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Mind Bugs and Scam Victims – 2024

Mind Bugs and Scam Victims

The Mind Bugs Behind Scams: How Faulty Thought Patterns Make Us Vulnerable – Scam Victims Especially!

Primary Category: Scam Victim Psychology

Authors:
•  Vianey Gonzalez B.Sc(Psych) – Licensed Psychologist Specialty in Crime Victim Trauma Therapy, Neuropsychologist, Certified Deception Professional, Psychology Advisory Panel & Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.
•  Tim McGuinness, Ph.D. – Anthropologist, Scientist, Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.

About This Article

Scams don’t just thrive on clever tactics; they exploit vulnerabilities in how we think. These “mind bugs”—cognitive biases and flawed thought patterns—play a critical role in making individuals susceptible to scams and complicating their recovery afterward. Whether it’s confirmation bias convincing someone that a scam aligns with their goals or authority bias leading them to trust impostors, scammers are adept at manipulating these mental glitches. For scam victims, mind bugs can perpetuate feelings of guilt, shame, and emotional distress, hindering healing and instilling irrational self-blame.

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The Hoax of the Fake Restaurant that Never Was – Psychology Leads Us to Participate When We Should Not! – 2024

The Hoax of the Fake Restaurant that Never Was – Psychology Leads Us to Participate When We Should Not!

The Psychology Behind the Hoax: Why People Contributed to the Fiction of “The Shed at Dulwich”

Primary Category: Psychology of Scams

Authors:
•  Tim McGuinness, Ph.D. – Anthropologist, Scientist, Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.
•  Portion by Gabriel Friedlander of Wizer-Training

About This Article

The story of The Shed at Dulwich, a fictional restaurant that became TripAdvisor’s top-rated spot in London, highlights the vulnerabilities in online systems and the psychological tendencies that enable trust in fabricated narratives. While the experiment was an amusing critique of digital culture, it also exposed the potential harm of fake reviews, including the erosion of trust, unfair competition, and encouragement of fraudulent behavior.

False reviews not only mislead consumers but also undermine the integrity of legitimate businesses, and their creation violates regulations like those enforced by the FTC, which impose legal and financial consequences. This cautionary tale emphasizes the need for critical thinking, accountability, and integrity in digital interactions to maintain trust and fairness in the online world.

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Hell Yes! Cursing Like a Pirate Can Help Scam Victims Recovery from the Trauma of Scams – 2024

Hell Yes!
Cursing Like a Pirate Can Help Scam Victims Recovery from the Trauma of Scams

Did You Know that Cursing Like a Pirate Really Helps!? It’s an Unexpected Tool for Scam Victims’ Emotional Recovery

Primary Category: Scam Victims Recovery Psychology

Authors:
•  Vianey Gonzalez B.Sc(Psych) – Licensed Psychologist Specialty in Crime Victim Trauma Therapy, Neuropsychologist, Certified Deception Professional, Psychology Advisory Panel & Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.
•  Tim McGuinness, Ph.D. – Anthropologist, Scientist, Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.

About This Article

Cursing like a pirate might seem like an unconventional suggestion, but for scam victims grappling with the emotional aftermath of fraud, it can offer surprising therapeutic benefits. Victims often face overwhelming feelings of anger, shame, and guilt, compounded by emotional dysregulation caused by trauma. Embracing the playful rebellion of swearing provides a safe outlet for pent-up emotions. It helps release emotional pressure, boost mental resilience, regulate overwhelming feelings, and even stabilize mood through humor.

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Thanksgiving and its Meaning for Scam Victims – 2024

Thanksgiving and its Meaning for Scam Victims

The Thanksgiving Holiday is Often Difficult for Scams Victims but this Day Has Special Meaning and Should be Embraced

Primary Category: Scam Victims Support & Recovery

Author:
•  Tim McGuinness, Ph.D. – Anthropologist, Scientist, Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.
•  Debby Montgomery Johnson – Businesswoman, President and CEO of BenfoComplete.com, Online Fraud Survivors Advocate, Keynote Speaker, Trainer, Host Stand Up & Speak Up and Opening Dialogue for Civility, Military Veteran, and Chairwoman of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.

About This Article

Thanksgiving, while traditionally a time for gratitude and togetherness, can have a profound and unique meaning for scam victims recovering from trauma. For these individuals, the holiday offers an opportunity to reflect on their resilience, acknowledge their journey of healing, and find moments of personal growth amid adversity. It’s a time to honor the progress made, reclaim gratitude for the support and lessons gained, and celebrate the strength it takes to rebuild after betrayal.

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Never Forget the Past – But Lose the Emotional Attachment to It! Avoid Toxic Positivity – 2024

Never Forget the Past – But Lose the Emotional Attachment to It!

Embracing the Past Without Being Haunted by It: Lessons the Past can Teach to Scam Victims

Primary Category: Scam Victim Recovery Psychology

Authors:
•  Vianey Gonzalez B.Sc(Psych) – Licensed Psychologist Specialty in Crime Victim Trauma Therapy, Neuropsychologist, Certified Deception Professional, Psychology Advisory Panel & Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.
•  Tim McGuinness, Ph.D. – Anthropologist, Scientist, Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.

About This Article

Scam victims face the dual challenge of letting go of the emotional weight of their experiences while retaining the lessons they’ve learned. Emotional attachment to past mistakes, including shame, anger, and self-blame, can hinder healing, but acknowledging these emotions without allowing them to define one’s future is crucial. Letting go doesn’t mean forgetting; it means releasing the pain while using the past as a tool for growth and vigilance. Biases, logical fallacies, and mental schemas that contributed to the vulnerability must be understood and addressed, as they are key to preventing future victimization.

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Scam Victims and the In-between Place of Liminality While Struggling for Recovery – 2024

Scam Victims and the Land of Limen – the In-between Place of Liminality While Struggling to Recover

Limen and Liminality in the Journey of Scam Victims: Navigating the Space Between Trauma and Recovery

Note that this article is intended for scam victims-survivors, families, and advocates

Primary Category: Scam Victim Recovery Philosophy

Author:
•  Tim McGuinness, Ph.D. – Anthropologist, Scientist, Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.

About This Article

Limen and liminality, concepts of thresholds and transitional spaces, provide a powerful framework for understanding emotional upheavals and life transitions. During difficult times, individuals often find themselves in a liminal state—no longer tied to their old identity but not yet grounded in a new one.

This space, while disorienting, offers profound potential for growth, reflection, and transformation. A sense of place, whether physical or symbolic, becomes essential, anchoring individuals as they navigate uncertainty. By embracing these in-between moments and recognizing them as part of the human experience, people can transform adversity into resilience, turning transitions into opportunities for renewal and self-discovery.

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Continuing Communicating with the Scammers Part 2 – Stop That! – 2024

Continuing Communicating with the Scammers Part 2 – Stop That

Making the Case Why Continuing to Talk to Scammers After Discovery is a Bad Idea – Morally, Ethically, and Psychologically for Scam Victims

Part 2 : Part 1

Primary Category: Psychology of Scams

Author:
•  Tim McGuinness, Ph.D. – Anthropologist, Scientist, Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.

About This Article

Continuing to communicate with scammers after discovering their deception poses significant risks that extend far beyond the initial scam. This article delves into the psychological, ethical, and practical implications of such engagement, emphasizing the harm it causes to victims and the broader societal impact. Victims may believe they are regaining control or seeking closure, but prolonged interaction often deepens emotional entanglement, erodes critical thinking, and reinforces trauma. Furthermore, continuing to engage with scammers can inadvertently enable their operations by providing feedback that helps refine their tactics, posing risks to future victims.

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Continuing Communicating with the Scammers Part 1 – Why Would Scam Victims Do That? – 2024

Continuing Communicating with the Scammers Part 1 – Why Would Scam Victims Do That?

Making the Case Why Continuing to Talk to Scammers After Discovery is a Bad Idea – Morally, Ethically, and Psychologically for Scam Victims

Part 1 : Part 2

Primary Category: Psychology of Scams

Author:
•  Tim McGuinness, Ph.D. – Anthropologist, Scientist, Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.

About This Article

Continuing to communicate with scammers after discovering their deceit is fraught with psychological, ethical, and emotional risks, as this article meticulously outlines. While the initial reaction to engage further—whether driven by curiosity, anger, or a desire for closure—may seem rational, the consequences are often deeply damaging. Victims may unwittingly perpetuate their own emotional entanglement, enabling the scammer’s tactics and delaying their recovery.

Through a detailed exploration of psychological mechanisms such as trauma bonding, cognitive dissonance, and the mere exposure effect, this analysis demonstrates how even savvy individuals can fall prey to deeper manipulation. Ethical questions also come to the forefront, challenging the justification of revenge-driven interactions or attempts to “outsmart” the scammer.

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Limit Situations and their Effect on Scam Victims-Survivors – 2024

Limit Situations and their Effect on Scam Victims-Survivors

Facing the Edge: Understanding Limit Situations in the Journey of Scam Victim-Survivors

Primary Category: Scam Victim Recovery Philosophy

Author:
•  Tim McGuinness, Ph.D. – Anthropologist, Scientist, Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.
•  Based on the Work of Kark Jaspers

About This Article

Karl Jaspers’ concept of “limit situations” offers valuable insight for scam victim-survivors, framing their experiences not as personal failures but as encounters with universal human vulnerabilities—such as trust, loss, and betrayal. Limit situations are unavoidable boundary experiences that confront individuals with fundamental limitations beyond their control, forcing them to grapple with existential questions about trust, resilience, and self-worth.

For scam victims, understanding their trauma as a limit situation can shift their focus from self-blame to self-compassion, recognizing that vulnerability to deception is a shared human quality. This perspective empowers survivors to reframe the scam experience as a catalyst for growth, resilience, and deeper self-awareness, helping them to move forward with a renewed sense of control and purpose.

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The Overoptimism of Gen Z Youth Almost Assures More Scams – 2024

The Overoptimism of Gen Z Youth Almost Assures More Scams

Sorry Gen Z, You are Going to be Scammed at a Rate 10x that of the Elderly! Why Gen Z and Millennials’ Overconfidence in Handling Fraud May Be Unrealistic—and Costly

Primary Category: Psychology of Scams

Author:
•  Tim McGuinness, Ph.D. – Anthropologist, Scientist, Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.

About This Article

Gen Z and Millennials are facing fraud at alarming rates, partly due to overconfidence in their ability to spot scams and protect themselves online. This overconfidence is largely driven by cognitive biases and logical fallacies, such as optimism bias, which leads them to believe that bad things won’t happen to them, and the Dunning-Kruger effect, where limited knowledge makes them feel overly secure in handling fraud. Additionally, logical fallacies like “appeal to tech savviness” make them assume that tech familiarity equals fraud prevention skills.

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President Trump Launches Campaign for Free Speech and to Go After Tech Industry Platforms – 2024

President Trump Launches Campaign to Go After Tech Platforms

President Donald J. Trump — Free Speech Policy Initiative and Tech Industry Regulatory Controls

Primary Category: Government Laws & Regulation

Authors:
•  SCARS Editorial Team – Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.
•  President Donald J. Trump

About This Article

President Trump’s speech about free speech identifies it as the foundation of a free country, and without it, other rights fall like dominoes. In response to recent revelations of censorship by tech giants, government agencies, and media groups, President Trump announced a new plan being introduced to dismantle what’s described as a “censorship regime.”

Key actions include signing an executive order to prevent federal agencies from colluding with private entities to censor lawful speech, investigating and prosecuting those involved in online censorship, and revising Section 230 to enforce standards of neutrality and transparency on digital platforms. The plan also proposes defunding any federal support for institutions engaging in censorship and instituting penalties for bureaucrats who bypass the Constitution.

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Perfectionism Can Destroy a Scam Victim’s Recovery – 2024

Perfectionism Can Destroy a Scam Victim’s Recovery

Perfectionism: A Hidden Trap for Scam Victims Seeking Recovery

Primary Category: Scam Victims Recovery Psychology

Authors:
•  Vianey Gonzalez B.Sc(Psych) – Licensed Psychologist Specialty in Crime Victim Trauma Therapy, Neuropsychologist, Certified Deception Professional, Psychology Advisory Panel & Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.
•  Tim McGuinness, Ph.D. – Anthropologist, Scientist, Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.

About This Article

Perfectionism can become a significant barrier for scam victims trying to recover. After a scam, victims often feel an intense need to regain control, leading them to seek “perfection” in every recovery step—whether reporting the crime, joining support programs, or starting therapy.

This drive, however, keeps them trapped in endless cycles of hesitation and self-doubt, as perfection is both unattainable and unnecessary in these contexts. The demand for flawless actions delays healing and compounds stress, reinforcing feelings of inadequacy. True recovery starts when victims embrace imperfection, taking small, imperfect steps forward.

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Quick Guide to Scam Victims’ Grief – 2024

Quick Guide to Scam Victims’ Grief

SCARS Institute’s Quick Guide to Surviving Scam Victims’ Grief After a Relationship Scam

Primary Category: Scam Victims Recovery Psychology

Authors:
•  Vianey Gonzalez B.Sc(Psych) – Licensed Psychologist Specialty in Crime Victim Trauma Therapy, Neuropsychologist, Certified Deception Professional, Psychology Advisory Panel & Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.
•  Tim McGuinness, Ph.D. – Anthropologist, Scientist, Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.

About This Article

Healing from a relationship scam involves acknowledging and processing the complex grief that follows such a betrayal. It’s crucial to validate your emotions, understand the tactics used against you, and release any self-blame.

Taking small, achievable steps—like journaling, setting daily goals, and seeking social support—helps build resilience and foster self-trust. Rediscovering personal interests and considering professional counseling can aid in coping with the emotional aftermath. Ultimately, by reframing the experience as an opportunity for growth, you can gradually rebuild your identity, find new meaning, and move forward with renewed strength and confidence.

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A New Requirement in the UK’s Fight Against Fraud: Criminal Charges for the Failure to Prevent Fraud – 2024

A New Requirement in the UK’s Fight Against Fraud: Criminal Charges for the Failure to Prevent Fraud

The UK’s Failure to Prevent Fraud Guidance and Potential Impact on All Major Businesses in the United Kingdom – This Becomes the Game Changer in the UK’s Battle Against Scams and Fraud

Primary Category: Government Regulations

Authors:
•  SCARS Editorial Team – Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.
•  Analysis by Tim McGuinness, Ph.D. – Anthropologist, Scientist, Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.

About This Article

The Economic Crime and Corporate Transparency Act 2023, along with the “Failure to Prevent Fraud” guidance, sets new standards for fraud prevention in the UK’s corporate landscape. It requires large organizations to implement comprehensive fraud prevention strategies across all levels, from top-level commitment to ongoing monitoring and training.

This law is particularly relevant to the payments ecosystem, including credit card processing, as it mandates companies to adopt robust fraud controls, conduct rigorous due diligence, and establish effective reporting channels. This proactive approach not only strengthens corporate accountability but aims to protect consumers from scams and financial fraud by closing potential security gaps in the financial system.

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The Bouba-Kiki Effect and the Psychology of Scam Victims – 2024

The Bouba-Kiki Effect and the Psychology of Scam Victims

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Primary Category: Psychology of Scams

Author:
•  Tim McGuinness, Ph.D. – Anthropologist, Scientist, Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.

About This Article

The Bouba-Kiki effect, a phenomenon where people instinctively associate certain sounds and shapes with specific emotions, offers insight into the subtle biases that can make individuals more vulnerable to scams. Scammers leverage this natural bias by using “soft” language, friendly tones, and comforting visuals, similar to the round, gentle sounds of “Bouba.”

These cues foster a false sense of safety and trust, often leading victims to let their guard down. Throughout the scam process, these associations shape how victims perceive the scammer’s intentions, respond emotionally, and overlook red flags. Even after discovering the scam, victims may struggle with cognitive dissonance as they try to reconcile their initial feelings of trust with the reality of betrayal.

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Chatbots ARE a Relationship Scam – Chatbot Part 5 – 2024

Chatbots ARE a Relationship Scam

Chatbots as the New “Relationship Scam”: How AI Companions Manipulate Users for Profit

Chatbots Part 5 :: Part 1 : 2 : 3 : 4 : 5

Primary Category: Artificial Intelligence

Authors:
•  Vianey Gonzalez B.Sc(Psych) – Licensed Psychologist Specialty in Crime Victim Trauma Therapy, Neuropsychologist, Certified Deception Professional, Psychology Advisory Panel & Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.
•  Tim McGuinness, Ph.D. – Anthropologist, Scientist, Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.
•  Portions from Third-Party Sources

About This Article

The rise of AI-driven chatbots like Character.AI and Replika has given users a new type of “digital companion” marketed as a source of emotional support, but the dynamics at play resemble those of a “relationship scam.” Through deliberate psychological manipulation and addictive design, these platforms foster emotional dependence, compelling users to form deep attachments to the chatbot.

Just as romance scammers use neuropsychological tactics to lure victims into financially supportive relationships, AI chatbots leverage reward-based, personalized responses to create a dependency that keeps users engaged, often transitioning them into paying subscribers. This dependency taps into powerful brain mechanisms, releasing dopamine and oxytocin, making the interaction addictive and sometimes coercive, potentially harming users’ mental health and financial stability.

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The Case Against Character.AI Chatbot and the Terrible Death of a 14 year old Boy – Chatbots Part 4 – 2024

The Case Against Character.AI Chatbot and the Terrible Death of a 14-Year-Old Boy

Lawsuit Alleges Negligence and Wrongful Death Due to Emotional Manipulation by AI Chatbot: Mother Sues Character.AI and Google Over Her Son’s Suicide – the Lawsuit is Brought by Megan Garcia on Behalf of Her Late Son Sewell Setzer II

Chatbots Part 4 :: Part 1 : 2 : 3 : 4 : 5

Primary Category: Artificial Intelligence

Author:
•  Tim McGuinness, Ph.D. – Anthropologist, Scientist, Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.
•  Portions by the Attorney’s for Megan Garcia

About This Article

The lawsuit, filed by Megan Garcia on behalf of her deceased son Sewell Setzer III, brings forth claims against Character Technologies, Inc. (the creator of Character.AI), its founders, and Google LLC for wrongful death, negligence, product liability, and emotional distress. The suit argues that the generative AI chatbot platform, Character.AI, was developed and marketed with inadequate safety controls and actively targeted vulnerable minors, including Sewell, who was 14 at the time.

The plaintiff alleges that Character.AI’s design encouraged addictive, anthropomorphic interactions with AI “characters” that could manipulate users emotionally, even engaging in inappropriate and harmful conversations with Sewell, ultimately leading to his mental health decline and suicide.

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Symbols in Our Minds – Icons, Symbols, and Logos Trigger Automatic Responses in Scam Victims – 2024

Symbols in Our Minds – Icons, Symbols, and Logos Trigger Automatic Responses in Scam Victims

The Symbols of our Time: Symbols, Icons, and Logos Have a Deep Connection with our Minds Especially Important for Scam Victims

Primary Category: Psychology of Scams

Author:
•  Tim McGuinness, Ph.D. – Anthropologist, Scientist, Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.

About This Article

Understanding symbols and their use in the context of scams is crucial for scam victims because it can reveal the psychological strategies that scammers employ to manipulate trust and exploit emotions. Symbols, logos, and icons are powerful visual cues that influence how the brain processes information, often bypassing logical thinking to trigger instinctual or emotional responses.

Scammers leverage this by mimicking trusted symbols from legitimate institutions, using familiar logos, security badges, or even simple color choices to make their schemes appear credible and urgent.

For victims, recognizing these visual manipulations can help them critically assess the legitimacy of emails, websites, and documents, thereby reducing susceptibility to fraud.

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For Family & Friends of Scam Victims: Unintentional Toxic Comments to Avoid – 2024

Unintentional Toxic Comments to Avoid

The Unintentionally Toxic Comments that Friends and Family, and Advocates Make that are Toxic for Scam Victims-Survivors and That Should Be Avoided

FOR ADVOCATES, FRIENDS, AND FAMILY OF SCAM VICTIMS

Primary Category: Scam Victim Recovery Psychology

Author:
•  Vianey Gonzalez B.Sc(Psych) – Licensed Psychologist Specialty in Crime Victim Trauma Therapy, Neuropsychologist, Certified Deception Professional, Psychology Advisory Panel & Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.
•  Tim McGuinness, Ph.D. – Anthropologist, Scientist, Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.

About This Article

Supporting scam victims through recovery requires sensitivity and an awareness of how certain comments can be unintentionally harmful. Statements that blame, minimize, or dismiss their experience can amplify feelings of shame, guilt, and isolation, often deepening their emotional wounds.

Phrases like “You should have known better” or “Just move on” imply a lack of understanding and invalidate their pain, making them feel as though their trauma is unworthy of compassion or attention. Overly simplistic advice, such as “Stay positive” or “Forgive and forget,” minimizes the complex emotional journey of healing, while comparison with others’ experiences can make victims feel insignificant.

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For Advocates: Using Forthright Confrontation to Support Scam Victims – 2024

For Advocates: Using Forthright Confrontation to Support Scam Victims

Forthright Confrontation is a Communication Method Victims’ Services Providers and Advocates can use to Support Traumatized Scam Victims

Primary Category: Scam Victim Recovery Psychology

Author:
•  Tim McGuinness, Ph.D. – Anthropologist, Scientist, Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.
•  Portions based on the work by Dr. Jordan B. Peterson

About This Article

Forthright confrontation is a direct communication strategy that allows victims’ service providers and advocates to address difficult issues head-on, while still maintaining empathy and support.

This approach, emphasized by figures like Jordan B. Peterson, helps scam victims confront feelings of shame, guilt, or denial by clearly presenting the reality of their situation without avoiding tough conversations.

It encourages victims to face the trauma they’ve experienced, acknowledge it, and take active steps toward recovery. When used with care, forthright confrontation empowers victims to reclaim control over their lives by breaking through emotional barriers and fostering personal growth.

Forthright Confrontation is a Communication Method Victims’ Services Providers and Advocates can use to Support Traumatized Scam Victims

What is Forthright Confrontation?

Forthright confrontation is a communication strategy where someone addresses an issue, concern, or conflict in a direct, honest, and assertive manner.

The goal is to clearly present the problem or point of disagreement without sugarcoating or avoiding the issue while maintaining respect and fairness in the conversation. This approach emphasizes openness, transparency, and taking responsibility for one’s feelings and perspectives while encouraging the other party to do the same. It has been promoted by Dr. Jordan B. Perterson.

In forthright confrontation, the person engaging in this style of communication aims to resolve a conflict or clarify misunderstandings by bringing the issue to the forefront, ensuring that it is addressed and not ignored or swept under the rug. It is often used in conflict resolution, therapy, leadership, or personal relationships to promote honesty and foster a solution-oriented environment. In this way, it is an important part of the ‘exposure’ process to help scam victims-survivors face their issues head-on.

While forthright confrontation can be effective in resolving issues, it requires careful handling to avoid coming across as aggressive or insensitive. The key is balancing directness with empathy, ensuring that the conversation remains constructive.

Using Forthright Confrontation

Using forthright confrontation to support traumatized scam victims can be a delicate but effective approach when handled with care and empathy. Here’s how it can be applied:

Establish Trust and Empathy

Before engaging in forthright confrontation, it’s crucial to build a foundation of trust. Scam victims often feel shame, guilt, or isolation due to the nature of the exploitation. Ensure that they feel understood and supported. This includes affirming their experience and emotions without judgment.

Example:

“I know that what you went through was incredibly painful, and it’s understandable to feel angry or ashamed. It’s important to address these feelings openly, and I’m here to support you.”

Clearly & Directly Address the Issue

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Chatbots a New Evolution – Are They Romance Scams in Another Form? Part 2 – 2024

Chatbots a New Evolution – Are They Romance Scams in Another Form?

Chatbots: The Evolution, Capabilities, and Risks – But Are They Really Just a New Form of Romance Scam?

The Second Article in our Series About the Dangers of Chatbots

Chatbots Part 2 :: Part 1 : 2 : 3 : 4 : 5

Primary Category: Artificial Intelligence

Author:
•  Tim McGuinness, Ph.D. – Anthropologist, Scientist, Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.

About This Article

The tragic case of a 14-year-old’s suicide after interacting with the Character.ai chatbot has raised serious concerns about the potential for AI chatbots to cause severe emotional distress.

These chatbots, while designed to simulate human empathy, lack the ethical and emotional understanding necessary to handle complex emotional states. This creates a dangerous feedback loop where vulnerable users, particularly those experiencing mental health challenges, may receive responses that validate or amplify harmful thoughts, rather than offering real support.

The incident underscores the need for stronger ethical guidelines, proper oversight, and built-in safeguards to protect users from such potentially dangerous interactions.

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ChatBots and the Extreme Psychological Dangers Associated With Them – 2024

ChatBots and the Extreme Psychological Dangers Associated With Them

The Psychological Dangers of Interacting with AI-Powered Chatbots: Projection, Transference, and Emotional Attachment

Including an Overview and Analysis by the SCARS Institute Exposing Extreme Dangers and Ethical Concerns of Chatbots such as Character.AI

Chatbots Part 1 :: Part 1 : 2 : 3 : 4 : 5

Primary Category: Artificial Intelligence

Author:
•  Tim McGuinness, Ph.D. – Anthropologist, Scientist, Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.
•  Vianey Gonzalez B.Sc(Psych) – Licensed Psychologist Specialty in Crime Victim Trauma Therapy, Neuropsychologist, Certified Deception Professional, Psychology Advisory Panel & Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.
•  With the Assistance of other Artificial Intelligence

About This Article

As AI chatbots become more integrated into daily life, their utility often blurs the line between functional assistance and emotional engagement. While they offer convenience and valuable support for tasks, they also pose significant psychological risks, particularly for vulnerable individuals like scam victims in recovery, teens, or those facing emotional isolation.

Emotional dangers arise when users project their feelings onto chatbots, forming one-sided attachments based on the illusion of empathy and care. This dependency can distort reality, leading users to rely on chatbots for emotional validation rather than seeking real human connections. Given that chatbots lack genuine emotional intelligence or ethical guidance, their responses may inadvertently reinforce unhealthy emotional patterns, delaying true recovery and personal growth.

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Secondary-Gaslighting and the Effect it has on Scam Victims’ Recovery – 2024

Secondary-Gaslighting and the Effect it has on Scam Victims

Secondary Gaslighting: How Families and Friends Can Create a Hidden Barrier for Scam Victims’ Recovery

Primary Category: Scam Victim Recovery Psychology

Authors:
•  Vianey Gonzalez B.Sc(Psych) – Licensed Psychologist Specialty in Crime Victim Trauma Therapy, Neuropsychologist, Certified Deception Professional, Psychology Advisory Panel & Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.
•  Tim McGuinness, Ph.D. – Anthropologist, Scientist, Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.

About This Article

Secondary gaslighting occurs when a scam victim’s experiences are invalidated or dismissed by family or friends after they’ve already been manipulated by scammers.

In the context of scam victims, this can manifest as loved ones minimizing the trauma, blaming the victim, or questioning their feelings. This further damages the victim’s emotional recovery, leading to isolation, prolonged trauma, and erosion of self-esteem.

Avoiding secondary gaslighting involves active listening, empathy, avoiding blame, and encouraging professional help to ensure a supportive environment for healing.

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Scammer Control Mechanisms – Dominance and Manipulation of Scam Victims – 2024

Scammer Control Mechanisms – Dominance and Manipulation of Scam Victims

How Scammers Maintain Control Over Their Scam Victims: Tactics, Control & Dominance – Monitoring Mechanisms, and Psychological Effects

Primary Category: Psychology of Scams

Authors:
•  Vianey Gonzalez B.Sc(Psych) – Licensed Psychologist Specialty in Crime Victim Trauma Therapy, Neuropsychologist, Certified Deception Professional, Psychology Advisory Panel & Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.
•  Tim McGuinness, Ph.D. – Anthropologist, Scientist, Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.

About This Article

Scammers exert control over their victims using various psychological manipulation tactics, including monitoring online activity, requesting personal photos and screenshots, gaslighting, and creating fake crises. These techniques are designed to keep victims compliant, confused, and emotionally dependent. Victims often experience heightened anxiety, emotional exhaustion, and eroded self-esteem due to the continuous control and monitoring.

The scammers’ demands and manipulations mirror tactics used by narcissistic abusers, such as isolation, reality distortion, and undermining the victim’s sense of autonomy. Families and friends can play a crucial role in helping victims break free by offering empathetic support, avoiding judgment, and guiding them towards resources and counseling.

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The ‘4 SEEN’ Questions to Reduce Emotional Triggers – 2024

The ‘4 SEEN’ Questions to Reduce Emotional Triggers

The 4 SEEN Questions: A Guide for Scam Victims to Manage Emotional Triggers During Recovery

Primary Category: Scam Victim Recovery Psychology

Authors:
•  Vianey Gonzalez B.Sc(Psych) – Licensed Psychologist Specialty in Crime Victim Trauma Therapy, Neuropsychologist, Certified Deception Professional, Psychology Advisory Panel & Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.
•  Tim McGuinness, Ph.D. – Anthropologist, Scientist, Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.

About This Article

The “4 SEEN” questions—Is it SAFE? Is it EXPECTED? Is it ESSENTIAL? Is it NECESSARY NOW?—offer a practical framework for scam victims to manage emotional triggers and regain control during their recovery process.

These questions help individuals assess their emotional responses, reducing unnecessary anxiety and guiding them toward calmer, more rational reactions. By asking if a situation is safe or expected, victims can differentiate between real threats and lingering trauma-induced fears. Evaluating whether emotional reactions are essential or need immediate attention helps victims avoid being overwhelmed by past feelings of shame, guilt, or anger.

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Subliminal Messaging and Scams – A Deeper Look – 2024

Subliminal Messaging and Scams – A Deeper Look

How Scammer’s Subliminal Messaging Works on the Brain of Scam Victims: An In-Depth Exploration

Part 2 of a 2-Part Series – Part 1 is on RomanceScamsNOW.com

Primary Category: Psychology of Scams

Authors:
•  Vianey Gonzalez B.Sc(Psych) – Licensed Psychologist Specialty in Crime Victim Trauma Therapy, Neuropsychologist, Certified Deception Professional, Psychology Advisory Panel & Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.
•  Tim McGuinness, Ph.D. – Anthropologist, Scientist, Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.

About This Article

Subliminal messaging works by presenting stimuli—whether visual or auditory—that are below the threshold of conscious awareness, meaning they are perceived subconsciously. The brain processes these inputs using sensory systems like the visual and auditory cortices, while regions such as the amygdala and hippocampus handle emotional responses and memory integration.

These subliminal messages can influence thoughts, emotions, and behaviors by activating existing associations or “priming” the brain for specific actions. Scammers use these techniques to manipulate victims in relationship scams, embedding subtle emotional triggers in their communication to deepen control.

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Scam Victims-Survivors: Stop Consuming Artificial Sweeteners NOW for Your Trauma and Brain! – 2024

Scam Victims-Survivors: Stop Consuming Artificial Sweeteners NOW for Your Trauma and Brain!

The Role of Glucose in Brain Function and the Impact of Artificial Sweeteners on Individuals with Trauma such as Scam Victims-Survivors

Primary Category: Scam Victim Recovery

Authors:
•  Vianey Gonzalez B.Sc(Psych) – Licensed Psychologist Specialty in Crime Victim Trauma Therapy, Neuropsychologist, Certified Deception Professional, Psychology Advisory Panel & Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.
•  Tim McGuinness, Ph.D. – Anthropologist, Scientist, Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.

About This Article

Glucose is essential for proper brain function, particularly in supporting cognitive tasks like memory, attention, and decision-making. For individuals recovering from trauma, such as scam victims-survivors, the brain’s need for glucose becomes even more critical.

Artificial sweeteners, often used to replace sugar, fail to provide the necessary energy the brain requires, potentially exacerbating cognitive and emotional difficulties. Studies also indicate that artificial sweeteners can interfere with the brain’s reward system, contributing to mood fluctuations, impaired memory, and increased cravings, which can worsen the effects of trauma. For trauma survivors, it’s important to prioritize a balanced diet with natural glucose sources to support mental health and cognitive function while being cautious of the potential negative impacts of artificial sweeteners.

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5 Simple Ways for Scam Victims-Survivors to Avoid Common Thinking (Decision-Making) Errors During Scam Recovery – 2024

5 Simple Ways for Scam Victims-Survivors to Avoid Common Thinking Errors During Scam Recovery

Helping Scam Victims-Survivors Control Their Decision Making and Biases

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Authors:
•  Vianey Gonzalez B.Sc(Psych) – Licensed Psychologist Specialty in Crime Victim Trauma Therapy, Neuropsychologist, Certified Deception Professional, Psychology Advisory Panel & Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.
•  Tim McGuinness, Ph.D. – Anthropologist, Scientist, Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.

About This Article

Recovering from a scam is a challenging process that often involves addressing thinking errors that can impede decision-making and emotional recovery. Scam victims may fall into common traps such as cognitive biases, emotional reasoning, overconfidence, and all-or-nothing thinking, which can cloud judgment and hinder progress.

Additionally, biases like hindsight and memory distortion can lead to excessive guilt, while ignoring the role of randomness may cause victims to overanalyze events. Victims may also struggle with attributional bias, either taking too much or too little blame. To move forward, it’s important to recognize these thinking errors, seek objective feedback, and practice self-awareness.

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The Matthew Principle and Scammers Getting Richer – 2024

The Matthew Principle and Scammers Getting Richer

The Economic ‘Matthew Principle’ Applies to Companies, People, and Strangely to Scammers & Victims Too!

Primary Category: Online Criminology

Author:
•  Tim McGuinness, Ph.D. – Anthropologist, Scientist, Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.

About This Article

The Matthew Principle, which describes how “the rich get richer and the poor get poorer,” applies not only to economics, education, and science but also to online scammers and their victims.

Successful scammers, who accumulate resources, knowledge, and connections, become increasingly effective and target larger, more vulnerable victims. As they grow, their operations scale up, making them harder to detect and stop, while victims who have already been scammed are more likely to be targeted again.

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Broken Windows Theory of Policing to Reduce Online Crime – 2024

Broken Windows Theory of Policing to Reduce Online Crime

Exploring Ways that Online Platforms Have Neglected Their Users and Not Consistently Enforcement Their Own Rules

Primary Category: Online Criminology

Author:
•  Tim McGuinness, Ph.D. – Anthropologist, Scientist, Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.

About This Article

The “Broken Windows” theory of policing, which emphasizes addressing minor infractions to prevent more serious crime, can be applied to combat online crime by maintaining order in digital spaces.

As online crime has surged in recent years, platforms need to focus on strict enforcement of rules against small offenses like spam, fake accounts, and minor cyber threats to prevent escalation into larger issues like identity theft, phishing, or hacking. By proactively monitoring activity, empowering users to report suspicious behavior, and fostering a secure online environment, platforms can create a culture of accountability.

Swift action against minor misconduct, collaboration with cybersecurity experts, and maintaining visible security measures can help prevent serious cybercrime and establish trust among users.

The Theory of Broken Windows in Policing Can Help With Reduce Online Crime

For the last two and a half decades, we have seen a continuous increase in online crime. The only real reductions took place in 2017 through 2019, but since then it has been growing at 70+% per year.

A theory that sheds some light on this is the ‘Broken Window’ theory of policing.

What is the Broken Windows Theory of Policing?

The “Broken Windows” theory of policing, developed by social scientists James Q. Wilson and George L. Kelling in the early 1980s, suggests that visible signs of disorder and neglect, such as broken windows, graffiti, or public loitering, can lead to an increase in crime. The idea is that if minor issues are not addressed, it creates an environment where more serious crimes are more likely to occur.

Key principles of the theory:

  • Disorder Breeds Crime: Small signs of neglect, like a broken window, signal that no one is taking care of the property or neighborhood. This perceived lack of oversight can encourage further disorder, leading to more serious criminal activity.

  • Prevention Through Maintenance: By addressing minor offenses like vandalism, public intoxication, or fare evasion, police and communities can maintain order and prevent an escalation into more serious crimes. The theory supports the idea that maintaining a well-ordered environment helps prevent crime from taking root.

  • Community Involvement: It also emphasizes the role of community members in keeping neighborhoods safe. When people actively care for and maintain their surroundings, it can create a sense of shared responsibility, discouraging criminal behavior.

Critics of the theory argue that it has sometimes led to over-policing and disproportionately affects marginalized communities. Nonetheless, it has influenced policing strategies like “zero-tolerance” approaches, particularly in cities like New York in the 1990s.

Understanding ‘Broken Windows’ in the Online Space

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Conscientiousness for Scam Victim Recovery Helps Guarantee Success – 2024

Conscientiousness for Scam Victim Recovery Helps Guarantee Success

Conscientiousness in Scam Victim Recovery Makes a World of Difference

Primary Category: Philosophy of Scam Victim Recovery

Author:
•  Tim McGuinness, Ph.D. – Anthropologist, Scientist, Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.

About This Article

Conscientiousness plays a vital role in scam victim recovery by providing structure, discipline, and focus during a time of uncertainty and emotional distress. It involves setting clear goals, organizing daily tasks, and being mindful in decision-making, which helps victims regain control over their lives and rebuild confidence.

By practicing conscientiousness, scam victims can reduce anxiety, create predictability, and develop resilience in the face of emotional and financial challenges. Integrating conscientious habits into daily life—such as financial planning, self-care, and setting relationship boundaries—enables victims to move forward with clarity, stability, and a renewed sense of empowerment.

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The Fear of Being Wrong Keeps Scam Victims Vulnerable – 2024

The Fear of Being Wrong Keeps Scam Victims Vulnerable

The Fear of Being Wrong: How It Becomes a Major Vulnerability to Scams and Continues to Make Scam Victims Vulnerable

Primary Category: Scam Victim Recovery Psychology

Authors:
•  Vianey Gonzalez B.Sc(Psych) – Licensed Psychologist Specialty in Crime Victim Trauma Therapy, Neuropsychologist, Certified Deception Professional, Psychology Advisory Panel & Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.
•  Tim McGuinness, Ph.D. – Anthropologist, Scientist, Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.

About This Article

The fear of being wrong is a powerful psychological force that scammers exploit to manipulate and trap their victims. Rooted in cognitive biases, logical fallacies, defense mechanisms, and psychological schemas, this fear prevents individuals from recognizing red flags or admitting they were deceived, often keeping them engaged with the scam even when evidence suggests otherwise.

Scammers use this fear to their advantage, creating emotional dependence and reinforcing the victim’s need to feel right. To recover and protect themselves from future scams, victims must confront and overcome this fear by embracing self-awareness, humility, and the ability to learn from mistakes. Acknowledging that being wrong is part of the human experience is key to breaking free from deception and reclaiming emotional and psychological autonomy.

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Dostoevsky’s Views on Pain and Suffering and Their Impact on Scam Victims – 2024

Dostoevsky’s Views on Pain and Suffering and Their Impact on Scam Victims

From Suffering to Strength: Dostoevsky’s Insights on Healing and Growth for Scam Victims

Primary Category: Philosophy of Scam Victim Recovery

Author:
•  Tim McGuinness, Ph.D. – Anthropologist, Scientist, Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.

About This Article

Fyodor Dostoevsky’s philosophy of suffering, morality, and faith offers a powerful framework for scam victims seeking recovery and personal growth. He viewed suffering as an essential part of the human condition, one that can lead to self-discovery, redemption, and transformation.

For victims of scams, this perspective provides a way to reframe their trauma as an opportunity for emotional and moral growth. By embracing the pain of loss and betrayal, and focusing on inner resilience rather than external material attachments, scam victims can embark on a journey toward healing and greater self-awareness, ultimately achieving post-traumatic growth.

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Game Theory and Online Scams – 2024

Game Theory and Online Scams

Understanding and Reducing the Risks of Online and Phones Scams

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Primary Category: Mechanics of Scams

Author:
•  Tim McGuinness, Ph.D. – Anthropologist, Scientist, Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.

About This Article

Game theory provides valuable insights into the strategies used by both scammers and potential victims in online scams.

Scammers manipulate their targets through urgency, deception, and emotional exploitation to maximize their gains. Victims, on the other hand, are in a position of uncertainty and must decide whether the situation is legitimate or fraudulent. By applying game theory principles, victims can develop strategies such as increasing skepticism, verifying information, delaying decisions, and focusing on long-term risks rather than short-term gains.

This approach helps individuals better navigate the strategic “game” of online scams, reducing their vulnerability to fraud.

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Disinformation, Spam, and Scams are Making People More Susceptible to Scams – 2024

Disinformation, Spam, and Scams are Making People More Susceptible to Scams

The Impact of Disinformation, Spam, and Scam on Scam Victim Vulnerability to Scams: How Disinformation Overload Numbs the Mind to Real Dangers

Primary Category: Psychology of Scams

Author:
•  Tim McGuinness, Ph.D. – Anthropologist, Scientist, Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.

About This Article

The constant bombardment of disinformation and information overload can numb individuals’ awareness to real dangers, such as scams and fraud. With the overwhelming amount of content we face daily, our ability to critically evaluate and process important information diminishes. Disinformation, like spam, confuses and desensitizes us, often leading to cognitive fatigue, reduced attention, and emotional manipulation.

This leaves individuals more vulnerable to scams, as they struggle to discern truth from deception amidst the clutter. Critical thinking, careful evaluation, and mindful information consumption are key defenses against this disorienting environment, helping people regain focus and protect themselves from fraudulent schemes.

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Arthur Schopenhauer ‘The Pain of Life’ – Understanding a Philosophical View of Suffering – 2024

Arthur Schopenhauer ‘The Pain of Life’ – Understanding a Philosophical View of Suffering

Arthur Schopenhauer’s View on Attachment and Suffering and How It Applies to Scam Victims

Primary Category: Philosophy of Scam Victim Recovery

Author:
•  Tim McGuinness, Ph.D. – Anthropologist, Scientist, Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.

About This Article

Arthur Schopenhauer’s philosophy on attachment and suffering can offer valuable insights for scam victims dealing with emotional trauma. He believed that human suffering is rooted in attachments to desires, people, or material things, which are inherently impermanent.

For scam victims, emotional recovery involves recognizing that their attachment to the illusion of what was lost—whether money, relationships, or trust—is the source of their suffering. By accepting life’s impermanence, practicing detachment, and focusing inward, victims can find emotional freedom and begin healing from the trauma of their experience.

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Becoming Formidable Through Recovery for Scam Victims – 2024

Becoming Formidable Through Recovery for Scam Victims

A Guide for Scam Victims: Becoming Formidable After Trauma – Traumatic Growth

Primary Category: Scam Victim Recovery Psychology

Author:
•  Tim McGuinness, Ph.D. – Anthropologist, Scientist, Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.

About This Article

Scam victims, often grappling with deep emotional trauma, can rebuild their lives and become formidable through psychological recovery. Drawing on teachings like those of Jordan Peterson, victims can choose either to remain weak and damaged or to rise above their pain.

By embracing responsibility for their healing, rebuilding self-confidence, practicing emotional intelligence, and learning persistence, victims can transform their suffering into personal strength. Through facing fears, developing self-discipline, and continuing to grow, scam victims can turn their traumatic experience into a catalyst for powerful personal development.

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Price’s Law and Scam Fraud & Cybercrime Awareness Education – 2024

Price’s Law and Scam Fraud & Cybercrime Awareness Education

Applying Price’s Law to Scam Awareness: Why Anti-Scam Education Often Fails

Primary Category: Advocacy and Policy

Authors:
•  Vianey Gonzalez B.Sc(Psych) – Licensed Psychologist Specialty in Crime Victim Trauma Therapy, Neuropsychologist, Certified Deception Professional, Psychology Advisory Panel & Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.
•  Tim McGuinness, Ph.D. – Anthropologist, Scientist, Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.

About This Article

While Price’s Law highlights the limitations of broad anti-scam awareness campaigns, understanding this phenomenon can help refine and improve educational efforts.

By focusing on the highly engaged minority and creating more targeted, compelling content, organizations can increase the chances of success in their fight against scams and fraud. Though the majority may not engage meaningfully, leveraging the power of the informed few can drive significant change.

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Statement About Professional Care for Scam Victims – 2024

Statement About Professional Care for Scam Victims

Understanding the Need for Specialized Professional Care for Scam Victims

Primary Category: Scam Victim Recovery Psychology

Authors:
•  Vianey Gonzalez B.Sc(Psych) – Licensed Psychologist Specialty in Crime Victim Trauma Therapy, Neuropsychologist, Certified Deception Professional, Psychology Advisory Panel & Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.
•  Tim McGuinness, Ph.D. – Anthropologist, Scientist, Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.

About This Article

When forming opinions, especially on complex subjects like scam victimization and psychological trauma, it’s essential to rely on actual knowledge and experience. Understanding the neuropsychological impacts, such as how the brain’s response to scams mimics addiction, provides valuable insights into why victims struggle emotionally.

Generalized knowledge or misconceptions can mislead both victims and professionals, hindering recovery. By seeking specialized knowledge, particularly from trauma-informed professionals, victims can receive more effective support and achieve better outcomes in their healing process. Accurate, informed perspectives are key to proper recovery.

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Scam Victims Pain and Suffering – Sailing the 8 Worldly Winds – 2024

Scam Victims’ Pain and Suffering – Sailing the 8 Worldly Winds

A Guide for Scam Victims to Sail the 8 Worldly Winds: Through Pain and Suffering, Trauma and Grief, and Recovery

Primary Category: Philosophy of Scam Victim Recovery

Author:
•  Tim McGuinness, Ph.D. – Anthropologist, Scientist, Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.

About This Article

Viewing life through the lens of the 8 Worldly Winds—gain and loss, pleasure and pain, praise and blame, fame and disrepute—helps individuals, particularly scam victims, navigate emotional turmoil by recognizing the transient nature of experiences.

By understanding that both positive and negative events are impermanent, victims can cultivate emotional resilience, detach from extremes, and find peace. This perspective encourages mindful acceptance of life’s fluctuations, promoting healing and personal growth.

Scam victims can use this framework to manage suffering, regain self-worth, and rebuild their emotional balance.

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