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I am not in the habit of feeling sorry for myself. After the deception, although it was not easy at times, I did everything to avoid falling into this trap. I didn’t want to be stuck dwelling on the past, I wanted to move forward, I wanted to recover.
With the help of SCARS I was able to achieve this .
I felt self-pity while the enormity of my financial loss washed over me like a tsunami. The self-pity lasted only a short time before I moved on to actively seeking help. It is easy to feel pity when one is overwhelmed, when life is piling onto you and everything seems to be going wrong at the same time. It is how you handle that situation that defines whether self-pity will take you, or you overcome self-pity. However, I feel using self-pity as the antidote to your crime could be harmful. I have considered self-pity to be a short lived emotion. Taking the steps outlined in this article to overcome self-pity can lead one toward combating this emotion and moving forward into recovery.
The antidote for self-pity is gratitude.Yes, the scam did happen to me and it hurts, but it opened the doors for me to grow into a better version of myself. For that I am grateful!
Nobody wants to go to a pity party. Yes, being scammed leaves you feeling violated and used but self pity is not the answer. This article does a great job explaining how to avoid and deal with self pity.