recovery

Authors:
•  Vianey Gonzalez B.Sc(Psych) – Licensed Psychologist Specialty in Crime Victim Trauma Therapy, Neuropsychologist, Certified Deception Professional, Psychology Advisory Panel & Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.
•  Tim McGuinness, Ph.D. – Anthropologist, Scientist, Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.

About This Article

The RAIN method, popularized by Tara Brach, offers a structured approach to navigating difficult emotions with compassion and awareness. This mindfulness technique, which stands for Recognize, Allow, Investigate, and Nurture, provides scam victims with practical tools to process their experiences and promote emotional healing.

By recognizing and acknowledging their thoughts and emotions without judgment, allowing themselves to fully experience their feelings, investigating the underlying causes and patterns, and nurturing themselves with compassion and kindness, victims can cultivate mindfulness, self-compassion, and emotional resilience.

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Family and Friends of Scam Victims – False Sense of Awareness About Scams – 2025

Family and Friends of Scam Victims – False Sense of Awareness About Scams

Does Being Around Scam Victims Provide a False Sense of Awareness About Scams and Make You More Vulnerable? Yes, it Might!

Primary Category: Psychology of Scams

Intended Audience: Scam Victims-Survivors / Family & Friends

Authors:
•  Vianey Gonzalez B.Sc(Psych) – Licensed Psychologist, Specialty in Crime Victim Trauma Therapy, Neuropsychologist, Certified Deception Professional, Psychology Advisory Panel & Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.
•  Tim McGuinness, Ph.D., DFin, MCPO, MAnth – Anthropologist, Scientist, Polymath, Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.

About This Article

As a spouse or family member of a scam victim in the U.S., you’re at higher risk of being scammed due to a false sense of awareness, a psychological trap where your confidence in spotting fraud makes you vulnerable. In places like Boise, Idaho, where scams are common, this overconfidence, sparked by learning about your loved one’s ordeal, can blind you to new tricks, like fake recovery services or phishing emails.

You might think you know how scammers operate after seeing your partner lose money to a romance scam, but this belief can lead you to dismiss new threats as too obvious. Stress from supporting a victim, shared exposure to fraudsters, and a belief that scams won’t happen to you amplify this risk. Scammers exploit these weaknesses, posing as trusted allies to deceive you, much like imposters hiding harmful intent. To stay safe, admit your awareness has limits, verify all requests, manage Read More …

Residual Fear In Scam Victims – 2024 [UPDATED 2025]

Residual Fear In Scam Victims

Helping Scam Victims Understand Residual or Chronic Fear that Can Remain with Them

Primary Category: Scam Victim Recovery Psychology

Authors:
•  Vianey Gonzalez B.Sc(Psych) – Licensed Psychologist Specialty in Crime Victim Trauma Therapy, Neuropsychologist, Certified Deception Professional, Psychology Advisory Panel & Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.
•  Tim McGuinness, Ph.D. – Anthropologist, Scientist, Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.

About This Article

After falling victim to a scam, scam victims often grapple with a multitude of fears, both rational and irrational, which are fueled by trauma, grief, shame, and self-blame. These fears, whether imagined or grounded in reality, are profoundly impactful and valid for the victims experiencing them.

Residual fear manifests in various forms, such as the fear of recurrence, vulnerability, trusting others, loss of control, emotional consequences, social stigma, and retaliation. Such fears can persist long after the initial shock of the scam, affecting victims’ daily lives, relationships, and overall well-being.

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For Every New Scam Victim Lost in a Fog After the Scam Ends – Surviving this Moment – 2025

For Every New Scam Victim Lost in a Fog After the Scam Ends – Surviving this Moment

When the Scam Ends: You Feel Lost and Living in the Fog

Primary Category: Scam Victim Recovery Psychology

Intended Audience: Scam Victims-Survivors

Author:
•  Vianey Gonzalez B.Sc(Psych) – Licensed Psychologist, Specialty in Crime Victim Trauma Therapy, Neuropsychologist, Certified Deception Professional, Psychology Advisory Panel & Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.

When the Scam Ends: You Feel Lost and Living in a Fog

You are the victim of a crime.

When a scam ends, you do not just lose money or trust. You lose a part of your world.

Everything feels strange and broken. You might not even recognize yourself at first.

This is a hard place to be, but you are not alone. What you are feeling is real and valid, and very normal, and there is a way through it.

Shock: The Silent Earthquake

At the end of the scam, shock hits you like an invisible earthquake.

You may feel numb one moment and flooded with fear the next. Your mind struggles to catch up with what happened.

It can feel like standing in the ruins of a house you thought was safe, realizing it was never real.

Shock is the mind’s way of protecting you.

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Recognizing Fears After a Scam // Reconocer los Miedos Después de una Estafa – 2025

Recognizing Fears After a Scam: The First Step Toward Recovery For Scam Victims

Primary Category: Scam Victim Recovery Psychology

Intended Audience: Scam Victims-Survivors / Family & Friends

Author:
•  Vianey Gonzalez B.Sc(Psych) – Licensed Psychologist, Specialty in Crime Victim Trauma Therapy, Neuropsychologist, Certified Deception Professional, Psychology Advisory Panel & Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.

Reconocer los Miedos Después de una Estafa: El Primer Paso hacia la Recuperación de Víctimas de Estafas

Categoría principal: Psicología para la Recuperación de Víctimas de Estafas

Público objetivo: Víctimas/sobrevivientes de estafas / Familiares y amigos

Autor:
Vianey Gonzalez, Licenciada en Psicología – Psicóloga colegiada, especializada en terapia de trauma para víctimas de delitos, neuropsicóloga, profesional certificada en decepción, panel asesor de psicología y directora de la Sociedad de Ciudadanos Contra las Estafas de Relaciones, Inc.

About this Article

Recovering after being the victim of a scam involves much more than regaining financial stability; it requires facing and healing the deep psychological wounds left behind. Recognizing the fears that emerge after a scam is the first critical step toward genuine recovery. It is not enough to simply acknowledge that you are afraid; you must learn to understand those fears, name them, and actively use that awareness to rebuild emotional strength. Left unrecognized, these fears quietly influence your decisions, relationships, and future trust, prolonging emotional pain. Addressing them openly allows you to dismantle invisible barriers, seek the right support, and restore your inner resilience.

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The Despair of Disconnection in Scam Victims – 2025

The Despair of Disconnection in Scam Victims

The Despair of Disconnection: Kierkegaard’s Insights on Scam Victims’ Trauma and the Path Back to Yourself

Primary Category: Scam Victim Recovery Psychology

Intended Audience: Scam Victims-Survivors / Family & Friends

Authors:
•  Vianey Gonzalez B.Sc(Psych) – Licensed Psychologist, Specialty in Crime Victim Trauma Therapy, Neuropsychologist, Certified Deception Professional, Psychology Advisory Panel & Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.
•  Tim McGuinness, Ph.D., DFin, MCPO, MAnth – Anthropologist, Scientist, Polymath, Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.

About This Article

When you have been the victim of a scam, it is not just the money that disappears. It is often your sense of self, your trust in your own judgment, and your inner moral compass. The emotional aftermath can leave you confused, ashamed, and uncertain about who you are and what you believe. Søren Kierkegaard, the Danish philosopher, described this kind of inner disorientation as despair. Not just sadness, but a separation from your true self. After a scam, you might feel like you betrayed your own values by trusting someone who never existed. This sense of betrayal is more than emotional injury; it is a psychological fracture. Kierkegaard believed that despair results from being out of alignment with your identity, a condition many scam victims recognize all too well.

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An Overview of the Psychology of Trauma-Induced Self-Dissolution – 2025

An Overview of the Psychology of Trauma-Induced Self-Dissolution

The Destruction of the Self: How Scam Trauma-Induced Self-Dissolution Can Lead to Emotional Collapse in Scam Victims, and What You Can Do to Rebuild

Primary Category: Scam Victim Recovery Psychology

Intended Audience: Scam Victims-Survivors / Family & Friends

Authors:
•  Vianey Gonzalez B.Sc(Psych) – Licensed Psychologist, Specialty in Crime Victim Trauma Therapy, Neuropsychologist, Certified Deception Professional, Psychology Advisory Panel & Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.
•  Tim McGuinness, Ph.D., DFin, MCPO, MAnth – Anthropologist, Scientist, Polymath, Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.

About This Article

Scam trauma doesn’t only affect your bank account—it can rupture your identity, fragment your self-worth, and lead to severe emotional collapse. Many victims of romance scams, especially, struggle with destructive self-dissolution in the aftermath: a collapse of will, self-directed destruction, and sometimes even suicidal ideation. These responses are not signs of weakness; they are the natural psychological outcomes of betrayal, emotional manipulation, and identity fraud. When the foundation of trust is shattered, the victim may no longer recognize who they are, or may believe that who they were is no longer worthy of existing.

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What is Karma – Not From an Eastern Perspective But From a Psychological Point of View – 2025

What is Karma – Not From an Eastern Perspective, But From a Psychological Point of View

Understanding Karma from a Psychological Perspective: The Weight of Your Actions

Primary Category: Scam Victim Recovery Psychology

Intended Audience: Scam Victims-Survivors / Family & Friends

Authors:
•  Vianey Gonzalez B.Sc(Psych) – Licensed Psychologist, Specialty in Crime Victim Trauma Therapy, Neuropsychologist, Certified Deception Professional, Psychology Advisory Panel & Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.
•  Tim McGuinness, Ph.D., DFin, MCPO, MAnth – Anthropologist, Scientist, Polymath, Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.

About This Article

From a psychological perspective, karma reflects the mental and emotional consequences of actions, inactions, choices, and decisions, particularly bad ones, which can linger like a shadow. This exploration delves into how behaviors can generate guilt, shame, or anger that can accumulate, creating a “dark cloud” of negativity, cynicism, or depression if unresolved, especially for scam victims unable to release their rage, as well as for perpetrators avoiding accountability.

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Recovery and Life Balance for Scam Victims – 2025

Recovery and Life Balance for Scam Victims

How Do Scam Victims Balance the Needs of Recovery with Their Lives During Recovery?

Primary Category: Scam Victims Recovery Psychology

Intended Audience: Scam Victims-Survivors / Family & Friends

Author:
•  Vianey Gonzalez B.Sc(Psych) – Licensed Psychologist, Specialty in Crime Victim Trauma Therapy, Neuropsychologist, Certified Deception Professional, Psychology Advisory Panel & Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.

About This Article

Balancing the needs of recovery with everyday life after a scam is both an emotional necessity and a practical challenge. The trauma of being scammed doesn’t just disrupt your finances—it unsettles your identity, your sense of safety, and your ability to trust. This emotional disarray can infiltrate every area of your life, from work and relationships to your physical health. Without a conscious commitment to healing, life gradually unravels under the weight of unresolved pain. That’s why establishing life balance is so important. Just as work-life balance allows for sustainability and health in your career, life-recovery balance allows for sustainable emotional recovery. It means making space for mindfulness, self-care, and emotional reflection while continuing to manage daily responsibilities.

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The Challenge of Staying Present: A Human Struggle for Scam Victims – 2025

The Challenge of Staying Present: A Human Struggle for Scam Victims

Staying Present & Mindful After Trauma: Why It’s So Hard for Scam Victims and How You Can Find Your Ground Again

Primary Category: Scam Victim Recovery Psychology

Intended Audience: Scam Victims-Survivors / Family & Friends

Authors:
•  Vianey Gonzalez B.Sc(Psych) – Licensed Psychologist, Specialty in Crime Victim Trauma Therapy, Neuropsychologist, Certified Deception Professional, Psychology Advisory Panel & Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.
•  Tim McGuinness, Ph.D., DFin, MCPO, MAnth – Anthropologist, Scientist, Polymath, Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.

About This Article

After falling victim to a scam, staying grounded in the present can feel almost impossible. Your mind may race through loops of regret or dread, replaying the betrayal or fearing what’s next. This isn’t a failure on your part—it’s how trauma rewires your brain, heightening fear responses and disrupting your ability to feel safe in the here and now. Emotional trauma fractures your sense of trust and security, making the present feel dangerous, hollow, or out of reach. Shame and self-blame add weight to that disconnection, keeping you anchored to the past or fearing future judgment.

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Understanding Scam Victim Mindsets – 2025

Understanding Scam Victim Mindsets

How Scam Victim Thinking Shapes the Healing Process and the Five Mindsets of Scam Victims: Understanding the Psychology of Recovery

Primary Category: Scam Victim Recovery Psychology

Intended Audience: Scam Victims-Survivors / Family & Friends

Authors:
•  Vianey Gonzalez B.Sc(Psych) – Licensed Psychologist, Specialty in Crime Victim Trauma Therapy, Neuropsychologist, Certified Deception Professional, Psychology Advisory Panel & Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.
•  Tim McGuinness, Ph.D., DFin, MCPO, MAnth – Anthropologist, Scientist, Polymath, Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.

About This Article

After a scam, your mindset can become either the greatest obstacle or the strongest asset in your recovery. A comprehensive study of 16,000 scam victims identified five major post-scam mindsets—African Apologists, Minimizers, Vigilantes, Denialists, and Realists—each reflecting different ways of processing trauma. Some mindsets, like Minimization and Denial, suppress the emotional impact and slow healing. Others, like Vigilantism, channel pain into rage, which often isolates the victim further. In contrast, Realists find a balanced way forward by understanding the crime, accepting what happened, and focusing on realistic solutions.

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The Call of the Void – L’appel du Vide – A Strange Mental State – 2025

The Call of the Void – L’appel du Vide – A Strange Mental State

The Subtle Mental Voice to Jump Off the Cliff and Its Impact on Scam Victims

Primary Category: Scam Victim Recovery Psychology

Intended Audience: Scam Victims-Survivors / Family & Friends

Authors:
•  Vianey Gonzalez B.Sc(Psych) – Licensed Psychologist, Specialty in Crime Victim Trauma Therapy, Neuropsychologist, Certified Deception Professional, Psychology Advisory Panel & Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.
•  Tim McGuinness, Ph.D., DFin, MCPO, MAnth – Anthropologist, Scientist, Polymath, Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.

About This Article

The phrase l’appel du vide—“the call of the void”—describes a fleeting yet haunting impulse to leap into danger, not from a desire to die, but from a sudden confrontation with one’s own vulnerability. For scam victims, this metaphor resonates deeply. After the collapse of trust, identity, and security, many victims find themselves peering into their own emotional abyss, overwhelmed by intrusive thoughts, shame, and the desire to retreat from life altogether.

The trauma of being deceived by someone you trusted can echo that same chilling moment on the cliff’s edge: the ground feels unstable, and nothing feels safe. Yet, just as most people step back from the literal edge, victims too can recover—by confronting their emotions, rejecting the seductive pull of despair, and reclaiming their agency.

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The Performative Apology – Empty Apologies and Hidden Blame: What Scam Victims Should Know About Social Sympathy – 2025

The Performative Apology

Empty Apologies and Hidden Blame: What Scam Victims Should Know About Social Sympathy

Primary Category: Scam Victim Recovery Psychology

Intended Audience: Scam Victims-Survivors / Family & Friends

Authors:
•  Vianey Gonzalez B.Sc(Psych) – Licensed Psychologist, Specialty in Crime Victim Trauma Therapy, Neuropsychologist, Certified Deception Professional, Psychology Advisory Panel & Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.
•  Tim McGuinness, Ph.D., DFin, MCPO, MAnth – Anthropologist, Scientist, Polymath, Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.

About This Article

Scam victims face not only the trauma of betrayal but also the painful aftermath of navigating shallow, performative apologies from friends and family. These apologies—quick, polite phrases like “I’m so sorry that happened”—often mask discomfort, hidden judgment, or avoidance. They may sound supportive on the surface but leave you feeling misunderstood and alone, especially when paired with questions that imply blame or disbelief. This helps you break down how to spot these hollow responses, understand why they happen, and set boundaries that protect your emotional space. We guide you in identifying real support, distinguishing genuine care from social maintenance, and finding allies who validate your experience without judgment.

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The Myth of the “One-Time Lesson”: Why Scam Victims Recovery Requires Ongoing Effort and Emotional Vigilance – 2025

The Myth of the “One-Time Lesson”

Why Scam Victims’ Recovery Requires Ongoing Effort and Emotional Vigilance, and Why Scam Recovery Isn’t a Straight Line

Primary Category: Scam Victim Recovery Psychology

Intended Audience: Scam Victims-Survivors / Family & Friends

Authors:
•  Vianey Gonzalez B.Sc(Psych) – Licensed Psychologist, Specialty in Crime Victim Trauma Therapy, Neuropsychologist, Certified Deception Professional, Psychology Advisory Panel & Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.
•  Tim McGuinness, Ph.D., DFin, MCPO, MAnth – Anthropologist, Scientist, Polymath, Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.

About This Article

Scam recovery is not a single moment of clarity or a one-time lesson that protects you forever—it is an ongoing, nonlinear process that requires emotional commitment, daily honesty, and long-term resilience. Many victims believe that once they understand what happened, they should be “over it,” but true healing doesn’t follow a straight path; it involves revisiting pain with new tools, learning from emotional triggers, and practicing boundaries, self-care, and self-compassion even when it’s inconvenient. Setbacks are not failures—they are information, revealing where healing is still needed.

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Glimmers of Light – the Positive Side of Experience for Scam Victims – 2025

Glimmers of Light – the Positive Side of Experience for Scam Victims

Finding Light in Small Moments: How Glimmers Can Support Scam Victim Recovery

Primary Category: Scam Victim Recovery Psychology

Intended Audience: Scam Victims-Survivors / Family & Friends / General Public / Others

Authors:
•  Vianey Gonzalez B.Sc(Psych) – Licensed Psychologist, Specialty in Crime Victim Trauma Therapy, Neuropsychologist, Certified Deception Professional, Psychology Advisory Panel & Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.
•  Tim McGuinness, Ph.D. – Anthropologist, Scientist, Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc. [Chubasco]

About This Article

After experiencing the betrayal and emotional devastation of a relationship scam, many victims find themselves trapped in cycles of shame, hypervigilance, and emotional numbness. But within this painful landscape, there exists a quiet path to healing—through what therapist Deb Dana calls glimmers. These are small, positive moments that offer the nervous system a sense of safety, peace, or connection. While they don’t erase the trauma, glimmers provide brief but powerful reminders that not every moment is defined by fear or grief. They may come in the form of a kind gesture, a warm breeze, a favorite song, or simply the awareness of your own steady breath.

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A Different Perspective of the Recovery Journey for Scam Victims – 2025

A Different Perspective of the Recovery Journey for Scam Victims

Finding Light in the Ashes: A Journey of Recovery for Victims of Relationship Scams

Primary Category: Scam Victims Recovery Psychology

Intended Audience: Scam Victims-Survivors / Family & Friends

Authors:
•  Vianey Gonzalez B.Sc(Psych) – Licensed Psychologist, Specialty in Crime Victim Trauma Therapy, Neuropsychologist, Certified Deception Professional, Psychology Advisory Panel & Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.
•  Tim McGuinness, Ph.D., DFin, MCPO, MAnth – Anthropologist, Scientist, Polymath, Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.

About This Article

Finding Light in the Ashes: A Journey of Recovery for Victims of Relationship Scams draws on the philosophical wisdom of Hermann Hesse to offer a path forward for those recovering from the emotional devastation of a relationship scam. By embracing individual healing journeys, confronting internal contradictions, and rediscovering meaning through creativity, personal spirituality, and simplicity, scam victims are invited to reclaim their lives and identities.

Hesse’s work reminds us that transformation is slow, painful, and often nonlinear—but deeply possible. This article reframes recovery not as a return to who you were, but as a becoming—of someone wiser, more resilient, and fully capable of writing the next chapter. In letting go of blame and illusion, victims move from the ashes of betrayal into the light of self-authored renewal.

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Everything is Finite and What That Means to Scam Victims – 2025

Everything is Finite and What That Means to Scam Victims

Finitude and the Scam Victim’s Journey: The End of Illusion, The End of Suffering

Primary Category: Scam Victim Recovery Psychology

Intended Audience: Scam Victims-Survivors / Family & Friends

Authors:
•  Vianey Gonzalez B.Sc(Psych) – Licensed Psychologist, Specialty in Crime Victim Trauma Therapy, Neuropsychologist, Certified Deception Professional, Psychology Advisory Panel & Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.
•  Tim McGuinness, Ph.D., DFin, MCPO, MAnth – Anthropologist, Scientist, Polymath, Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.

About This Article

Scam victims often seek out survivor stories to find hope—but rarely do they see the hidden reality: most victims, around 75%, do not recover. This article uses the philosophical concept of finitude—the idea that all things have limits—to explain why healing is difficult but entirely possible. The scam may have felt infinite while it was happening, filled with promise and emotional investment, but its end reveals its illusion. That end, though painful, also marks the beginning of truth. The pain that follows feels just as endless, but it too is finite.

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The Hidden Majority: Why Most Scam Victims Don’t Achieve Recovery—and How You Can Be the Exception – 2025

The Hidden Majority: Why Most Scam Victims Don’t Achieve Recovery—and How You Can Be the Exception

The Stories You Don’t See: Why Most Scam Victims Never See Recovery—and Why You Still Can

Primary Category: Scam Victims Recovery Psychology

Intended Audience: Scam Victims-Survivors / Family & Friends

Authors:
•  Vianey Gonzalez B.Sc(Psych) – Licensed Psychologist, Specialty in Crime Victim Trauma Therapy, Neuropsychologist, Certified Deception Professional, Psychology Advisory Panel & Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.
•  Tim McGuinness, Ph.D., DFin, MCPO, MAnth – Anthropologist, Scientist, Polymath, Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.

About This Article

Most scam victims searching for comfort and direction after being deceived often turn to survivor stories—testimonies of people who have endured, struggled, and eventually found healing. These stories can inspire hope and provide examples of resilience. But what they rarely show is the reality that most victims—about 75%—do not recover. Their stories are not visible in forums or support websites because they’re silent, unfinished, or too painful to tell. This article explores the gap between the visible and invisible paths of recovery, warning against the illusion that healing is automatic or easy.

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Awareness of the Unseen Mind and Body After The Trauma of a Scam – 2025

Awareness of the Unseen Mind and Body After The Trauma of a Scam

When the Unseen Becomes Unbearable Because of Injury or Trauma: Heidegger’s Insights into Trauma and Bodily Awareness

Primary Category: Scam Victims Recovery Philosophy

Intended Audience: Scam Victims-Survivors / Family & Friends

Author:
•  Vianey Gonzalez B.Sc(Psych) – Licensed Psychologist, Specialty in Crime Victim Trauma Therapy, Neuropsychologist, Certified Deception Professional, Psychology Advisory Panel & Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.
•  Tim McGuinness, Ph.D., DFin, MCPO, MAnth – Anthropologist, Scientist, Polymath, Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.

About This Article

After a traumatic experience, what was once invisible—your body, your thoughts, your emotional balance—becomes unavoidably present. The seamless functioning of your mind and body is disrupted, and you’re suddenly forced to confront parts of yourself you never had to manage before. Through the lens of Heidegger’s philosophy, this shift from unconscious ease to conscious awareness is not just a breakdown—it’s also an opening. The pain of hyper-awareness, of feeling your own mind and body as fragile, alien, or untrustworthy, is deeply disorienting.

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Socially Shared Hallucinations (Reality) and Collusive Madness from Scam Victims Struggling to Recover – 2025

Socially Shared Hallucinations (Reality) and Collusive Madness from Scam Victims Struggling to Recover

The Foundation: Understanding Socially Shared Hallucinations (Also Known As ‘Reality’)

Primary Category: Scam Victim Recovery Psychology

Intended Audience: Scam Victims-Survivors / Family & Friends

Authors:
•  Vianey Gonzalez B.Sc(Psych) – Licensed Psychologist, Specialty in Crime Victim Trauma Therapy, Neuropsychologist, Certified Deception Professional, Psychology Advisory Panel & Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.
•  Tim McGuinness, Ph.D., DFin, MCPO, MAnth – Anthropologist, Scientist, Polymath, Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.

About This Article

Scam victims often face a deep psychological rupture that goes far beyond the scam itself—what’s shattered is their perception of reality, trust, and self-worth. Drawing on R.D. Laing’s concept of “socially shared hallucinations” and “collusive madness,” this article explores how victims are not only manipulated by scammers but also invalidated by a society that refuses to acknowledge the complexity of their trauma.

The emotional disorientation they feel—the collapse between the world they believed in and the reality they now face—is often compounded by external judgment and internalized shame. Recovery, then, is not simply about “moving on” or regaining control; it’s about rejecting society’s false expectations of sanity, reclaiming internal authority, and rebuilding a reality grounded in emotional truth rather than performance.

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The Lasting Chronic Wound of Trauma – Care and Healing for Scam Victim-Survivors – 2025

The Lasting Chronic Wound of Trauma – Care and Healing for Scam Victim-Survivors

The Wound That Doesn’t Close: Scam Trauma as a Chronic Injury for Scam Victim-Survivors

Primary Category: Scam Victim Recovery Psychology

Intended Audience: Scam Victims-Survivors / Family & Friends

Authors:
•  Vianey Gonzalez B.Sc(Psych) – Licensed Psychologist, Specialty in Crime Victim Trauma Therapy, Neuropsychologist, Certified Deception Professional, Psychology Advisory Panel & Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.
•  Tim McGuinness, Ph.D., DFin, MCPO, MAnth – Anthropologist, Scientist, Polymath, Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.

About This Article

Scam trauma often behaves like a chronic wound—an injury that doesn’t close on its own, one that requires long-term care and deliberate healing. The initial shock of betrayal hits hard, like a physical trauma, but the emotional damage doesn’t stop with discovery. When support is absent and shame takes root, the wound lingers, complicated by identity collapse, repeated triggers, and internalized blame. Healing in this context isn’t fast or linear. Like chronic wound care, it demands attention, consistency, and painful but necessary honesty.

Acknowledging what was lost, naming the emotions involved, and actively choosing to care for the emotional injury—through routines, support, and self-compassion—are all part of the process. Shame, one of the most damaging secondary effects, thrives in secrecy and silence but weakens in the presence of understanding and connection.

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How Scammers Use Psychological Abstractions to Control Scam Victims – 2025

How Scammers Use Psychological Abstractions to Control Scam Victims

The Invisible Weapon: How Scammers Exploit Emotional and Cognitive (Psychological) Abstractions in Romance Scams with Scam Victims

Primary Category: Psychology of Scams

Intended Audience: Scam Victims-Survivors / Family & Friends

Authors:
•  Vianey Gonzalez B.Sc(Psych) – Licensed Psychologist, Specialty in Crime Victim Trauma Therapy, Neuropsychologist, Certified Deception Professional, Psychology Advisory Panel & Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.
•  Tim McGuinness, Ph.D., DFin, MCPO, MAnth – Anthropologist, Scientist, Polymath, Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.

About This Article

Romance scams are not just financial crimes—they are calculated psychological assaults that hijack the mind through emotional and cognitive manipulation. Scammers exploit abstract human experiences like love, trust, identity, hope, and fear to create a false sense of connection and urgency. These abstractions—while intangible—shape a victim’s decisions and perceptions, allowing the scammer to bypass rational thought and gain control.

From constructing elaborate fictional narratives to manipulating a victim’s moral values and self-worth, scammers gradually reshape how their victims think, feel, and behave. The aftermath of such scams leaves lasting emotional trauma, identity disruption, and a loss of trust in oneself and others. Understanding the role of psychological abstractions in these scams is essential for both prevention and recovery.

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Why Do Scam Victims Need to Look at Scammer Photos // ¿Por qué las Víctimas de Estafas Deben Mirar las Fotos de los Estafadores? – 2025

Why Do Scam Victims Need to Look at Scammer Photos // ¿Por qué las Víctimas de Estafas Deben Mirar las Fotos de los Estafadores?

Why Do Some Scam Victims Tend to Frequently Look at the Photos that Scammers Used to Create Fake Profiles?

Por Que las Víctimas de Estafa Tienden a Ver Frecuentemente las Fotos Que Utilizaban los Estafadores para Hacer los Perfiles Falsos?

Primary Category: Scam Victim Recovery Psychology // Psicología de la Recuperación

Intended Audience: Scam Victims-Survivors / Family & Friends

Authors:
•  Vianey Gonzalez B.Sc(Psych) – Licensed Psychologist, Specialty in Crime Victim Trauma Therapy, Neuropsychologist, Certified Deception Professional, Psychology Advisory Panel & Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.

About this Article // Acerca de este Artículo

Scam victims often revisit the stolen photos used in the deception, driven by a mix of emotional and psychological needs. For some, it’s about closure—trying to understand what happened and how they were manipulated. For others, it stems from trauma, obsession, or a need for validation. Viewing the photos can trigger painful memories, fuel rumination, or act as proof to others that the relationship was real, even if it was fraudulent. These behaviors, while not always healthy, reflect the complex ways victims process betrayal and loss. Understanding these reactions helps advocates provide compassionate, informed support.

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Finding Meaning and Purpose After a Major Scam for Scam Victims – 2025

Finding Meaning and Purpose After a Major Scam for Scam Victims

Rediscovering Meaning After a Scam: Finding Purpose in Everyday Life for Scam Victims

Primary Category: Scam Victim Recovery Philosophy

Intended Audience: Scam Victims-Survivors / Family & Friends

Authors:
•  Vianey Gonzalez B.Sc(Psych) – Licensed Psychologist, Specialty in Crime Victim Trauma Therapy, Neuropsychologist, Certified Deception Professional, Psychology Advisory Panel & Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.
•  Tim McGuinness, Ph.D., DFin, MCPO, MAnth – Anthropologist, Scientist, Polymath, Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.

About This Article

Scam recovery isn’t just about reclaiming lost money or correcting a mistake—it’s about rebuilding your sense of meaning, direction, and self-worth. The aftermath of fraud can leave you feeling ashamed, disconnected, and purposeless, but those feelings don’t define you. As Viktor Frankl taught, even in deep suffering, you have the freedom to choose your response. Through small, consistent actions—like maintaining routines, engaging in honest reflection, connecting with others, and contributing in meaningful ways—you begin to restore what was shaken.

Purpose isn’t something you wait to rediscover; it’s something you actively rebuild through the way you live each day. You may not return to who you were before the scam, but you can move forward with greater clarity, strength, and purpose. This process takes time, but the meaning you create from your experience can become one of the most valuable parts of your life story.

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In Lying Lies Psychological Conflict for Those Who Have Been the Victim of Betrayal – 2025

In Lying Lies Psychological Conflict for Those Who Have Been the Victim of Betrayal

A Look at Lying and the Challenges it Creates for Scam Victims

Primary Category: Scam Victim Recovery Psychology

Intended Audience: Scam Victims-Survivors / Family & Friends

Authors:
•  Vianey Gonzalez B.Sc(Psych) – Licensed Psychologist, Specialty in Crime Victim Trauma Therapy, Neuropsychologist, Certified Deception Professional, Psychology Advisory Panel & Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.
•  Tim McGuinness, Ph.D., DFin, MCPO, MAnth – Anthropologist, Scientist, Polymath, Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.

About This Article

If you’ve been the victim of a scam, you may find yourself lying afterward—not to harm others, but to protect yourself from shame, judgment, or emotional pain. These lies often arise as survival strategies rooted in betrayal trauma, where the original harm disrupted your sense of trust and identity. While lying may offer short-term relief, it tends to create long-term damage. It can isolate you from others, increase your internal distress, and reinforce the very wounds the scam created. Over time, lying may feel like self-betrayal, especially if it goes against your values. This internal conflict can lead to guilt, anxiety, and a breakdown in self-trust. But there is a way forward.

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The Joy That Refuses to Die: How Scam Victims Can Find Joy in Life’s Small Moments – Part 2 – 2025

The Joy That Refuses to Die: How Scam Victims Can Reclaim Life Through Small, Ordinary Moments

The Quiet Joy That Survives Betrayal: Finding Light in Small Things After a Scam

Primary Category: Scam Victim Recovery Philosophy

Intended Audience: Scam Victims-Survivors / Family & Friends

Authors:
•  Vianey Gonzalez B.Sc(Psych) – Licensed Psychologist, Specialty in Crime Victim Trauma Therapy, Neuropsychologist, Certified Deception Professional, Psychology Advisory Panel & Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.
•  Tim McGuinness, Ph.D., DFin, MCPO, MAnth – Anthropologist, Scientist, Polymath, Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.

About This Article

When life has been shattered by a scam, the idea of joy may feel distant or even insulting. But as Albert Camus observed, even in the face of absurdity and suffering, the human spirit retains the power to rebel—not with rage, but with tenderness toward life. Scam victims often find that the big things—trust, safety, financial stability—have collapsed. What remains are the smallest fragments: a warm cup of coffee, the quiet of early morning, a kind word from a stranger. These moments can feel insignificant, but they are, in fact, the foundations of resilience.

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Don’t Forget to Read this – I almost Forgot to Write it – 2025

Don’t Forget to Read this – I almost Forgot to Write it

The Art of Forgetting, in Case We Forgot: When Letting Go Is Healthy—and When It’s Just Hiding

Primary Category: Scam Victim Recovery Psychology

Intended Audience: Scam Victims-Survivors / Family & Friends

Authors:
•  Vianey Gonzalez B.Sc(Psych) – Licensed Psychologist, Specialty in Crime Victim Trauma Therapy, Neuropsychologist, Certified Deception Professional, Psychology Advisory Panel & Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.
•  Tim McGuinness, Ph.D. – Anthropologist, Scientist, Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.
•  Who did we forget? We don’t remember.

About This Article

Forgetting is not just a flaw in human memory—it’s a vital function of consciousness that supports emotional balance, cognitive efficiency, and personal growth. This article explores how forgetting helps you filter information, regulate emotional intensity, adapt to change, and prevent mental overload. It distinguishes healthy forgetting—a gradual, adaptive fading of painful or irrelevant memories—from defensive forgetting, such as compartmentalization, which buries unresolved trauma and can resurface through emotional or physical symptoms.

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Monsters of the Id – How Scam Victims’ Own Emotions Can Sabotage Their Recovery – 2025

Monsters of the ‘ID’: How Scam Victims’ Own Emotions Can Sabotage Their Recovery

Overcoming Anger, Shame, and Desperation to Take Back Control After Being Scammed

Primary Category: Scam Victim Recovery Psychology

Intended Audience: Scam Victims-Survivors / Family & Friends

Authors:
•  Vianey Gonzalez B.Sc(Psych) – Licensed Psychologist, Specialty in Crime Victim Trauma Therapy, Neuropsychologist, Certified Deception Professional, Psychology Advisory Panel & Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.
•  Tim McGuinness, Ph.D., DFin, MCPO, MAnth – Anthropologist, Scientist, Polymath, Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.

About This Article

Scam victims often face not just financial and emotional loss but also internal psychological battles that can hinder their recovery. The concept of Monsters of the Id, originating from Freudian psychology, represents the primal, unfiltered impulses that can drive victims to act irrationally. Modern psychology identifies these impulses as emotional dysregulation, cognitive distortions, and trauma responses—each of which can lead to impulsive decisions, self-blame, or paranoia that isolates victims from the support they need.

Uncontrolled anger, shame, and desperation can turn victims into their own worst enemies, leading them to lash out, withdraw, or make reckless choices in an attempt to regain control. Recognizing when these psychological forces are at play is essential to preventing self-sabotage. Victims must ask themselves whether their decisions are being driven by raw emotion rather than rational thought.

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