Courting the Wild Twin – a Novel Perspective on the Duality of Scam Victim Recovery

A Mythic & Philosophical Journey Through Scam Victim Recovery

Primary Category: Recovery Philosophy

Intended Audience: Scam Victims-Survivors / Family & Friends

Author:
•  Tim McGuinness, Ph.D., DFin, MCPO, MAnth – Anthropologist, Scientist, Polymath, Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.

About This Article

Scam recovery is not just about regaining financial stability but about reclaiming one’s sense of self and intuition—the wild twin that was silenced by deception. Drawing from Martin Shaw’s Courting the Wild Twin, this journey mirrors ancient myths of exile and return, where victims must navigate grief, self-doubt, and lost trust before emerging wiser and stronger.

The process involves facing loss without self-blame, rebuilding intuition, learning the mechanics of deception, and ultimately returning with hard-earned wisdom. Rather than remaining trapped in shame, scam victims can transform their experience into empowerment, becoming guides for others and ensuring they never fall prey again. Recovery is not about returning to who they were before—it is about becoming someone even stronger, more discerning, and deeply connected to their own inner knowing.

Courting the Wild Twin: A Mythic & Philosophical Journey Through Scam Victim Recovery

Introduction: The Theft of Self

When someone falls victim to a scam, the loss is not just financial. The deeper wounds are often psychological and emotional—shattering trust, eroding self-confidence, and severing a person from the reality they once believed in. It is an exile, a forced departure from a former self, and for many, a long, uncertain road back to wholeness.

Martin Shaw’s ‘Courting the Wild Twin’ offers a unique lens through which scam victims can view their journey of loss and recovery. Shaw speaks of the wild twin, the forgotten, untamed part of ourselves that has been dismissed, silenced, or lost. This twin represents instinct, intuition, and deep knowing—the very qualities that could have warned us, had we only been able to hear them. But deception preys upon our distractions, our hopes, and our vulnerabilities, and by the time the truth emerges, it often feels too late.

Yet Shaw’s philosophy also offers a way forward. It suggests that healing is not about returning to who we were before the scam but about undergoing an initiation—one that reconnects us to a deeper, wiser, and more resilient version of ourselves. Scam recovery, in this light, is not just a process of grieving and rebuilding; it is an opportunity to rewild—to rediscover the instincts and inner wisdom that were always there, waiting to be reclaimed.

The Betrayal: Losing the Wild Twin

When someone realizes they have been deceived, the initial response is often disbelief. How could this happen? How did I not see it? The mind races backward, searching for clues that were missed, and warnings that went unheeded. It is a moment of profound rupture, where everything that felt stable is suddenly shaken.

In this moment, it feels as if something essential has been stolen—not just money, but trust in one’s own judgment. This is the loss of the wild twin, the intuitive self that might have sensed something was wrong. But trauma clouds perception, making it difficult to recognize this loss as anything more than failure. Victims often turn inward, blaming themselves for their supposed naivety or poor decision-making, rather than recognizing the complexity of the manipulation they endured.

Yet, Shaw’s philosophy tells us that the wild twin was never truly gone—it was only silenced, buried beneath the noise of persuasive lies, urgent pleas, and manufactured trust. The real journey of recovery begins when scam victims stop seeing themselves as powerless and start seeking out the part of themselves that can still navigate, still discern, and still rise.

The Wilderness of Recovery

The road back from deception is not a simple return to normalcy; it is a journey through the wilderness. Like the heroes in ancient myths who are exiled and must find their way home, scam victims must go through phases of grief, confusion, and deep questioning before they can reclaim themselves.

1. Facing the Loss Without Self-Blame

In many myths, a character is sent into the wilderness after a betrayal or great loss. They wander, uncertain and alone, struggling to make sense of what has happened. This mirrors the psychological state of a scam victim. There is often shame, anger, and regret. Society, too, may reinforce these feelings, asking, “How could you fall for that?”—as if deception is a failing rather than an expertly crafted crime.

But to heal, one must first recognize that being deceived is not a reflection of personal weakness. Scammers manipulate emotions, social expectations, and even cognitive blind spots. Recognizing this does not erase the pain, but it begins to shift the narrative—from one of failure to one of survival.

2. Rebuilding Intuition and Inner Trust

The wild twin represents the part of ourselves that knows—the part that once detected small inconsistencies but was overridden by hope, urgency, or manipulation. To recover, scam victims must reestablish their connection to that inner voice.

One way to do this is through reflection: What did I sense, even if I ignored it? Were there moments of hesitation? Instead of dwelling on why these instincts were ignored, the focus should be on recognizing that they were there at all. That is the first sign that the wild twin still exists.

From here, trust can be rebuilt through small steps: learning to pause before making decisions, setting stronger boundaries, and testing new relationships with caution and awareness. Scam recovery is not just about protecting oneself from future deception, but about learning to trust one’s own perception again.

3. Learning the Language of Deception

Just as the hero in a myth must learn new skills to survive their journey, scam victims benefit from educating themselves about fraud, psychological manipulation, and the broader systems that enable deception.

Understanding how scams operate does more than prevent future harm—it empowers victims by giving them a map of the landscape. It is no longer just a personal story of betrayal; it becomes part of a larger battle against exploitation. Recognizing the techniques scammers use—grooming, love-bombing, urgency tactics, and social engineering—shifts the narrative. The victim is no longer a passive participant in their own misfortune but an informed individual capable of identifying and resisting deception in the future.

Returning with Wisdom

In myths, the hero does not return home unchanged. They bring back something—knowledge, strength, a new understanding of the world. Scam victims, too, do not emerge from their experience as the same people they were before. But that is not necessarily a loss.

The journey through deception and recovery is painful, but it can be transformative. Those who have faced scams and survived are not just people who were taken advantage of—they are people who now see the world with sharper eyes. They understand manipulation. They recognize red flags. They have the ability to warn others.

This wisdom, when shared, has the power to protect. Scam victims who speak out, who educate their communities, who support others going through similar experiences—these are the ones who truly reclaim their wild twin. Instead of living in fear, they become guides.

Compassion, Not Indulgence

A key part of this journey is compassion—not just for others, but for oneself. Victims of scams often feel a deep sense of shame, believing they should have known better. But to court the wild twin is to let go of shame and replace it with understanding.

Compassion, however, does not mean indulgence. It does not mean ignoring the warning signs in the future or allowing fear to dictate one’s decisions. It means acknowledging what happened, integrating the lessons learned, and moving forward with strength rather than bitterness.

Conclusion: A New Story to Tell

The final act of a myth is not just the return—it is the telling of the story. Scam victims who reclaim their narrative, who refuse to be silenced by shame, are the ones who truly complete the journey. They are no longer trapped in their loss; they have transformed it into something meaningful.

So to those who have suffered deception: The wild twin is still within you. It was never lost—only waiting for you to remember. You are not broken. You are not foolish. You are in the process of reclaiming yourself. And when you do, you will walk with wisdom that no scammer can ever take from you again.

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