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Scam Victims and the In-between Place of Liminality While Struggling for Recovery – 2024

Scam Victims and the Land of Limen – the In-between Place of Liminality While Struggling to Recover

Limen and Liminality in the Journey of Scam Victims: Navigating the Space Between Trauma and Recovery

Note that this article is intended for scam victims-survivors, families, and advocates

Primary Category: Scam Victim Recovery Philosophy

Author:
•  Tim McGuinness, Ph.D. – Anthropologist, Scientist, Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.

About This Article

Limen and liminality, concepts of thresholds and transitional spaces, provide a powerful framework for understanding emotional upheavals and life transitions. During difficult times, individuals often find themselves in a liminal state—no longer tied to their old identity but not yet grounded in a new one.

This space, while disorienting, offers profound potential for growth, reflection, and transformation. A sense of place, whether physical or symbolic, becomes essential, anchoring individuals as they navigate uncertainty. By embracing these in-between moments and recognizing them as part of the human experience, people can transform adversity into resilience, turning transitions into opportunities for renewal and self-discovery.

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Continuing Communicating with the Scammers Part 2 – Stop That! – 2024

Continuing Communicating with the Scammers Part 2 – Stop That

Making the Case Why Continuing to Talk to Scammers After Discovery is a Bad Idea – Morally, Ethically, and Psychologically for Scam Victims

Part 2 : Part 1

Primary Category: Psychology of Scams

Author:
•  Tim McGuinness, Ph.D. – Anthropologist, Scientist, Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.

About This Article

Continuing to communicate with scammers after discovering their deception poses significant risks that extend far beyond the initial scam. This article delves into the psychological, ethical, and practical implications of such engagement, emphasizing the harm it causes to victims and the broader societal impact. Victims may believe they are regaining control or seeking closure, but prolonged interaction often deepens emotional entanglement, erodes critical thinking, and reinforces trauma. Furthermore, continuing to engage with scammers can inadvertently enable their operations by providing feedback that helps refine their tactics, posing risks to future victims.

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Continuing Communicating with the Scammers Part 1 – Why Would Scam Victims Do That? – 2024

Continuing Communicating with the Scammers Part 1 – Why Would Scam Victims Do That?

Making the Case Why Continuing to Talk to Scammers After Discovery is a Bad Idea – Morally, Ethically, and Psychologically for Scam Victims

Part 1 : Part 2

Primary Category: Psychology of Scams

Author:
•  Tim McGuinness, Ph.D. – Anthropologist, Scientist, Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.

About This Article

Continuing to communicate with scammers after discovering their deceit is fraught with psychological, ethical, and emotional risks, as this article meticulously outlines. While the initial reaction to engage further—whether driven by curiosity, anger, or a desire for closure—may seem rational, the consequences are often deeply damaging. Victims may unwittingly perpetuate their own emotional entanglement, enabling the scammer’s tactics and delaying their recovery.

Through a detailed exploration of psychological mechanisms such as trauma bonding, cognitive dissonance, and the mere exposure effect, this analysis demonstrates how even savvy individuals can fall prey to deeper manipulation. Ethical questions also come to the forefront, challenging the justification of revenge-driven interactions or attempts to “outsmart” the scammer.

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Limit Situations and their Effect on Scam Victims-Survivors – 2024

Limit Situations and their Effect on Scam Victims-Survivors

Facing the Edge: Understanding Limit Situations in the Journey of Scam Victim-Survivors

Primary Category: Scam Victim Recovery Philosophy

Author:
•  Tim McGuinness, Ph.D. – Anthropologist, Scientist, Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.
•  Based on the Work of Kark Jaspers

About This Article

Karl Jaspers’ concept of “limit situations” offers valuable insight for scam victim-survivors, framing their experiences not as personal failures but as encounters with universal human vulnerabilities—such as trust, loss, and betrayal. Limit situations are unavoidable boundary experiences that confront individuals with fundamental limitations beyond their control, forcing them to grapple with existential questions about trust, resilience, and self-worth.

For scam victims, understanding their trauma as a limit situation can shift their focus from self-blame to self-compassion, recognizing that vulnerability to deception is a shared human quality. This perspective empowers survivors to reframe the scam experience as a catalyst for growth, resilience, and deeper self-awareness, helping them to move forward with a renewed sense of control and purpose.

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Perfectionism Can Destroy a Scam Victim’s Recovery – 2024

Perfectionism Can Destroy a Scam Victim’s Recovery

Perfectionism: A Hidden Trap for Scam Victims Seeking Recovery

Primary Category: Scam Victims Recovery Psychology

Authors:
•  Vianey Gonzalez B.Sc(Psych) – Licensed Psychologist Specialty in Crime Victim Trauma Therapy, Neuropsychologist, Certified Deception Professional, Psychology Advisory Panel & Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.
•  Tim McGuinness, Ph.D. – Anthropologist, Scientist, Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.

About This Article

Perfectionism can become a significant barrier for scam victims trying to recover. After a scam, victims often feel an intense need to regain control, leading them to seek “perfection” in every recovery step—whether reporting the crime, joining support programs, or starting therapy.

This drive, however, keeps them trapped in endless cycles of hesitation and self-doubt, as perfection is both unattainable and unnecessary in these contexts. The demand for flawless actions delays healing and compounds stress, reinforcing feelings of inadequacy. True recovery starts when victims embrace imperfection, taking small, imperfect steps forward.

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Quick Guide to Scam Victims’ Grief – 2024

Quick Guide to Scam Victims’ Grief

SCARS Institute’s Quick Guide to Surviving Scam Victims’ Grief After a Relationship Scam

Primary Category: Scam Victims Recovery Psychology

Authors:
•  Vianey Gonzalez B.Sc(Psych) – Licensed Psychologist Specialty in Crime Victim Trauma Therapy, Neuropsychologist, Certified Deception Professional, Psychology Advisory Panel & Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.
•  Tim McGuinness, Ph.D. – Anthropologist, Scientist, Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.

About This Article

Healing from a relationship scam involves acknowledging and processing the complex grief that follows such a betrayal. It’s crucial to validate your emotions, understand the tactics used against you, and release any self-blame.

Taking small, achievable steps—like journaling, setting daily goals, and seeking social support—helps build resilience and foster self-trust. Rediscovering personal interests and considering professional counseling can aid in coping with the emotional aftermath. Ultimately, by reframing the experience as an opportunity for growth, you can gradually rebuild your identity, find new meaning, and move forward with renewed strength and confidence.

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The Bouba-Kiki Effect and the Psychology of Scam Victims – 2024

The Bouba-Kiki Effect and the Psychology of Scam Victims

Subtitle

Primary Category: Psychology of Scams

Author:
•  Tim McGuinness, Ph.D. – Anthropologist, Scientist, Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.

About This Article

The Bouba-Kiki effect, a phenomenon where people instinctively associate certain sounds and shapes with specific emotions, offers insight into the subtle biases that can make individuals more vulnerable to scams. Scammers leverage this natural bias by using “soft” language, friendly tones, and comforting visuals, similar to the round, gentle sounds of “Bouba.”

These cues foster a false sense of safety and trust, often leading victims to let their guard down. Throughout the scam process, these associations shape how victims perceive the scammer’s intentions, respond emotionally, and overlook red flags. Even after discovering the scam, victims may struggle with cognitive dissonance as they try to reconcile their initial feelings of trust with the reality of betrayal.

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Chatbots ARE a Relationship Scam – Chatbot Part 5 – 2024

Chatbots ARE a Relationship Scam

Chatbots as the New “Relationship Scam”: How AI Companions Manipulate Users for Profit

Chatbots Part 5 :: Part 1 : 2 : 3 : 4 : 5

Primary Category: Artificial Intelligence

Authors:
•  Vianey Gonzalez B.Sc(Psych) – Licensed Psychologist Specialty in Crime Victim Trauma Therapy, Neuropsychologist, Certified Deception Professional, Psychology Advisory Panel & Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.
•  Tim McGuinness, Ph.D. – Anthropologist, Scientist, Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.
•  Portions from Third-Party Sources

About This Article

The rise of AI-driven chatbots like Character.AI and Replika has given users a new type of “digital companion” marketed as a source of emotional support, but the dynamics at play resemble those of a “relationship scam.” Through deliberate psychological manipulation and addictive design, these platforms foster emotional dependence, compelling users to form deep attachments to the chatbot.

Just as romance scammers use neuropsychological tactics to lure victims into financially supportive relationships, AI chatbots leverage reward-based, personalized responses to create a dependency that keeps users engaged, often transitioning them into paying subscribers. This dependency taps into powerful brain mechanisms, releasing dopamine and oxytocin, making the interaction addictive and sometimes coercive, potentially harming users’ mental health and financial stability.

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The Case Against Character.AI Chatbot and the Terrible Death of a 14 year old Boy – Chatbots Part 4 – 2024

The Case Against Character.AI Chatbot and the Terrible Death of a 14-Year-Old Boy

Lawsuit Alleges Negligence and Wrongful Death Due to Emotional Manipulation by AI Chatbot: Mother Sues Character.AI and Google Over Her Son’s Suicide – the Lawsuit is Brought by Megan Garcia on Behalf of Her Late Son Sewell Setzer II

Chatbots Part 4 :: Part 1 : 2 : 3 : 4 : 5

Primary Category: Artificial Intelligence

Author:
•  Tim McGuinness, Ph.D. – Anthropologist, Scientist, Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.
•  Portions by the Attorney’s for Megan Garcia

About This Article

The lawsuit, filed by Megan Garcia on behalf of her deceased son Sewell Setzer III, brings forth claims against Character Technologies, Inc. (the creator of Character.AI), its founders, and Google LLC for wrongful death, negligence, product liability, and emotional distress. The suit argues that the generative AI chatbot platform, Character.AI, was developed and marketed with inadequate safety controls and actively targeted vulnerable minors, including Sewell, who was 14 at the time.

The plaintiff alleges that Character.AI’s design encouraged addictive, anthropomorphic interactions with AI “characters” that could manipulate users emotionally, even engaging in inappropriate and harmful conversations with Sewell, ultimately leading to his mental health decline and suicide.

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Symbols in Our Minds – Icons, Symbols, and Logos Trigger Automatic Responses in Scam Victims – 2024

Symbols in Our Minds – Icons, Symbols, and Logos Trigger Automatic Responses in Scam Victims

The Symbols of our Time: Symbols, Icons, and Logos Have a Deep Connection with our Minds Especially Important for Scam Victims

Primary Category: Psychology of Scams

Author:
•  Tim McGuinness, Ph.D. – Anthropologist, Scientist, Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.

About This Article

Understanding symbols and their use in the context of scams is crucial for scam victims because it can reveal the psychological strategies that scammers employ to manipulate trust and exploit emotions. Symbols, logos, and icons are powerful visual cues that influence how the brain processes information, often bypassing logical thinking to trigger instinctual or emotional responses.

Scammers leverage this by mimicking trusted symbols from legitimate institutions, using familiar logos, security badges, or even simple color choices to make their schemes appear credible and urgent.

For victims, recognizing these visual manipulations can help them critically assess the legitimacy of emails, websites, and documents, thereby reducing susceptibility to fraud.

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For Family & Friends of Scam Victims: Unintentional Toxic Comments to Avoid – 2024

Unintentional Toxic Comments to Avoid

The Unintentionally Toxic Comments that Friends and Family, and Advocates Make that are Toxic for Scam Victims-Survivors and That Should Be Avoided

FOR ADVOCATES, FRIENDS, AND FAMILY OF SCAM VICTIMS

Primary Category: Scam Victim Recovery Psychology

Author:
•  Vianey Gonzalez B.Sc(Psych) – Licensed Psychologist Specialty in Crime Victim Trauma Therapy, Neuropsychologist, Certified Deception Professional, Psychology Advisory Panel & Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.
•  Tim McGuinness, Ph.D. – Anthropologist, Scientist, Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.

About This Article

Supporting scam victims through recovery requires sensitivity and an awareness of how certain comments can be unintentionally harmful. Statements that blame, minimize, or dismiss their experience can amplify feelings of shame, guilt, and isolation, often deepening their emotional wounds.

Phrases like “You should have known better” or “Just move on” imply a lack of understanding and invalidate their pain, making them feel as though their trauma is unworthy of compassion or attention. Overly simplistic advice, such as “Stay positive” or “Forgive and forget,” minimizes the complex emotional journey of healing, while comparison with others’ experiences can make victims feel insignificant.

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For Advocates: Using Forthright Confrontation to Support Scam Victims – 2024

For Advocates: Using Forthright Confrontation to Support Scam Victims

Forthright Confrontation is a Communication Method Victims’ Services Providers and Advocates can use to Support Traumatized Scam Victims

Primary Category: Scam Victim Recovery Psychology

Author:
•  Tim McGuinness, Ph.D. – Anthropologist, Scientist, Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.
•  Portions based on the work by Dr. Jordan B. Peterson

About This Article

Forthright confrontation is a direct communication strategy that allows victims’ service providers and advocates to address difficult issues head-on, while still maintaining empathy and support.

This approach, emphasized by figures like Jordan B. Peterson, helps scam victims confront feelings of shame, guilt, or denial by clearly presenting the reality of their situation without avoiding tough conversations.

It encourages victims to face the trauma they’ve experienced, acknowledge it, and take active steps toward recovery. When used with care, forthright confrontation empowers victims to reclaim control over their lives by breaking through emotional barriers and fostering personal growth.

Forthright Confrontation is a Communication Method Victims’ Services Providers and Advocates can use to Support Traumatized Scam Victims

What is Forthright Confrontation?

Forthright confrontation is a communication strategy where someone addresses an issue, concern, or conflict in a direct, honest, and assertive manner.

The goal is to clearly present the problem or point of disagreement without sugarcoating or avoiding the issue while maintaining respect and fairness in the conversation. This approach emphasizes openness, transparency, and taking responsibility for one’s feelings and perspectives while encouraging the other party to do the same. It has been promoted by Dr. Jordan B. Perterson.

In forthright confrontation, the person engaging in this style of communication aims to resolve a conflict or clarify misunderstandings by bringing the issue to the forefront, ensuring that it is addressed and not ignored or swept under the rug. It is often used in conflict resolution, therapy, leadership, or personal relationships to promote honesty and foster a solution-oriented environment. In this way, it is an important part of the ‘exposure’ process to help scam victims-survivors face their issues head-on.

While forthright confrontation can be effective in resolving issues, it requires careful handling to avoid coming across as aggressive or insensitive. The key is balancing directness with empathy, ensuring that the conversation remains constructive.

Using Forthright Confrontation

Using forthright confrontation to support traumatized scam victims can be a delicate but effective approach when handled with care and empathy. Here’s how it can be applied:

Establish Trust and Empathy

Before engaging in forthright confrontation, it’s crucial to build a foundation of trust. Scam victims often feel shame, guilt, or isolation due to the nature of the exploitation. Ensure that they feel understood and supported. This includes affirming their experience and emotions without judgment.

Example:

“I know that what you went through was incredibly painful, and it’s understandable to feel angry or ashamed. It’s important to address these feelings openly, and I’m here to support you.”

Clearly & Directly Address the Issue

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Chatbots a New Evolution – Are They Romance Scams in Another Form? Part 2 – 2024

Chatbots a New Evolution – Are They Romance Scams in Another Form?

Chatbots: The Evolution, Capabilities, and Risks – But Are They Really Just a New Form of Romance Scam?

The Second Article in our Series About the Dangers of Chatbots

Chatbots Part 2 :: Part 1 : 2 : 3 : 4 : 5

Primary Category: Artificial Intelligence

Author:
•  Tim McGuinness, Ph.D. – Anthropologist, Scientist, Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.

About This Article

The tragic case of a 14-year-old’s suicide after interacting with the Character.ai chatbot has raised serious concerns about the potential for AI chatbots to cause severe emotional distress.

These chatbots, while designed to simulate human empathy, lack the ethical and emotional understanding necessary to handle complex emotional states. This creates a dangerous feedback loop where vulnerable users, particularly those experiencing mental health challenges, may receive responses that validate or amplify harmful thoughts, rather than offering real support.

The incident underscores the need for stronger ethical guidelines, proper oversight, and built-in safeguards to protect users from such potentially dangerous interactions.

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ChatBots and the Extreme Psychological Dangers Associated With Them – 2024

ChatBots and the Extreme Psychological Dangers Associated With Them

The Psychological Dangers of Interacting with AI-Powered Chatbots: Projection, Transference, and Emotional Attachment

Including an Overview and Analysis by the SCARS Institute Exposing Extreme Dangers and Ethical Concerns of Chatbots such as Character.AI

Chatbots Part 1 :: Part 1 : 2 : 3 : 4 : 5

Primary Category: Artificial Intelligence

Author:
•  Tim McGuinness, Ph.D. – Anthropologist, Scientist, Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.
•  Vianey Gonzalez B.Sc(Psych) – Licensed Psychologist Specialty in Crime Victim Trauma Therapy, Neuropsychologist, Certified Deception Professional, Psychology Advisory Panel & Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.
•  With the Assistance of other Artificial Intelligence

About This Article

As AI chatbots become more integrated into daily life, their utility often blurs the line between functional assistance and emotional engagement. While they offer convenience and valuable support for tasks, they also pose significant psychological risks, particularly for vulnerable individuals like scam victims in recovery, teens, or those facing emotional isolation.

Emotional dangers arise when users project their feelings onto chatbots, forming one-sided attachments based on the illusion of empathy and care. This dependency can distort reality, leading users to rely on chatbots for emotional validation rather than seeking real human connections. Given that chatbots lack genuine emotional intelligence or ethical guidance, their responses may inadvertently reinforce unhealthy emotional patterns, delaying true recovery and personal growth.

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Secondary-Gaslighting and the Effect it has on Scam Victims’ Recovery – 2024

Secondary-Gaslighting and the Effect it has on Scam Victims

Secondary Gaslighting: How Families and Friends Can Create a Hidden Barrier for Scam Victims’ Recovery

Primary Category: Scam Victim Recovery Psychology

Authors:
•  Vianey Gonzalez B.Sc(Psych) – Licensed Psychologist Specialty in Crime Victim Trauma Therapy, Neuropsychologist, Certified Deception Professional, Psychology Advisory Panel & Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.
•  Tim McGuinness, Ph.D. – Anthropologist, Scientist, Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.

About This Article

Secondary gaslighting occurs when a scam victim’s experiences are invalidated or dismissed by family or friends after they’ve already been manipulated by scammers.

In the context of scam victims, this can manifest as loved ones minimizing the trauma, blaming the victim, or questioning their feelings. This further damages the victim’s emotional recovery, leading to isolation, prolonged trauma, and erosion of self-esteem.

Avoiding secondary gaslighting involves active listening, empathy, avoiding blame, and encouraging professional help to ensure a supportive environment for healing.

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Scammer Control Mechanisms – Dominance and Manipulation of Scam Victims – 2024

Scammer Control Mechanisms – Dominance and Manipulation of Scam Victims

How Scammers Maintain Control Over Their Scam Victims: Tactics, Control & Dominance – Monitoring Mechanisms, and Psychological Effects

Primary Category: Psychology of Scams

Authors:
•  Vianey Gonzalez B.Sc(Psych) – Licensed Psychologist Specialty in Crime Victim Trauma Therapy, Neuropsychologist, Certified Deception Professional, Psychology Advisory Panel & Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.
•  Tim McGuinness, Ph.D. – Anthropologist, Scientist, Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.

About This Article

Scammers exert control over their victims using various psychological manipulation tactics, including monitoring online activity, requesting personal photos and screenshots, gaslighting, and creating fake crises. These techniques are designed to keep victims compliant, confused, and emotionally dependent. Victims often experience heightened anxiety, emotional exhaustion, and eroded self-esteem due to the continuous control and monitoring.

The scammers’ demands and manipulations mirror tactics used by narcissistic abusers, such as isolation, reality distortion, and undermining the victim’s sense of autonomy. Families and friends can play a crucial role in helping victims break free by offering empathetic support, avoiding judgment, and guiding them towards resources and counseling.

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The ‘4 SEEN’ Questions to Reduce Emotional Triggers – 2024

The ‘4 SEEN’ Questions to Reduce Emotional Triggers

The 4 SEEN Questions: A Guide for Scam Victims to Manage Emotional Triggers During Recovery

Primary Category: Scam Victim Recovery Psychology

Authors:
•  Vianey Gonzalez B.Sc(Psych) – Licensed Psychologist Specialty in Crime Victim Trauma Therapy, Neuropsychologist, Certified Deception Professional, Psychology Advisory Panel & Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.
•  Tim McGuinness, Ph.D. – Anthropologist, Scientist, Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.

About This Article

The “4 SEEN” questions—Is it SAFE? Is it EXPECTED? Is it ESSENTIAL? Is it NECESSARY NOW?—offer a practical framework for scam victims to manage emotional triggers and regain control during their recovery process.

These questions help individuals assess their emotional responses, reducing unnecessary anxiety and guiding them toward calmer, more rational reactions. By asking if a situation is safe or expected, victims can differentiate between real threats and lingering trauma-induced fears. Evaluating whether emotional reactions are essential or need immediate attention helps victims avoid being overwhelmed by past feelings of shame, guilt, or anger.

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Subliminal Messaging and Scams – A Deeper Look – 2024

Subliminal Messaging and Scams – A Deeper Look

How Scammer’s Subliminal Messaging Works on the Brain of Scam Victims: An In-Depth Exploration

Part 2 of a 2-Part Series – Part 1 is on RomanceScamsNOW.com

Primary Category: Psychology of Scams

Authors:
•  Vianey Gonzalez B.Sc(Psych) – Licensed Psychologist Specialty in Crime Victim Trauma Therapy, Neuropsychologist, Certified Deception Professional, Psychology Advisory Panel & Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.
•  Tim McGuinness, Ph.D. – Anthropologist, Scientist, Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.

About This Article

Subliminal messaging works by presenting stimuli—whether visual or auditory—that are below the threshold of conscious awareness, meaning they are perceived subconsciously. The brain processes these inputs using sensory systems like the visual and auditory cortices, while regions such as the amygdala and hippocampus handle emotional responses and memory integration.

These subliminal messages can influence thoughts, emotions, and behaviors by activating existing associations or “priming” the brain for specific actions. Scammers use these techniques to manipulate victims in relationship scams, embedding subtle emotional triggers in their communication to deepen control.

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Scam Victims-Survivors: Stop Consuming Artificial Sweeteners NOW for Your Trauma and Brain! – 2024

Scam Victims-Survivors: Stop Consuming Artificial Sweeteners NOW for Your Trauma and Brain!

The Role of Glucose in Brain Function and the Impact of Artificial Sweeteners on Individuals with Trauma such as Scam Victims-Survivors

Primary Category: Scam Victim Recovery

Authors:
•  Vianey Gonzalez B.Sc(Psych) – Licensed Psychologist Specialty in Crime Victim Trauma Therapy, Neuropsychologist, Certified Deception Professional, Psychology Advisory Panel & Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.
•  Tim McGuinness, Ph.D. – Anthropologist, Scientist, Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.

About This Article

Glucose is essential for proper brain function, particularly in supporting cognitive tasks like memory, attention, and decision-making. For individuals recovering from trauma, such as scam victims-survivors, the brain’s need for glucose becomes even more critical.

Artificial sweeteners, often used to replace sugar, fail to provide the necessary energy the brain requires, potentially exacerbating cognitive and emotional difficulties. Studies also indicate that artificial sweeteners can interfere with the brain’s reward system, contributing to mood fluctuations, impaired memory, and increased cravings, which can worsen the effects of trauma. For trauma survivors, it’s important to prioritize a balanced diet with natural glucose sources to support mental health and cognitive function while being cautious of the potential negative impacts of artificial sweeteners.

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5 Simple Ways for Scam Victims-Survivors to Avoid Common Thinking (Decision-Making) Errors During Scam Recovery – 2024

5 Simple Ways for Scam Victims-Survivors to Avoid Common Thinking Errors During Scam Recovery

Helping Scam Victims-Survivors Control Their Decision Making and Biases

Primary Category:

Authors:
•  Vianey Gonzalez B.Sc(Psych) – Licensed Psychologist Specialty in Crime Victim Trauma Therapy, Neuropsychologist, Certified Deception Professional, Psychology Advisory Panel & Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.
•  Tim McGuinness, Ph.D. – Anthropologist, Scientist, Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.

About This Article

Recovering from a scam is a challenging process that often involves addressing thinking errors that can impede decision-making and emotional recovery. Scam victims may fall into common traps such as cognitive biases, emotional reasoning, overconfidence, and all-or-nothing thinking, which can cloud judgment and hinder progress.

Additionally, biases like hindsight and memory distortion can lead to excessive guilt, while ignoring the role of randomness may cause victims to overanalyze events. Victims may also struggle with attributional bias, either taking too much or too little blame. To move forward, it’s important to recognize these thinking errors, seek objective feedback, and practice self-awareness.

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Conscientiousness for Scam Victim Recovery Helps Guarantee Success – 2024

Conscientiousness for Scam Victim Recovery Helps Guarantee Success

Conscientiousness in Scam Victim Recovery Makes a World of Difference

Primary Category: Philosophy of Scam Victim Recovery

Author:
•  Tim McGuinness, Ph.D. – Anthropologist, Scientist, Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.

About This Article

Conscientiousness plays a vital role in scam victim recovery by providing structure, discipline, and focus during a time of uncertainty and emotional distress. It involves setting clear goals, organizing daily tasks, and being mindful in decision-making, which helps victims regain control over their lives and rebuild confidence.

By practicing conscientiousness, scam victims can reduce anxiety, create predictability, and develop resilience in the face of emotional and financial challenges. Integrating conscientious habits into daily life—such as financial planning, self-care, and setting relationship boundaries—enables victims to move forward with clarity, stability, and a renewed sense of empowerment.

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The Fear of Being Wrong Keeps Scam Victims Vulnerable – 2024

The Fear of Being Wrong Keeps Scam Victims Vulnerable

The Fear of Being Wrong: How It Becomes a Major Vulnerability to Scams and Continues to Make Scam Victims Vulnerable

Primary Category: Scam Victim Recovery Psychology

Authors:
•  Vianey Gonzalez B.Sc(Psych) – Licensed Psychologist Specialty in Crime Victim Trauma Therapy, Neuropsychologist, Certified Deception Professional, Psychology Advisory Panel & Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.
•  Tim McGuinness, Ph.D. – Anthropologist, Scientist, Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.

About This Article

The fear of being wrong is a powerful psychological force that scammers exploit to manipulate and trap their victims. Rooted in cognitive biases, logical fallacies, defense mechanisms, and psychological schemas, this fear prevents individuals from recognizing red flags or admitting they were deceived, often keeping them engaged with the scam even when evidence suggests otherwise.

Scammers use this fear to their advantage, creating emotional dependence and reinforcing the victim’s need to feel right. To recover and protect themselves from future scams, victims must confront and overcome this fear by embracing self-awareness, humility, and the ability to learn from mistakes. Acknowledging that being wrong is part of the human experience is key to breaking free from deception and reclaiming emotional and psychological autonomy.

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Dostoevsky’s Views on Pain and Suffering and Their Impact on Scam Victims – 2024

Dostoevsky’s Views on Pain and Suffering and Their Impact on Scam Victims

From Suffering to Strength: Dostoevsky’s Insights on Healing and Growth for Scam Victims

Primary Category: Philosophy of Scam Victim Recovery

Author:
•  Tim McGuinness, Ph.D. – Anthropologist, Scientist, Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.

About This Article

Fyodor Dostoevsky’s philosophy of suffering, morality, and faith offers a powerful framework for scam victims seeking recovery and personal growth. He viewed suffering as an essential part of the human condition, one that can lead to self-discovery, redemption, and transformation.

For victims of scams, this perspective provides a way to reframe their trauma as an opportunity for emotional and moral growth. By embracing the pain of loss and betrayal, and focusing on inner resilience rather than external material attachments, scam victims can embark on a journey toward healing and greater self-awareness, ultimately achieving post-traumatic growth.

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Disinformation, Spam, and Scams are Making People More Susceptible to Scams – 2024

Disinformation, Spam, and Scams are Making People More Susceptible to Scams

The Impact of Disinformation, Spam, and Scam on Scam Victim Vulnerability to Scams: How Disinformation Overload Numbs the Mind to Real Dangers

Primary Category: Psychology of Scams

Author:
•  Tim McGuinness, Ph.D. – Anthropologist, Scientist, Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.

About This Article

The constant bombardment of disinformation and information overload can numb individuals’ awareness to real dangers, such as scams and fraud. With the overwhelming amount of content we face daily, our ability to critically evaluate and process important information diminishes. Disinformation, like spam, confuses and desensitizes us, often leading to cognitive fatigue, reduced attention, and emotional manipulation.

This leaves individuals more vulnerable to scams, as they struggle to discern truth from deception amidst the clutter. Critical thinking, careful evaluation, and mindful information consumption are key defenses against this disorienting environment, helping people regain focus and protect themselves from fraudulent schemes.

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Arthur Schopenhauer ‘The Pain of Life’ – Understanding a Philosophical View of Suffering – 2024

Arthur Schopenhauer ‘The Pain of Life’ – Understanding a Philosophical View of Suffering

Arthur Schopenhauer’s View on Attachment and Suffering and How It Applies to Scam Victims

Primary Category: Philosophy of Scam Victim Recovery

Author:
•  Tim McGuinness, Ph.D. – Anthropologist, Scientist, Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.

About This Article

Arthur Schopenhauer’s philosophy on attachment and suffering can offer valuable insights for scam victims dealing with emotional trauma. He believed that human suffering is rooted in attachments to desires, people, or material things, which are inherently impermanent.

For scam victims, emotional recovery involves recognizing that their attachment to the illusion of what was lost—whether money, relationships, or trust—is the source of their suffering. By accepting life’s impermanence, practicing detachment, and focusing inward, victims can find emotional freedom and begin healing from the trauma of their experience.

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Becoming Formidable Through Recovery for Scam Victims – 2024

Becoming Formidable Through Recovery for Scam Victims

A Guide for Scam Victims: Becoming Formidable After Trauma – Traumatic Growth

Primary Category: Scam Victim Recovery Psychology

Author:
•  Tim McGuinness, Ph.D. – Anthropologist, Scientist, Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.

About This Article

Scam victims, often grappling with deep emotional trauma, can rebuild their lives and become formidable through psychological recovery. Drawing on teachings like those of Jordan Peterson, victims can choose either to remain weak and damaged or to rise above their pain.

By embracing responsibility for their healing, rebuilding self-confidence, practicing emotional intelligence, and learning persistence, victims can transform their suffering into personal strength. Through facing fears, developing self-discipline, and continuing to grow, scam victims can turn their traumatic experience into a catalyst for powerful personal development.

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Price’s Law and Scam Fraud & Cybercrime Awareness Education – 2024

Price’s Law and Scam Fraud & Cybercrime Awareness Education

Applying Price’s Law to Scam Awareness: Why Anti-Scam Education Often Fails

Primary Category: Advocacy and Policy

Authors:
•  Vianey Gonzalez B.Sc(Psych) – Licensed Psychologist Specialty in Crime Victim Trauma Therapy, Neuropsychologist, Certified Deception Professional, Psychology Advisory Panel & Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.
•  Tim McGuinness, Ph.D. – Anthropologist, Scientist, Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.

About This Article

While Price’s Law highlights the limitations of broad anti-scam awareness campaigns, understanding this phenomenon can help refine and improve educational efforts.

By focusing on the highly engaged minority and creating more targeted, compelling content, organizations can increase the chances of success in their fight against scams and fraud. Though the majority may not engage meaningfully, leveraging the power of the informed few can drive significant change.

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Statement About Professional Care for Scam Victims – 2024

Statement About Professional Care for Scam Victims

Understanding the Need for Specialized Professional Care for Scam Victims

Primary Category: Scam Victim Recovery Psychology

Authors:
•  Vianey Gonzalez B.Sc(Psych) – Licensed Psychologist Specialty in Crime Victim Trauma Therapy, Neuropsychologist, Certified Deception Professional, Psychology Advisory Panel & Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.
•  Tim McGuinness, Ph.D. – Anthropologist, Scientist, Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.

About This Article

When forming opinions, especially on complex subjects like scam victimization and psychological trauma, it’s essential to rely on actual knowledge and experience. Understanding the neuropsychological impacts, such as how the brain’s response to scams mimics addiction, provides valuable insights into why victims struggle emotionally.

Generalized knowledge or misconceptions can mislead both victims and professionals, hindering recovery. By seeking specialized knowledge, particularly from trauma-informed professionals, victims can receive more effective support and achieve better outcomes in their healing process. Accurate, informed perspectives are key to proper recovery.

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Scam Victims Pain and Suffering – Sailing the 8 Worldly Winds – 2024

Scam Victims’ Pain and Suffering – Sailing the 8 Worldly Winds

A Guide for Scam Victims to Sail the 8 Worldly Winds: Through Pain and Suffering, Trauma and Grief, and Recovery

Primary Category: Philosophy of Scam Victim Recovery

Author:
•  Tim McGuinness, Ph.D. – Anthropologist, Scientist, Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.

About This Article

Viewing life through the lens of the 8 Worldly Winds—gain and loss, pleasure and pain, praise and blame, fame and disrepute—helps individuals, particularly scam victims, navigate emotional turmoil by recognizing the transient nature of experiences.

By understanding that both positive and negative events are impermanent, victims can cultivate emotional resilience, detach from extremes, and find peace. This perspective encourages mindful acceptance of life’s fluctuations, promoting healing and personal growth.

Scam victims can use this framework to manage suffering, regain self-worth, and rebuild their emotional balance.

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Scam Victims Finding Meaning in Life After the Scam – 2024

Scam Victims Finding Meaning in Life After the Scam

Understanding How To Let Go and Find Meaning and Purpose in Your Life After the Scam

Primary Category: Philosophy of Scams

Author:
•  Tim McGuinness, Ph.D. – Anthropologist, Scientist, Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.

About This Article

After falling victim to a romance or crypto investment scam, individuals often face profound emotional and financial devastation. The journey toward recovery is one of emotional healing and rediscovery.

This begins with acceptance and acknowledgment of the pain and loss, allowing victims to confront their feelings without blame.

Practicing self-compassion is crucial, helping individuals treat themselves with kindness and understanding.

Forgiveness follows, releasing the burden of anger and guilt. Victims can find meaning through mindfulness practices,

Buddhist teachings, and volunteering, which shift focus outward, offering empowerment and connection.

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Fantasizing and the Dopamine Trap – 2024

Fantasizing and the Dopamine Trap

How Fantasizing and Daydreaming Fuel the Scam Victim’s Dopamine Trap in Romance and Investment Scams: A Neurological Perspective

Primary Category: Psychology of Scams

Authors:
•  Vianey Gonzalez B.Sc(Psych) – Licensed Psychologist Specialty in Crime Victim Trauma Therapy, Neuropsychologist, Certified Deception Professional, Psychology Advisory Panel & Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.
•  Tim McGuinness, Ph.D. – Anthropologist, Scientist, Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.

About This Article

Fantasizing plays a crucial role in keeping scam victims trapped in a cycle of manipulation, largely due to its impact on the brain’s dopamine system. When victims daydream about the promised romantic relationship or financial windfall, their brains release dopamine, creating a sense of pleasure and reward. This neurological response tricks the brain into feeling satisfied, even though nothing tangible has been achieved.

Scammers exploit this mechanism by feeding their victims just enough hope to keep them emotionally invested, allowing the brain to continually release dopamine and deepen the victim’s attachment to the fantasy. Over time, this creates a feedback loop where victims become reliant on these fantasies for emotional satisfaction, making it harder for them to recognize the scam and break free.

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Why Bad Feelings Feel So Overwhelming for Scam Victims: A Look at the Brain’s Role – 2024

Bad Feelings and Scam Victims

Why Bad Feelings Feel So Overwhelming for Scam Victims: A Look at the Brain’s Role

Primary Category: Scam Victim Recovery Psychology

Author:
•  Tim McGuinness, Ph.D. – Anthropologist, Scientist, Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.

About This Article

Scam victims often experience overwhelming and prolonged negative emotions due to how the brain processes perceived threats. The amygdala, which handles fear and anxiety, triggers a strong fight-or-flight response, leading to intense feelings of fear, shame, and guilt.

The prefrontal cortex, responsible for rational decision-making, becomes overwhelmed, making it harder to think clearly. The brain’s negativity bias ensures these bad feelings linger, as it prioritizes threats for survival. This is compounded by the “smoke detector” theory, where even small emotional triggers can provoke large, lasting responses.

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Impulsivity and the Fallacy Of Waiting a Few Seconds to Avoid Scams – 2024

Impulsivity and the Fallacy Of Waiting a Few Seconds to Avoid Scams

Impulsivity and Scam Victim’s Vulnerability: Understanding the Connection

Primary Category: Psychology of Scams

Author:
•  Vianey Gonzalez B.Sc(Psych) – Licensed Psychologist Specialty in Crime Victim Trauma Therapy, Neuropsychologist, Certified Deception Professional, Psychology Advisory Panel & Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.
•  Tim McGuinness, Ph.D. – Anthropologist, Scientist, Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.

About This Article

Impulsivity can deeply affect scam victims during and after a scam, making it difficult for them to recover emotionally and financially. The emotional manipulation that scammers use is designed to exploit impulsive behaviors, pushing victims into quick, unthinking decisions.

After a scam, victims often continue to experience impulsive reactions, such as rushing into new relationships or attempting to recover lost money through risky means, which only exacerbates their situation. Impulsivity also hinders recovery as victims may struggle with the patience needed for long-term healing programs.

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Heartbreak – What Is It? How Does It Affect Romance Scam Victims? – 2024

Heartbreak – What Is It? How Does It Affect Romance Scam Victims?

A Comprehensive Guide to Understanding and Recovering from Heartbreak for Scam Victims

Primary Category: Scam Victim Recovery Psychology

Author:
•  Tim McGuinness, Ph.D. – Anthropologist, Scientist, Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.

About This Article

Romance scams are deeply damaging, not only financially but emotionally, often leaving victims feeling betrayed, humiliated, and angry. The psychological manipulation that scammers use is highly effective because it taps into victims’ emotions, making them vulnerable.

Scammers create fake identities, build trust over time, and manipulate victims into sending money or sensitive information.

Anger after a scam ends is a natural response for victims because of the profound betrayal and violation of trust. They often direct their frustration toward both the scammer and themselves for falling victim. This anger is part of the emotional and psychological trauma they must navigate during their recovery, requiring time, support, and self-compassion.

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Helping Scam Victims Get Unstuck: Small Steps to Start Recovery and Move Forward – 2024

Helping Scam Victims Get Unstuck: Small Steps to Start Recovery and Move Forward

For those Scam Victims Who Are Just Beginning Their Recovery Journey and those Who Get Stuck Down the Road

Primary Category: Scam Victim Recovery Psychology

Authors:
•  Vianey Gonzalez B.Sc(Psych) – Licensed Psychologist Specialty in Crime Victim Trauma Therapy, Neuropsychologist, Certified Deception Professional, Psychology Advisory Panel & Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.
•  Tim McGuinness, Ph.D. – Anthropologist, Scientist, Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.

About This Article

Scam victims often find it extremely difficult to start recovering from their trauma due to feelings of helplessness, betrayal, and emotional paralysis. The trauma impacts brain function, with fear and emotional distress overriding logical thinking.

The SCARS Institute addresses these challenges by using education as a tool for recovery, offering victims small, manageable steps through their Survivor’s School (www.SCARSeducation.org.) By engaging with daily educational materials, victims can gradually calm their minds, regain cognitive control, and start rebuilding their lives. This approach helps victims move forward at their own pace, fostering both emotional healing and self-compassion.

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Trauma Pleasing and Appeasing – The Impact on Identity and Self Worth – 2024

Trauma Pleasing and Appeasing – The Impact on Identity and Self-Worth

Helping Scam Victims Understand One of the Trauma Responses that Can Contribute to Vulnerability to Scams

Primary Category: Scam Victim Recovery Psychology

Author:
•  Tim McGuinness, Ph.D. – Anthropologist, Scientist, Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.

About This Article

Trauma can significantly alter an individual’s behavior, leading to patterns of pleasing and appeasing others as a way to avoid conflict, feel safe, or prevent further harm. These behaviors often become deeply ingrained, making it difficult for trauma survivors to recognize their authentic identity. Scam victims are especially vulnerable to this cycle, as feelings of guilt and shame may drive them to seek external validation.

However, trauma can have the opposite effect as well, leading to overassertiveness, hyper-independence, or emotional withdrawal as self-protection mechanisms. Understanding these dynamics is critical for trauma recovery. By building self-awareness, victims can identify maladaptive behaviors, set boundaries, and ultimately rebuild their sense of self. Through support and conscious effort, they can break free from these patterns and foster emotional resilience.

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Trauma Responses or Just Personality Traits in Scam Victims? – 2024

Trauma Responses or Just Personality Traits in Scam Victims?

Many of the So-Called Personality Traits that Can Become Vulnerabilities in a Scam are Not Personality Traits, they are the Remnants of Past Traumas

Primary Category: Scam Victim Recovery Psychology

Authors:
•  Vianey Gonzalez B.Sc(Psych) – Licensed Psychologist Specialty in Crime Victim Trauma Therapy, Neuropsychologist, Certified Deception Professional, Psychology Advisory Panel & Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.
•  Tim McGuinness, Ph.D. – Anthropologist, Scientist, Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.

About This Article

Many people unknowingly mistake trauma responses for aspects of their personality, not realizing that behaviors like chronic over-apologizing, people-pleasing, or inability to accept compliments are coping mechanisms rooted in past emotional pain. These responses often develop in reaction to trauma, where the brain adapts to perceived danger or emotional harm.

For scam victims, recognizing these behaviors as trauma responses rather than personality traits is crucial for recovery. It allows them to confront core issues such as mistrust or a need for validation, empowering them to rebuild boundaries and self-confidence.

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Understanding Boundaries & Accountability to Improve Scam Victims’ Recovery When They Communicate – 2024

Understanding Boundaries & Accountability to Improve Scam Victims’ Recovery When They Communicate

Communication is the Core of Recovery, but Communication Can Be Challenging for Scam Victims – This will Help Explain

Primary Category: Scam Victim Recovery Psychology

Author:
•  Tim McGuinness, Ph.D. – Anthropologist, Scientist, Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.

About This Article

Triggers are especially challenging for scam victims because they often evoke intense emotional responses tied to their trauma. These triggers can be anything—words, situations, or even gestures—that remind victims of the scam or the betrayal they experienced. The brain’s trauma response system, particularly the amygdala, becomes activated when these triggers are encountered, which can overwhelm logical thinking and send victims into a state of emotional distress. This reaction happens because trauma alters how the brain processes stimuli, making victims hyper-sensitive to anything that resembles their painful experience. As a result, even benign situations can provoke fear, anxiety, or defensiveness, making it difficult for victims to engage in productive conversations or seek help effectively. Recognizing and learning to manage these triggers is essential for their emotional recovery and ability to move forward.

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Schemas Part 4: SCARS Institute Theory – Schema Conflict Resulting in Psychological Trauma – 2024

Schemas Part 4: SCARS Institute Schema Conflict Theory Resulting in Psychological Trauma

Exploring the Connection Between Schema Conflicts and the Experience of Psychological Trauma

Primary Category: Psychology of Scams

Authors:
•  Tim McGuinness, Ph.D. – Anthropologist, Scientist, Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.
•  Vianey Gonzalez B.Sc(Psych) – Licensed Psychologist Specialty in Crime Victim Trauma Therapy, Neuropsychologist, Certified Deception Professional, Psychology Advisory Panel & Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.

About This Article

When a person’s core beliefs, or schemas, are confronted with conflicting experiences, it can significantly disrupt their psychological equilibrium and result in trauma.

Schemas are deeply ingrained mental models that help individuals process the world based on past experiences. When a scam victim’s schema (such as trust in others or belief in financial security) is shattered, they experience cognitive dissonance and emotional distress.

The severity of the trauma depends on their ability to reconcile the conflicting experience with their mental framework. If they cannot resolve the disparity, it leads to heightened emotional turmoil, difficulty trusting others, and lasting psychological impacts.

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Schemas Part 3: Schemas/Mental Model & Cognition – 2024

Schemas Part 3: Schemas/Mental Model & Cognition

Expanding Our Understanding of the Mental Model Cognitive Shortcuts

Primary Category: Psychology of Scams

Author:
•  Tim McGuinness, Ph.D. – Anthropologist, Scientist, Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.

About This Article

Schemas, the mental frameworks that help us organize and interpret information, can profoundly influence how we store and retrieve memories. These frameworks help us process new experiences by fitting them into pre-existing categories. However, this can lead to memory distortion, as schemas can reshape how we recall past events.

For example, we may recall events in ways that align with our existing beliefs, even if those details never occurred. This process can result in selective memory, where information consistent with our schemas is remembered more vividly while conflicting details are forgotten or altered.

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