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Scam Victim Psychological Alienation After A Scam
Scam Victim Recovery Psychology
Authors:
• Vianey Gonzalez B.Sc(Psych) – Licensed Psychologist Specialty in Crime Victim Trauma Therapy, Neuropsychologist, Certified Deception Professional, Psychology Advisory Panel & Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.
• Tim McGuinness, Ph.D. – Anthropologist, Scientist, Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.
Article Abstract
Scam victims grappling with the aftermath of romance scams often experience profound and lasting psychological alienation, extending beyond financial loss. Psychological alienation involves feeling disconnected from oneself, others, and the world, leading to self-estrangement, social isolation, powerlessness, and normlessness.
Scammers employ sophisticated grooming, manipulation, and control tactics, causing victims to question their vulnerability and decision-making abilities, and rupturing trust in personal relationships. Coping with psychological alienation requires seeking professional support, engaging in therapy, and joining support groups.
Victims can rebuild trust and reconnect by acknowledging their experience does not define them, practicing self-compassion, and gradually extending trust to supportive relationships. Understanding the psychology behind scams empowers victims to reclaim control, fostering resilience against future threats. The journey towards recovery involves acknowledging, understanding, and addressing the emotional aftermath of the scam.
Scam Victim Psychological Alienation in the Aftermath of Romance Scams Can Be Devastating And Long Term Unless Addressed
The aftermath of romance scams (relationship scams or any scam that includes deep friendship or a strong trust relationship) extends beyond financial loss, delving into the intricate realms of psychological alienation. Scam victims find themselves ensnared in a web of emotional manipulation, leaving lasting imprints on their mental well-being. This can result in profound psychological impacts and alienation experienced by scam victims after the scam concludes in just one of them.
Psychological Alienation: Feeling Lost in Your Own World
Psychological alienation is a complex state of feeling disconnected from oneself, others, and the world around you. It’s not just feeling lonely or isolated, but a deeper sense of estrangement and lack of belonging. Imagine living in a world that feels foreign and meaningless, even in the midst of others.
There are several dimensions to psychological alienation:
- Self-estrangement: Feeling disconnected from your own thoughts, emotions, and desires. You might feel like you’re acting like a character in someone else’s play, or that your true self is hidden away.
- Social isolation: A perceived or actual lack of meaningful connections with others. You might feel misunderstood, judged, or simply unable to relate to those around you.
- Powerlessness: Feeling like you have little control over your life or the world around you. You might feel trapped by circumstances, manipulated by others, or simply unable to make a difference.
- Normlessness: Feeling like you don’t fit in with the prevailing norms and values of society. You might feel like an outsider, a rebel, or simply someone who doesn’t understand the rules of the game.
These different dimensions can combine and overlap, combining with other psychological impacts after the scam creating a deep sense of disorientation and distress.
The Basics – Causes of Psychological Alienation
Several factors can contribute to psychological alienation, including:
- Traumatic experiences: Abuse, neglect, or other traumatic experiences can damage our sense of self and others.
- Social and cultural factors: Living in a society with high levels of inequality, social isolation, or oppression can lead to feelings of alienation.
- Existential concerns: Grappling with the meaning of life, our place in the universe, and our own mortality can trigger feelings of alienation.
- Mental health conditions: Some mental health conditions, such as depression and anxiety, can also contribute to feelings of alienation.
Shadows of Manipulation
Romance scams are sophisticated operations that employ psychological manipulation to exploit victims emotionally and financially. As victims gradually realize the deceit, they grapple with feelings of betrayal, humiliation, and a pervasive sense of isolation. The scammer’s deceitful tactics often lead to a breakdown of trust in personal relationships.
Psychological alienation manifests as victims struggle to reconnect with their emotions and trust their judgment. The isolation is not only external but becomes an internal battle as victims question their own vulnerability and decision-making abilities. Friends and family may offer support, but the lingering effects of the scam create barriers, making it challenging for victims to share their experiences authentically.
Victims often experience a profound shift in their self-perception. The idealized version of the relationship, meticulously crafted by the scammer, shatters, leaving victims grappling with feelings of inadequacy and self-blame. The psychological impact goes beyond the financial loss, penetrating the core of one’s identity.
Coping with Psychological Alienation
Recovery from psychological alienation is a multifaceted journey. Victims need to confront the emotional aftermath, seeking professional support and counseling to navigate the complex terrain of trauma. Support groups and therapy become crucial lifelines, providing a safe space for victims to express their vulnerabilities without fear of judgment.
If you’re struggling with psychological alienation, there are steps you can take to feel more connected to yourself and the world around you:
- Seek support: Talk to a therapist or counselor who can help you understand and address the underlying causes of your alienation.
- Connect with others: Build meaningful relationships with supportive friends, family members, or community groups.
- Find purpose and meaning: Engage in activities that give your life a sense of purpose and direction.
- Practice self-compassion: Be kind to yourself and recognize that you’re not alone in experiencing these feelings.
Remember, psychological alienation is treatable. With the right support and effort, you can reconnect with yourself and rebuild your sense of belonging in the world.
Empowerment through Understanding
Understanding the psychology behind the scam empowers victims to reclaim control over their narrative. Recognizing the manipulative tactics employed helps victims break free from the shadows of alienation. Education about common scam strategies serves as a preventive measure, fostering resilience against potential future threats.
Rebuilding trust, one step at a time is how it begins. Rebuilding trust, both in oneself and in others, is a pivotal aspect of overcoming psychological alienation. Victims must acknowledge that their experience does not define them and embark on a journey of self-compassion and forgiveness. Reconnecting with supportive relationships and gradually extending trust helps in restoring a sense of normalcy.
Summary
Psychological alienation in the aftermath of romance scams is a silent struggle that demands acknowledgment and understanding. By unraveling the shadows cast by manipulation, victims can embark on a journey of recovery, healing, and empowerment. Through shared experiences and professional guidance, survivors can emerge from the shadows, resilient and ready to rebuild their lives.
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- Scam Victim Recovery Psychology
- Article Abstract
- Scam Victim Psychological Alienation in the Aftermath of Romance Scams Can Be Devastating And Long Term Unless Addressed
- Psychological Alienation: Feeling Lost in Your Own World
- The Basics – Causes of Psychological Alienation
- Shadows of Manipulation
- Coping with Psychological Alienation
- Empowerment through Understanding
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I absolutely experienced self-estrangement, self isolation, powerlessness and normlessness in the first months after the scam. My sense of identity was shattered and I couldn’t bear being around others, anyone, who might add to the guilt and shame I felt. I was certain nobody understood the pain I felt.
Once I started to heal a bit, I began reconnecting with friends and started socializing somewhat (usually meeting for lunch or dinner). I’m nowhere near the “social butterfly” I once was. That person exists in the past. The new me is learning to be discerning and trusting of others, including of people I’ve know for many years.
From this article I can see that I am still in the shadows. That said I am past self estrangement to a degree. There are times that I continue to feel disconnected with myself which frightens me terribly. When this happens I feel lost and like no one can understand this terrible thing that has happened to me. But they can’t begin to understand because I feel I can’t share it, because I don’t trust others to understand. I tried to talk with a trusted friend once and it turned so bad I’m afraid to try again. When I do have these periods of self-estrangement I dress in my baggy clothes from when I was severely overweight, soft comfy clothing, and a robe and curl around myself until my husband returns from work. Then I cling to him. I have begun discussing this feeling with my therapist as well. Because of these periods of self-estrangement and the failed attempt to talk with a trusted person I am experiencing social isolation. Enrolling in debt resolution when I realized with the high credit card interest rates I would only continue to lose ground in paying off the debt I incurred in my crime adds to my feelings of powerlessness. I have always experienced normlessness – I have never fit into society. I was considered a geek in school and was always picked on. It has always been hard for me to make friends and it is difficult for me to actually juggle multiple friends. Growing up the subject of friends was they only want something from us and aren’t really friends was a constant lecture. I can see where a good deal of my trauma originated in my childhood.
Self-estrangement and a sense of powerlessness have been part of my post scam experience. I’m sure this will pass in time as my recovery continues. I’m looking forward to a brighter future ahead when all of this is just a faded memory.
This article is very useful to understanding the dangers of isolation after a romance scam. By reading this article, I learn why isolation hurts so much and how hard is to overcome it without the proper steps and guidance..