ScamsNOW!

The SCARS Institute Magazine about Scam Victims-Survivors, Scams, Fraud & Cybercrime

SCARS Institute - 12 Years of Service to Scam Victims & Survivors - 2025/2026
SCARS Institute Community Portal
Trauma Trigger Responses from the Outside - 2026
Trauma Trigger Responses from the Outside - 2026

Trauma Trigger Responses from the Outside

What Trauma Trigger Responses Look Like From The Outside And Why People Often Do Not Notice Them – Fight, Flight, Freeze, And Fawn

Primary Category: Scam Victim Recovery Psychology

Authors:
•  Vianey Gonzalez B.Sc(Psych) – Licensed Psychologist, Specialty in Crime Victim Trauma Therapy, Neuropsychologist, Certified Deception Professional, Psychology Advisory Panel & Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.
•  Tim McGuinness, Ph.D., DFin, MCPO, MAnth – Anthropologist, Scientist, Polymath, Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.
Author Biographies Below

About This Article

Trauma trigger responses such as fight, flight, freeze, and fawn, are automatic survival patterns that activate rapidly when the brain perceives danger. Scam victims often experience these responses in everyday situations that resemble past harm, including urgency, secrecy, or perceived abandonment. During triggered states, attention narrows, cognition becomes less flexible, self-observation decreases, and memory formation can be disrupted, making people unaware of their behavior in the moment. These responses can appear externally as aggression, avoidance, shutdown, or appeasement. Understanding the brain mechanisms involved reduces self-blame and confusion. Techniques such as mirroring, structured pauses, and step-by-step awareness practices help individuals recognize triggers earlier, increase behavioral insight, and gradually regain control, stability, and confidence in their responses over time.

Note: This article is intended for informational purposes and does not replace professional medical advice. If you are experiencing distress, please consult a qualified mental health professional.

Trauma Trigger Responses from the Outside - 2026

What Trauma Trigger Responses Look Like From The Outside And Why People Often Do Not Notice Them

Fight, Flight, Freeze, And Fawn

Trauma trigger responses feel confusing because they arrive fast and change the body and mind before a person has time to think.

Many scam victims describe trigger responses as a switch flipping. One moment, they are reading a message, hearing a phone tone, listening to a song, or seeing a name on a screen. The next moment, their heart races, their stomach drops, and their brain seems to narrow. In that moment, the body behave as if survival is on the line, even when the immediate danger is not physical.

Fight, flight, freeze, and fawn are survival-based responses. They are not character flaws. They are patterns the nervous system uses when it believes there is a threat. The challenge is that people often cannot see their own behavior clearly while it is happening or remember it afterward. The trigger can be instantaneous. During the response, attention becomes selective, self-awareness can drop, and memory formation can change. Later, the person may remember the emotion but not the details of what they said, how they sounded, or how they moved.

For scam victims, this matters because triggers can show up in everyday moments. A notification sound, a banking login, a video call request, a romance-related phrase, a photo, a blocked number, or a simple delay in a response can all activate the nervous system. The person may then react in ways that feel unlike their usual self. This can strain relationships, increase shame, and create confusion about what is real and what is fear.

What Being Triggered Means In Practical Terms

A trigger is any cue that the brain links to danger based on past traumatic experience. The cue may be external, like a sound or message, or internal, like a sudden thought, body sensation, or feeling of abandonment. The important point is that the trigger does not need to match the original event perfectly or even at all. The brain often generalizes and predicts. If the scam experience involved secrecy, urgency, financial loss, intimate betrayal, or humiliation, then new situations that resemble any part of that pattern can activate the same alarm response.

When the alarm response turns on, the brain instantly shifts priorities. It reallocates energy toward survival. It may reduce access to flexible reasoning, long-range planning, nuance, and empathy. That shift can be brief, or it can last minutes or hours, depending on the person, the context, and whether the trigger keeps being reinforced. Usually, they are brief, but the aftereffects, and then the guilt or shame, can last much longer.

Why People Often Cannot See Their Own Behavior During A Trigger

Many traumatized people believe they should be able to notice what they are doing in the moment, but the brain is not designed for that during threat states. In a threat state, the mind often becomes task-focused. It tries to solve the problem quickly. That problem might be escaping, persuading, submitting, defending, or shutting down. The internal experience may be intense, but self-observation can weaken.

Several factors contribute to this reduced awareness:

  • First, attention narrows. The brain may lock onto one detail, like a threatening phrase, a facial expression, or the fear of losing control. This can crowd out awareness of tone of voice, posture, or the words coming out of the mouth.
  • Second, the body takes the lead. Stress hormones and nervous system activation can produce rapid changes in breathing, heart rate, muscle tension, and vocal tone. The person may feel compelled to act before thinking.
  • Third, working memory can degrade. Working memory is what helps a person hold several pieces of information in mind at once. Under threat, the mind may lose that capacity. The person may not track what has already been said or what they intended to do.
  • Fourth, shame and fear can distort self-perception. Some people experience a surge of self-criticism, which makes them more reactive and less reflective.
  • Finally, dissociation can occur. Dissociation is a protective distancing from experience. In mild forms, it can feel like numbness, fog, or being on autopilot. In stronger forms, it can feel unreal or disconnected. Dissociation can block the sense of agency that would normally support self-monitoring.

What These Response Look Like From The Outside

FIGHT

Fight is not only physical aggression. In scam recovery, it often shows up as verbal intensity and control-seeking, and negativity. The person’s system tries to dominate the situation to regain safety.

Common outward signs include raised voice, rapid speech, interrupting, rigid posture, clenched jaw, narrowed eyes, pointing, pacing, or a hard stare. The person may become argumentative, accusatory, or overly certain. They may push for immediate resolution and show low tolerance for ambiguity. They may demand reassurance repeatedly or insist on exact answers right away.

Fight can also appear as internal combat that spills into external behavior. The person may argue with themselves, insist they are fine, or criticize others for not understanding. It can be a desperate attempt to prevent vulnerability from being exposed again.

Flight

Flight is the urge to get away, physically or mentally, from what feels threatening. In scam recovery, flight may not involve running. It may involve avoiding conversations, delaying decisions, or disappearing from support.

Common outward signs include leaving the room, abruptly ending a call, not responding to messages, changing the subject, excessive busyness, compulsive cleaning, compulsive researching, or frantic problem-solving. Flight can look like restless energy. The person may talk quickly, fidget, or repeatedly check their phone.

Flight can also appear as over-functioning. The person may start making lists, contacting institutions, canceling accounts, or trying to solve everything at once. Some of this activity may be appropriate, but the driven quality can signal that the nervous system is trying to escape fear through constant motion.

Freeze

Freeze is a shutdown response. The body becomes still. The voice can soften or disappear. The mind may go blank. Freeze is a protective immobilization response that can occur when the brain detects danger and believes escape or fighting will not work.

Common outward signs include silence, slow responses, staring, confusion, limited facial expression, stiff posture, and difficulty initiating action. The person may say they cannot think, cannot decide, or cannot move forward. They may feel numb or detached.

Freeze can also appear as compliance without engagement. The person may say yes, nod, or agree, but later they may not remember what was agreed to, or they may feel confused about why they agreed at all.

Fawn

Fawn is a survival response focused on appeasement. The person tries to prevent harm by pleasing, agreeing, smoothing conflict, and reducing tension. Many scam victims recognize this response when they notice how quickly they apologize or minimize their own needs in order to keep the other person calm.

Common outward signs include excessive politeness, smiling while distressed, agreeing quickly, apologizing repeatedly, offering explanations to reduce conflict, over-sharing, or prioritizing the other person’s comfort. The person may make themselves smaller, flatter their counterpart, or accept blame to keep the situation from escalating.

Fawn is especially common when a person has learned that confrontation is unsafe or that connection can be lost quickly. In scam dynamics, criminals often reward compliance and punish resistance, which can condition a strong fawn response.

What Happens In The Brain During These States

During threat states, the brain shifts into a survival mode that favors speed over accuracy. Sensory systems become more vigilant. The nervous system prepares the body for action or shutdown. This is coordinated through networks that detect threats, regulate emotion, and manage stress hormones.

In practical terms, the prefrontal cortex, which supports planning, impulse control, and flexible reasoning, can become less active. Meanwhile, threat detection circuits become more dominant. The person may experience intense certainty, intense fear, or intense numbness, depending on the response pattern.

This is why people often say, “I do not know what came over me,” or “I could not think.” They are describing a real shift in brain function. The brain is trying to survive, not to perform a calm social analysis.

How Cognition And Awareness Change In The Instant Of Triggering

The triggering moment can feel like a snap because the brain is running rapid pattern-matching processes. If it detects a familiar danger pattern, it initiates a response before conscious thought catches up.

During a Trigger Response, cognition changes in several ways:

  • Selective attention increases. The person may focus on one threat cue and miss other information.
  • Time perception can distort. Seconds may feel longer, or minutes may disappear.
  • Language can change. Some people become talkative and intense, while others lose words.
  • Mental flexibility decreases. The person may struggle to consider alternatives or see nuance.
  • Self-observation decreases. The person may not track facial expression, volume, or body posture.

These shifts help explain why triggered people often do not recognize how they appear to others. They are inside a different operating mode.

Why Memory Can Be Patchy Afterward

Memory depends on attention, emotional state, and how information is encoded. During intense threat states, the brain usually prioritizes memory for the core danger signal while reducing memory for context and sequence. Some people remember vivid fragments, like a phrase or image, but cannot recall the full conversation. Others remember their fear but not what they said. Some remember what they did but not why.

After a trigger, people may also experience a rebound effect. The nervous system settles, and the mind tries to make sense of what happened. That process can produce shame, rumination, and self-blame, especially if the person behaved differently than they would in a calm state.

Understanding memory changes can reduce self-judgment. Patchy memory is not a sign of dishonesty or weakness. It is often a sign that the brain was in a survival state.

The Value Of Mirroring For Awareness And Change

Mirroring is a structured way to help a person see their behavior as it happens, or soon after it happens, without blame. It involves reflecting observable actions back to the person in clear, neutral language. The goal is not to criticize. The goal is to increase awareness. We use this technique often in our zoom support calls to help individuals become aware of their language use, spoken ideas, manifested emotions, and behavior.

In scam recovery, mirroring can be especially helpful because many victims struggle to trust their own perceptions. The scam experience included manipulation, gaslighting, and reality distortion. Mirroring provides a grounded external reference that can help rebuild self-trust.

Mirroring can come from a therapist, a trained advocate, a trusted support partner, or even the person themselves through journaling, audio notes, or role-play. The best mirroring is specific, behavioral, and time-limited. It describes what happened, not what it “means.”

Examples of mirroring language include:

  • The voice became louder, and the speech became faster after the word “urgent” appeared.
  • The person stopped talking and looked down for about twenty seconds when the topic changed to money.
  • The person apologized three times in one minute and said “it is my fault” while visibly tense.
  • The person expresses different use of language or specifically blaming language.

This kind of feedback helps a person connect internal sensations with external behavior. Over time, that connection builds the capacity to notice the trigger earlier and choose a different response.

A Step-by-Step Guide For Scam Victims To Build Trigger Awareness And Control

Building awareness and control during triggered moments is not about eliminating fear or forcing calm. It is about learning how the nervous system responds under stress and developing practical skills that restore choice when automatic survival patterns activate. For many scam victims, these responses developed for a reason and once helped them endure overwhelming situations. This step by step process is designed to make those patterns visible, understandable, and changeable over time. Each step is intentionally simple and concrete, because clarity and repetition are more effective than insight alone when the brain is under pressure.

Step 1:

Name the four responses as patterns, not identities
The person benefits from thinking, “A fight response is turning on,” instead of thinking, “This is who I am.” This language reduces shame and increases choice.

Step 2:

Identify personal trigger categories
The person lists the types of cues that activate strong reactions. For scam victims, common categories include urgency, secrecy, romantic language, financial threats, official-sounding messages, shame cues, and sudden silence from others. The list should stay practical and specific.

Step 3:

Track early body signals
The body often signals a trigger before the mind names it. The person watches for early signals such as tightening in the chest, throat constriction, jaw clenching, stomach drop, heat in the face, numbness, or restless legs. The person picks three signals that appear most often and writes them down.

Step 4:

Create a simple pause routine. The pause routine should be short and repeatable. It may include these actions:

  • Take three slow breaths with longer exhales.
  • Place both feet on the floor and notice physical contact.
  • Look around and name five neutral objects in the room.

This routine helps re-engage reflective thinking and reduce the sense of immediate danger.

Step 5: Use a reality-check script

The person prepares one or two sentences to use when triggered. Examples include:

  • This feels urgent, but urgency is a known manipulation tool.
  • A real emergency can tolerate verification.
  • The script should be written in the person’s own words and kept visible.

Step 6: Build a mirroring partnership

The person chooses a trusted helper who can mirror behavior respectfully. The agreement includes three rules:

  • The mirroring focuses on observable behavior, not character.
  • The mirroring happens after the person is calm, not during peak distress.
  • The person can pause or stop the mirroring if it feels overwhelming.

This partnership may be a therapist relationship or a trusted recovery peer relationship, with clear boundaries.

Step 7: Practice review without shame

After a triggered event, the person reviews what happened using a short template:

  • Trigger cue identified.
  • Response pattern that appeared.
  • Body signals noticed.
  • Behavior observed.
  • What helped.
  • What could help next time?

This review strengthens learning. Shame interrupts learning, so the review should stay factual.

Step 8: Rehearse the next response in a safe setting

The nervous system learns through repetition. The person can rehearse likely triggers through role-play, writing, or guided visualization. The rehearsal focuses on the pause routine and the verification step, not on perfection.

Step 9: Make one small behavior change at a time

Trying to change everything at once often increases stress. The person picks one target behavior, such as reducing apologizing during fawn, delaying immediate replies during urgency, or staying present for thirty seconds during freeze. Small success builds confidence.

Step 10: Strengthen recovery supports that reduce reactivity

Trigger control improves when the baseline nervous system state is more stable. Sleep, hydration, predictable meals, and regular movement can reduce vulnerability. Emotional supports, such as peer groups, therapy, and structured education, can also reduce the sense of isolation that intensifies triggers.

Review

Taken together, these steps create a structured way to slow down what normally happens too fast to notice. Naming response patterns reduces shame. Identifying triggers and body signals brings early awareness. Pausing, reality checking, and mirroring restore perspective and external reference. Review and rehearsal turn difficult moments into learning rather than self-criticism. Small behavioral changes, supported by stable daily routines and emotional support, gradually reduce reactivity. Over time, this process helps scam victims recognize triggered states sooner, respond with greater intention, and regain a sense of agency in situations that once felt overwhelming or out of control.

How Change Looks Over Time

Progress often shows up in small shifts. The person notices a trigger one step earlier. The person pauses before replying. The person asks a clarifying question instead of panicking. The person feels the urge to appease but chooses a boundary. The person freezes, then returns to the conversation with a simple statement such as, “I need a pause, I will be back in a minute.”

Over time, these shifts add up. The person learns that feelings of threat do not always signal real danger. The person builds the ability to verify, slow down, and choose. That is not about suppressing emotion. It is about restoring agency during moments when the nervous system wants to take over.

Closing Perspective

Fight, flight, freeze, and fawn responses can make a person act in ways that feel unfamiliar or even alarming in hindsight. This happens because the trigger can activate survival systems faster than conscious thought. During these states, awareness narrows, cognition becomes less flexible, and memory can become fragmented. Many traumatized people do not realize how they appear to others in these moments, which can increase shame and confusion after the fact.

Mirroring offers a practical path forward because it turns invisible patterns into visible information. When behavior becomes observable and nameable, it becomes changeable. With patient practice, structured pauses, respectful feedback, and small behavioral goals, scam victims can learn to recognize triggers earlier and respond with more clarity, safety, and self-respect.

Conclusion

Fight, flight, freeze, and fawn responses are not signs of weakness, immaturity, or poor judgment. They are automatic survival patterns that activate faster than conscious thought when the brain perceives threat. For scam victims, these responses are often intensified because the original harm involved betrayal, urgency, secrecy, and emotional manipulation. When a trigger occurs, awareness narrows, behavior shifts, and memory encoding changes. As a result, many people do not fully recognize what they say, how they act, or how they appear to others while the response is active. This lack of awareness can later fuel shame, confusion, and self-criticism, even though the response itself was biological and protective in nature.

Recovery involves learning to observe these patterns without judgment. Understanding what happens in the brain during threat states helps replace self-blame with clarity. Mirroring plays a key role because it provides an external reference point that makes invisible behaviors visible in a safe and respectful way. When paired with simple pause routines, reality checks, and structured review, mirroring helps restore choice during moments that once felt uncontrollable. Over time, these skills allow scam victims to notice triggers earlier, slow automatic reactions, and respond with greater intention. The goal is not emotional suppression. The goal is agency, safety, and the gradual rebuilding of trust in one’s own perceptions and behavior.

Trauma Trigger Responses from the Outside - 2026

Glossary

  • Appeasement survival response — Appeasement survival response refers to the instinct to reduce danger by pleasing, agreeing, or smoothing conflict. It often shows up as quick apologies, over-explaining, or prioritizing someone else’s comfort over personal needs.
  • Autopilot sensation — Autopilot sensation describes the feeling of acting without full awareness during a triggered moment. The person may function outwardly, but later struggle to recall choices, tone, or sequence.
  • Behavioral unawareness — Behavioral unawareness is the reduced ability to notice one’s own voice, posture, words, or facial expression during a threat state. It is common when attention narrows and the body takes control.
  • Body-based warning signal — Body-based warning signal is a physical sensation that appears before conscious recognition of a trigger. Examples include chest tightening, jaw clenching, stomach drop, heat in the face, or numbness.
  • Breath-based pause routine — Breath-based pause routine is a brief, repeatable set of actions designed to slow reactivity during triggers. Longer exhales and grounded posture can help re-engage reflective thinking.
  • Code-word verification — Code-word verification is a method of confirming identity or safety using a prearranged phrase. It reduces vulnerability to manipulation by requiring information that a scammer cannot guess.
  • Cognitive narrowing — Cognitive narrowing is the rapid reduction of mental flexibility during perceived threat. The person may miss context, focus on one cue, and struggle to consider alternatives.
  • Compliance without engagement — Compliance without engagement occurs when a person agrees or nods during a freeze state but does not fully process the interaction. Later, confusion about what was agreed to is common.
  • Compulsive researching — Compulsive researching is a flight-style behavior where the person searches relentlessly for information to reduce anxiety. It can feel productive while increasing stress and reinforcing fear.
  • Conflict-smoothing behavior — Conflict-smoothing behavior is a fawn pattern that aims to prevent escalation by minimizing needs and avoiding disagreement. It can protect short-term safety while weakening long-term boundaries.
  • Context memory loss — Context memory loss is the difficulty recalling the full setting, sequence, or details surrounding a triggered event. The person may remember fragments while missing the overall narrative.
  • Control-seeking intensity — Control-seeking intensity is a fight response pattern where the person pushes for immediate certainty and resolution. It often includes rigid thinking, impatience, and heightened argumentativeness.
  • Cue generalization — Cue generalization occurs when the brain links new situations to past harm, even when they do not match closely. Seemingly ordinary cues can activate the same alarm response.
  • Delay-as-Danger interpretation — Delay-as-Danger interpretation is the tendency to perceive silence or slow replies as a threat cue. This is common after scams that use withholding and urgency to control victims.
  • Dissociative fog — Dissociative fog is a sense of numbness, unreality, or mental cloudiness that can appear during triggers. It can reduce agency and interfere with accurate self-observation.
  • Emotional rebound — Emotional rebound is the aftereffect that can occur once the nervous system settles after a trigger. The person may experience shame, rumination, or self-blame while trying to make sense of behavior.
  • External mirroring — External mirroring is a supportive technique where a trusted person reflects observable behaviors back in neutral language. It helps the individual connect internal sensations to outward actions.
  • Facial expression shift — Facial expression shift refers to visible changes, such as narrowing eyes, blankness, forced smiling, or tension, that appear during trigger states. These changes often happen without the person noticing.
  • Fear-driven certainty — Fear-driven certainty is the sense of being completely sure while in a threat response. It can reduce openness to nuance and increase rigid decision-making.
  • Fight response pattern — The fight response pattern is a survival mode characterized by confrontation, control seeking, and verbal intensity. It often appears as a raised voice, an interruption, an accusatory tone, or pressure for immediate resolution.
  • Flight response pattern — Flight response pattern is a survival mode focused on escape through avoidance or constant activity. It may look like leaving, ending calls, changing topics, or over-functioning through frantic problem-solving.
  • Freeze response pattern — Freeze response pattern is a survival mode marked by shutdown and immobilization. It may present as silence, blank mind, slow responses, or difficulty initiating action.
  • Grounding through orientation — Grounding through orientation is a technique that uses the environment to restore present-moment awareness. Naming neutral objects can reduce the sense of immediate danger.
  • Hypervigilant scanning — Hypervigilant scanning is heightened monitoring for threat cues during and after triggers. The person may repeatedly check phones, messages, or surroundings for signs of danger.
  • Immediate resolution pressure — Immediate resolution pressure is the urge to settle uncertainty right away, often seen in fight or flight. It can lead to impulsive choices and strained relationships.
  • Internal combat — Internal combat describes self-directed arguing and harsh self-talk that can accompany fight responses. It often increases tension and reduces self-compassion.
  • Interrupted self-monitoring — Interrupted self-monitoring is the temporary loss of tracking one’s own volume, tone, and behavior during a trigger. The person may later be surprised by what others report.
  • Language disruption — Language disruption is a change in speech during threat states, including rapid talking, word loss, or repeated phrases. It reflects shifts in attention and cognitive capacity.
  • Long-range planning reduction — Long-range planning reduction is the diminished ability to think about future consequences during triggers. The brain prioritizes immediate safety over strategy.
  • Memory fragment recall — Memory fragment recall is remembering vivid pieces of an event while missing the full sequence. This is common when the brain prioritizes the core danger signal.
  • Mirror-based self-trust rebuilding — Mirror-based self-trust rebuilding is the gradual process of learning to believe one’s perceptions again through respectful feedback. It supports recovery after manipulation and gaslighting experiences.
  • Neutral behavioral description — Neutral behavioral description is the practice of describing observable actions without assigning motive or blame. This approach makes mirroring safer and more useful for learning.
  • Notification cue trigger — Notification cue trigger is a stress response activated by sounds, pings, or alerts associated with past scam interactions. The cue can provoke fear even when the message is harmless.
  • Official-sounding message trigger — Official-sounding message trigger is activation caused by language that resembles authority or enforcement. Scam victims may react strongly to formal tone, warnings, or threats.
  • Pattern labeling — Pattern labeling is naming a response as “a fight response” or “a freeze response” rather than a personal identity. This language reduces shame and increases choice.
  • Pause-before-action skill — Pause-before-action skill is the ability to insert a brief delay between trigger and response. It improves decision quality by restoring access to reflective thinking.
  • Physical agitation — Physical agitation includes pacing, fidgeting, and restless movement commonly seen in flight responses. The body attempts to discharge fear through motion.
  • Post-trigger self-blame — Post-trigger self-blame is the tendency to judge oneself harshly after learning what happened during a trigger. It can be reduced through education about nervous system responses.
  • Prefrontal cortex downshift — Prefrontal cortex downshift describes reduced access to planning, impulse control, and flexible reasoning during threat states. This shift makes reactive behavior more likely.
  • Reality-check script — Reality-check script is a short, prepared statement used during triggers to challenge urgency and restore verification. It supports safer choices when cognition narrows.
  • Recovery peer boundary — Recovery peer boundary is an agreed limit that keeps mirroring and support safe and respectful. Clear boundaries prevent overwhelm and protect trust.
  • Rehearsal in safe context — Rehearsal in safe context is practicing responses through role-play, writing, or guided visualization. Repetition teaches the nervous system new options during stress.
  • Selective attention lock — Selective attention lock is focusing intensely on one threat cue while missing other information. It explains why people may not notice their own tone or posture.
  • Self-observation drop — Self-observation drop is the reduced ability to notice internal and external behavior during trigger states. It often improves through practice, mirroring, and structured pauses.
  • Shame cue activation — Shame cue activation is a trigger linked to humiliation, blame, or fear of judgment. It can intensify fight, freeze, or fawn responses and distort self-perception.
  • Silence-based triggering — Silence-based triggering is activation caused by unanswered messages or delayed replies. The brain may interpret silence as rejection or danger based on past experiences.
  • Social cue misreading — Social cue misreading is misunderstanding tone or intent during threat states. Reduced mental flexibility can make neutral behavior seem hostile or rejecting.
  • Somatic marker awareness — Somatic marker awareness is recognizing bodily sensations as signals of a trigger rather than proof of present danger. This skill helps interrupt automatic reactions.
  • Support call mirroring — Support call mirroring is using real-time or near-time reflection during structured support meetings to increase awareness. It helps individuals notice language patterns and emotional shifts.
  • Threat detection dominance — Threat detection dominance is a brain state where survival circuits outweigh reflective reasoning. The person may feel urgency, certainty, or numbness depending on the response.
  • Time distortion — Time distortion is the experience of seconds stretching or minutes disappearing during triggers. This can interfere with sequencing events and recalling details.
  • Tone escalation — Tone escalation is an increase in vocal intensity during fight states. The person may not hear the escalation, but others often perceive it clearly.
  • Trigger cue — Trigger cue is a stimulus that the brain links to prior harm and uses as a signal of danger. Triggers may be external, internal, or relational, and they often generalize.
  • Trigger review template — Trigger review template is a structured set of questions used after a trigger to learn without shame. It includes cue, response pattern, body signals, and what helped.
  • Verification restoration — Verification restoration is the process of reintroducing fact-checking during perceived urgency. It helps collapse false threat narratives and supports safer decision-making.
  • Vocal tone change — Vocal tone change includes shifts such as sharpness, softness, trembling, or flatness during trigger states. These changes often occur without conscious control.
  • Working memory degradation — Working memory degradation is the reduced ability to hold several pieces of information at once during threat. It can lead to repeating points, losing track, and impulsive conclusions.
  • Word loss moment — Word loss moment is the sudden inability to access language during a freeze or dissociative state. This can feel like the mind going blank and is often temporary.

Author Biographies

Dr. Tim McGuinness is a co-founder, Managing Director, and Board Member of the SCARS Institute (Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.), where he serves as an unsalaried volunteer officer dedicated to supporting scam victims and survivors around the world. With over 34 years of experience in scam education and awareness, he is perhaps the longest-serving advocate in the field.

Dr. McGuinness has an extensive background as a business pioneer, having co-founded several technology-driven enterprises, including the former e-commerce giant TigerDirect.com. Beyond his corporate achievements, he is actively engaged with multiple global think tanks where he helps develop forward-looking policy strategies that address the intersection of technology, ethics, and societal well-being. He is also a computer industry pioneer (he was an Assistant Director of Corporate Research Engineering at Atari Inc. in the early 1980s) and invented core technologies still in use today. 

His professional identity spans a wide range of disciplines. He is a scientist, strategic analyst, solution architect, advisor, public speaker, published author, roboticist, Navy veteran, and recognized polymath. He holds numerous certifications, including those in cybersecurity from the United States Department of Defense under DITSCAP & DIACAP, continuous process improvement and engineering and quality assurance, trauma-informed care, grief counseling, crisis intervention, and related disciplines that support his work with crime victims.

Dr. McGuinness was instrumental in developing U.S. regulatory standards for medical data privacy called HIPAA and financial industry cybersecurity called GLBA. His professional contributions include authoring more than 1,000 papers and publications in fields ranging from scam victim psychology and neuroscience to cybercrime prevention and behavioral science.

“I have dedicated my career to advancing and communicating the impact of emerging technologies, with a strong focus on both their transformative potential and the risks they create for individuals, businesses, and society. My background combines global experience in business process innovation, strategic technology development, and operational efficiency across diverse industries.”

“Throughout my work, I have engaged with enterprise leaders, governments, and think tanks to address the intersection of technology, business, and global risk. I have served as an advisor and board member for numerous organizations shaping strategy in digital transformation and responsible innovation at scale.”

“In addition to my corporate and advisory roles, I remain deeply committed to addressing the rising human cost of cybercrime. As a global advocate for victim support and scam awareness, I have helped educate millions of individuals, protect vulnerable populations, and guide international collaborations aimed at reducing online fraud and digital exploitation.”

“With a unique combination of technical insight, business acumen, and humanitarian drive, I continue to focus on solutions that not only fuel innovation but also safeguard the people and communities impacted by today’s evolving digital landscape.”

Dr. McGuinness brings a rare depth of knowledge, compassion, and leadership to scam victim advocacy. His ongoing mission is to help victims not only survive their experiences but transform through recovery, education, and empowerment.

 

Vianey Gonzalez is a licensed psychologist in Mexico and a survivor of a romance scam that ended eight years ago. Through her recovery and the support she received, she was able to refocus on her future, eventually attending a prestigious university in Mexico City to become a licensed psychologist with a specialization in crime victims and their unique trauma. She now serves as a long-standing board member of the SCARS Institute (Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.) and holds the position of Chief Psychology Officer. She also manages our Mexican office, providing support to Spanish-speaking victims around the world. Vianey has been instrumental in helping thousands of victims and remains an active contributor to the work we publish on this and other SCARS Institute websites.

La Lic. Vianey Gonzalez es profesional licenciada en psicología en México y sobreviviente de una estafa romántica que terminó hace ocho años. Gracias a su recuperación y al apoyo recibido, pudo reenfocarse en su futuro y, finalmente, cursó sus estudios en una prestigiosa universidad en la Ciudad de México para obtener su licencia como psicóloga con especialización en víctimas de crimen y sus traumas particulares. Actualmente, es miembro de la junta directiva del Instituto SCARS (Sociedad de Ciudadanos Contra las Estafas en las Relaciones) y ocupa el cargo de Directora de Psicología. También dirige nuestra oficina en México, brindando apoyo a víctimas en español en todo el mundo. Vianey ha sido fundamental para ayudar a miles de víctimas y continúa contribuyendo activamente las obras que publicamos en este y otros sitios web del Instituto SCARS.

-/ 30 /-

What do you think about this?
Please share your thoughts in a comment below!

 

Leave A Comment

TABLE OF CONTENTS

CATEGORIES

U.S. & Canada Suicide Lifeline 988
International Numbers

 

Trauma Trigger Responses from the Outside - 2026

ARTICLE META

Jopin teh free, safe, and confidential SCARS Institute Community

Important Information for New Scam Victims

  • Please visit www.ScamVictimsSupport.org – a SCARS Website for New Scam Victims & Sextortion Victims.
  • SCARS Institute now offers its free, safe, and private Scam Survivor’s Support Community at www.SCARScommunity.org – this is not on a social media platform, it is our own safe & secure platform created by the SCARS Institute especially for scam victims & survivors.
  • SCARS Institute now offers a free recovery learning program at www.SCARSeducation.org.
  • Please visit www.ScamPsychology.org – to more fully understand the psychological concepts involved in scams and scam victim recovery.

If you are looking for local trauma counselors, please visit counseling.AgainstScams.org

If you need to speak with someone now, you can dial 988 or find phone numbers for crisis hotlines all around the world here: www.opencounseling.com/suicide-hotlines

Statement About Victim Blaming

Some of our articles discuss various aspects of victims. This is both about better understanding victims (the science of victimology) and their behaviors and psychology. This helps us to educate victims/survivors about why these crimes happened and not to blame themselves, better develop recovery programs, and help victims avoid scams in the future. At times, this may sound like blaming the victim, but it does not blame scam victims; we are simply explaining the hows and whys of the experience victims have.

These articles, about the Psychology of Scams or Victim Psychology – meaning that all humans have psychological or cognitive characteristics in common that can either be exploited or work against us – help us all to understand the unique challenges victims face before, during, and after scams, fraud, or cybercrimes. These sometimes talk about some of the vulnerabilities the scammers exploit. Victims rarely have control of them or are even aware of them, until something like a scam happens, and then they can learn how their mind works and how to overcome these mechanisms.

Articles like these help victims and others understand these processes and how to help prevent them from being exploited again or to help them recover more easily by understanding their post-scam behaviors. Learn more about the Psychology of Scams at www.ScamPsychology.org

SCARS INSTITUTE RESOURCES:

If You Have Been Victimized By A Scam Or Cybercrime

♦ If you are a victim of scams, go to www.ScamVictimsSupport.org for real knowledge and help

♦ SCARS Institute now offers its free, safe, and private Scam Survivor’s Support Community at www.SCARScommunity.org/register – this is not on a social media platform, it is our own safe & secure platform created by the SCARS Institute especially for scam victims & survivors.

♦ Enroll in SCARS Scam Survivor’s School now at www.SCARSeducation.org

♦ To report criminals, visit https://reporting.AgainstScams.org – we will NEVER give your data to money recovery companies like some do!

♦ Follow us and find our podcasts, webinars, and helpful videos on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@RomancescamsNowcom

♦ Learn about the Psychology of Scams at www.ScamPsychology.org

♦ Dig deeper into the reality of scams, fraud, and cybercrime at www.ScamsNOW.com and www.RomanceScamsNOW.com

♦ Scam Survivor’s Stories: www.ScamSurvivorStories.org

♦ For Scam Victim Advocates visit www.ScamVictimsAdvocates.org

♦ See more scammer photos on www.ScammerPhotos.com

You can also find the SCARS Institute’s knowledge and information on Facebook, Instagram, X, LinkedIn, and TruthSocial

Psychology Disclaimer:

All articles about psychology and the human brain on this website are for information & education only

The information provided in this and other SCARS articles are intended for educational and self-help purposes only and should not be construed as a substitute for professional therapy or counseling.

Note about Mindfulness: Mindfulness practices have the potential to create psychological distress for some individuals. Please consult a mental health professional or experienced meditation instructor for guidance should you encounter difficulties.

While any self-help techniques outlined herein may be beneficial for scam victims seeking to recover from their experience and move towards recovery, it is important to consult with a qualified mental health professional before initiating any course of action. Each individual’s experience and needs are unique, and what works for one person may not be suitable for another.

Additionally, any approach may not be appropriate for individuals with certain pre-existing mental health conditions or trauma histories. It is advisable to seek guidance from a licensed therapist or counselor who can provide personalized support, guidance, and treatment tailored to your specific needs.

If you are experiencing significant distress or emotional difficulties related to a scam or other traumatic event, please consult your doctor or mental health provider for appropriate care and support.

Also read our SCARS Institute Statement about Professional Care for Scam Victims – click here

If you are in crisis, feeling desperate, or in despair, please call 988 or your local crisis hotline – international numbers here.

A Question of Trust

At the SCARS Institute, we invite you to do your own research on the topics we speak about and publish. Our team investigates the subject being discussed, especially when it comes to understanding the scam victims-survivors’ experience. You can do Google searches, but in many cases, you will have to wade through scientific papers and studies. However, remember that biases and perspectives matter and influence the outcome. Regardless, we encourage you to explore these topics as thoroughly as you can for your own awareness.