Rebuilding Trust: The Scam Victim’s Journey from Victimhood to Empowerment – 2024

Rebuilding Trust: The Scam Victim’s Journey from Victimhood to Empowerment

Understanding How to Rebuild Trust After a Relationship Scam

Authors:
• Vianey Gonzalez B.Sc(Psych) – Psychologist, Certified Deception Professional, Psychology Advisory Panel & Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.
• Tim McGuinness, Ph.D. – Anthropologist, Scientist, Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.

About This Article

Rebuilding trust after becoming a scam victim is a difficult journey that involves restoring confidence in oneself and others. The process often begins with acknowledging the betrayal and its impact on one’s sense of security and self-worth.

Adopting frameworks like the SCARS ‘R-E-A-L’ (Reflect, Evaluate, Accept, Learn) can provide structure and guidance in navigating this complex emotional terrain.

Trusting others again requires discernment, boundary-setting, and gradual engagement in healthy relationships. At the same time, rebuilding self-trust involves introspection, self-compassion, and reframing negative beliefs.

Applying Boundaries When Compassion Is Required Instead

Or Vice Versa!

Helping Scam Victims To Understand When One Is Called For And Not The Other

Author:
• Tim McGuinness, Ph.D. – Anthropologist, Scientist, Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.

Knowing When To Use Compassion Or Boundaries Or Both

How Can You Know When It Is Appropriate To Apply Boundaries Or Compassion In Scam-Victim Relationships After The Scam Ends?

Scam victims usually turn to boundaries, not compassion, when they find themselves entangled in a web of emotions and complexities after the scam ordeal.

In the aftermath, there’s a tendency to blur the lines between setting personal boundaries and extending compassion, especially towards others who have shared portions of the traumatic experience within the scam, such as spouses, children, friends, and families.