Scam Victims And The Reactivity Loop
By Tim McGuinness, Ph.D. – Anthropologist, Scientist, Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.
Reactivity Loop – How Your Mind Helps To Destroy Itself
A psychological ‘reactivity loop’ in traumatized scam victims is a pattern of negative thoughts, feelings, and behaviors that can develop after being scammed. It is a vicious internal cycle that can be difficult to let go of and break.
The loop begins with a triggering event, such as something that reminds the victim of the scam. This can lead to negative thoughts, such as “I’m stupid for falling for that,” or “I’ll never be able to trust anyone again.” These thoughts can then lead to negative emotions, such as shame, guilt, or anger. The negative emotions can then lead to behavioral changes, such as isolation, withdrawal, or financial difficulty.
These changes in thoughts, emotions, and behaviors can then reinforce the triggering event, making it more likely that the reactivity loop will start again. For example, if a victim of a romance scam avoids talking to new people, this can make them feel more isolated and alone. This can then make them more likely to have negative thoughts about themselves and the world, which can lead to further isolation.
The psychological reactivity loop can be very difficult to break. Remember, it is important to understand that it is not the victim’s fault. The loop is a result of the scam, and it is something that can be treated with professional counseling or therapy help.
There are a number of things that can be done to break the psychological reactivity loop. These include:
- Exposure therapy: This involves gradually exposing the victim to the things that trigger their anxiety. This can help them to learn to manage their anxiety and cope with the trauma. This is provided by a psychologist.
- Cognitive-behavioral therapy: This type of therapy helps the victim to identify and challenge their negative thoughts and beliefs. This can help them to change the way they think about the scam and themselves. This is provided by a psychologist.
- Group therapy: This can be helpful for victims to connect with others who have experienced similar trauma. This can help them to feel less alone and to learn coping strategies from others. This is provided by a psychologist.
- Support & Recovery Groups: This can have the same effect as Group Therapy without the psychological professional moderating.
- Medication: In some cases, medication may be needed to help manage anxiety and depression. This is provided by a psychiatrist.
If you are a traumatized scam victim, it is important to seek professional help. A therapist can help you to understand the psychological reactivity loop and develop strategies to break it.
Coping Tips For Controlling A Reactivity Loop
Here are some additional tips for coping with the psychological effects of being scammed – including reactivity loops:
- Talk to someone you trust about what happened. This could be a friend, family member, therapist, or support group.
- Allow yourself to feel your emotions. Don’t try to bottle them up. Let them flow through you but remain aware of what you are feeling and try to understand why you are feeling it.
- Be patient with yourself. It takes time to heal from a scam. Much more time than you can imagine,
- Don’t blame yourself. The scammer is the one who did wrong.
- Take care of yourself physically and emotionally. Eat healthy foods, get enough sleep and exercise.
Learn from the experience. What can you do to avoid being scammed in the future? Start learning at RomanceScamsNOW.com
Remember, you are not alone. There are many people who have been scammed, and there is help available here at SCARS and with your trauma counselor or therapist.
SCARS Resources:
- For New Victims of Relationship Scams newvictim.AgainstScams.org
- Subscribe to SCARS Newsletter newsletter.againstscams.org
- Sign up for SCARS professional support & recovery groups, visit support.AgainstScams.org
- Find competent trauma counselors or therapists, visit counseling.AgainstScams.org
- Become a SCARS Member and get free counseling benefits, visit membership.AgainstScams.org
- Report each and every crime, learn how to at reporting.AgainstScams.org
- Learn more about Scams & Scammers at RomanceScamsNOW.com and ScamsNOW.com
- Global Cyber Alliance ACT Cybersecurity Tool Website: Actionable Cybersecurity Tools (ACT) (globalcyberalliance.org)
- Self-Help Books for Scam Victims are at shop.AgainstScams.org
- Donate to SCARS and help us help others at donate.AgainstScams.org
- Worldwide Crisis Hotlines: International Suicide Hotlines – OpenCounseling : OpenCounseling
- Campaign To End Scam Victim Blaming – 2024 (scamsnow.com)
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Triggers may never disappear but knowing how to cope with them seems to be the key to avoid reactivity loops.
I never heard of the term reactivity loop. I am so alarmed on how can negative thoughts can damage a victim