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Sleep Deprivation As A Scammer’s Control Technique And Its Effect On Scam Victims

Scammers use Sleep Debt as a way to Better Control Their Scam Victims

Psychology of Scams

Authors:
•  Vianey Gonzalez B.Sc(Psych) – Licensed Psychologist Specialty in Crime Victim Trauma Therapy, Neuropsychologist, Certified Deception Professional, Psychology Advisory Panel & Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.
•  Tim McGuinness, Ph.D. – Anthropologist, Scientist, Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.

About This Article

Sleep deprivation, a tool wielded by scammers to manipulate and control victims, can exacerbate post-scam anxiety, stress, and trauma. Sleep deprivation, also known as sleep debt, disrupts cognitive function and mental well-being, amplifying vulnerability and emotional susceptibility to manipulation.

Scammers exploit this vulnerability by inducing exhaustion, confusion, and dependence, making victims reliant on the scammer for support and validation. Sleep deprivation impairs judgment, increases compliance, and heightens emotional vulnerability, allowing scammers to maintain control over victims.

Combatting sleep deprivation during recovery involves establishing a consistent sleep schedule, creating a relaxing bedtime routine, and prioritizing a comfortable sleep environment. Engaging in stress reduction techniques, limiting screen exposure before bed, and seeking professional help if needed are crucial steps toward overcoming sleep deprivation and promoting healing for scam victims.

Prioritizing sleep hygiene is essential for physical, emotional, and mental well-being, especially for those navigating recovery from trauma.

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What is Sleep Deprivation (a.k.a Sleep Debt)

Sleep deprivation refers to a condition in which an individual does not get enough sleep to meet their body’s physiological and cognitive needs. It can occur due to various factors, including voluntarily staying awake for extended periods, experiencing disruptions in sleep patterns (e.g., due to work schedules, travel, or medical conditions), or experiencing sleep disorders that interfere with the ability to obtain restorative sleep. It is also a technique used by the criminals to better control their victims.

Sleep debt, also known as sleep deficit or sleep deficiency, refers to the cumulative amount of sleep that an individual has lost or failed to obtain over time. It accumulates when a person consistently gets less sleep than their body requires to function optimally. For example, if someone needs 8 hours of sleep per night for optimal functioning but consistently gets only 6 hours, they would accumulate a sleep debt of 2 hours each night.

Both sleep deprivation and sleep debt can have significant negative effects on physical health, mental well-being, cognitive function, and overall quality of life. Chronic sleep deprivation and the accumulation of sleep debt have been linked to a wide range of health problems, including increased risk of obesity, diabetes, cardiovascular disease, cognitive impairment, mood disorders, and decreased immune function.

A Scammer’s Control Mechanism

Most scam victims, especially those involved in a romantic relationship will be contacted by the criminals at all hours, but especially during the victim’s night. The scammers want to keep the victims up late most nights and keep them in a continuous sleep dept.

Sleep deprivation is a very effective control technique that these criminals utilize to make victims more controllable and to maintain that vulnerability throughout the duration of the deception.

Scammers use sleep deprivation as a control mechanism with their victims for several reasons:

  • Manipulating Vulnerability: Sleep deprivation impairs cognitive function, decision-making abilities, and emotional regulation, making victims more vulnerable to manipulation and coercion. Scammers often exploit this vulnerability to exert control over their victims and coerce them into complying with their requirements.
  • Creating Dependence: By depriving victims of sleep, scammers induce feelings of exhaustion, confusion, and disorientation, making victims more reliant on the scammer for guidance, support, and validation. Victims may become increasingly dependent on the scammer for relief from their sleep deprivation and may be more likely to comply with the scammer’s requests in exchange for promised rewards or relief from discomfort. This plays a role in the use of gaslighting to manipulate scam victims.
  • Increasing Compliance: Sleep deprivation impairs judgment and decision-making abilities, making victims more susceptible to influence and manipulation. Scammers use sleep deprivation as a tactic to weaken their victims’ resistance and increase their compliance with their ultimate goal.
  • Heightening Emotional Vulnerability: Lack of sleep increases feelings of stress, anxiety, and emotional distress, making victims more emotionally vulnerable and reactive to the scammer’s tactics. Scammers exploit this heightened emotional vulnerability to elicit sympathy, empathy, or financial support from their victims.
  • Maintaining Control: By controlling their victims’ sleep patterns and depriving them of rest, scammers can maintain a sense of power and control over their victims’ lives. Sleep deprivation can reinforce the perception of the scammer as an authority figure or caretaker, further entrenching the victim’s dependence on the scammer for guidance and support.

Ironically, some of this happens simply because the criminals are on the opposite side of the world. But having observed its effects over years, scammers have learned to use and exploit this tool.

Sleep deprivation can be a potent tool for scammers seeking to exert control, manipulate, and exploit their victims. By inducing feelings of vulnerability, dependence, and emotional distress, scammers can effectively coerce their victims into complying with their demands and perpetuating their deception.

Health Risks of Sleep Deprivation

Sleep deprivation or sleep debt can have numerous harmful effects on both physical and mental health, as well as cognitive function and overall well-being. Here are some of the most common negative consequences:

  • Impaired Cognitive Functioning: Sleep deprivation can impair cognitive abilities such as memory, attention, concentration, and decision-making. This can lead to decreased productivity, difficulty learning new information, and impaired judgment.
  • Mood Disturbances: Lack of sleep can lead to irritability, mood swings, and increased feelings of stress, anxiety, and depression. Chronic sleep deprivation is associated with a higher risk of developing mood disorders and exacerbating existing mental health conditions.
  • Increased Risk of Accidents: Sleep deprivation can impair reaction times, coordination, and judgment, increasing the risk of accidents and injuries. Fatigue-related accidents are particularly common in settings such as driving, operating machinery, and performing hazardous tasks.
  • Weakened Immune Function: Sleep plays a crucial role in immune function, and chronic sleep deprivation can weaken the immune system, making individuals more susceptible to infections, illnesses, and chronic health conditions.
  • Cardiovascular Health Risks: Chronic sleep deprivation is associated with an increased risk of hypertension (high blood pressure), heart disease, stroke, and other cardiovascular problems. Poor sleep can disrupt cardiovascular function, increase inflammation, and contribute to the development of cardiovascular disease over time.
  • Metabolic Effects: Sleep deprivation can disrupt hormone regulation, leading to imbalances in hormones that regulate appetite, metabolism, and blood sugar levels. This can contribute to weight gain, obesity, insulin resistance, and an increased risk of type 2 diabetes.
  • Impaired Physical Performance: Lack of sleep can negatively impact physical performance, coordination, and athletic abilities. It can lead to decreased stamina, muscle weakness, slower reaction times, and reduced exercise tolerance.
  • Decreased Libido: Sleep deprivation can lower libido and sexual desire, leading to decreased intimacy and relationship problems.
  • Mental Health Issues: Chronic sleep deprivation is associated with an increased risk of developing mental health disorders such as depression, anxiety, and bipolar disorder. Sleep disturbances can exacerbate existing mental health conditions and make symptoms more difficult to manage.
  • Shortened Lifespan: Long-term sleep deprivation has been linked to a higher risk of mortality and a shortened lifespan. Chronic sleep deficiency is associated with an increased risk of developing chronic health conditions that can contribute to premature death.

How Much Time Does It Take to Overcome Sleep Deprivation?

The amount of time it takes to make up for sleep deprivation can vary depending on factors such as the duration and severity of sleep deprivation, individual differences in sleep needs, and overall health. However, research suggests that while you can partially recover from short-term sleep deprivation relatively quickly, fully recovering from chronic sleep deprivation may take longer.

For short-term sleep deprivation (e.g., a few days to a week), you may be able to catch up on missed sleep within a few nights of extended sleep duration.

This process is often referred to as “sleep debt repayment.” For example, if you’ve been getting only 4 hours of sleep per night for several nights, you may need to sleep longer (e.g., 9-10 hours) for a few consecutive nights to fully repay the sleep debt and feel fully rested.

However, for chronic sleep deprivation that has persisted for weeks or months, fully recovering may take longer and may require more sustained efforts to prioritize sleep and establish healthier sleep habits. Chronic sleep deprivation can lead to cumulative sleep debt and disrupt the body’s natural sleep-wake cycle, making it more challenging to recover fully. In these cases, it’s important to focus on consistently getting adequate sleep each night, practicing good sleep hygiene, and addressing any underlying factors contributing to sleep disturbances.

It’s worth noting that while you can partially repay sleep debt, chronic sleep deprivation may still have long-term health consequences, such as increased risk of obesity, cardiovascular disease, and cognitive impairment. Therefore, prioritizing regular, sufficient sleep is essential for overall health and well-being. If you’re experiencing persistent sleep problems or difficulty recovering from sleep deprivation, consider consulting a healthcare professional or sleep specialist for guidance and support.

Combating Further Sleep Deprivation or Sleep Debt with Scam Victims During Recovery

Combatting sleep deprivation or sleep debt is crucial for scam victims in recovery to promote their overall well-being and facilitate the healing process. Here are some strategies to help combat sleep deprivation and promote restorative sleep:

  • Establish a Consistent Sleep Schedule: Set a regular sleep schedule by going to bed and waking up at the same time every day, even on weekends. Consistency helps regulate the body’s internal clock and promotes better sleep quality.
  • Create a Relaxing Bedtime Routine: Develop a relaxing bedtime routine to signal to your body that it’s time to wind down and prepare for sleep. This could include activities such as reading, taking a warm bath, practicing relaxation techniques like deep breathing or meditation, or listening to calming music.
  • Create a Comfortable Sleep Environment: Make sure your bedroom is conducive to sleep by keeping it cool, dark, and quiet. Invest in a comfortable mattress and pillows, and consider using white noise machines or earplugs to block out any disruptive sounds.
  • Limit Exposure to Screens Before Bed: Reduce exposure to electronic devices such as smartphones, tablets, computers, and televisions before bedtime, as the blue light emitted by screens can interfere with melatonin production and disrupt sleep patterns. Aim to turn off screens at least an hour before bedtime.
  • Avoid Stimulants Before Bed: Limit consumption of caffeine and other stimulants in the afternoon and evening, as they can interfere with your ability to fall asleep. Similarly, avoid heavy meals, nicotine, and alcohol close to bedtime, as they can disrupt sleep quality.
  • Engage in Regular Physical Activity: Regular exercise can promote better sleep by helping to regulate sleep-wake cycles and reduce stress and anxiety. Aim for at least 30 minutes of moderate-intensity exercise most days of the week, but avoid vigorous exercise close to bedtime, as it may be too stimulating.
  • Practice Stress Reduction Techniques: Manage stress and anxiety through relaxation techniques such as deep breathing, progressive muscle relaxation, mindfulness meditation, or yoga. These practices can help calm the mind and body and promote relaxation before bedtime.
  • Seek Professional Help if Needed: If you’re struggling with persistent sleep problems despite trying self-help strategies, consider seeking help from a healthcare professional or sleep specialist. They can evaluate your sleep patterns, identify any underlying sleep disorders or medical conditions contributing to sleep problems, and recommend appropriate treatment options.

By prioritizing healthy sleep habits and making sleep a priority, scam victims in recovery can improve their overall well-being, enhance their cognitive function, and facilitate the healing process. Remember that quality sleep is essential for physical, emotional, and mental health, and investing in good sleep hygiene is an important aspect of self-care and recovery.

Remember

Prioritizing adequate sleep is essential for maintaining physical health, mental well-being, cognitive function, and overall quality of life.

This is especially critical for traumatized scam victims trying to recover.

Establishing healthy sleep habits and addressing any underlying sleep disorders or disturbances is important for preventing the negative consequences of sleep deprivation and promoting optimal health and well-being.

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7 Comments

  1. Lynn April 24, 2025 at 6:09 pm - Reply

    This time, one year ago, I was being kept awake about 20 hours a day. Being woken up at all hours and engaged in conversations that would last at least an hour. I finally told them I could no longer function and had all notifications blocked from 9 pm until 6:30 am. I would then wake up to multiple messages, all urgently needing responses. I was constantly anxious and at times felt drunk, I was so tired. Everything in this article rings true for me. It’s no wonder they’re so successful at manipulation, considering the many ways they wear you down.

  2. Wendy Guiher February 16, 2025 at 11:25 am - Reply

    Very interesting and informative article. I didn’t experience sleep deprivation as described. I noticed early on that my criminal was not active from about 3-4PM Eastern time until about 3:45am Eastern. Often upon waking in the morning I would find a small chat text from the scammer in what I would call the early hours of the morning. I would not hear from them again until about 6:30am Eastern. This was in the early days of the crime late July 2024. After 6:30am I would receive numerous chats first in Instagram and later in Telegram. If I responded that I was driving to work they would cease texting as they didn’t want me texting and driving. Once I arrived at work texting would start again. In the early days of the crime they would be quite active from 8:45am through about 2:30 pm Eastern time. Many times they asked that I notify them when I arrived home from work because they wanted to assure my safety. After about 4 weeks of this, texts became more sporadic in the early part of the day often citing “they” had meetings “they” were attending with their management team. Or “they” would say “they” were going to an event with the management team. Sometimes I would receive texts during the time “they” were in a meeting or an event that were explicit. When I questioned this “they” responded that “they” just couldn’t get me out of their thoughts. But everyday like clockwork “they” would disappear for the late afternoon, evening and night. There was only one evening I was contacted, it was about 4 weeks into the “relationship”. That was the first time they asked me to help with money. That was the night I learned about “his” daughters getting into trouble while enjoying a night on the town in New York City. That was when “they” haltingly and with much encouragement told the sad, sad story of how “his” daughters got into such trouble “he” needed $30,000 and could find no one to help “him”. In the end “he” asked a loan from “his” management team to bail out his daughters. That was also the night that “he” told me that “his” management team controlled “his” entire wealth of $60 million dollars which included “his” condo in NYC and his home somewhere near the Hamptons, all furnishings, artwork and investments. “His” management team controlled not only the “celebrity” but everything the “celebrity” owned. Where I did experience sleep deprivation was in thinking about all the information that I was fed in a day, the revelations of “his” feelings for me, that “his” daughters thought I was absolutely wonderful, the future life “we” would have. I found many of these revelations uncomfortable, unexpected, heart breaking, astounding. These thoughts would keep me awake long after I should have been asleep.

  3. Chris Turner February 15, 2025 at 1:25 pm - Reply

    This is very true to me personally. Got to a stage of healing whereby I go sleep more regular pattern of time. Still have a Very long way to go in healing. Bit each day.

  4. Roz February 11, 2025 at 11:45 pm - Reply

    Sleep deprivation was definitely an issue for me during the scam because I kept anticipating that we would meet in person and it just kept getting delayed. Then after the realization of the scam, the sleep deprivation persisted. It certainly affected my health. I had no chronic medical conditions, I had a normal BMI and I exercised almost everyday. After a recent visit to the doctor, I was found to be pre-diabetic. I’m working to improve my sleep health.

  5. Corey Gale August 23, 2024 at 9:03 am - Reply

    Sleep deprivation was definitely in play after my scam as I was trying to make sense of what just happened and how to deal with it. Fortunately I found SCARS and now have a path to recovery.

  6. ron August 13, 2024 at 8:18 am - Reply

    This tactic has been used on me during my scam, they were successful in disrupting my sleep pattern.

  7. Carmen Rivera April 21, 2024 at 12:07 pm - Reply

    Scammer # 1 and # 2 were “allegedly” at The Netherlands and at Syria respectively. The texts, emails and calls were all in the middle on my night. I was so addictive to those calls that I didn’t mind the disturbance.

    Scammer # 1 said he had an accident upon arrival from High Seas to Norway and then I had emails and texts from “him” “his boss” and “his doctor” asking for money for surgeries, transportation and medicines. Everything was a hurry or “he could die” from several medical conditions. It was exhausting!
    I am so glad I am over that, even being broke.

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