Rebuilding Trust: The Scam Victim’s Journey from Victimhood to Empowerment
Understanding How to Rebuild Trust After a Relationship Scam
Authors:
• Vianey Gonzalez B.Sc(Psych) – Licensed Psychologist Specialty in Crime Victim Trauma Therapy, Neuropsychologist, Certified Deception Professional, Psychology Advisory Panel & Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.
• Tim McGuinness, Ph.D. – Anthropologist, Scientist, Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.
About This Article
Rebuilding trust after becoming a scam victim is a difficult journey that involves restoring confidence in oneself and others. The process often begins with acknowledging the betrayal and its impact on one’s sense of security and self-worth.
Adopting frameworks like the SCARS ‘R-E-A-L’ (Reflect, Evaluate, Accept, Learn) can provide structure and guidance in navigating this complex emotional terrain.
Trusting others again requires discernment, boundary-setting, and gradual engagement in healthy relationships. At the same time, rebuilding self-trust involves introspection, self-compassion, and reframing negative beliefs.
Journaling can serve as a powerful tool for processing emotions, identifying patterns, and fostering self-awareness throughout this journey.
While challenging, rebuilding trust is ultimately a transformative process that empowers scam victims to reclaim agency, cultivate resilience, and forge deeper connections with themselves and others.
Rebuilding Trust After a Relationship Scam: Navigating the Personal Journey of Healing for Scam Victims and Finding Trust Again!
The aftermath of a relationship scam can leave scam victims grappling with profound feelings of betrayal, vulnerability, and shattered trust.
Whether it’s a romance scam, a crypto investment scam, or any other form of trust-based relationship that involves deceitful manipulation, the impact on trust and a victim’s confidence can be devastating.
Victims not only question their ability to trust others but also struggle with massive self-doubt and a loss of confidence in their own judgment. However, despite the daunting challenges, rebuilding trust is possible.
Let’s explore the complexities of rebuilding trust after a relationship scam, focusing on both trusting others and trusting oneself, while looking into the psychological aspects of trust, examining the obstacles to rebuilding it, and proposing strategies and models for navigating this journey of healing.
The Complexity of Trust
Trust is the cornerstone of any healthy relationship, built on a foundation of honesty, reliability, and vulnerability. However, when that trust is violated through deception and manipulation, it shatters the very fabric of the scam victim’s sense of security and connection. In the aftermath of a relationship scam, victims often find themselves questioning not only the intentions of others but also their own ability to discern truth from falsehood. The betrayal experienced in these scams cuts deep, leaving emotional scars that can linger long after the scam itself has ended.
The complexity of trust lies at the heart of human relationships, influencing how we interact with others and navigate the world around us. Trust is a multifaceted concept that encompasses beliefs, expectations, and behaviors, shaped by individual experiences, cultural norms, and social dynamics. It involves vulnerability, as it requires individuals to depend on others and to believe that they will act in a reliable and predictable manner.
Trust operates on different levels, ranging from interpersonal trust between individuals to institutional trust in organizations and societal trust in larger social structures. It is dynamic and can be influenced by various factors, including past experiences (including traumas and grief,) communication patterns, perceived competence, and perceived integrity. Trust is also context-dependent, meaning that it can vary depending on the specific situation or context in which it occurs.
Betrayal, such as becoming victim to a relationship scam, can profoundly impact an individual’s trust in others and in themselves. It shatters the foundation of trust that they have built, leaving them feeling vulnerable, disillusioned, and betrayed. Rebuilding trust after such a betrayal is a complex and challenging process that requires time, effort, and support.
Rebuilding trust involves confronting and processing feelings of betrayal, acknowledging and validating one’s emotions, and making sense of what has happened. It requires individuals to reevaluate their beliefs about trust and vulnerability, to develop healthier boundaries and communication patterns, and learn to trust themselves and their judgment again.
The process of rebuilding trust may involve seeking support from trusted friends, family members, a support organization such as SCARS, or mental health professionals, engaging in self-reflection and introspection, and gradually taking small steps towards trusting others again. It is a gradual and nonlinear process that unfolds over time, with setbacks and challenges along the way.
While there is no one-size-fits-all approach to rebuilding trust, some frameworks, such as the ‘R-E-A-L’ framework employed by SCARS provide a structured approach to navigating this complex process. This framework emphasizes the importance of self-awareness, self-care, and self-compassion, as well as setting realistic expectations and boundaries in relationships.
The complexity of trust reflects the intricate interaction of individual, relational, and societal factors that shape our ability to trust others and ourselves. Rebuilding trust after experiencing betrayal requires courage, resilience, and patience, but it is possible with time, support, and self-reflection.
Challenges in Rebuilding Trust
Rebuilding trust after a relationship scam poses several significant challenges.
- Firstly, victims struggle with feelings of shame and self-blame, wondering how they could have been so easily deceived.
- Secondly, the fear of being hurt again can lead to a heightened sense of suspicion and reluctance to open up to others. This holds scam victims back from reporting the crime and from getting the help they desperately need.
- Thirdly, victims grapple with a loss of faith in their own judgment, making it difficult to trust their instincts and intuition – correctly so, since victims face many cognitive impairments after a relationship scam..
- Finally, the pervasive sense of betrayal can erode one’s confidence in the fundamental goodness of humanity, leading to a cynical worldview that further impedes the trust-building process.
Rebuilding trust after experiencing a scam is complicated and fraught with emotional and psychological challenges. One significant hurdle is overcoming the emotional aftermath of betrayal. Scam Victims grapple with feelings of anger, shame, and embarrassment, which impede their ability to trust others again. Moreover, the trauma of being deceived can erode one’s confidence in their own judgment, making it difficult to trust themselves.
Another challenge lies in distinguishing between healthy skepticism and excessive mistrust. While it’s essential to be cautious in future interactions, allowing cynicism to dominate can hinder meaningful relationships. Striking the right balance between vigilance and openness is key to rebuilding trust and this is best done in a professionally managed support group such as those offered by SCARS.
Additionally, societal stigma surrounding scam victims can exacerbate their struggles. Some may fear being judged or ostracized for what they wrongly perceive as gullibility, further hindering their recovery process. Overcoming these external pressures requires a supportive environment where victims feel understood and accepted, such as what SCARS offers.
Furthermore, the prevalence of scams in today’s online age poses ongoing challenges to trust restoration. With sophisticated fraud tactics constantly evolving, scam survivors may find it daunting to engage in online interactions safely. Rebuilding trust in digital spaces necessitates enhanced awareness, and knowledge. safety measures and awareness of real risks.
Overall, rebuilding trust after a scam is a complex and very difficult journey that requires huge amounts of patience, self-compassion, and support from others. By addressing emotional barriers, creating healthy skepticism, combating societal stigma, and adapting to the digital landscape, victims can gradually restore their sense of trust in both others and themselves.
Trusting Others Again
Trusting others again after being victimized by a scam can be an arduous and painful journey full of uncertainty and fear.
The betrayal experienced in a scam can shatter one’s faith in humanity, leaving deep emotional scars that take time to heal. Rebuilding trust in others involves a gradual process of discernment and vulnerability. It requires courage to open up to the possibility of being hurt again, yet it is essential for forging meaningful connections and restoring faith in the goodness of others.
One key aspect of rebuilding trust in others is setting healthy boundaries. Victims of scams feel a heightened sense of vulnerability and should be wary of being taken advantage of again. Establishing clear boundaries helps protect against further harm while allowing space for genuine connections to form. Learning to recognize red flags and trusting one’s instincts are crucial skills in discerning whom to trust, but the dangers of being overconfident and cognitive biases make this very difficult. Surrounding oneself with supportive and understanding individuals who respect boundaries can also facilitate the healing process.
Communication is another vital component of rebuilding trust in others. Honest (sometimes brutally honest) and open communication enables understanding and helps to bridge the gap created by past betrayals. Expressing fears, concerns, and expectations openly allows for authentic connections to develop based on mutual respect and understanding. Building trust takes time and effort, and it requires patience and empathy from both parties involved.
Forgiveness is an integral part of the process of trusting others again. Holding onto resentment and anger only serves to perpetuate the cycle of distrust and pain. While forgiveness does not mean condoning or excusing the actions of the scammer, it does release the victim from the emotional burden of carrying grudges. Forgiveness is a gift to oneself, allowing for inner peace and emotional healing to take place.
Ultimately, rebuilding trust in others requires a leap of faith—a willingness to believe in the inherent goodness of humanity despite past betrayals. It is a courageous act of vulnerability that acknowledges the risk of being hurt again but chooses to believe in the possibility of genuine connection and mutual respect. By embracing vulnerability, setting healthy boundaries, embracing open communication, and practicing forgiveness, victims of scams can embark on the journey of rebuilding trust in others and reclaiming their sense of agency and empowerment in relationships.
Trusting Oneself Again
Rebuilding self-trust is perhaps the most challenging aspect of healing from a relationship scam.
It requires confronting feelings of self-doubt and cultivating self-compassion and forgiveness. Victims must recognize that they were not responsible for the actions of the scammer and that trusting others is a natural and essential part of the human experience.
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Scam victims need to also recognize that their decision-making and judgment have been compromised – both by the criminal manipulation and control, and by the trauma and grief that follow. This means that scam victims should start from a place of revalidating their decisions and that often involves letting trusted others into their decision-making process.
Developing a sense of self-awareness and self-validation is key to rebuilding self-trust
This involves learning to listen to one’s intuition and inner wisdom, but also learning about and questioning their own cognitive biases and potential for overconfidence and over-trusting, honoring one’s needs and boundaries, and practicing self-care and self-compassion. Journaling, support, therapy, and mindfulness practices are very valuable tools in this process, helping victims cultivate a deeper understanding of themselves and their values.
Trusting oneself again after falling victim to a scam is often one of the most challenging aspects of recovery. The experience of being deceived can deeply shake one’s confidence and self-esteem, leading to feelings of self-doubt and insecurity. Rebuilding trust in oneself requires introspection, self-awareness, and a willingness to confront the underlying beliefs and behaviors that contributed to the scam.
One of the first steps in trusting oneself again is to acknowledge and process the emotions associated with the scam experience. It’s essential to allow oneself to feel the full range of emotions, including anger, sadness, and betrayal, without judgment or self-criticism. This process of emotional acceptance and validation is crucial for healing and moving forward.
Admitting the Mistake
Another of the most important steps is acknowledging the mistake that every scam victim made by trusting a stranger. Why the scam was not the victim’s fault, they did make a mistake by saying hello to a title stranger online. Acknowledging this mistake is critical because it not only allows the scam victim to forgive themself it also admits that this is a mistake they cannot make again.
Self-reflection is another important aspect of rebuilding self-trust
Victims of scams should question their judgment, intuition, and decision-making abilities, but of course, this leads to a loss of confidence in themselves. Engaging in reflective practices, such as journaling, therapy, or meditation, can help uncover underlying beliefs (and cognitive biases) and thought patterns that contribute to vulnerability to scams – which typically is greater than before the scam. By gaining insight into these patterns, individuals can develop greater self-awareness and learn to make more informed choices in the future.
Reconnecting with one’s values, strengths, and identity is also essential for rebuilding self-trust
Scams can erode a person’s sense of self-worth and identity, leaving them feeling disconnected from their authentic selves. Engaging in activities that bring joy, fulfillment, and a sense of purpose can help individuals reconnect with their core values and rediscover their strengths and talents. Building self-esteem and self-confidence through positive affirmations and self-care practices can also contribute to rebuilding self-trust.
The Official SCARS Affirmations:
- I am a survivor
- It was not my fault
- I am not alone
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Setting Boundaries
Learning to set boundaries and prioritize one’s needs and well-being is crucial for rebuilding self-trust. Victims of scams may have difficulty trusting their own instincts and judgment, leading to a tendency to prioritize others’ needs and ignore their own. By setting clear boundaries and honoring their needs and boundaries, individuals can develop greater self-respect and self-trust.
Learn more about boundaries here.
Self Compassion
Finally, practicing self-compassion and forgiveness is essential for rebuilding self-trust. It’s important to recognize that falling victim to a scam does not define one’s worth or character. By treating oneself with kindness, understanding, and forgiveness, individuals can cultivate a sense of self-compassion that allows for healing and growth.
Rebuilding trust in oneself after a scam is a gradual process that requires patience, self-compassion, and self-awareness. By acknowledging and processing emotions, engaging in self-reflection, reconnecting with values and identity, setting boundaries, and practicing self-compassion, individual scam victims can gradually rebuild their sense of self-trust and empowerment.
A SCARS Model for Rebuilding Trust
One model for rebuilding trust after a relationship scam is the SCARS ‘R-E-A-L’ Framework
The R-E-A-L framework is a structured approach to rebuilding trust after experiencing betrayal, such as in the aftermath of a relationship scam. It consists of four key components: Reflect, Educate, Assess, and Leverage.
Here are each of the R-E-A-L components:
- Reflect: Reflection involves taking the time to introspectively examine the scam experience and emotions associated with the betrayal. This step encourages individuals to acknowledge and validate their feelings of hurt, anger, and vulnerability. By allowing themselves to process these emotions, scam victims can begin to make sense of their experience and gain clarity about the impact it has had on their trust and how it will impact their other relationships.
- Educate: The education phase focuses on acquiring knowledge and understanding about the tactics and patterns used by scammers to exploit trust, but just as importantly about their own mind, emotions, and psychology so that they can understand the processes taking place within them. This involves learning about how they were groomed, manipulated, and controlled – the techniques employed in relationship scams, and how their brain functions. By educating themselves about these deceptive practices and the psychological impacts they have, scam survivors can become more vigilant and discerning in future interactions and also more understanding of how their mind actually works. Knowledge empowers survivors to recognize warning signs of inappropriate trust early on and take proactive steps to protect themselves from further exploitation.
- Assess: Assessment entails evaluating one’s current relationships and social connections through a lens of trustworthiness and boundaries. This involves identifying individuals who have demonstrated honesty, reliability, and empathy in their interactions and establishing boundaries to protect themselves from those who have not. Survivors can assess the quality of their relationships by considering factors such as consistency, transparency, and reciprocity. By distinguishing between trustworthy allies and potentially harmful toxic influences, survivors can cultivate healthier, more supportive connections while gradually disengaging from toxic or exploitative relationships.
- Leverage: Leveraging refers to utilizing the insights and wisdom gained from reflection, education, support and coaching, and assessment to inform one’s behavior and decision-making in trust relationships in the future. This step involves setting clear boundaries, communicating assertively, and advocating for oneself in interpersonal interactions. By trusting in this framework, individuals can navigate current and future trust relationships with greater confidence and discernment. Additionally, leveraging newfound self-awareness and empowerment enables victims to prioritize their well-being and avoid situations or people that do not align with their values.
The R-E-A-L framework provides a structured roadmap for rebuilding trust after experiencing betrayal in a relationship scam or elsewhere in life. By engaging in reflective introspection, seeking education and support, assessing relationships, and leveraging insights, individuals can gradually rebuild their sense of security, confidence, and connection in the aftermath of a relationship scam.
SCARS NOTE: The R-E-A-L framework was not a concept or framework that SCARS invented. It’s a model that SCARS has adapted and used. It has been used in various forms and in various contexts, including psychology, counseling, and personal development, to guide individuals through the process of rebuilding trust in themselves and others after experiencing betrayal, trauma, or other significant life challenges. SCARS has adapted the model to the specific needs of scam victims rebuilding trust.
Journaling is an Essential Process to Help Rebuild Trust
Journaling can be a powerful tool in reestablishing trust in oneself after becoming a victim of a scam.
The act of writing down thoughts, feelings, and experiences provides a safe and private space for individuals to process their emotions, reflect on their experiences, and gain insight into their beliefs and behaviors.
However, journaling also becomes a ‘check and balance’ in evaluating your own decision-making. It gives survivors an opportunity to look back at their thought processes before, during, and after important decisions. This is vital in helping scam victims rebuild trust in themselves.
Here are some reasons why journaling is important in rebuilding self-trust:
- Emotional Processing: Victims of scams often experience a range of intense emotions, including anger, shame, and self-doubt. Journaling allows individuals to express and release these emotions in a healthy way, without judgment or inhibition. By acknowledging and validating their emotions, individuals can begin to heal emotional wounds and move forward with greater clarity, and rebuild their resilience.
- Self-Reflection: Journaling encourages self-reflection and introspection, allowing individuals to explore their thoughts, beliefs, and values in depth. Through writing, individuals can gain insight into the underlying factors that contributed to their vulnerability to scams, such as low self-esteem, lack of boundaries, or past traumas. By identifying these factors, individuals can take proactive steps to address them and build greater self-awareness and self-trust.
- Problem Solving: Journaling can also help individuals develop problem-solving skills and coping strategies to deal with challenges and setbacks. By brainstorming potential solutions on paper, setting goals, and tracking progress, individuals can regain a sense of agency and control over their lives. Writing down positive affirmations, reminders of past successes, and strategies for self-care can also boost confidence and self-efficacy.
- Tracking Progress: Keeping a journal allows individuals to track their progress over time and celebrate small victories along the way. By recording positive experiences, insights, and personal growth milestones, individuals can build evidence of their resilience and capacity for change. Reflecting on past challenges and how they were overcome can also provide inspiration and motivation during difficult times.
- Building Trust: Ultimately, journaling is a form of self-care and self-compassion that helps individuals cultivate a deeper sense of trust in themselves. By taking the time to listen to their inner voice, honor their feelings, and reflect on their experiences, individuals demonstrate a commitment to their own well-being and growth. Over time, this practice can strengthen self-esteem, self-confidence, and self-trust, paving the way for a more empowered and fulfilling life.
Journaling is a valuable tool for rebuilding trust in oneself after experiencing the betrayal and trauma of a scam. By providing a safe space for emotional expression, self-reflection, problem-solving, progress tracking, and self-care, journaling supports individuals on their journey toward healing, resilience, and self-empowerment.
Summary
Rebuilding trust after a relationship scam is a challenging but absolutely necessary journey of healing and growth.
By acknowledging and processing the emotions associated with the betrayal, seeking support from trusted allies, and practicing discernment and self-compassion, scam victims can gradually reclaim their sense of security and connection and become survivors.
While the road to rebuilding trust can be long and arduous, it is not insurmountable. With patience, resilience, and self-empowerment, victims can emerge from the shadows of betrayal stronger, wiser, and more resilient than ever before. They become true survivors.
Remember, that rebuilding trust in others requires a gradual and intentional process of healing. It begins with acknowledging and processing the emotions, trauma, and grief associated with the betrayal, allowing oneself to grieve the loss of trust and innocence and learn to manage the traumatic impact. Seeking support from trusted friends, family members, a victim’s support provider such as SCARS, or mental health professionals can provide a safe space for validation. Additionally, engaging in activities that help create a sense of connection and community, such as volunteering or joining support groups, can help rebuild faith in humanity.
Finally, setting healthy boundaries and practicing discernment in new relationships is crucial. While it’s essential to remain open to forming new connections, it’s equally important to take the time to assess the intentions and character of potential partners or friends. Paying attention to red flags and trusting one’s instincts can prevent future exploitation and empower victims to reclaim agency over their relationships.
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Rebuilding trust triggers me. That tells me I have more to do yet. In time I will be up to the challenge.
Rebuilding trust as a secondary victim (spouse of a scam victim) is the most difficult journey!
I’m trying to stay vigilant about being aware of untrustworthy people while at the same time remembering that not all people are deceitful.
I like the REAL framework. It makes sense to me, as a tool to recover trust. Setting boundaries is essential and worked very good in my situation.