Scam Victims Suppressing Trauma Or Avoiding Recovery and Healing

Scam Victim Psychology

•  Vianey Gonzalez B.Sc(Psych) – Psychologist, Certified Deception Professional, Psychology Advisory Panel & Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.
•  Tim McGuinness, Ph.D. – Anthropologist, Scientist, Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.

Article Abstract

Scam victims suppressing or avoiding trauma face profound consequences, emphasizing the crucial importance of recovery through direct confrontation.

This avoidance may prevent the prevention of long-term impact, perpetuating maladaptive coping cycles. Confronting trauma validates victims’ experiences, empowering them with understanding and agency over their narrative. It interrupts the cycle of avoidance, fostering healthier coping strategies and resilience. By acknowledging the dynamics of scams, victims rebuild trust in themselves, identify coping strategies, and prevent secondary trauma in relationships.

Confronting trauma strengthens support networks and encourages professional intervention for structured healing. Embracing emotional resilience, victims navigate challenges with newfound ease. Ultimately, the transformative potential of facing trauma head-on lies in empowering victims to reclaim control, fostering genuine well-being, and cultivating a future characterized by authentic healing and personal growth.

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When Scam Victims Engage in Suppressing or Avoiding Trauma it makes it impossible to Effectively Recover from their Scam

Managing emotional and psychological trauma involves acknowledging, understanding, and addressing the impact of distressing experiences on one’s well-being.

This process focuses on coping mechanisms, seeking support, and fostering resilience. On the other hand, suppressing and hiding trauma involves avoiding or denying the emotional pain associated with the traumatic event which can lead to serious consequences.

Learning to manage trauma is a healthier approach as it allows scam victims to confront their feelings, express emotions, and seek professional help if needed. It promotes self-awareness, resilience, and personal growth. Techniques such as therapy, mindfulness, and support groups are often employed to navigate the healing process.

Suppressing and hiding trauma may offer temporary relief, but it can lead to long-term consequences. Unaddressed trauma may resurface in various ways, impacting mental and physical health. It may contribute to the development of unhealthy coping mechanisms, such as substance abuse or self-destructive behaviors as well as more serious mental disorders.

Avoiding trauma memories or reminders may impede the natural recovery process that would allow for heightened arousal to decrease over time (Foa & Kozak, 1986). Avoidance may also reinforce PTSD symptoms by signaling the individual that the memories are in fact dangerous (Foa & Kozak, 1986).

In essence, managing emotional and psychological trauma involves a proactive and holistic approach to healing, while suppressing and hiding it may provide temporary avoidance but can lead to detrimental long-term effects.

Detecting Suppressing Behavior

Detecting if one is suppressing or hiding trauma requires self-reflection and an awareness of emotional and behavioral patterns. Here are some signs that a scam victim may be suppressing or hiding their trauma:

  1. Avoidance Behavior: Constantly avoiding discussions, thoughts, or reminders of the scam or the traumatic experience.
  2. Emotional Numbing: Feeling emotionally detached or numb, as if unable to experience certain emotions.
  3. Denial: Dismissing or downplaying the severity of the scam, telling oneself it wasn’t a big deal, or convincing oneself that they have moved on.
  4. Distressing Memories or Intrusive Thoughts: Experiencing sudden and distressing memories or images related to the scam, even when not consciously thinking about it.
  5. Difficulty Trusting Others: Struggling to trust people, especially in financial or interpersonal relationships, due to fear of being scammed again.
  6. Mood Swings: Frequent and unexplained changes in mood, ranging from irritability to sadness, without an apparent cause.
  7. Isolation: Withdrawing from social activities, relationships, or situations that may trigger memories of the scam.
  8. Physical Symptoms: Experiencing unexplained physical symptoms such as headaches, stomachaches, or tension, which may be associated with repressed emotions.
  9. Sleep Disturbances: Difficulty sleeping, nightmares, or insomnia related to thoughts or fears associated with the scam.
  10. Overly Positive Outlook: Adopting an overly positive or optimistic outlook as a defense mechanism to avoid confronting the negative emotions tied to the traumatic event.

If a scam victim notices these signs, seeking professional help, such as therapy or counseling, can be very important to their mental health. A mental health professional can provide guidance, support, and coping strategies to help the individual process and navigate the trauma effectively.

Suppressing Behavior in More Detail

Avoidance Behavior

Scam victims may engage in avoidance behavior as a coping mechanism to suppress or hide the trauma associated with their experience. Avoidance behavior involves consciously or unconsciously steering clear of any reminders, discussions, or situations related to the scam. This coping strategy is an attempt to shield oneself from the emotional distress and anxiety associated with confronting the traumatic memories.

Have you ever said?

  • I just want to forget about it
  • Yes, I was scammed but I do not want to talk about it
  • I just can’t think about it
  • I am just fine, it didn’t affect me

These are classic examples of avoidance behavior and language.

Here’s a deeper exploration of how avoidance behavior manifests in scam victims suppressing or hiding their trauma:

  1. Avoiding Conversations: Victims may actively avoid conversations about scams, fraud, or financial losses. This avoidance extends to discussions with friends, family, or professionals who could offer support.
  2. Digital Detox: Scam victims might steer clear of online platforms, social media, or any digital spaces where they fear encountering potential triggers or reminders of the scam.
  3. Financial Avoidance: Some victims may actively avoid managing their finances, checking bank statements, or engaging in any financial activities due to the fear of revisiting scam-related financial losses.
  4. Isolating Themselves: Victims may isolate themselves from social gatherings or events where the topic of scams or fraud may arise. This isolation serves as a protective measure to prevent exposure to situations that might evoke memories.
  5. Changing Daily Routines: Individuals may alter their daily routines to avoid places or activities associated with the scam. This could include avoiding certain routes, changing favorite hangout spots, or modifying habits to steer clear of potential triggers.
  6. Refusing Professional Help: Scam victims may resist seeking professional assistance, such as therapy or counseling, out of fear that discussing the trauma will intensify their emotional distress. This refusal to seek help can impede the healing process.
  7. Suppressing Emotions: Victims might engage in suppressing their emotions, burying feelings of shame, guilt, or fear associated with the scam. This emotional suppression can lead to long-term psychological consequences.

While avoidance behavior may provide temporary relief, it often hinders the healing process and can contribute to prolonged distress. Recognizing these patterns and seeking professional support are crucial steps toward breaking the cycle of avoidance and beginning the journey to recovery. Therapeutic interventions can help scam victims navigate their emotions, process the trauma, and develop healthier coping mechanisms.

Emotional Numbing

Scam victims who suppress or avoid trauma often experience emotional numbing as a psychological defense mechanism. Emotional numbing is a coping strategy where individuals intentionally or subconsciously disconnect from their emotions to shield themselves from the overwhelming pain associated with the traumatic experience. This detachment can manifest in various ways, impacting both emotional and physical well-being.

Here’s a more in-depth exploration of how emotional numbing manifests in scam victims suppressing or hiding their trauma:

  1. Flat Affect: Scam victims may display a flat or diminished emotional expression, appearing detached or indifferent even in situations that would typically evoke strong emotions. This lack of emotional responsiveness is a common sign of emotional numbing.
  2. Limited Range of Emotions: Individuals may struggle to experience the full range of emotions they once did. The vibrancy and intensity of feelings may diminish as a result of suppressing the trauma.
  3. Detachment from Relationships: Emotional numbing often leads to detachment from interpersonal relationships. Victims may find it challenging to connect emotionally with friends, family, or romantic partners, maintaining a sense of emotional distance.
  4. Avoidance of Triggers: Scam victims may actively avoid situations, places, or conversations that could act as triggers for the suppressed emotions. This avoidance is an attempt to prevent the re-emergence of painful memories associated with the scam.
  5. Impaired Memory: Emotional numbing can impact memory recall, making it difficult for victims to remember specific details or emotions related to the scam. This memory impairment serves as a protective mechanism to avoid reliving the trauma.
  6. Loss of Interest: Individuals may experience a significant loss of interest or pleasure in activities they once enjoyed. Hobbies, social interactions, and daily pursuits may become less engaging as a result of emotional numbing.
  7. Physical Numbness: Emotional numbness can manifest physically, leading to a reduced ability to perceive sensations or changes in the body. Victims may describe feeling emotionally “numb” and may also experience physical sensations of numbness.

Recognizing emotional numbing is crucial for scam victims on their path to recovery. Seeking professional support, such as therapy or counseling, can help individuals gradually reintegrate their emotions, fostering a healthier emotional response to life events. Breaking through emotional numbing allows victims to reconnect with themselves and others, paving the way for a more fulfilling and balanced life after the trauma of a scam.


Scam victims often resort to suppression, hiding, and denial as defense mechanisms to cope with the overwhelming trauma inflicted by the fraudulent experience. Denial, in particular, is a psychological strategy where individuals consciously or unconsciously refuse to accept the reality of the traumatic event. This avoidance of acknowledging the severity of the scam can have profound effects on emotional well-being and hinder the recovery process. Here’s a closer look at how denial manifests in scam victims suppressing or hiding their trauma:

  1. Minimizing the Impact: Victims in denial might downplay the significance of the scam, convincing themselves that it wasn’t as damaging as it truly was. This minimization serves as a protective mechanism to avoid confronting the harsh reality of being deceived.
  2. Dismissing Emotional Responses: Individuals in denial may dismiss or invalidate their emotional responses to the scam. They might convince themselves that feeling upset, betrayed, or vulnerable is unnecessary or a sign of weakness.
  3. Rationalizing Losses: Scam victims in denial may engage in rationalization, attempting to explain away financial losses or other negative consequences. This cognitive distortion helps maintain a semblance of control and normalcy.
  4. Avoidance of Acknowledgment: Victims in denial actively avoid acknowledging the emotional and financial toll of the scam. This can involve steering clear of discussions about the incident or refusing to seek help and support.
  5. Maintaining Illusions: Some victims in denial create false narratives or illusions to shield themselves from the harsh truth. They may construct stories that mitigate the impact of the scam, fostering a sense of pseudo-security.
  6. Delayed Emotional Responses: Denial often postpones emotional processing. Victims may suppress their initial reactions, only to have them resurface later, potentially intensifying the emotional distress.
  7. Fear of Stigma or Shame: Scam victims may deny the extent of the trauma due to fear of social stigma or shame. Admitting to falling for a scam can evoke feelings of embarrassment, leading individuals to conceal the reality of their experience.

Addressing denial is a crucial step in the recovery journey. Professional intervention, such as therapy or counseling, can assist victims in gradually dismantling the protective walls of denial. By acknowledging the reality of the scam and its impact, individuals can begin the healing process, fostering resilience and regaining control over their emotional well-being. Breaking through denial allows scam victims to confront the truth, seek support, and take proactive steps toward rebuilding their lives after the traumatic experience.

Distressing Memories or Intrusive Thoughts

Scam victims often grapple with distressing memories and intrusive thoughts related to their traumatic experience. Suppressing or hiding these memories is a common coping mechanism, as individuals may find it challenging to confront the emotional turmoil associated with the scam. Here’s a deeper exploration of how distressing memories and intrusive thoughts manifest in scam victims and the potential consequences of attempting to suppress them:

  1. Flashbacks and Nightmares: Scam victims may experience intrusive memories that manifest as vivid flashbacks or distressing nightmares. These involuntary recollections can be overwhelming, prompting individuals to push them away in an attempt to avoid the associated emotional pain.
  2. Avoidance Behaviors: To escape distressing memories, victims may engage in avoidance behaviors. This could involve steering clear of places, activities, or conversations that trigger recollections of the scam. Avoidance provides a temporary reprieve but hinders the overall healing process.
  3. Emotional Numbing: Suppressing distressing memories can contribute to emotional numbing, where individuals detach from their emotions to cope with the pain. While this may offer a temporary sense of relief, it impedes the natural emotional processing required for healing.
  4. Impact on Daily Functioning: Hiding distressing memories may impact daily functioning, as victims may struggle to concentrate, experience disruptions in sleep patterns, or face challenges in maintaining relationships and work responsibilities.
  5. Increased Anxiety and Hypervigilance: Intrusive thoughts can contribute to heightened anxiety and hypervigilance, wherein individuals remain on high alert for potential threats. This constant state of apprehension further intensifies the psychological toll of the scam.
  6. Guilt and Shame: Victims may suppress distressing memories due to feelings of guilt or shame associated with falling for the scam. Confronting the memories might evoke self-blame, making it difficult for individuals to acknowledge and process the emotions tied to the experience.
  7. Isolation: To avoid discussing or revisiting distressing memories, scam victims may isolate themselves from friends, family, or support networks. This isolation exacerbates feelings of loneliness and exacerbates the challenges of overcoming trauma.
  8. Impact on Relationships: Suppressing distressing memories can strain relationships, as victims may struggle to communicate their emotional struggles to loved ones. The lack of openness and vulnerability impedes the mutual understanding necessary for fostering supportive connections.

Addressing distressing memories and intrusive thoughts is vital for scam victims’ overall well-being. Professional therapeutic interventions, such as trauma-focused therapy, can provide a safe space for individuals to explore and process these memories. Encouraging victims to share their experiences, express their emotions, and gradually confront distressing thoughts helps dismantle the barriers to healing. By acknowledging and validating these memories, victims can take significant strides toward reclaiming control over their lives and rebuilding their emotional resilience.

Difficulty Trusting Others

Suppression or hiding of trauma in scam victims can significantly contribute to difficulty trusting others. Trust, a fundamental aspect of healthy interpersonal relationships, is often eroded by the traumatic experience of falling victim to a scam. Here’s a deeper exploration of how the suppression or concealment of trauma can impact a scam victim’s ability to trust:

  1. Betrayal Trauma: Scam victims often experience a profound sense of betrayal. The realization that someone intentionally manipulated, deceived, and exploited them for personal gain can be emotionally devastating. In response, victims may struggle to trust others, fearing a repetition of betrayal.
  2. Fear of Judgment: Suppressing or hiding the trauma may be driven by a fear of judgment or stigmatization. Victims might worry about how others will perceive them, especially if they blame themselves for the scam. This fear can make it challenging to open up and confide in others.
  3. Vulnerability Concerns: Victims may associate vulnerability with risk, having been manipulated during the scam when they were in a vulnerable state. As a result, they may be hesitant to be emotionally open or express their feelings, fearing that it makes them susceptible to further harm.
  4. Self-Protective Measures: Subconsciously, victims might adopt self-protective measures by avoiding trust. This can manifest as skepticism, heightened vigilance, and a reluctance to rely on others. The protective instinct aims to prevent potential future harm, but it hinders the development of meaningful connections.
  5. Impact on Relationships: Difficulty trusting others can strain personal and professional relationships. The suppressed trauma may lead to challenges in establishing intimacy, as victims may withhold personal information or struggle to believe in the sincerity of others.
  6. Isolation: A consequence of difficulty trusting others is the potential for social isolation. Victims may withdraw from social interactions, preferring to keep a distance from others to avoid the perceived risks associated with vulnerability and trust.
  7. Perception of Deception: Scam victims, having experienced deception firsthand, may develop a heightened sensitivity to signs of dishonesty or manipulation in others. This heightened awareness can make it challenging to trust even those who genuinely have good intentions.
  8. Therapeutic Implications: In a therapeutic setting, the difficulty in trusting the therapist can impede the effectiveness of interventions. Establishing a therapeutic alliance becomes essential, and therapists need to navigate the delicate process of building trust with individuals who may be wary due to past traumatic experiences.

Addressing the difficulty in trusting others involves a combination of therapeutic support, empathy, and a gradual rebuilding of trust through positive and authentic connections. Trauma-informed therapy provides a framework for understanding the impact of the scam, validating the victim’s experience, and fostering a sense of safety necessary for the restoration of trust. Recognizing that trust is a gradual process and encouraging victims to take small steps toward openness and vulnerability can pave the way for healthier and more fulfilling relationships.

Mood Swings

Suppression or hiding of trauma in scam victims can contribute to mood swings, creating a complex emotional landscape. The impact of the scam, coupled with the efforts to conceal the trauma, may lead to noticeable fluctuations in mood. Here’s an exploration of how suppressing or hiding trauma relates to mood swings in scam victims:

  1. Emotional Turmoil: Scam victims often grapple with intense and conflicting emotions related to feelings of betrayal, shame, anger, and vulnerability. When these emotions are suppressed or concealed, they can manifest as unpredictable mood swings.
  2. Internal Conflict: The internal conflict between wanting to appear unaffected and the reality of the emotional turmoil can create a dissonance that contributes to mood instability. Victims may oscillate between presenting a composed exterior and experiencing inner emotional chaos.
  3. Fear of Exposure: Scam victims may fear that expressing their true emotions will reveal vulnerability, leading to judgment or exploitation. This fear can cause them to suppress emotions, but the unresolved feelings may resurface unexpectedly, triggering mood swings.
  4. Isolation and Loneliness: Keeping the trauma hidden may result in feelings of isolation and loneliness, as victims avoid sharing their struggles with others. The lack of emotional support and understanding can amplify mood swings, as there’s no outlet for processing emotions.
  5. Impact on Relationships: Mood swings can strain relationships, as friends, family, and colleagues may find it challenging to understand the sudden shifts in emotional states. The suppressed trauma may hinder effective communication, leading to misunderstandings and strained connections.
  6. Coping Mechanisms: Victims may develop coping mechanisms such as distraction or avoidance to keep their emotions hidden. However, these mechanisms are temporary, and when emotions resurface, they may do so with heightened intensity, contributing to mood swings.
  7. Difficulty in Seeking Help: Mood swings can create a barrier to seeking professional help. Victims may downplay the emotional impact of the scam or hesitate to disclose their struggles, making it challenging for mental health professionals to provide appropriate support.
  8. Physical Manifestations: Mood swings can also manifest physically, contributing to symptoms such as headaches, fatigue, or changes in appetite. The mind-body connection plays a crucial role, and suppressed emotions may find expression through physical discomfort.
  9. Cycles of Guilt: Victims may experience guilt or self-blame for not being able to maintain a consistent emotional state. This guilt can further contribute to mood swings, creating a cycle of emotional instability.
  10. Recovery Challenges: Suppressing or hiding trauma can impede the recovery process. Acknowledging and addressing the underlying emotions is crucial for healing, and mood swings may be an indication that these emotions are seeking acknowledgment.

Addressing mood swings in scam victims requires a comprehensive approach that includes creating a safe space for emotional expression, fostering open communication, and encouraging the individual to seek professional support. Trauma-informed therapy can help victims navigate their emotions, providing tools to manage mood swings, and fostering a more stable emotional well-being over time.


Isolation plays a significant role in the lives of scam victims who choose to suppress or avoid confronting their trauma. Here’s a closer look at how isolation intersects with these coping mechanisms:

  1. Withdrawal from Social Connections: Scam victims, in an attempt to hide their trauma, may withdraw from social connections. They may isolate themselves from friends, family, and even colleagues, fearing judgment or misunderstanding.
  2. Secrecy and Shame: Suppressing the emotional aftermath of a scam often leads to a sense of shame and embarrassment. Victims may feel compelled to keep their experience a secret, which intensifies their isolation. The fear of being perceived as gullible or naive can be a powerful motivator for keeping silent.
  3. Avoidance of Vulnerability: The decision to suppress trauma is often rooted in a desire to avoid appearing vulnerable. Victims may fear that opening up about their experience will make them susceptible to further exploitation or judgment. This fear can perpetuate isolation as they struggle to maintain a façade of strength.
  4. Loss of Trust: Scam victims may experience a profound loss of trust, not only in the perpetrators but also in themselves and others. This erosion of trust can lead to increased social withdrawal as victims become hesitant to share their feelings or seek support.
  5. Perceived Stigma: Victims might internalize a perceived stigma associated with falling for a scam. This stigma can be a barrier to seeking social support, as they fear being labeled as “gullible” or “easy targets.” As a result, they isolate themselves to avoid potential judgment.
  6. Impact on Relationships: Isolation can strain existing relationships, as friends and family may sense the victim’s emotional distance. Lack of communication and transparency can lead to misunderstandings and further isolate the individual from their support network.
  7. Limited Emotional Outlets: Suppressing trauma often means there are limited emotional outlets for victims. Without a supportive social network, they lack spaces to express their feelings, share their experiences, and receive validation, further intensifying their isolation.
  8. Cycle of Loneliness: Isolation can create a cycle of loneliness where victims find it increasingly difficult to break free from their self-imposed solitude. The longer the isolation persists, the more challenging it becomes to reconnect with others and rebuild a sense of community.
  9. Impact on Mental Health: Prolonged isolation can take a toll on mental health. Feelings of loneliness, anxiety, and depression may become pervasive, exacerbating the challenges of coping with the aftermath of the scam.
  10. Barriers to Recovery: Isolation acts as a significant barrier to recovery. Without the support and understanding of others, victims may struggle to navigate the complexities of healing, making it harder to move forward from the traumatic experience.

Addressing isolation involves creating a supportive environment that encourages victims to break their silence, share their stories, and seek professional assistance. Establishing trust and understanding within the victim’s social circle is crucial, allowing them to gradually emerge from isolation and engage in the healing process. Professional therapeutic interventions, such as counseling and support groups, can also provide a structured and empathetic space for scam victims to overcome isolation and work toward recovery.

Physical Symptoms

Suppressing or avoiding trauma among scam victims can manifest in various physical symptoms. The mind-body connection is powerful, and unaddressed emotional distress can contribute to physical ailments. Here’s an exploration of how suppressing or avoiding trauma may impact an individual’s physical well-being:

  1. Psychosomatic Symptoms: The term “psychosomatic” refers to physical symptoms that have an emotional or psychological origin. Scam victims who suppress trauma may experience psychosomatic symptoms such as headaches, stomachaches, or general body pain without a clear medical cause.
  2. Chronic Stress and Tension: Suppressed trauma often leads to chronic stress, causing tension to build up in the body. This tension can manifest as muscle stiffness, jaw clenching, and overall bodily discomfort.
  3. Sleep Disturbances: Avoidance of trauma-related thoughts and emotions may result in disrupted sleep patterns. Victims might experience insomnia, nightmares, or restless sleep, contributing to fatigue and overall physical exhaustion.
  4. Weakened Immune System: Chronic stress associated with suppressed trauma can weaken the immune system, making individuals more susceptible to illnesses. Recurrent infections, prolonged recovery from illnesses, or a general decline in health may be observed.
  5. Gastrointestinal Issues: Stress and emotional turmoil can impact the digestive system, leading to gastrointestinal issues. Scam victims may experience symptoms such as nausea, indigestion, irritable bowel syndrome (IBS), or other digestive disorders.
  6. Cardiovascular Effects: Prolonged stress, if not addressed, can have adverse effects on cardiovascular health. Scam victims suppressing trauma may be at a higher risk of developing hypertension, heart palpitations, or other cardiovascular issues.
  7. Dizziness and Fatigue: Emotional suppression can contribute to a constant state of alertness and anxiety. This heightened state of arousal may lead to symptoms like dizziness, fatigue, and a persistent feeling of being physically drained.
  8. Changes in Appetite: Trauma can influence appetite, leading to changes in eating habits. Some scam victims may experience a loss of appetite, while others might turn to food as a way to cope with emotional distress, potentially resulting in weight fluctuations.
  9. Cognitive Impairments: Suppressed trauma can impact cognitive functions, causing difficulties in concentration, memory lapses, and mental fog. These cognitive impairments can affect overall physical well-being and daily functioning.
  10. Impact on Reproductive Health: For individuals of reproductive age, suppressed trauma might manifest in irregular menstrual cycles, changes in libido, or fertility issues. The intricate interplay between emotional well-being and reproductive health is well-documented.
  11. Increased Sensitivity to Pain: Emotional distress can heighten sensitivity to physical pain. Scam victims who avoid addressing their trauma may find that they become more sensitive to pain or that existing physical discomfort intensifies.

Recognizing and addressing these physical symptoms is crucial for comprehensive recovery. Seeking professional help, such as therapy or counseling, can assist scam victims in unpacking their suppressed emotions and managing the associated physical manifestations. Integrative approaches that consider both psychological and physical well-being are essential for a holistic recovery journey.

Sleep Disturbances

Sleep disturbances are common manifestations of suppressed or avoided trauma among scam victims. The emotional toll of falling victim to a scam can create a profound impact on one’s sleep patterns. Here’s an exploration of how sleep disturbances may manifest and the potential consequences:

  1. Insomnia: Suppressed trauma can lead to persistent thoughts, anxiety, and stress, making it challenging for scam victims to relax and fall asleep. Insomnia, characterized by difficulty initiating or maintaining sleep, may become a prevalent issue.
  2. Nightmares: Victims of scams who avoid addressing their trauma may experience nightmares or distressing dreams related to the scam itself. These vivid and unsettling dreams can contribute to sleep disruption and anxiety.
  3. Hypervigilance: Avoidance of trauma may result in hypervigilance, a state of increased alertness and arousal. Scam victims may find it difficult to let their guard down even during sleep, leading to fragmented or restless sleep patterns.
  4. Flashbacks during Sleep: For some individuals suppressing trauma, the subconscious mind may attempt to process these unresolved emotions during sleep, resulting in flashbacks or distressing images. This can interrupt the natural sleep cycle.
  5. Increased Waking: Scam victims may experience frequent awakenings during the night. These interruptions can prevent the individual from reaching the deeper, more restorative stages of sleep, contributing to feelings of fatigue and irritability.
  6. Sleep Anxiety: The fear of reliving the traumatic experience or encountering distressing thoughts during sleep can lead to sleep anxiety. This anxiety may create a negative association with bedtime, further exacerbating sleep difficulties.
  7. Changes in Sleep Duration: Suppressed trauma can lead to unpredictable changes in sleep duration. Some scam victims may sleep excessively as a way to escape reality, while others may struggle with chronic sleep deprivation due to persistent anxiety.
  8. Daytime Fatigue: Sleep disturbances related to suppressed trauma often result in daytime fatigue and drowsiness. Victims may find it challenging to concentrate, maintain energy levels, or engage in daily activities due to insufficient or disrupted sleep.
  9. Impact on Overall Well-being: Chronic sleep disturbances can have profound consequences on physical and mental well-being. Scam victims may experience heightened stress levels, irritability, mood swings, and a compromised immune system, all of which are interconnected with the quality of sleep.

Addressing sleep disturbances requires a comprehensive approach to trauma recovery. Professional interventions, such as therapy or counseling, can help individuals explore and process suppressed emotions, fostering a healthier relationship with sleep. Techniques such as cognitive-behavioral therapy for insomnia (CBT-I) may be particularly beneficial in addressing maladaptive sleep patterns.

Creating a consistent and calming bedtime routine, practicing relaxation techniques, and prioritizing a sleep-conducive environment are additional strategies that scam victims can adopt to improve sleep quality. Recognizing the link between emotional well-being and sleep is crucial for developing effective coping mechanisms and promoting overall recovery.

Overly Positive Outlook

Suppressed or avoided trauma among scam victims can manifest in an overly positive outlook as a coping mechanism. While maintaining a positive mindset is generally beneficial, an excessively optimistic perspective may serve as a defense mechanism against confronting the harsh realities of the scam experience. Here’s a deeper exploration of how an overly positive outlook may manifest and its potential consequences:

  1. Surface-Level Positivity: Scam victims who suppress trauma might exhibit surface-level positivity, projecting an image of resilience and optimism. This can be a way to mask deeper emotional pain and avoid acknowledging the distress caused by the scam.
  2. Denial of Negative Emotions: An overly positive outlook may involve denying or downplaying negative emotions associated with the scam, such as shame, guilt, anger, or betrayal. Victims may convince themselves that maintaining a positive attitude is the key to moving forward, inadvertently avoiding the necessary emotional processing.
  3. Avoidance of Vulnerability: Expressing vulnerability is an essential aspect of healing from trauma. However, scam victims with an overly positive outlook may actively avoid acknowledging vulnerability, fearing that it could be perceived as a weakness or an inability to cope effectively.
  4. Minimization of Impact: Suppressing trauma often involves minimizing the impact of the scam on one’s life. Victims may convince themselves that the experience was not as detrimental as it truly was, overlooking the financial, emotional, and psychological consequences.
  5. Rapid Return to Normalcy: Scam victims may adopt an overly positive outlook as a means of quickly returning to a sense of normalcy. This haste to move forward can hinder the necessary reflection and processing needed for genuine recovery.
  6. Social Comparison: Victims may engage in social comparison, comparing their situation to others who have experienced more severe traumas. This comparison can lead to invalidating their own pain and emotions, preventing them from seeking the support they genuinely need.
  7. External Validation: Seeking external validation through the display of constant positivity can be a sign of underlying distress. Victims may rely on positive feedback from others to reinforce the belief that they are coping well, even if they are avoiding the core issues.
  8. Impact on Relationships: An overly positive outlook can affect interpersonal relationships, as friends and family may struggle to understand the depth of the victim’s experience. The facade of perpetual positivity may create barriers to authentic communication and support.

Addressing an overly positive outlook involves acknowledging and accepting the full spectrum of emotions associated with the scam. Seeking professional therapy or counseling can provide a safe space for victims to explore and express their feelings without judgment. Encouraging open and honest communication within support networks is crucial for fostering genuine connections and understanding.

Building resilience involves embracing vulnerability and recognizing that healing is a multifaceted process that includes both positive and challenging emotions. It’s essential for scam victims to allow themselves the time and space to navigate their emotional landscape authentically, fostering a more balanced and sustainable approach to recovery.

The Importance of Recovery and Facing Trauma Head-On

The avoidance or suppression of trauma among scam victims can have significant consequences on their well-being, making the importance of recovery and facing trauma head-on even more crucial. Here’s an in-depth exploration of why confronting trauma is essential for healing:

  1. Prevention of Long-Term Impact: Avoiding or suppressing trauma may provide temporary relief, but the long-term consequences can be profound. Unresolved trauma can linger beneath the surface, affecting mental health, relationships, and overall life satisfaction. Confronting trauma is a proactive step toward preventing its enduring impact.
  2. Interrupting the Cycle of Avoidance: Engaging with and facing trauma disrupts the cycle of avoidance. Continuous suppression may lead to the perpetuation of maladaptive coping mechanisms, hindering personal growth and resilience. Breaking this cycle allows for healthier coping strategies to emerge.
  3. Validation of Personal Experience: Confronting trauma involves acknowledging the validity of one’s emotional experience. Victims may have internalized feelings of shame or self-blame, and facing trauma head-on provides an opportunity for validation, recognizing that the distress caused by the scam is legitimate.
  4. Empowerment Through Understanding: Understanding the dynamics of the scam and its impact is empowering. It allows victims to gain insights into the manipulation tactics employed by scammers, fostering a sense of agency and control over their narrative. Knowledge becomes a powerful tool in the recovery process.
  5. Identification of Coping Strategies: Facing trauma enables individuals to identify healthy coping strategies. Instead of relying on avoidance, victims can learn to navigate their emotions, seek support, and implement effective self-care practices. This newfound awareness contributes to emotional resilience.
  6. Rebuilding Trust in Oneself: Confronting trauma is a pivotal step in rebuilding trust in oneself. Scams often erode victims’ confidence and self-esteem. By facing the trauma, individuals can challenge negative self-perceptions, fostering a sense of self-worth and self-trust.
  7. Strengthening Support Networks: Openly addressing trauma facilitates communication within support networks. Friends, family, or professional counselors can better understand the challenges faced by victims, offering tailored support. Shared understanding strengthens the bonds that contribute to emotional healing.
  8. Preventing Secondary Trauma: Unresolved trauma can lead to secondary trauma, impacting relationships with others. Confronting trauma head-on reduces the likelihood of inadvertently causing distress to oneself and those around them. It promotes healthier interactions and emotional boundaries.
  9. Embracing Emotional Resilience: The journey of recovery involves developing emotional resilience. Confronting trauma cultivates the ability to adapt to adversity, bounce back from challenges, and navigate future stressors with greater ease. Emotional resilience is a key component of long-term well-being.
  10. Encouraging Professional Intervention: Facing trauma often necessitates professional intervention. Therapeutic support provides a structured and safe environment for individuals to explore and process their experiences. Therapists can offer guidance, coping strategies, and tools for sustainable recovery.

The importance of recovery and facing trauma head-on lies in its transformative potential. It empowers scam victims to reclaim control over their lives, build emotional resilience, and cultivate a future characterized by genuine well-being and personal growth. While the process may be challenging, the rewards of authentic healing are immeasurable.

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  • Diagnosis: The diagnosis of mental, emotional, or brain disorders and related behaviors.
  • Psychoanalysis: Psychoanalysis is a type of therapy that focuses on helping individuals to understand and resolve unconscious conflicts.
  • Hypnosis: Hypnosis is a state of trance in which individuals are more susceptible to suggestion. It can be used to treat a variety of conditions, including anxiety, depression, and pain.
  • Biofeedback: Biofeedback is a type of therapy that teaches individuals to control their bodily functions, such as heart rate and blood pressure. It can be used to treat a variety of conditions, including stress, anxiety, and pain.
  • Behavioral analysis: Behavioral analysis is a type of therapy that focuses on changing individuals’ behaviors. It is often used to treat conditions such as autism and ADHD.
    Neuropsychology: Neuropsychology is a type of psychology that focuses on the relationship between the brain and behavior. It is often used to assess and treat cognitive impairments caused by brain injuries or diseases.

SCARS and the members of the SCARS Team do not engage in any of the above modalities in relationship to scam victims. SCARS is not a mental healthcare provider and recognizes the importance of professionalism and separation between its work and that of the licensed practice of psychology.

SCARS is an educational provider of generalized self-help information that individuals can use for their own benefit to achieve their own goals related to emotional trauma. SCARS recommends that all scam victims see professional counselors or therapists to help them determine the suitability of any specific information or practices that may help them.

SCARS cannot diagnose or treat any individuals, nor can it state the effectiveness of any educational information that it may provide, regardless of its experience in interacting with traumatized scam victims over time. All information that SCARS provides is purely for general educational purposes to help scam victims become aware of and better understand the topics and to be able to dialog with their counselors or therapists.

It is important that all readers understand these distinctions and that they apply the information that SCARS may publish at their own risk, and should do so only after consulting a licensed psychologist or mental healthcare provider.


The opinions of the author are not necessarily those of the Society of Citizens Against Rleationship Scams Inc. The author is solely responsible for the content of their work. SCARS is protected under the Communications Decency Act (CDA) section 230 from liability.







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