Emotions

Why Bad Feelings Feel So Overwhelming for Scam Victims: A Look at the Brain’s Role – 2024

Bad Feelings and Scam Victims

Why Bad Feelings Feel So Overwhelming for Scam Victims: A Look at the Brain’s Role

Primary Category: Scam Victim Recovery Psychology

Author:
•  Tim McGuinness, Ph.D. – Anthropologist, Scientist, Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.

About This Article

Scam victims often experience overwhelming and prolonged negative emotions due to how the brain processes perceived threats. The amygdala, which handles fear and anxiety, triggers a strong fight-or-flight response, leading to intense feelings of fear, shame, and guilt.

The prefrontal cortex, responsible for rational decision-making, becomes overwhelmed, making it harder to think clearly. The brain’s negativity bias ensures these bad feelings linger, as it prioritizes threats for survival. This is compounded by the “smoke detector” theory, where even small emotional triggers can provoke large, lasting responses.

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The Life Story Project – A New View of Our Lives – A Non-Linear View – A TED Talk by Bruce Feiler – 2024

The Life Story Project – A New View of Our Lives – A Non-Linear View

A TED Talk

Primary Category: Recovery Psychology

Author:
•  Bruce Feiler, Writer, TV host, a leading voice on family, work, transitions, and meaning. His book, Life is in the Transitions: Mastering Change at Any Age, describes his journey across America, collecting hundreds of life stories, exploring how we can navigate life’s growing number of with skill and purpose.

The Life Story Project – A New View of Our Lives – A Non-Linear View

How do you navigate life’s growing number of transitions with meaning, purpose and skill? Writer Bruce Feiler offers a powerful way to handle uncertain, painful and confusing times — or “lifequakes”, as he calls them. Learn how to equip yourself with the essential tools and mindset to ride out (and rewrite) the toughest chapters of your life story, and turn unease and upheaval into growth and renewal.

Learn more here: The Deck of Disruptors – by Bruce Feiler (substack.com)

TED Talk: Bruce Feiler: The secret to mastering life’s biggest transitions | TED Talk

TED Talk Video Transcript

I used to have a saying that phone calls don’t change your life. 
Until one day I got a phone call that did. 
It was from my mother. 
“Your father is trying to kill himself.” 
He’s what? 
My dad was a son of the American South, 
a Navy veteran and civic leader, 
he was never depressed a minute. 
Until he got Parkinson’s. 
Six times in 12 weeks, 
my dad attempted to end his life.

For Scam Victims – Healing And Moving On When There Are Still Residual Feelings – 2024

For Scam Victims – Healing And Moving On When There Are Still Residual Feelings

Healing After a Fake Relationship Ends: Acknowledge and Honor Your Residual Feelings

Primary Category: Recovery Psychology

Authors:
•  Vianey Gonzalez B.Sc(Psych) – Licensed Psychologist Specialty in Crime Victim Trauma Therapy, Neuropsychologist, Certified Deception Professional, Psychology Advisory Panel & Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.
•  Tim McGuinness, Ph.D. – Anthropologist, Scientist, Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.

About This Article

In the aftermath of a relationship, particularly one based on deceit like a romance scam, it is important to recognize and honor your residual feelings.

Although the relationship may have been built on falsehoods and lies, the emotions you experienced were genuine. Your emotions were hijacked, producing valid feelings despite the manipulation. Accepting these feelings is a vital step in your healing process. Residual feelings are the lingering emotions that remain after a relationship ends, reflecting the emotional investment you made.

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