
Yearning or Longing for Something More – An Open Door for Scammers
The Emotional Trap: How Yearning and Longing Make You Vulnerable to Scammers
Primary Category: Psychology of Scams
Author:
• Tim McGuinness, Ph.D., DFin, MCPO, MAnth – Anthropologist, Scientist, Polymath, Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.
About This Article
Yearning and longing are emotional forces that scammers skillfully exploit, using your deepest desires as tools for manipulation. These feelings are not weaknesses, but they create emotional blind spots when left unchecked. Scammers mirror your longing for connection, security, or fulfillment, crafting illusions that feel like answers to your internal voids. You are not deceived by the scammer’s cleverness; you are deceived by your own emotional hunger. Recognizing how yearning narrows your focus and clouds your judgment is essential to protecting yourself. When you become aware of these emotional pulls, you reclaim the ability to pause, reflect, and separate truth from illusion. Taming your longing does not mean suppressing it. It means understanding its influence, giving it space to be acknowledged, and making conscious choices that are not driven by desperation. Scam recovery is not just about identifying external threats; it is about mastering the internal forces that can betray you if left in the dark.
Note: This article is intended for informational purposes and does not replace professional medical advice. If you are experiencing distress, please consult a qualified mental health professional.

The Emotional Trap: How Yearning and Longing Make You Vulnerable to Scammers
You have probably heard the terms Yearning and longing throughout much of your life without really understanding what they are and how they affect you.
Yearning and longing are emotions that can quietly dismantle your defenses long before a scammer even contacts you. These feelings are not just passing wishes. They are deep-seated emotional gaps, unfulfilled desires that linger in your mind, shaping how you see the world and how you respond to others. Whether you long for connection, financial security, recognition, or a sense of belonging, these emotional voids create openings that scammers exploit with precision.
You may not realize it, but yearning can blind you. It amplifies your emotional needs and narrows your focus to anything that promises relief. When a scammer offers words of affection, an exciting opportunity, or even a listening ear, your mind latches onto the possibility of fulfillment. You begin to see the scammer not as a stranger, but as the answer to what you have been missing. This emotional pull overrides caution. It feels natural to trust them because they are feeding the exact hunger you have carried quietly inside.
Scammers know this. They design their lies to mirror what you are seeking. They do not need to force you into the scam; they just need to reflect back your own longing. This is how yearning becomes a gateway. It lowers your guard, speeds up your emotional investment, and makes you believe that the scammer’s narrative is real. The scammer’s job is simple: step into the role your heart is already searching for.
Yearning is a universal human experience. However, when you do not recognize its influence, it becomes a silent vulnerability. Understanding how longing shapes your reactions is the first step toward protecting yourself. It allows you to pause, reflect, and ask whether the person offering you fulfillment is real or just a mirror crafted to deceive you.
What is Yearning or Longing?
From a psychological perspective, yearning is an intense, persistent emotional longing for something that feels missing or incomplete in a person’s life. It is a deep-seated desire that is often tied to unmet emotional, psychological, or existential needs. Unlike fleeting wants or surface-level desires, yearning tends to be more profound, emotionally charged, and enduring.
Key Characteristics of Yearning in Psychology:
- Emotional Incompleteness: Yearning arises from an internal sense of lacking. It could be a longing for connection, belonging, purpose, love, security, or even an idealized state of happiness. The person feels a gap between their current emotional state and a desired one.
- Future-Oriented Pull: Yearning pulls the person toward a vision of what could be. It imagines a future where the void is filled, and life feels complete or balanced. This future-focused nature drives behavior and choices.
- Rooted in Emotional Memory or Idealization: It often ties back to emotional memories, either real experiences from the past or idealized visions that were never fully realized. For example, yearning for a lost loved one involves emotional memory, while yearning for a fantasy romance involves idealization.
- Persistent and Intrusive: Yearning is not a passing thought. It recurs, often intrusively, shaping how a person perceives their environment and relationships. It can dominate attention, coloring experiences with a sense of “something is missing.”
- Emotionally Painful and Motivating: Yearning is bittersweet. While it can be painful due to its focus on lack, it also acts as a motivator. It pushes individuals to seek fulfillment, whether through relationships, achievements, or personal growth.
- Can Be Exploited by External Influences: Psychologically, yearning makes individuals more susceptible to manipulation. Scammers, advertisers, or toxic relationships can tap into a person’s yearning, offering counterfeit solutions to fill that emotional void.
- Linked to Existential Needs: On a deeper level, yearning is connected to human existential needs for meaning, significance, and transcendence. It represents the mind’s attempt to reconcile life’s imperfections with an inner vision of what life should be.
Yearning is a core human emotional experience that represents an internal drive to seek fulfillment for perceived emotional gaps. It influences behavior, relationships, and vulnerability to manipulation. Psychologically, it is both a source of emotional pain and a catalyst for personal growth, depending on how consciously it is understood and acted upon.
The Difference between Yearning and Longing
Yearning and longing are closely related, but they are not exactly the same. Both describe deep emotional desires for something that feels absent or distant, but there are subtle differences in their psychological tone and focus.
Yearning
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- Internal Pull Toward Fulfillment: Yearning is an intense emotional ache for something you feel is missing in your life. It is often future-oriented, focusing on a desired state of completion or emotional satisfaction that has not been reached yet.
- Motivational Energy: Yearning tends to carry a sense of striving. It motivates action, pushing you toward seeking what you lack, whether it is love, connection, purpose, or personal growth.
- Persistent Emotional Undercurrent: Yearning can simmer beneath the surface for a long time, sometimes without a clear object. It represents a more generalized sense of emotional incompleteness.
Longing
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- Focused Desire for Something Distant or Lost: Longing is often more specific and nostalgic. It is the emotional ache for something known but out of reach, like a past experience, a lost person, or a distant ideal. Longing is frequently tied to memory or an imagined ideal that feels emotionally tangible.
- Melancholic Tone: Longing has a more wistful, melancholic emotional tone. It is less about striving and more about emotionally dwelling on what is absent, sometimes with a sense of helplessness.
- Temporal Orientation: While yearning looks toward what could be, longing often aches for what was or what is currently unreachable.
Key Difference in Tone
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- Yearning = An active emotional pull toward fulfillment.
- Longing = A reflective emotional ache for something absent, often with a sense of emotional distance or loss.
Even though they are different, we are going to use yearning and longing mostly interchangeably.
Longing for the Sea
One of those universal longings is the ‘sea-longing.’ This is a timeless and primordial yearning within most of us that responds to the sea.
You may not always recognize it, but when you stand near the ocean, you feel its vastness, or hear the rhythmic pull of the waves, something stirs deep inside. This is not a modern sensation. It is an ancient longing, rooted in our origins as human beings. The sea represents a return to something elemental, a place where life began. Its endless horizon calls to a part of you that craves freedom, mystery, and connection to the greater whole. It speaks to the restlessness that simmers beneath your everyday life, the quiet ache to escape boundaries and be immersed in something vast and infinite.
This longing is more than just a desire for beauty or tranquility. It is a pull toward meaning. The ocean embodies the unknown, and yet it feels familiar, as if it holds answers just out of reach. You may not have it, or even if you do, you may not be able to articulate it, but this yearning is a search for wholeness, for clarity beyond the noise of daily life. The sea’s ebb and flow mirrors your own inner tides, hopes rising, fears receding, always searching for balance. This is why, across all cultures and ages, humans feel drawn to the sea. It is a mirror to the soul, reflecting both your smallness and your infinite potential.
In J.R.R. Tolkien’s Lord of the Rings saga, the Elves experience a phenomenon they call the “Sea-longing,” a deep, spiritual yearning that draws them toward the sea and ultimately to the Undying Lands across the western ocean. This feeling emerges as a natural part of their immortal existence, reflecting their connection to the divine origins of Middle-earth and their eventual departure from the mortal world. Tolkien describes it as an ache in their hearts, triggered by the sound of waves or the sight of the sea, compelling them to seek the shores of the Grey Havens. The Elves, being among the firstborn of Ilúvatar (the creator), carry a memory of their creation near the waters of Cuiviénen, and the Sea-longing signifies their longing to return to Valinor, the blessed realm from which many originated.
The Sea-longing intensifies with time, as the Elves witness the fading of their power and the changing of the world under the dominion of Men. Tolkien portrays it as both a blessing and a burden, a call to leave Middle-earth’s sorrows behind. For instance, characters like Legolas feel this pull after the War of the Ring, hearing the gulls’ cry at the shores, which stirs an unrest that only sailing west can resolve. Galadriel and other Elves also exhibit this longing, their immortality clashing with the world’s decay, driving them to abandon Middle-earth. The phenomenon underscores their otherworldly nature, setting them apart from mortal races, and serves as a narrative device to explain their gradual exodus, fulfilling their destiny in Tolkien’s mythology.
Sea-longing in Tolkien’s Lord of the Rings represents a profound, innate psychological pull toward an idealized state of existence, where Elves yearn for the eternal harmony of the Undying Lands, triggered by the sea’s call as a symbol of their fading connection to Middle-earth. This force embodies a hidden drive to reclaim what feels missing, immortality, beauty, and balance, amid the world’s decay, compelling Elves to pursue fulfillment despite the cost of leaving their current reality. Psychologically, it mirrors human experiences of nostalgia or existential longing, where individuals seek to fill perceived voids in their lives, often propelled by subconscious desires for completeness or escape from dissatisfaction. Tolkien frames it as a bittersweet awakening, akin to a spiritual epiphany that reveals life’s transience and urges action toward a higher purpose. This psychological force indeed propels people to pursue what they lack, manifesting as motivation to chase aspirations, relationships, or material gains that promise wholeness.
Scammers exploit this same psychological force online by preying on victims’ inherent longings for connection, security, and prosperity. or something else, mirroring how sea-longing lures Tolkien’s Elves toward the unknown with promises of fulfillment.
- Romance scammers, for instance, build emotional bonds that tap into desires for love and companionship, creating illusions of completeness that victims chase, much like Elves heed the sea’s call despite risks.
- Investment fraudsters amplify greed or financial longing, promising quick riches to fill perceived voids in wealth or status, exploiting visceral cues that override rational caution.
This force aids scammers by making victims susceptible to manipulation, as the drive for what feels missing blinds them to red flags, fueling impulsive actions like sending money or sharing information. Psychological vulnerabilities such as emotional isolation or urgency intensify this longing, allowing scammers to craft narratives that resonate deeply and propel victims toward self-destructive decisions.
How Yearning differs from Craving, Desire, or Nostalgia
Yearning, craving, desire, and nostalgia are all forms of wanting, but they differ in depth, focus, and emotional tone. Yearning is a deep, persistent emotional ache for something that feels missing. It is often tied to emotional or existential needs like love, belonging, or purpose. Yearning carries a sense of incompleteness and pulls you toward a future where that void is filled. It is not fleeting; it lingers quietly, shaping how you see opportunities and relationships.
Craving, on the other hand, is immediate and physical. It is an intense, urgent desire for gratification, often linked to bodily needs or addictions, such as craving food, substances, or even attention. Cravings demand immediate satisfaction and are short-lived.
Desire is broader and more neutral. It can be light or intense, emotional or physical. Desires are conscious wants; you can desire a relationship, a career, or a new car. Unlike yearning, desire does not always carry emotional pain or a sense of lacking.
Nostalgia is a sentimental longing for the past. It focuses on memories, idealizing what once was. While yearning looks forward to a missing fulfillment, nostalgia looks backward with a wistful, often bittersweet emotional tone. Each plays a unique role in how you seek fulfillment or get manipulated.
When Yearning Leads to Scam Victimization
You may not realize it, but the yearning and longing inside are powerful forces that shape how you think, feel, and act. These are not simple desires. They are deep emotional pulls toward something you feel is missing. They are an existential part of you.
Before a scam happens, these inner cravings often lie dormant, unnoticed. You might yearn for love, connection, financial security, or a sense of adventure, romance, or even purpose. You might long for recognition, adventure, or healing from past wounds. These emotional currents run deep beneath your daily life, waiting for a trigger. Scammers are experts at finding that trigger.
The Relationship to Your Core (Schemas)
Yearnings and longings are deeply emotional drives, but they are connected to your core schemas rather than being schemas themselves.
Schemas are cognitive frameworks, mental structures you build over time based on your life experiences, beliefs, and emotional conditioning. They shape how you perceive the world, interpret situations, and respond emotionally. Schemas often develop in childhood and become the “lenses” through which you filter reality.
Yearnings and longings, such as the desire to be loved, to belong, to feel safe, or to achieve success, are emotional impulses or needs that operate within or alongside these schemas. For example:
- If you have an abandonment schema, you may carry a persistent yearning for unconditional love or fear of being left alone.
- If you have a defectiveness schema, you may long for validation and approval, always feeling like you need someone else to make you feel worthy.
- If you have a deprivation schema, you may experience a strong longing for nurturing and emotional connection that you feel you never truly received.
These emotional longings are not “schemas” by definition, but they are powerful emotional forces that activate your schemas, making you vulnerable to distorted thinking or irrational behavior.
In scams, these longings interact with your schemas to create psychological blind spots. A scammer may mirror your longing for connection, triggering your abandonment schema and making you overlook obvious red flags. Or they may exploit your yearning for financial security, playing into an inadequacy schema that tells you, “This is your one chance to prove yourself.”
Yearnings can be momentary or persistent, but when they align with a vulnerable schema, they become dangerously persuasive. Recognizing this interplay is essential to understanding why you might fall into patterns of emotional susceptibility.
Learn more about ‘schemas’ here.
Before the Scam: Yearning Creates Blind Spots
Longing does not start when a scammer contacts you. It exists before they arrive. You may feel it as a quiet emptiness, a dissatisfaction you cannot explain. This makes you vulnerable. You are already searching, even if you do not realize it. When a scammer offers you a story that fills that void, whether it is a promise of love, a business opportunity, or emotional validation, your yearning becomes the gateway. The emotional hunger you carry blinds you to red flags because the story feels like the answer you have been waiting for. You do not fall for the scam because you are gullible. You fall because you are human, and yearning hijacks your judgment.
How Scammers Exploit Yearning and Longing in Emotional Manipulation
Scammers do not need to create your emotional yearnings. They only need to recognize them and reflect them back to you. Your longing for love, companionship, financial security, or emotional healing becomes the perfect tool in their hands. They listen carefully to your words, they pay attention to the small emotional cues you give, and then they craft a narrative that mirrors exactly what you are missing. You feel seen. You feel understood. You believe that someone finally gets you. That is how they begin the manipulation.
When you yearn for connection, a scammer will position themselves as the perfect partner or confidant. They will ask you questions that make you talk about yourself, encouraging you to reveal what you desire most. They will mirror your values, your dreams, and even your insecurities. This is not because they care. It is because they need to build emotional intimacy quickly, so you lower your defenses. Your yearning to be loved makes their deception feel real.
Longing is exploited in a slightly different way. If you are longing for something you have lost, a relationship, financial stability, or personal confidence, the scammer will offer you a way to reclaim it. They may present themselves as a second chance or as someone who can help you recover what you feel has been taken from you. They will build their lie around your nostalgia and your hope, feeding you promises that echo the things you miss most.
Both yearning and longing narrow your emotional focus. They make you hyper-sensitive to anyone who offers relief. Scammers use this to accelerate emotional bonding. They create artificial urgency, making you feel that this opportunity, this person, or this moment is rare and fleeting. You feel compelled to act quickly, not because you are being forced, but because your emotional hunger makes it feel like you cannot afford to wait.
You do not see the manipulation because it feels like a solution. Scammers exploit your internal narrative, turning your deepest emotional needs into traps. They make you believe that trusting them is the path to filling that void. This is how emotional manipulation works. It does not overpower you. It seduces you by offering a mirror that reflects exactly what you are longing to see.
Keep in mind that this is also a form of manipulation used by narcissists as well.
During the Scam: Longing Sustains the Illusion
Once you engage with a scammer, your yearning intensifies. Every message, every call, every promise deepens the emotional connection. You feel seen, valued, and hopeful. Your brain rewards this with dopamine, reinforcing the belief that you are moving toward fulfillment. Even when doubts arise, your longing (contributing to other psychological factors) silences them. You tell yourself to give it more time, to believe a little longer. This is not stupidity. It is the brain’s way of protecting emotional investment. The more you have emotionally poured in, the harder it becomes to step back. Your longing creates a feedback loop where each interaction feels like progress, even as you are being manipulated.
After the Scam: Lingering Yearning and Emotional Residue
When the scam ends, the yearning does not disappear. In fact, it often becomes more painful. The fantasy collapses, but the emotional need remains. You are left with a heightened sense of loss, not just of money or trust, but of the dream that seemed within reach. Your brain struggles to reconcile the betrayal with the emotional intensity you experienced. This can lead to prolonged grief, shame, or obsessive searching for answers. The yearning now morphs into a craving for closure, justice, or a way to undo what happened. This is why post-scam recovery can feel like an endless cycle. The emotional void the scammer exploited is still there, often intensified by the trauma of deception.
Even After the Scam, Your Yearnings Remain
Even after the scam ends, your yearning does not simply disappear. The emotional void that made you vulnerable before can remain just as intense, or even deepen. You might believe that once you have escaped the scammer, you are safe. But yearning has a way of lingering, waiting quietly beneath the surface, ready to pull you into new traps if you are not vigilant. Scammers understand this. They know that once a person has been victimized, the emotional need often becomes more desperate, not less.
You yearn to make sense of what happened. You long for closure, for justice, for someone to validate your experience. You crave connection, reassurance, or even a chance to rewrite the past. These longings are natural, but they create openings. They make you susceptible to messages that seem to offer exactly what you feel is missing. Recovery scammers, fake investigators, and even well-meaning but uninformed supporters can step into that space, offering false promises or manipulative comfort.
The risk is that you continue to search externally for what is still unsettled inside. When that longing is unexamined, you may fall into new traps that mirror the first. You might connect with people who echo the same emotional patterns, offering attention or validation that feels familiar, even if it is hollow. Your brain, still wired to chase the fulfillment of that unmet need, will push you toward quick fixes, making you vulnerable to manipulation again.
The only way to prevent this cycle is to become conscious of your yearning. You must learn to recognize when your mind is leading you into dangerous emotional territory. Pause when you feel an intense pull toward a person, a promise, or an opportunity. Ask yourself whether this is genuine, or if it is your lingering longing trying to fill the same void in a new disguise.
Yearning is not the enemy. Denying it is. When you avoid facing your emotional needs directly, they will continue to drive your actions from the shadows. Acknowledging your yearning, sitting with it, and understanding its root can transform it from a vulnerability into a point of self-awareness. You will not be immune to manipulation, but you will see it coming more clearly.
Healing after a scam is not just about protecting yourself from external threats. It is also about understanding the internal forces that keep you vulnerable. Your yearning does not vanish after betrayal. It waits. Your job is to make sure it no longer waits in the dark.
Recognizing Yearning and Longing in Yourself
Awareness is the first step. You need to learn to identify when your decisions are being driven by unfulfilled emotional needs.
Start by asking yourself these questions:
- Do I feel incomplete or restless in a specific area of my life?
- Am I hoping someone or something will “fix” this feeling for me?
- When I receive attention, praise, or promises, do I feel an immediate emotional high?
Pay attention to emotional spikes. When you feel an intense pull toward an opportunity, a person, or an idea, pause. Is this about the actual situation, or is it feeding a deeper longing you have carried for a long time? Yearning often disguises itself as urgency. It makes you feel like you must act now to capture something precious. Recognizing this emotional urgency as a symptom of longing will give you the space to reflect before reacting.
How to Tame Yearning and Longing
You cannot eliminate yearning easily. It is a natural part of being human. However, you can tame it, so it does not control your choices. The key is to shift from external to internal fulfillment.
Start by creating small, daily moments of emotional self-care that do not depend on outside validation. This could be a quiet walk, journaling your thoughts, or simply sitting in silence and allowing yourself to feel. These practices help you build emotional resilience, teaching your brain that you do not need external rewards to feel at peace.
Next, set boundaries for yourself in interactions. If you meet someone new online or are presented with an opportunity, establish a waiting period before responding emotionally. Give yourself a rule: “I will not make any decisions based on emotional excitement. I will wait 24 hours.” This pause disrupts the feedback loop that longing creates.
Engage in grounding activities that keep you connected to reality. Scammers thrive in fantasy. You weaken their influence when you stay rooted in tangible, real-world routines. Surround yourself with people who can provide honest feedback, even when you do not want to hear it. Let them be your anchor when your own emotions feel overwhelming.
Finally, understand that longing itself is not the enemy. It is a signal that something within you seeks attention and care. The danger arises when you seek to fill that void through shortcuts or external saviors. Real fulfillment comes from acknowledging the longing and nurturing yourself through patience, reflection, and intentional growth. Scammers exploit unchecked yearning. You reclaim power when you choose to address it consciously and with compassion for yourself.
By taming your yearning, you protect yourself from being led by emotional impulses. You become harder to manipulate, not because you eliminate desire, but because you learn to recognize it and respond with clarity rather than urgency.
Interrupt those Yearnings
Your yearnings are not isolated emotions. They interact with the deep mental frameworks that shape how you perceive yourself and the world. When you yearn for love, security, or validation, these desires activate the schemas that have been silently shaping your emotional reactions for years. If you carry an abandonment schema, your yearning for connection will amplify your fear of being left. A scammer’s attention then feels like salvation, making you overlook red flags. If you have a defectiveness schema, your longing for approval will push you to believe that someone praising you is genuinely seeing your worth, even when it is a lie. This is how yearning activates vulnerable schemas and creates blind spots that scammers exploit.
To interrupt this cycle, you must learn to pause when a strong yearning pulls you toward someone or something. Before reacting, ask yourself: What part of me is this feeding? Identify which schema is being activated. Are you reacting from a place of emotional deprivation? Fear of rejection? Once you recognize the underlying schema, you can detach from the emotional urgency and ground yourself in facts. This pause allows you to regain control, shifting from an emotional reaction to a conscious choice. That is how you interrupt manipulation at its root.
Conclusion
Yearning and longing are natural parts of human existence. They are emotional signals that something inside you is seeking fulfillment, connection, or resolution. However, when left unexamined, these deep emotional pulls become vulnerabilities. Scammers understand this better than most. They know how to mirror your longings and present themselves as the answer to what you feel is missing. This is not just a matter of falling for a lie. It is the emotional machinery of yearning turning against you, blinding you to deception because the promise feels so real.
Even after the scam ends, the yearning does not go away. It lingers, making you susceptible to new traps, false hopes, and manipulative people who sense the emotional gaps you carry. You may believe you are safer after learning a hard lesson, but if you do not confront the underlying emotional needs, you remain vulnerable. The need for connection, closure, or validation can lead you into cycles of victimization if you continue searching for external solutions to internal longings.
The path to safety and recovery is not about suppressing these emotions. It is about becoming conscious of them. You must learn to recognize when a decision is being driven by an emotional hunger rather than clear judgment. By acknowledging your yearnings and longings, sitting with them, and understanding their roots, you begin to transform them from hidden traps into points of self-awareness.
Healing after a scam is not just about rebuilding trust in others. It is about reclaiming trust in yourself. Your yearning does not have to be a vulnerability. It can become a compass that, when understood, guides you toward genuine growth and meaningful relationships. When you learn to respond to your longings with patience and clarity, scammers lose their power over you. The emotional trap closes, not by eliminating desire, but by learning to lead it, not follow it.
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♦ Enroll in SCARS Scam Survivor’s School now at www.SCARSeducation.org
♦ To report criminals, visit https://reporting.AgainstScams.org – we will NEVER give your data to money recovery companies like some do!
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♦ Learn about the Psychology of Scams at www.ScamPsychology.org
♦ Dig deeper into the reality of scams, fraud, and cybercrime at www.ScamsNOW.com and www.RomanceScamsNOW.com
♦ Scam Survivor’s Stories: www.ScamSurvivorStories.org
♦ For Scam Victim Advocates visit www.ScamVictimsAdvocates.org
♦ See more scammer photos on www.ScammerPhotos.com
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Psychology Disclaimer:
All articles about psychology and the human brain on this website are for information & education only
The information provided in this and other SCARS articles are intended for educational and self-help purposes only and should not be construed as a substitute for professional therapy or counseling.
Note about Mindfulness: Mindfulness practices have the potential to create psychological distress for some individuals. Please consult a mental health professional or experienced meditation instructor for guidance should you encounter difficulties.
While any self-help techniques outlined herein may be beneficial for scam victims seeking to recover from their experience and move towards recovery, it is important to consult with a qualified mental health professional before initiating any course of action. Each individual’s experience and needs are unique, and what works for one person may not be suitable for another.
Additionally, any approach may not be appropriate for individuals with certain pre-existing mental health conditions or trauma histories. It is advisable to seek guidance from a licensed therapist or counselor who can provide personalized support, guidance, and treatment tailored to your specific needs.
If you are experiencing significant distress or emotional difficulties related to a scam or other traumatic event, please consult your doctor or mental health provider for appropriate care and support.
Also read our SCARS Institute Statement about Professional Care for Scam Victims – click here
If you are in crisis, feeling desperate, or in despair, please call 988 or your local crisis hotline.
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A Question of Trust
At the SCARS Institute, we invite you to do your own research on the topics we speak about and publish. Our team investigates the subject being discussed, especially when it comes to understanding the scam victims-survivors’ experience. You can do Google searches, but in many cases, you will have to wade through scientific papers and studies. However, remember that biases and perspectives matter and influence the outcome. Regardless, we encourage you to explore these topics as thoroughly as you can for your own awareness.
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