Hell Yes!
Cursing Like a Pirate Can Help Scam Victims Recovery from the Trauma of Scams
Did You Know that Cursing Like a Pirate Really Helps!? It’s an Unexpected Tool for Scam Victims’ Emotional Recovery
Primary Category: Scam Victims Recovery Psychology
Authors:
• Vianey Gonzalez B.Sc(Psych) – Licensed Psychologist Specialty in Crime Victim Trauma Therapy, Neuropsychologist, Certified Deception Professional, Psychology Advisory Panel & Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.
• Tim McGuinness, Ph.D. – Anthropologist, Scientist, Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.
About This Article
Cursing like a pirate might seem like an unconventional suggestion, but for scam victims grappling with the emotional aftermath of fraud, it can offer surprising therapeutic benefits. Victims often face overwhelming feelings of anger, shame, and guilt, compounded by emotional dysregulation caused by trauma. Embracing the playful rebellion of swearing provides a safe outlet for pent-up emotions. It helps release emotional pressure, boost mental resilience, regulate overwhelming feelings, and even stabilize mood through humor.
By turning raw frustration into bold, exaggerated expressions, victims can reclaim a sense of control and defiance. Adding a touch of creativity and humor to the process—like imagining yourself as a fearless pirate—makes the journey to recovery both empowering and transformative. So, whether you’re shouting “Arrr!” or stringing together your own colorful phrases, this unique approach can serve as a valuable tool in navigating emotional healing and rediscovering strength.
Just Remember to Curse Like a Pirate Responsibly!
Did You Know that Cursing Like a Pirate Really Helps!? It’s an Unexpected Tool for Scam Victims’ Emotional Recovery
Yes, this is a serious article recommending that scam victims curse like Pirates!
Well, maybe not sound like pirates, though that can be fun too, but use more of those good old four-letter words with more frequency and freedom.
Let’s face the fact, that scam victims face a whirlwind of emotions—anger, shame, guilt, and frustration—that can feel overwhelming and difficult to navigate, worse than any plain old tropical hurricane.
Emotional dysregulation, a common side effect of trauma, makes it even harder to process these feelings constructively. But what if embracing a bit of playful rebellion—like cursing like a pirate—could actually help?
While swearing might seem unconventional, research actually shows (by real honest-to-goodness scientists, no less) that it can play a surprising and helpful role in improving emotional regulation, mental resilience, and mood stabilization. For scam victims, learning to unleash their inner pirate (Arrrg!) could become an empowering and therapeutic part of the recovery journey.
How Cursing Can Help Scam Victims
Cursing, particularly in the playful and exaggerated manner of a pirate, provides a safe and effective outlet for pent-up emotions. Here’s how it works:
Releasing Emotional Pressure
Trauma often leaves scam victims feeling bottled up with intense emotions. Swearing serves as a pressure valve, offering immediate relief by allowing those emotions to be verbalized in a raw, unfiltered way. For example:
-
-
- Saying, “Arrr, that scallywag bamboozled me!” transforms anger into a humorous yet meaningful expression, reducing its intensity. Well, not saying that exactly, but use the four-letter word of your choice.
- Expressing frustration in colorful ‘pirate’ language can create a sense of release and even spark laughter, further diffusing tension, especially if you do not regularly curse.
-
Boosting Mental Resilience
Cursing in response to adversity has been shown to increase mental resilience (yes, really,) making individuals feel stronger and more capable of handling challenges. For scam victims:
-
-
- Reframing anger or despair through ‘pirate-inspired’ or if you prefer ‘Irish-style’ cursing can create a sense of empowerment. Shouting, “Shiver me timbers, I’ll bounce back stronger!” emphasizes resilience rather than defeat (substitute your own curse words of course.)
- Using bold, rebellious language reminds victims of their inner strength and encourages them to reclaim control over their lives.
-
Aiding Emotional Regulation
Trauma often disrupts emotional balance, leading to feelings of helplessness. Swearing can aid in emotional regulation by providing a controlled outlet for negative feelings:
-
-
- Pirate or Irish-style cursing allows victims to express their emotions without feeling judged or overwhelmed. The humor and theatrics of it help temper intense emotions, offering both release and relief.
- By venting through exaggerated language, victims may prevent emotions from escalating into destructive behaviors, such as isolating themselves or lashing out at loved ones.
-
Stabilizing Mood
Laughter is a powerful antidote to stress, and pirate-themed cursing naturally adds humor to a difficult situation. For scam victims, this can:
-
-
- Lighten the emotional load, making it easier to reflect on their experiences with a more balanced perspective.
- Improve overall mood by introducing playfulness into their recovery process. Saying something like, “Those bilge rats didn’t know who they were messing with!” adds levity and a sense of defiance (or choose more colorful words your mother told you never to say.)
-
According to Psychology Today
The Benefits from Cursing Include
Pain relief. Swearing activates the ‘fight or flight’ response, leading to a surge of adrenaline and corresponding analgesic effect. Richard Stephens of Keele University found that people who swear are able to hold their hands in ice-water for twice as long. But this only held for people who swear a few times a day, not ‘chain-swearers’. Presumably, chain-swearers are desensitized to their swearing and no longer aroused by it. It remains unclear whether some swear words are more effective than others, though that does seem very likely, and we each have our own personal hierarchy of swear words—sometimes even shifting back into our mother tongue for the highest levels! The philosopher Emil Cioran despised his Romanian heritage. But despite moving to Paris, changing his name, and writing in French, he still preferred to swear in Romanian.
Power and control. Swearing can give us a greater sense of power and control over a bad situation. By swearing, we show, if only to ourselves, that we are not passive victims but empowered to react and fight back. This can boost our confidence and self-esteem and motivate and mobilize us to take corrective action. As Mark Twain put it, ‘When angry, count to four; when very angry, swear.’
Non-violent retribution. Swearing enables us to get back at bad people or situations without having to resort to violence. Instead of punching someone in the face or worse, we channel and disarm our anger by swearing instead. True, swearing can also be hurtful, but better a few sharp words than a cold dagger. Swearing can also serve as a warning signal or marker of rank and authority, a bit like an animal’s growl says: ‘Watch out. Stop it. Or you’re damn well going to pay the price.’
Humor. When among friends, swearing can be a source of mirth. In such circumstances, it represents a release from normal social constraints or, like play-fighting, makes light of a potentially threatening person or situation, and, to some extent, also of ourselves. In that much, swearing, and humor in general, can help to restore perspective on a certain person or situation.
Peer and social bonding. Swearing can show that we belong in a certain group, that we are able to be ourselves and wholly comfortable and secure with the members of that group. If done correctly, it can also signal that we are open, honest, self-deprecating, easygoing, and fun-loving. Another form of verbalization that is closely connected with our emotions is singing, and, in clinical practice, I’ve noticed that when people lose the faculty of speech through brain damage (most commonly dementia or stroke), the ability to sing is often preserved—along with the ability to swear.
Self-expression. Swearing can be a way of signaling that we really mean something, or that it is really important to us. That’s why swearing is so much a part of any sport. It also broadens our register and makes us more lively and interesting, being used, for example, to add emphasis or ‘punch’ to our speech. Shakespeare often used foul language, albeit more inventively than most: ‘Away, you starveling, you elf-skin, you dried neat’s-tongue, bull’s-pizzle, you stock-fish!’ At the same time, swearing can also be a way of showing that something really means something to us. The philosopher Paul Feyerabend made this point very profoundly: ‘…when sophistication loses content then the only way of keeping in touch with reality is to be crude and superficial.’
Improved psychological and physical health. The health benefits of swearing include increased circulation, elevated endorphins, and an overall sense of calm, control, and well-being. The key is to do it sparingly and not to get angry at the same time, which would be very bad for you—as well as terribly vulgar.
Emotional Release and Catharsis
For trauma survivors, cursing can act as a powerful means of emotional release. The act of swearing allows individuals to express pent-up anger, frustration, and pain without the constraints typically imposed by societal norms. This emotional catharsis can help alleviate feelings of distress and provide a sense of relief. Research indicates that the use of expletives helps in processing emotions, potentially leading to reduced anxiety and an improved mood. This process of releasing negative emotions through cursing can be particularly beneficial for those who may have felt silenced or powerless in their traumatic situations.
Practical Tips for Cursing Like a Pirate
To make the most of this unconventional recovery tool, here’s how scam victims can embrace their inner pirate:
Create a Safe Space: Swear freely in private or with trusted friends who understand and support your need for release. Use a journal to write out pirate-style rants about your scam experience.
Add Humor and Creativity: Embrace the pirate theme with phrases like, “That landlubber scammed me, but I’ll reclaim me treasure!” Humor makes the release more enjoyable.
Channel Frustration into Action: After cursing, use the energy to take a positive recovery step, like joining a support group or working on financial planning.
Know Your Audience: Save pirate talk for safe environments to avoid unintended offense. This tool is for your recovery, not for public venting.
Pair It with Reflection: After a swearing session, reflect on how it made you feel. Did it ease your anger? Help you laugh? Recognizing the benefits reinforces its value.
Empowerment Through Constructive Rebellion
Cursing like a pirate may seem unconventional, rude, or even crude, but for scam victims trying to find their path through the emotional aftermath of trauma, it can be a surprisingly effective tool.
It offers a way to release frustration, build resilience, stabilize mood, and find humor in the recovery journey. It also has an emotional shock value that can silence that inner voice too. By embracing this playful, rebellious approach, victims can regain a sense of control and take one step closer to emotional healing.
So grab your imaginary eyepatch, let out a hearty “Arrr!”, and break free from the emotional chains of your scam experience. The journey to recovery can be as fierce, bold, and colorful as you make it. After all, even pirates knew how to weather the storm and reclaim their treasure!
Caveats and Considerations
While the potential benefits of cursing for trauma survivors are numerous, it is important to exercise caution regarding its use. Not all individuals may respond positively to swearing, as personal, cultural, and contextual factors significantly influence how cursing is perceived and received. Over-reliance on cursing may also lead to misunderstandings in some social situations, potentially creating conflicts rather than providing relief. Therefore, it is advisable for individuals to navigate the use of cursing thoughtfully, ensuring that it complements other healing practices rather than replacing them.
Referrences
- Hell Yes: The 7 Best Reasons for Swearing https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/hide-and-seek/201205/hell-yes-the-7-best-reasons-for-swearing?utm_source=chatgpt.com
- The Surprising Health Benefits of Swearing https://psychcentral.com/blog/the-surprising-health-benefits-of-swearing?utm_source=chatgpt.com
- Husain, W., Wasif, S., & Fatima, I. (2023). Profanity as a Self-Defense Mechanism and an Outlet for Emotional Catharsis in Stress, Anxiety, and Depression. Depression Research and Treatment. https://doi.org/10.1155/2023/8821517
- Mark Travers. (2024). A Psychologist Reveals The Unexpected Benefits Of Swearing. Forbes. https://www.forbes.com/sites/traversmark/2024/06/24/a-psychologist-reveals-the-unexpected-benefits-of-swearing/
- Sohanpal, R., Pinnock, H., Steed, L., Marshall, K. H., Chan, C., Kelly, M., Priebe, S., Roberts, C., Singh, S. J., Smuk, M., Saqi-Waseem, S., Healey, A., Underwood, M., White, P., Warburton, C., Taylor, S. J. C., & Investigators, on behalf of the P. (2020). Tailored, psychological intervention for anxiety or depression in people with chronic obstructive pulmonary disease (COPD), TANDEM (Tailored intervention for ANxiety and DEpression Management in COPD): protocol for a randomised controlled trial. Trials. https://www.semanticscholar.org/paper/b6c3905a52b8b45a9dc08911a2c8cf2a57a1fa04
Please Leave Us Your Comment
Also, tell us of any topics we might have missed.
Thank you for your comment. You may receive an email to follow up. We never share your data with marketers.
Recent Reader Comments
on Thanksgiving and its Meaning for Scam Victims – 2024: “Thanksgiving was the first holiday spent at the beginning of my experience. Thought I was teaching “My Brit” all about…” Nov 25, 10:39
on A Scam Victim in Extreme Distress – Stopping the Pain – 2024: “Knowing it and truly believing it are two different things, and there is where it does get better. That threshold…” Nov 19, 02:27
on A Scam Victim in Extreme Distress – Stopping the Pain – 2024: “Yes I know the scam was not my fault and that I was targeted by them. It just doesn’t make…” Nov 17, 12:16
on President Trump Launches Campaign for Free Speech and to Go After Tech Industry Platforms – 2024: “This is very good! This is the beginning of great things, in my opinion.” Nov 10, 09:18
on The Bouba-Kiki Effect and the Psychology of Scam Victims – 2024: “This excellent article highlights the power of awareness, mindfulness and intuition as tools of discernment in our daily life. Bringing…” Nov 7, 01:06
on The Bouba-Kiki Effect and the Psychology of Scam Victims – 2024: “Great, very informative article. The information on the Effect not only explains why we were so easy, quick to accept…” Nov 6, 12:09
Did you find this article useful?
If you did, please help the SCARS Institute to continue helping Scam Victims to become Survivors.
Your gift helps us continue our work and help more scam victims to find the path to recovery!
You can give at donate.AgainstScams.org
Important Information for New Scam Victims
- Please visit www.ScamVictimsSupport.org – a SCARS Website for New Scam Victims & Sextortion Victims
- SCARS Institute now offers a free recovery program at www.SCARSeducation.org
- Please visit www.ScamPsychology.org – to more fully understand the psychological concepts involved in scams and scam victim recovery
If you are looking for local trauma counselors please visit counseling.AgainstScams.org or join SCARS for our counseling/therapy benefit: membership.AgainstScams.org
If you need to speak with someone now, you can dial 988 or find phone numbers for crisis hotlines all around the world here: www.opencounseling.com/suicide-hotlines
A Question of Trust
At the SCARS Institute, we invite you to do your own research on the topics we speak about and publish, Our team investigates the subject being discussed, especially when it comes to understanding the scam victims-survivors experience. You can do Google searches but in many cases, you will have to wade through scientific papers and studies. However, remember that biases and perspectives matter and influence the outcome. Regardless, we encourage you to explore these topics as thoroughly as you can for your own awareness.
Statement About Victim Blaming
Some of our articles discuss various aspects of victims. This is both about better understanding victims (the science of victimology) and their behaviors and psychology. This helps us to educate victims/survivors about why these crimes happened and to not blame themselves, better develop recovery programs, and to help victims avoid scams in the future. At times this may sound like blaming the victim, but it does not blame scam victims, we are simply explaining the hows and whys of the experience victims have.
These articles, about the Psychology of Scams or Victim Psychology – meaning that all humans have psychological or cognitive characteristics in common that can either be exploited or work against us – help us all to understand the unique challenges victims face before, during, and after scams, fraud, or cybercrimes. These sometimes talk about some of the vulnerabilities the scammers exploit. Victims rarely have control of them or are even aware of them, until something like a scam happens and then they can learn how their mind works and how to overcome these mechanisms.
Articles like these help victims and others understand these processes and how to help prevent them from being exploited again or to help them recover more easily by understanding their post-scam behaviors. Learn more about the Psychology of Scams at www.ScamPsychology.org
SCARS Resources:
- Getting Started: ScamVictimsSupport.org
- FREE enrollment in the SCARS Institute training programs for scam victims SCARSeducation.org
- For New Victims of Relationship Scams newvictim.AgainstScams.org
- Subscribe to SCARS Newsletter newsletter.againstscams.org
- Sign up for SCARS professional support & recovery groups, visit support.AgainstScams.org
- Find competent trauma counselors or therapists, visit counseling.AgainstScams.org
- Become a SCARS Member and get free counseling benefits, visit membership.AgainstScams.org
- Report each and every crime, learn how to at reporting.AgainstScams.org
- Learn more about Scams & Scammers at RomanceScamsNOW.com and ScamsNOW.com
- Learn more about the Psychology of Scams and Scam Victims: ScamPsychology.org
- Self-Help Books for Scam Victims are at shop.AgainstScams.org
- Worldwide Crisis Hotlines: International Suicide Hotlines – OpenCounseling : OpenCounseling
- Campaign To End Scam Victim Blaming – 2024 (scamsnow.com)
Psychology Disclaimer:
All articles about psychology and the human brain on this website are for information & education only
The information provided in this and other SCARS articles are intended for educational and self-help purposes only and should not be construed as a substitute for professional therapy or counseling.
Note about Mindfulness: Mindfulness practices have the potential to create psychological distress for some individuals. Please consult a mental health professional or experienced meditation instructor for guidance should you encounter difficulties.
While any self-help techniques outlined herein may be beneficial for scam victims seeking to recover from their experience and move towards recovery, it is important to consult with a qualified mental health professional before initiating any course of action. Each individual’s experience and needs are unique, and what works for one person may not be suitable for another.
Additionally, any approach may not be appropriate for individuals with certain pre-existing mental health conditions or trauma histories. It is advisable to seek guidance from a licensed therapist or counselor who can provide personalized support, guidance, and treatment tailored to your specific needs.
If you are experiencing significant distress or emotional difficulties related to a scam or other traumatic event, please consult your doctor or mental health provider for appropriate care and support.
Also read our SCARS Institute Statement about Professional Care for Scam Victims – click here
If you are in crisis, feeling desperate, or in despair please call 988 or your local crisis hotline.
-/ 30 /-
What do you think about this?
Please share your thoughts in a comment below!
Leave a Reply