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Morality, Ethics, and the Victimhood Mentality – A Philosophical Review – 2024

Morality, Ethics, and the Victimhood Mentality – A Philosophical Review

Understanding the Difference Between Being a Victim and Victimhood

Primary Category: Philosophy of Scam Victim Recovery

Author:
•  Tim McGuinness, Ph.D. – Anthropologist, Scientist, Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.

About This Article

The moral difference between being a victim and embracing victimhood lies in how an individual responds to the harm they have experienced. Being a victim is a temporary condition caused by external factors beyond one’s control, such as falling for a scam. It does not imply moral blame, and it is possible to recover from this state with time and effort. Victimhood, however, involves adopting a mindset where a person continues to define themselves by the harm they’ve endured. This mindset can lead to feelings of powerlessness, entitlement, or resentment, which may hinder personal growth and responsibility.

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Psychological Resistance to Recovery in Scam Victims – 2024

Psychological Resistance to Recovery in Scam Victims

Helping Scam Victims to Understand the Price They Pay for Trying to Over Control Their Recovery

Primary Category: Scam Victim Recovery Psychology

Author:
•  Tim McGuinness, Ph.D. – Anthropologist, Scientist, Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.

About This Article

The psychological resistance to recovery is often the greatest danger scam victims face, as it keeps them trapped in pain and prevents them from fully moving forward.

Resistance feels safe because it offers a sense of control over familiar emotions like guilt and shame, rather than risking the uncertainty of healing. Victims often cling to self-blame as a way of maintaining the illusion that they could have prevented the scam, which prevents them from accepting that they were not at fault. The fear of the unknown, particularly the unpredictable nature of recovery, can make victims hesitant to embrace the healing process.

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Understanding the Right Priorities – Another View of New Scam Victims’ Challenges – 2024

Understanding the Right Priorities – Another View of New Scam Victims’ Challenges

Many New/Recent Scam Victims do not yet Understand What Their Priorities should be After the End of Their Scam

Primary Category: Scam Victim Recovery Psychology

Author:
•  Tim McGuinness, Ph.D. – Anthropologist, Scientist, Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.

About This Article

New scam victims often struggle to prioritize the right steps for recovery, focusing on immediate financial fixes or managing surface emotions like anger or self-blame. However, this approach can overlook the deeper issue—profound trauma and cognitive impairment caused by the scam.

Emotional and psychological recovery should come first, as trauma affects the brain’s ability to think clearly, make decisions, and process information. Denial, resistance, and cognitive dissonance often prevent victims from acknowledging the full emotional impact of the scam.

Victims need to understand that recovery requires specialized help, such as support from counselors or trauma professionals, and that quick fixes won’t resolve the underlying issues.

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Pets as Therapy for Scam Victims – 2024

Pets as Therapy for Scam Victims

Having Support Animals is Very Important for Scam Victims During Their Recovery

Primary Category: Scam Victim Recovery Psychology

Author:
•  Tim McGuinness, Ph.D. – Anthropologist, Scientist, Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.

About This Article

Pets provide a unique form of therapy for scam victims by offering emotional and physical support during their recovery process. Scam victims often experience feelings of isolation, shame, and helplessness, but caring for a pet can help shift their focus away from their emotional distress and onto the needs of another living being.

The routine of feeding, walking, and nurturing a pet gives victims a sense of purpose and responsibility, while the act of petting a dog or cat releases stress-reducing hormones like oxytocin and lowers cortisol levels, helping alleviate anxiety and depression. Pets offer unconditional love and companionship, which helps rebuild trust and provide comfort without the fear of judgment.

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Dark Forest Theory – Scams and Scam Victims – 2024

Dark Forest Theory – Scams and Scam Victims

Understanding a Sociological Avoidance Behavior in Scam Victims and Their Desire to Avoid Notice

Primary Category: Sociology of Scam Victimization

Author:
•  Tim McGuinness, Ph.D. – Anthropologist, Scientist, Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.

About This Article

The Dark Forest Theory, viewed through a sociological and anthropological lens, suggests that in environments of uncertainty or competition, entities—whether civilizations or individuals—remain hidden to avoid exposing vulnerabilities and risking exploitation or harm.

This concept is rooted in survival strategies where distrust and fear of unknown others drive defensive, secretive behavior. When applied to human interactions, particularly in the realm of scams, the theory explains why victims, after being deceived, might isolate themselves to avoid further manipulation.

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Scam Victim Identity Crisis – Very Common in Victims Several Months After the Scam Ends – 2024

Scam Victim Identity Crisis – Very Common in Victims Several Months After the Scam Ends

Helping Scam Victims Understand How to Navigate through Their Second Crisis During Recovery

Primary Category: Scam Victim Recovery Psychology

Authors:
•  Vianey Gonzalez B.Sc(Psych) – Licensed Psychologist Specialty in Crime Victim Trauma Therapy, Neuropsychologist, Certified Deception Professional, Psychology Advisory Panel & Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.
•  Tim McGuinness, Ph.D. – Anthropologist, Scientist, Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.

About This Article

Scam victims often experience multiple crises after the scam ends, but the identity crisis that occurs between six months to a year can be particularly devastating.

During the initial phase, victims focus on the immediate impact, like financial loss and cutting ties with the scammer. However, as time passes and they begin to reflect, they are hit by a deep psychological crisis where they question their identity, self-worth, and ability to trust themselves and others.

This delayed crisis is marked by feelings of continuing shame, residual guilt, and emotional disconnection, as victims struggle to reconcile their previous self-image with their perceived gullibility.

The social stigma surrounding scams further fuels this internal conflict, leading to isolation, hypervigilance, and even depression.

Without proper support, this identity crisis can severely hinder their recovery, and in some cases, lead to suicidal ideation due to overwhelming emotions and a loss of self-trust.

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The Peculiar Case of Number Overload in Scam Victims – 2024

The Peculiar Case of Number Overload in Scam Victims

Because of the Way our Brains Work several things can Overload it!

Primary Category: Psychology of Scams

Author:
•  Tim McGuinness, Ph.D. – Anthropologist, Scientist, Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.

About This Article

Number overload plays a significant role in how scam victims experience escalating financial losses and their ability to recover. Humans are equipped with an innate “number sense” that allows for a quick, intuitive understanding of small quantities, but this ability diminishes with larger numbers. When scammers request increasingly higher amounts, the victim’s cognitive clarity weakens, leading to emotional overwhelm.

Victims often become fixated on the total amount lost, viewing it not just as a financial figure but as a symbol of their betrayal, pain, and regret. This fixation intensifies their trauma, causing ongoing feelings of guilt and shame. This emotional attachment to the lost amount can hinder the victim’s recovery, as they struggle to move past the deception and deal with the overwhelming psychological impact.

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Emotional Numbness and Scam Victims – Coping After the Scam – 2024

Emotional Numbness and Scam Victims – Coping After the Scam

Helping Scam Victims Understand the Dual-Nature of Numbness as Both a Psychological Coping Mechanism and a Defense Mechanism

Primary Category: Scam Victim Recovery Psychology

Author:
•  Tim McGuinness, Ph.D. – Anthropologist, Scientist, Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.

About This Article

Psychological or emotional numbness is a state where individuals become detached from their emotions as a response to overwhelming trauma, serving as both a defense and coping mechanism.

For scam victims, this numbness can provide immediate relief by shielding them from the intense emotional pain and distress associated with the betrayal and manipulation they’ve experienced. However, while numbness can help victims manage their immediate emotions, it can also hinder long-term recovery by preventing them from processing their trauma fully.

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The Uncanny Valley and Scams – A View of Scam Victims’ Suspension of Disbelief – 2024

The Uncanny Valley and Scams – A View of Scam Victims’ Suspension of Disbelief

How these Concepts Play a Significant Role in Scams and their Impact on Scam Victims

Primary Category: Psychology of Scams

Author:
•  Tim McGuinness, Ph.D. – Anthropologist, Scientist, Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.

About This Article

With scams and deception, suspension of disbelief and the Uncanny Valley both play critical roles in how scam victims are manipulated.

Suspension of disbelief allows victims to overlook subtle inconsistencies or “off” elements in a scammer’s communication—whether it’s slightly unnatural language, odd phrasing, or even strange behavior in deepfake videos—because they are emotionally invested in the relationship or narrative presented by the scammer.

The Uncanny Valley, typically associated with unease triggered by near-human but slightly flawed entities, can also apply to written and visual communications that seem almost real but provoke a subtle discomfort.

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Solitude vs. Isolation in Scam Victims – 2024

Solitude vs. Isolation in Scam Victims

Understanding the Benefits of Solitude for Recovering Scam Victims While Avoiding Isolation

Primary Category: Scam Victim Recovery Psychology

Author:
•  Tim McGuinness, Ph.D. – Anthropologist, Scientist, Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.

About This Article

Spending time alone after a relationship scam can be beneficial for emotional healing and personal growth, allowing victims to process their trauma and regain a sense of self. However, it’s crucial for scam victims to be aware of the fine line between healthy solitude and harmful isolation.

Solitude provides the space needed for reflection and recovery, helping individuals to work through their emotions and begin rebuilding their lives. But when solitude turns into prolonged isolation, it can lead to deeper emotional and psychological issues, such as depression, increased anxiety, and social withdrawal.

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Hopelessness and Scam Victims – 2024

Hopelessness and Scam Victims

Helping Scam Victims Understand the Depth of Helplessness and How To Break Free of It!

Primary Category: Scam Victim Recovery Psychology

Author:
•  Tim McGuinness, Ph.D. – Anthropologist, Scientist, Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.

About This Article

Hopelessness is a profound and often debilitating emotion that can affect scam victims after the scam ends. It manifests as a sense of despair, where the victim feels that nothing will ever improve, leading to a state of emotional paralysis. This feeling can significantly impact mental and emotional health, resulting in symptoms like persistent sadness, withdrawal from social interactions, and a lack of motivation.

On a neurological level, hopelessness involves increased activity in the amygdala, the brain’s fear center, and decreased functioning in the prefrontal cortex, which impairs rational thinking and decision-making. If left unaddressed, hopelessness can lead to more severe mental health issues, including depression and suicidal thoughts. However, by recognizing the signs and taking proactive steps such as practicing mindfulness, seeking therapy, reconnecting with social support, and setting small goals, victims can gradually rebuild their lives and move towards recovery.

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Spider-Webbing in Relationship Scams and its Impact on Scam Victims – 2024

Spider-Webbing in Relationship Scams and its Impact on Scam Victims

Understanding How Scammer Manipulation, Lies, and Deceit are Woven Together into a Web that Holds Scam Victims

Primary Category: Psychology of Scams

Author:
•  Tim McGuinness, Ph.D. – Anthropologist, Scientist, Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.

About This Article

“Spider-webbing” in relationship scams refers to the manipulative techniques scammers use to entangle their victims in a complex web of deceit, making it difficult for them to break free. Much like a spider methodically constructs its web to trap prey, scammers build an intricate network of emotional manipulation, fabricated relationships, and psychological control.

These tactics create a sense of dependency in the victim, isolating them from outside support and reinforcing the scammer’s hold over them. As victims become more emotionally, financially, and psychologically invested, they find it increasingly challenging to escape the web of lies, often requiring external support and professional intervention to break free.

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Psychological Violence – 2024

Psychological Violence

An Overview of Why Scam Manipulation & Control are Considered Psychological Violence

Primary Category: Psychology of Scams

Author:
•  Tim McGuinness, Ph.D. – Anthropologist, Scientist, Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.

About This Article

Psychological violence refers to the deliberate infliction of emotional and mental harm on an individual, often resulting in long-lasting damage to their well-being. In the context of scam victims, this type of violence manifests through the systematic grooming, manipulation, and control tactics employed by scammers.

These tactics are designed to erode the victim’s sense of self-worth, autonomy, and reality, leading to severe emotional distress. The effects of psychological violence on scam victims can include anxiety, depression, and post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD), compounded by feelings of shame, guilt, and self-blame.

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Defeatism and its Impact on Scam Victims and Law Enforcement – 2024

Defeatism and its Impact on Law Enforcement and Scam Victims

How Defeatism Undermines Individual and Collective Efforts in the Fight Against Scams and Impacts Global Law Enforcement and Justice Systems

Primary Category: Psychology of Scams

Author:
•  Tim McGuinness, Ph.D. – Anthropologist, Scientist, Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.

About This Article

Defeatism is a mindset where individuals or groups believe that failure is inevitable, leading to a lack of effort and a self-fulfilling prophecy of failure. This attitude can spread through society, hindering collective efforts to address significant challenges, such as combatting scams.

In global law enforcement and the justice system, defeatism can result in reduced motivation to pursue criminals, limited international cooperation, and insufficient resources dedicated to fighting scams.

For scam victims, defeatism manifests as a sense of hopelessness, inaction, and resignation, making it difficult for them to recover or seek justice.

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Logical Fallacies – What They Are and How They Affect Scam Victims – 2024

Logical Fallacies – What They Are and How They Affect Scam Victims

Understanding How Decision-Making is Influenced by Logical Fallacies in Scam Victims Before, During, and After the Scam

Primary Category: Scam Victim Recovery Psychology

Author:
•  Tim McGuinness, Ph.D. – Anthropologist, Scientist, Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.

About This Article

Logical fallacies play a significant role in the cognitive and emotional challenges that scam victims face, both during and after being scammed. These errors in reasoning can make victims more susceptible to manipulation by scammers, causing them to ignore warning signs or justify the scammer’s behavior.

Even after recognizing they have been scammed, these fallacies can inhibit their recovery, leading to prolonged emotional distress and difficulty in moving forward. By understanding and identifying these logical fallacies, victims can better protect themselves from future scams and aid their psychological and emotional recovery. Recognizing these flawed thinking patterns is crucial for overcoming the negative impacts of being scammed and regaining a sense of control and well-being.

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10 False Assumptions of Traumatized Scam Victims – 2024

10 False Assumptions of Traumatized Scam Victims – 2024

Helping Scam Victims to Understand that Healing is a Journey. It Requires Patience, Self-Compassion, and Support. By Letting go of these Limiting Beliefs, you can Reclaim Your Power, Rebuild Your Life, and Thrive in the Aftermath of Trauma

Primary Category: Scam Victim Recovery Psychology

Author:
•  Tim McGuinness, Ph.D. – Anthropologist, Scientist, Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.

About This Article

Scam victims often struggle with false assumptions that can hinder their recovery and growth. These assumptions, such as believing they are “not good enough” or “permanently damaged,” can erode self-confidence and prevent healing.

It’s essential to recognize that these beliefs are based on misconceptions rather than reality. By challenging these assumptions and seeking support, scam victims can begin to rebuild their confidence and move forward. Recovery is a journey that requires patience, self-compassion, and the willingness to let go of limiting beliefs. You are not defined by what happened to you, but by how you choose to move forward.

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In Scams – It’s About the Criminal, Not About You the Scam Victim – 2024

In Trust-Based Relationship Scams – It’s About the Criminal, Not About You the Scam Victim

It is Hard for Scam Victims to Understand that the Crime had Nothing to do with Them! It was just a Business Transaction for the Criminals!

Primary Category: Victimology

Authors:
•  Tim McGuinness, Ph.D. – Anthropologist, Scientist, Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.

About This Article

Scam victims often feel deeply betrayed and hurt, believing the scam was a personal attack on their emotions and intentions. However, it’s crucial to understand that relationship scams, whether involving romance, cryptocurrency investments, or other variants, are impersonal crimes driven by the scammer’s sole objective: financial gain.

Scammers operate with a cold detachment, seeing victims as targets rather than individuals, and they often run multiple scams simultaneously, using fake personas to manipulate emotions. Recognizing that the scam was not personal allows victims to separate their emotions from the crime, helping them to focus on recovery and self-protection rather than internalizing blame.

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Empathy Impairment That Affects Scam Victim’s Relationships – 2024

Empathy Impairment That Affects Scam Victim’s Relationships

Helping Scam Victims to Understand Another Way that Psychological Trauma Affects Them

Primary Category: Scam Victim Recovery Psychology

Authors:
•  Vianey Gonzalez B.Sc(Psych) – Licensed Psychologist Specialty in Crime Victim Trauma Therapy, Neuropsychologist, Certified Deception Professional, Psychology Advisory Panel & Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.
•  Tim McGuinness, Ph.D. – Anthropologist, Scientist, Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.

About This Article

Empathic impairment in scam victims often results from the emotional and psychological trauma they endure. This trauma can profoundly affect their judgment and interpersonal relationships, leading them to judge others’ suffering more harshly and minimize the needs of those around them.

While scam victims often crave understanding and empathy for their own experiences, their trauma can narrow their emotional focus, making it difficult to extend the same compassion to others. This empathic impairment can manifest as increased judgment, diminished emotional response, and a heightened focus on their own pain, which can strain relationships with family and friends.

Recognizing these signs of empathic impairment is essential for victims to complete the process of healing, which often involves therapy, self-reflection, and actively working to rebuild their capacity for empathy.

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The Life Story Project – A New View of Our Lives – A Non-Linear View – A TED Talk by Bruce Feiler – 2024

The Life Story Project – A New View of Our Lives – A Non-Linear View

A TED Talk

Primary Category: Recovery Psychology

Author:
•  Bruce Feiler, Writer, TV host, a leading voice on family, work, transitions, and meaning. His book, Life is in the Transitions: Mastering Change at Any Age, describes his journey across America, collecting hundreds of life stories, exploring how we can navigate life’s growing number of with skill and purpose.

The Life Story Project – A New View of Our Lives – A Non-Linear View

How do you navigate life’s growing number of transitions with meaning, purpose and skill? Writer Bruce Feiler offers a powerful way to handle uncertain, painful and confusing times — or “lifequakes”, as he calls them. Learn how to equip yourself with the essential tools and mindset to ride out (and rewrite) the toughest chapters of your life story, and turn unease and upheaval into growth and renewal.

Learn more here: The Deck of Disruptors – by Bruce Feiler (substack.com)

TED Talk: Bruce Feiler: The secret to mastering life’s biggest transitions | TED Talk

TED Talk Video Transcript

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How to Know When It’s Time to Start Therapy – 2024

How to Know When It’s Time to Start Therapy

It can be Difficult to Decide When and if Therapy is Right for You

Primary Category: Psychology

Author:
• Simon Sherry, Clinical Psychologist and Professor in the Department of Psychology and Neuroscience, Dalhousie University

About This Article

Deciding when to start therapy can be challenging, but if you are considering it, it may be the right time. Therapy can help address various issues, including difficult life events, mental health struggles, and emotional challenges. It provides tools to understand and improve your thoughts, feelings, and behaviors, promoting overall well-being.

If you are experiencing poor mental health or symptoms of mental illness—such as hopelessness, anxiety, or difficulty coping with life—it might be time to seek professional help. Therapy is not a quick fix; it requires time, effort, and finding the right therapist. However, the benefits can be significant, leading to lasting positive changes in your life.

Even if therapy didn’t work before, or if you feel hesitant, remember that mental health support is valuable, and you are not alone in your struggles.

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Cooking As Therapy For Scam Victims – 2024

Cooking As Therapy For Scam Victims

Let Cooking Be a Pathway to Calmness and Control in Your Life!

Primary Category: Scam Victim Recovery Psychology

Author:
•  Tim McGuinness, Ph.D. – Anthropologist, Scientist, Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc. and sometimes Wizard in the Kitchen!

About This Article

Cooking your own meals after experiencing a relationship scam can be a powerful therapeutic tool. It provides a sense of control, mindfulness, and focus that is essential for emotional healing.

The act of preparing and cooking your meals encourages you to be present in the moment, reducing stress and anxiety by engaging your senses and calming your mind. By choosing your own ingredients, you can opt for foods that promote mental well-being, such as whole grains, fatty fish, and leafy greens, while avoiding processed foods and those high in sugar, trans fats, and sodium, which can negatively impact mood and emotional regulation.

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Cultural Cognition And Its Impact On Scam Victims After The Scam – Part 2 – 2024

Cultural Cognition And Its Impact On Scam Victims After the Scam

Part 2

Understanding the Effects that Culture Can Have on Cognition After Scam Victimization

Primary Category: Psychology of Scams

Author:
•  Tim McGuinness, Ph.D. – Anthropologist, Scientist, Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.

About This Article

Cultural cognition theory offers crucial insights into how individuals’ cultural values and social identities shape their responses after falling victim to scams. These cultural factors influence how victims react to the discovery of the scam, their willingness to report it, and their ability to recover.

Victims from cultures that emphasize personal responsibility may internalize blame, leading to feelings of shame and reluctance to seek help, while those from collectivist cultures might be concerned about how their victimization reflects on their community, leading to underreporting. The stigma associated with being scammed can further deter victims from discussing their experiences or seeking assistance.

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Cultural Cognition And Its Impact On Scam Victims And Scams – Part 1 – 2024

Cultural Cognition And Its Impact On Scam Victims And Scams

Part 1

Understanding the Effects that Culture Can Have on Cognition Before and During Scam Victimization

Primary Category: Psychology of Scams

Author:
•  Tim McGuinness, Ph.D. – Anthropologist, Scientist, Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.

About This Article

Cultural cognition theory is a framework that explores how individuals’ cultural values and social backgrounds shape their perceptions of risk, facts, and policy preferences. This theory, developed by scholars such as Dan Kahan and Donald Braman, suggests that people process information in ways that reinforce their pre-existing beliefs, which are deeply influenced by their cultural affiliations.

These cultural worldviews typically fall along dimensions such as hierarchy versus egalitarianism and individualism versus communitarianism. For example, people with hierarchical and individualistic worldviews might downplay environmental risks to avoid supporting regulations that could threaten social structures or individual freedoms, while those with egalitarian and communitarian values may emphasize such risks due to their belief in collective responsibility.

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Lost Time – Losing Our Sense Of Time Passing When Trauma Is Involved – 2024

Lost Time – Losing Our Sense Of Time Passing When Trauma Is Involved

How Trauma Affects Our Sense of Time

Primary Category: Scam Victim Recovery Psychology

Authors:
•  Vianey Gonzalez B.Sc(Psych) – Licensed Psychologist Specialty in Crime Victim Trauma Therapy, Neuropsychologist, Certified Deception Professional, Psychology Advisory Panel & Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.
•  Tim McGuinness, Ph.D. – Anthropologist, Scientist, Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.

About This Article

Disrupted time perception is a significant issue for individuals who have experienced profound psychological trauma, such as victims of relationship scams. This phenomenon occurs when the brain’s ability to perceive and process the passage of time is altered, often making past traumatic events feel as though they happened more recently than they actually did.

Several processes in the brain contribute to this distortion. The hippocampus, which is crucial for memory formation and organizing events chronologically, can be affected by trauma, leading to disorganized or fragmented memories. The amygdala, responsible for processing emotions, can heighten the emotional intensity of these memories, making them more vivid and seemingly recent.

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The Mind-Brain Bias And How This Deters People From Getting Help When They Need It – 2024

The Mind-Brain Bias And How This Deters People From Getting Help When They Need It

The Challenge of Helping Scam Victims When They Cannot Accept What Has Happened to Their Brain from Trauma

Primary Category: Scam Victim Recovery Psychology

Authors:
•  Vianey Gonzalez B.Sc(Psych) – Licensed Psychologist Specialty in Crime Victim Trauma Therapy, Neuropsychologist, Certified Deception Professional, Psychology Advisory Panel & Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.
•  Tim McGuinness, Ph.D. – Anthropologist, Scientist, Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.

About This Article

The mind-brain bias, a cognitive bias rooted in the belief that the mind and self are distinct from brain processes, significantly hinders individuals, including scam victims, from seeking essential psychological, psychiatric, or neurological help after experiencing trauma.

This bias, influenced by dualistic thinking and cultural beliefs, leads to a misunderstanding of mental health, where individuals may reject the idea that their symptoms are brain-based and instead attribute them to personal weakness or spiritual issues. As a result, victims might avoid evidence-based treatments, such as psychiatric medication or therapy, out of fear of judgment or being labeled “crazy.”

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Scam Victim Resentment Towards Money Mules – Letting It Go! – 2024

Scam Victim Resentment Towards Money Mules – Letting It Go!

Helping Scam Victims to Understand Their Resentment towards Money Mules

Primary Category: Scam Victim Recovery Psychology

Authors:
•  Vianey Gonzalez B.Sc(Psych) – Licensed Psychologist Specialty in Crime Victim Trauma Therapy, Neuropsychologist, Certified Deception Professional, Psychology Advisory Panel & Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.
•  Tim McGuinness, Ph.D. – Anthropologist, Scientist, Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.

About This Article

When scam victims discover that their money was transferred through a “money mule”—a person who unknowingly or knowingly facilitated the scam—the resulting feelings of betrayal and resentment can be overwhelming. This resentment is natural, as it stems from the deep emotional and financial toll of the scam.

However, it’s important to understand that money mules can either be willing participants or unwitting victims themselves, manipulated by the same criminals. The uncertainty of not knowing the mule’s true involvement can fuel ongoing anger, which, if fed, will grow and persist, preventing emotional recovery. Holding onto resentment not only exacerbates the trauma but also impacts mental and physical health, leading to chronic stress, anxiety, and difficulty in forming healthy relationships.

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Self-Blame Is Insidious – 2024

Self-Blame is Insidious and so Destructive!

Once Self-Blame Sets In it is Very Hard to Overcome!

Primary Category: Scam Victim Recovery Psychology

Author:
•  Tim McGuinness, Ph.D. – Anthropologist, Scientist, Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.

About This Article

Self-blame is particularly damaging for scam victims as they attempt to overcome the trauma of a relationship scam. It significantly amplifies their trauma, hinders emotional recovery, and impedes their ability to seek help and support. Self-blame distorts the victim’s perception of the scam, preventing them from recognizing the external manipulation they were subjected to. Overcoming self-blame is crucial for healing, learning from experiences, and rebuilding lives with resilience and self-compassion.

This involves acknowledging that the scam was not their fault and seeking professional help as essential steps in the recovery journey. The insidious nature of self-blame can lead to a drop in self-esteem, feelings of shame and guilt, and isolation from potential support systems.

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How Avoidance of Consequences Deepens Anxiety for Scam Victims – 2024

How Avoidance of Consequences Deepens Anxiety for Scam Victims

Understanding How Impactful Avoidance is on the Psychology of Scam Victims in Promoting Anxiety

Primary Category: Scam Victim Recovery Psychology

Authors:
•  Vianey Gonzalez B.Sc(Psych) – Licensed Psychologist Specialty in Crime Victim Trauma Therapy, Neuropsychologist, Certified Deception Professional, Psychology Advisory Panel & Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.
•  Tim McGuinness, Ph.D. – Anthropologist, Scientist, Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.

About This Article

Scam victims often use avoidance to cope with the emotional and psychological aftermath of their experience, leading to increased anxiety and hindering recovery.

Avoidance behaviors can include steering clear of financial and legal responsibilities, withdrawing from social interactions, and neglecting emotional healing. Victims may also avoid educating themselves about scams and their psychological impacts, which prevents them from understanding their trauma and protecting themselves in the future.

This avoidance reinforces anxiety by increasing rumination, prolonging stress, and creating a cycle of avoidance reinforcement. Exposure therapy, gradual confrontation of fears, professional help, and support groups are essential for breaking this cycle and promoting recovery.

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Ignoring Past Trauma and Abandoning Authenticity: Lessons from Gabor Maté – 2024

Ignoring Past Trauma and Abandoning Authenticity: Lessons from Gabor Maté

Exploring the Great Danger of Abandoning Authenticity for Scam Victims in Recovery

Primary Category: Scam Victim Recovery Psychology

Authors:
•  Vianey Gonzalez B.Sc(Psych) – Licensed Psychologist Specialty in Crime Victim Trauma Therapy, Neuropsychologist, Certified Deception Professional, Psychology Advisory Panel & Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.
•  Tim McGuinness, Ph.D. – Anthropologist, Scientist, Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.
•  Based on the work of Gabor Maté

About This Article

Ignoring past trauma and abandoning authenticity, as explored by Gabor Maté, highlights how individuals often suppress their true feelings and instincts to cope with pain, leading to further emotional harm. This suppression can manifest as disconnection from one’s genuine self and perpetuate cycles of trauma.

Reclaiming authenticity, especially for scam victims, involves acknowledging and expressing true emotions, rebuilding self-trust, and aligning actions with core values. This process is crucial for healing, as it helps victims restore self-worth, improve mental health, and build resilience against future vulnerabilities. Embracing authenticity allows individuals to process trauma effectively and live a life true to themselves.

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Scam Victim Scammer Obsession – Part 4 – 2024

Scam Victim Scammer Obsession – Part 4

Helping Scam Victims to Let Go of their Obsession on Exposing Scammers!

Primary Category: Scam Victim Recovery Psychology

Authors:
•  Vianey Gonzalez B.Sc(Psych) – Licensed Psychologist Specialty in Crime Victim Trauma Therapy, Neuropsychologist, Certified Deception Professional, Psychology Advisory Panel & Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.
•  Tim McGuinness, Ph.D. – Anthropologist, Scientist, Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.

About This Article

Victims of relationship scams often experience intense emotions, including anger and a desire for justice, which can lead to an obsessive focus on exposing scammers and fake profiles. This behavior, while rooted in a need for validation and control, can hinder recovery and worsen trauma.

The pursuit of justice may overshadow other aspects of life, leading to burnout and increased emotional distress.

The neurological impact of this obsession can reinforce negative emotional loops, making it difficult for victims to move forward.

To recover, victims need to find a balance, prioritize self-care, and seek professional support to process their emotions and build resilience.

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Scam Victim Scammer Obsession – Part 3 – 2024

Scam Victim Scammer Obsession – Part 3

The Scam Victims’ Need For Control Drives Their Obsession on Exposing Scammers!

Primary Category: Scam Victim Recovery Psychology

Authors:
•  Vianey Gonzalez B.Sc(Psych) – Licensed Psychologist Specialty in Crime Victim Trauma Therapy, Neuropsychologist, Certified Deception Professional, Psychology Advisory Panel & Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.
•  Tim McGuinness, Ph.D. – Anthropologist, Scientist, Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.

About This Article

Victims of relationship scams often experience a deep sense of betrayal and helplessness, leading them to obsessively expose scammers in a desperate attempt to regain control over their lives. This behavior is driven by the illusion of control, providing a temporary sense of empowerment and relief.

However, the fixation on exposing scammers can hinder recovery, as it perpetuates feelings of anger and distress, and may interfere with personal and professional life. While seeking justice is natural, victims must prioritize their healing and well-being, balancing their desire for control with constructive actions that promote recovery and personal growth.

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Scam Victims And The Law Of Parsimony – 2024

Scam Victims And The Law Of Parsimony

Helping Scam Victims to Understand the Difference Between Real vs. Assumptions & Urban Legends!

Primary Category: Scam Victim Recovery Psychology

Author:
•  Tim McGuinness, Ph.D. – Anthropologist, Scientist, Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.

About This Article

The Law of Parsimony, also known as Occam’s Razor, suggests that the simplest explanation is usually the correct one. This principle can be particularly helpful for scam victims as they navigate their recovery, helping them stay grounded in reality.

Despite sounding harsh, the goal is to help victims understand their mistakes and misconceptions to properly recover. After a scam, victims often cling to fantasies and false beliefs, making them vulnerable to being rescammed and seeking fantastical answers to their problems. Common misbeliefs include the effectiveness of exposing scammers, scam baiting, not reporting to the police, and thinking they were hypnotized.

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Scam Victim Scammer Obsession – Part 2 – 2024

Scam Victim Scammer Obsession – Part 2

The Obsessive Focus on the Past Traps Scam Victims!

Primary Category: Scam Victim Recovery Psychology

Authors:
•  Vianey Gonzalez B.Sc(Psych) – Licensed Psychologist Specialty in Crime Victim Trauma Therapy, Neuropsychologist, Certified Deception Professional, Psychology Advisory Panel & Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.
•  Tim McGuinness, Ph.D. – Anthropologist, Scientist, Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.

About This Article

Scam victims often struggle to move forward in their recovery if they remain fixated on the scammers and the crime, a common yet harmful coping mechanism. This constant retrospection can trap them in a cycle of reliving the trauma, hindering their healing and reinforcing feelings of anger, shame, and guilt.

The psychological impact includes heightened anxiety, depression, and a sense of hopelessness, as victims may feel defined by the scam. Moving forward requires a shift in focus from the past to the present and future, seeking professional support, building a supportive network, and engaging in activities that promote well-being.

By releasing their grip on the past and prioritizing personal growth, victims can reclaim their lives and move beyond the identity of being a scam victim.

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Scam Victim Scammer Obsession – Part 1 – 2024

Scam Victim Scammer Obsession – Part 1

The Obsessive Focus of Scam Victims on Scammers is Unhealthy!

Primary Category: Scam Victim Recovery Psychology

Authors:
•  Vianey Gonzalez B.Sc(Psych) – Licensed Psychologist Specialty in Crime Victim Trauma Therapy, Neuropsychologist, Certified Deception Professional, Psychology Advisory Panel & Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.
•  Tim McGuinness, Ph.D. – Anthropologist, Scientist, Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.

About This Article

Nearly a quarter of scam victims develop an obsessive focus on scammers, fake profiles, and scam details as a negative coping mechanism to manage their trauma. This obsession provides a temporary sense of control and purpose, distracting from the emotional pain and feelings of betrayal.

The need to “do something,” often driven by a desire for justice or validation, can prevent victims from processing their emotions and moving forward in recovery. This fixation can lead to heightened stress, anxiety, and isolation, as victims become consumed with uncovering and exposing scammers.

To break this cycle, it’s crucial for victims to recognize this behavior as harmful and seek healthier ways to cope, such as professional counseling, structured support groups, and personal growth activities.

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Reenabling Scam Victim Curiosity After A Relationship Scam – 2024

Reenabling Scam Victim Curiosity After A Relationship Scam

Helping every Scam Victim to Rediscover their Curiosity and Start Learning Again!

Primary Category: Scam Victim Recovery Psychology

Author:
•  Tim McGuinness, Ph.D. – Anthropologist, Scientist, Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.

About This Article

Recovering curiosity after experiencing a relationship scam involves overcoming cognitive impairment and trauma. Scams can leave victims feeling betrayed and distrustful, stifling their curiosity.

Understanding the brain’s response to trauma, including the impact on the amygdala and hippocampus, helps explain the challenges in re-engaging with new experiences.

To rebuild curiosity, it’s crucial to address emotional and cognitive blocks through self-care, support networks, and gradual exposure to new activities.

Managing cognitive overload and using structured learning approaches can further assist in this recovery, fostering a renewed sense of wonder and exploration.

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The Curious Case Of Artificial Blue Light And Its Effects On Scam Victims During The Scam And Afterward – 2024

The Curious Case Of Artificial Blue Light And Its Effects On Scam Victims During The Scam And Afterward

Artificial Blue Light from Screens is Known to Disrupt Sleep making Scam Victims Easier to Manipulate and Disrupting Recovery

Primary Category: Scam Victim Recovery Psychology

Author:
•  Tim McGuinness, Ph.D. – Anthropologist, Scientist, Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.

About This Article

Artificial blue light from screens can significantly impact scam victims both during and after a scam. The exposure can disrupt sleep patterns by suppressing melatonin production, leading to poor sleep quality and heightened stress levels.

This can increse emotional distress and anxiety, impair decision-making, and reduce the ability to think critically, making victims more vulnerable to scammers.

Post-scam, continued exposure to blue light can prolong these effects, contributing to ongoing anxiety, depression, and difficulty in recovering from the emotional and cognitive impacts of the scam. Managing screen time and ensuring proper sleep hygiene can be crucial for scam victims’ mental health and recovery.

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Summer Heat And Struggling Trauma Sufferers – 2024

Summer Heat And Struggling Trauma Sufferers

Summer Heat is Not Just a Number, it has Profound Effects on the Body and Mind

Primary Category: Scam Victims Recovery Psychology

Author:
•  Tim McGuinness, Ph.D. – Anthropologist, Scientist, Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.

About This Article

High summer temperatures can significantly worsen the conditions for individuals who have experienced psychological trauma, such as scam victims. The physical discomfort of extreme heat—manifested through dehydration, heat exhaustion, and lethargy—can intensify psychological distress, as symptoms of heat stress, like increased heart rate and sweating, may resemble anxiety or panic attacks, triggering traumatic memories.

High temperatures also disrupt sleep patterns, worsening insomnia and poor sleep quality, which further impairs emotional regulation and resilience.

Additionally, heat can increase irritability and aggression, straining relationships and heightening feelings of isolation. Reduced opportunities for social interaction due to the need to stay indoors can diminish crucial support networks, compounding the challenges faced by trauma survivors.

Effective coping strategies, such as staying hydrated, maintaining a cool environment, and seeking social support, are essential to mitigate the impact of high temperatures on emotional well-being.

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High Justice Sensitivity And Scam Victims – 2024

High Justice Sensitivity And Scam Victims

Understanding What Can Easily Become an Obsessive Behavior or Mentality in Scam Victims

Primary Category: Scam Victim Recovery Psychology

Authors:
•  Vianey Gonzalez B.Sc(Psych) – Licensed Psychologist Specialty in Crime Victim Trauma Therapy, Neuropsychologist, Certified Deception Professional, Psychology Advisory Panel & Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.
•  Tim McGuinness, Ph.D. – Anthropologist, Scientist, Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.

About This Article

High justice sensitivity refers to an individual’s heightened awareness and strong emotional reactions to perceived injustices, whether they occur personally or to others. This trait is characterized by an intense focus on fairness, a deep sense of empathy for victims, and a persistent desire to address wrongs.

People with high justice sensitivity often experience significant distress over unfair situations and may feel compelled to act against perceived injustices, sometimes leading to obsessive thoughts or actions. This sensitivity can manifest in behaviors like advocacy or vigilantism, driven by a need to see justice restored or wrongdoers punished.

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Scam Victim’s Shadow Side And What It Means For Recovery – 2024

Scam Victim’s Shadow Side And What It Means For Recovery

Helping Scam Victims Understand their Shadow Side or Shadow Self and its Effects on Their Recovery!

Primary Category: Scam Victim Recovery Psychology

Authors:
•  Vianey Gonzalez B.Sc(Psych) – Licensed Psychologist Specialty in Crime Victim Trauma Therapy, Neuropsychologist, Certified Deception Professional, Psychology Advisory Panel & Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.
•  Tim McGuinness, Ph.D. – Anthropologist, Scientist, Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.

About This Article

The “shadow side” in psychology, originally conceptualized by Carl Jung, refers to the unconscious parts of an individual’s psyche that include repressed traits, desires, and emotions. These aspects are often hidden because they are considered negative, undesirable, or incompatible with one’s self-image. Modern psychology continues to explore similar concepts, using terms like the unconscious mind, repressed emotions, and defense mechanisms.

The shadow can influence behavior and attitudes, often manifesting through projection, where individuals attribute their hidden traits to others. It also encompasses implicit biases and unacknowledged parts of the self that may affect decisions and perceptions unconsciously. Recognizing and integrating the shadow side involves bringing these hidden aspects into conscious awareness, which is essential for personal growth and psychological well-being.

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